Neediness Quotes

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Adam S. McHugh
“Because introverts are typically good listeners and, at least, have the appearance of calmness, we are attractive to emotionally needy people. Introverts, gratified that other people are initiating with them, can easily get caught in these exhausting and unsatisfying relationships.”
Adam S. McHugh

Gina Lake
“When we give freely, we feel full and complete; when we withhold, we feel small, petty, impotent, and lacking. We are meant to learn this great truth, that giving fulfills us, while withholding and trying to get causes us to feel empty and even more needy. This truth runs counter to our programming, which drives us to try to get something from others to fulfill our neediness, only to end up even more needy, grasping, lacking, and unfulfilled.”
Gina Lake, What About Now?: Reminders for Being in the Moment

Mokokoma Mokhonoana
“We love being mentally strong, but we hate situations that allow us to put our mental strength to good use.”
Mokokoma Mokhonoana

Isaiah Hankel
“Don’t ever feel bad for making a decision about your own life that upsets other people. You are not responsible for their happiness. You’re responsible for your own happiness. Anyone who wants you to live in misery for their happiness should not be in your life anyway.”
Isaiah Hankel

“when a child is ridiculed, shamed, hurt or ignored when she experiences and expresses a legitimate dependency need, she will later be inclined to attach those same affective tones to her dependency. Thus, she will experience her own (and perhaps others’) dependency as ridiculous, shameful, painful, or denied.
- Dependency in the Treatment of complex PTSD and Dissociative Disorders 2001
Authors: Kathy Steele, Onno van der Hart, Ellert R. S. Nijenhuis”
Kathy Steele

Arthur Japin
“We are unhappy because we think that love is something we require from someone else.”
Arthur Japin, In Lucia's Eyes

Melissa Broder
“Maybe [the ocean and I] were on the same side, comprised of the same things, water mostly, also mystery. The ocean swallowed things up--boats, people--but it didn't look outside itself for fulfillment. It could take whatever skimmed its surface or it could leave it. In its depths already lived a whole world of who-knows-what. It was self-sustaining. I should be like that. It made me wonder what was inside of me.”
Melissa Broder, The Pisces

Arthur C. McGill
“Every action is a losing, a letting go, a passing away from oneself of some bit of one’s own reality into the existence of others and of the world. In Jesus Christ, this character of action is not resisted, by trying to use our action to assert ourselves, extend ourselves, to impose our will and being upon situations. In Jesus Christ, this self-expending character of action is joyfully affirmed. I receive myself constantly from God’s Parenting love. But so far as some aspects of myself are at my disposal, these I receive to give away. Those who would live as Jesus did—who would act and purpose themselves as Jesus did—mean to love, i.e., they mean to expend themselves for others unto death. Their being is meant to pass away from them to others, and they make that meaning the conscious direction of their existence.

Too often the love which is proclaimed in the churches suppresses this element of loss and need and death in activity. As a Christian, I often speak of love as helping others, but I ignore what this does to the person who loves. I ignore the fact that love is self-expenditure, a real expending and losing and deterioration of the self. I speak of love as if the person loving had no problems, no needs, no limits. In other words, I speak of love as if the affluent dream were true. This kind of proclamation is heard everywhere. We hear it said: 'Since you have no unanswered needs, why don’t you go out and help those other people who are in need?' But we never hear people go on and add: 'If you do this, you too will be driven into need.' And by not stating this conclusion, people give the childish impression that Christian love is some kind of cornucopia, where we can reach to everybody’s needs and problems and still have everything we need for ourselves. Believe me, there are grown-up persons who speak this kind of nonsense. And when people try to live out this illusory love, they become terrified when the self-expending begins to take its toll. Terror of relationship is [that] we eat each other.

But note this very carefully: like Jesus, we too can only live to give our received selves away freely because we know our being is not thereby ended, but still and always lies in the Parenting of our God....

Those who love in the name of Jesus Christ... serve the needs of others willingly, even to the point of being exposed in their own neediness.... They do not cope with their own needs. They do not anguish over how their own needs may be met by the twists and turns of their circumstances, by the whims of their society, or by the strategies of their own egos. At the center of their life—the very innermost center—they are grateful to God, because... they do not fear neediness. That is what frees them to serve the needy, to companion the needy, to become and be one of the needy.”
Arthur C. McGill, Dying Unto Life

Jonathan Franzen
“Parents are programmed to want the best for their kids, regardless of what they get in return. That's what love is supposed to be like, right? But in fact, if you think about it, that's kind of a strange belief. Given what we know about the way people really are. Selfish and shortsighted and egotistical and needy. Why should being a parent, in and of itself, somehow confer superior-personhood on everybody who tries it? Obviously it doesn't.”
Jonathan Franzen, Freedom

Shannon Celebi
“It wasn’t as if she’d thought it through or anything, how what a person wanted wasn’t always what they needed, and what a person needed might be the last thing they could ever want.”
Shannon Celebi, Small Town Demons

C. JoyBell C.
“They say that people are innately afraid of those who need them, they say that people are afraid of "clingy-ness", afraid of attachment, afraid of being needed by another. But I beg to disagree. I believe that people, when looking at someone who is needy of them, see themselves and see their own fears and they go away because they can't handle those fears; it's their own neediness that they're afraid of! They're afraid to want and to need, because they're afraid of loss and of losing, so when they see these things in another, that's when they run away. Nobody is actually running away from other people; everybody is really running away from themselves!”
C. JoyBell C.

