Assertiveness Quotes

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Shannon L. Alder
“Staying silent is like a slow growing cancer to the soul and a trait of a true coward. There is nothing intelligent about not standing up for yourself. You may not win every battle. However, everyone will at least know what you stood for—YOU.”
Shannon L. Alder

Warren Buffett
“The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”
Warren Buffett

Theodore Roosevelt
“We despise and abhor the bully, the brawler, the oppressor, whether in private or public life, but we despise no less the coward and the voluptuary. No man is worth calling a man who will not fight rather than submit to infamy or see those that are dear to him suffer wrong.”
Theodore Roosevelt

Malcolm X
“Nobody can give you freedom. Nobody can give you equality or justice or anything. If you're a man, you take it.”
Malcolm X, Malcolm X Speaks: Selected Speeches and Statements

Gavin de Becker
“I encourage people to remember that "no" is a complete sentence.”
Gavin de Becker, The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence


I: You have the right to judge your own behavior, thoughts, and emotions, and to take the responsibility for their initiation and consequences upon yourself.

II: You have the right to offer no reasons or excuses for justifying your behavior.

III: You have the right to judge if you are responsible for finding solutions to other people’s problems.

IV: You have the right to change your mind.

V: You have the right to make mistakes—and be responsible for them.

VI: You have the right to say, “I don’t know.”

VII: You have the right to be independent of the goodwill of others before coping with them.

VIII: You have the right to be illogical in making decisions.

IX: You have the right to say, “I don’t understand.”

X: You have the right to say, “I don’t care.”

Manuel J. Smith, When I Say No, I Feel Guilty: How to Cope - Using the Skills of Systematic Assertive Therapy

“We must teach our girls that if they speak their mind, they can create the world they want to see. (145)”
Robyn Silverman, Good Girls Don't Get Fat: How Weight Obsession Is Messing Up Our Girls and How We Can Help Them Thrive Despite It

Benjamin Jowett
“Never retreat. Never explain. Get it done and let them howl.”
Benjamin Jowett

Beverly Engel
“If you live your life to please everyone else, you will continue to feel frustrated and powerless. This is because what others want may not be good for you. You are not being mean when you say NO to unreasonable demands or when you express your ideas, feelings, and opinions, even if they differ from those of others.”
Beverly Engel, The Nice Girl Syndrome: Stop Being Manipulated and Abused -- And Start Standing Up for Yourself

Beverly Engel
“If someone is inconsiderate or rude to you, risk telling them how it made you feel or that you didn’t appreciate being treated that way. If you tend to talk yourself out of anger by telling yourself that you don’t want to make waves, try telling yourself instead that it is okay to make waves sometimes and risk letting people know how you really feel.”
Beverly Engel, The Nice Girl Syndrome: Stop Being Manipulated and Abused -- And Start Standing Up for Yourself

Nathaniel Branden
“It is a mistake to look at someone who is self assertive and say, "It's easy for her, she has good self-esteem." One of the ways you build self-esteem is by being self-assertive when it is not easy to do so. There are always times when self-assertiveness requires courage, no matter how high your self-esteem.”
Nathaniel Branden

Nathaniel Branden
“The opposite of self-assertiveness is self-abnegation--abandoning or submerging your personal values, judgment, and interests. Some people tell themselves this is a virtue. It is a "virtue" that corrodes self-esteem.”
Nathaniel Branden

“Giving reasons during conflict to justify or defend a viewpoint is just as manipulative as giving reasons to attack that viewpoint. Neither of these routes is an honest assertive I want that can lead to a workable compromise of interests to quickly resolve the conflict.”
Manuel J. Smith, When I Say No, I Feel Guilty: How to Cope - Using the Skills of Systematic Assertive Therapy

Danny Silk
“In order for us to practice self-control, we must have a goal. We must have something we are saying “yes” to, which necessarily comes with things that we must say “no” to. We use self-control to maneuver ourselves toward this “yes.” This goal must be entirely our own. The minute another person is choosing and managing our goals for us, we have left self-control behind.”
Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

Shirley  Fessel
“What some call rebellion, others call survival.”
Shirley Fessel, Redemption from Biblical Battering

Wayne Gerard Trotman
“When you tolerate disrespectful people you disrespect yourself.”
Wayne Gerard Trotman

“Assertion, even self-assertion, does not invariably bespeak an urge to annihilate