Carl Safina
“We each make our solo voyages to deep, expansive waters. Alone in our contest with the wider world, we test our mettle and seek our trophies, promotions, compliments, and accolades. We strive to be needed and to thereby know that there is a reason for us. We seek to be told we are good because we're too unsure of ourselves to know. Yet often we remain so focused on our neediness that we forget the creatures—human and otherwise—we're drawing into the vortex of our own passion play. All of us have compulsive loves we must forbear. We forget to see that we can engage the world without harming it. And although we fish for approval, the challenge is: to capture our prizes while bringing more to the world than we take.”
Carl Safina, The View from Lazy Point: A Natural Year in an Unnatural World

“Beware of fame; for when they come for you, they come not to give, but for to gain.

Whoever is needed, wields the most power.

Whoever is needy, seeks to wield that power.”
Justin K. McFarlane Beau

Deborah Bravandt
“In an "open 24-7" reality, want is King. We serve it, live it, breath it. But what does the king give you in exchange? Debt, neediness, addiction, and suffering. There is an alternative. JOY. Joy is created in simplicity.”
Deborah Bravandt

Curtis Tyrone Jones
“Life is a delicate balance between the idea that we need others for almost everything and the striking reality that nobody owes you anything!”
Curtis Tyrone Jones

“Kindness comes from your need of being needed. If you are kind, you are attracting people or animals that need you.

Compassion is different. Compassion comes from your soul and first heals your own mind and your need of being needed.”

Rasheed Ogunlaru
“Don't be so obsessed with stardom that you miss out on success”
Rasheed Ogunlaru

Paula Hendricks
“Boy craziness is really just girl neediness.”
Paula Hendricks

J. Otis Yoder
“Any man's measure is determined by what he will do when he is faced with his own deep need. Not how high he may reach but how low he may kneel.”
J. Otis Yoder, When You Pray

Michele Savaunah Zirkle
“When you don't feel loved, you will settle for feeling needed. The source of love is within you. Let it blossom. With every breath, you have everything you need.”
Michele Savauanah Zirkle

Darlene Lancer
“It's better to need someone because you love them than to love someone because you need them.”
Darlene Lancer

Bryant McGill
“You would not believe what skill, power and ability your total intelligence possesses until you are in desperate need.”
Bryant McGill

Bryant McGill
“Want is small and will make you small. Want is needy and will make you needy.”
Bryant McGill, Simple Reminders: Inspiration for Living Your Best Life

Brian Spellman
“When all seems hopeless, cross your fingers and stick with the secular prayer.”
Brian Spellman

Peter von Mundenheim
“Und wandelte Magdalena im finsteren Tal, zwischen den Wesen, die schauten sie an, streckten die Hände aus nach ihr.

Was kann ich tun? sagte Magdalena. Da war ein Sturz aus fernen Höhlen, viele Tücher wurden zurückgeschlagen, und war Nacktheit in allen Öffnungen, die sprachen das Wort: Bedürftigkeit. War ausgestreckter Hände voll der Ort und suchender Augen, die wollten. Und Magdalena ging und sollte bringen, sie hatte aber nichts, war leer und arm.

Ich muss wandern, dachte sie, und demütig schlugen die Gestalten ihre Augen nieder, und blieben stehen am Wegrand, zurück, wie dunkle Pfähle, die Hände halb gestreckt aus den Gewändern, müde Geste, verzagte Forderung, so würden sie stehenbleiben, lange, oh, so lange, und würde in ihren Herzen schlummern der Gedanke: sie wird wiederkommen, sie wird wiederkommen, und sie würden stehen und warten, die Äonen würden niederfallen, und Schnee sinken im kalten Wind ...

Du bist die, die ihnen verheißen wurde, sagte die Stimme, und Magdalena floh, denn was konnte sie geben? Sie hatte nichts, leer waren ihre Gebärden. Und verzweigt waren die Täler, voll kühler Ungeduld.

Der Morgen floss von den Höhen, blasses Auge der Nebelsonne. Zurück sah Magdalena hinunter ins Tal, da standen die Tannen, die dunklen Hallen. Und Magdalena fühlte eine schwache Spur von Glück, ich bin nicht der Gärtner eures Unbehagens, sagte sie, und die Bäume rauschten im Wind. Entronnen, sagte Magdalena laut, entronnen ...”
Peter von Mundenheim

A.D. Aliwat
“Can Fate be boring? Certainly; it sure was during life. Can it be needy, too? Yes; it’s nothing if not that—its raison d’être is to make sure what is meant to happen does.”
A.D. Aliwat, In Limbo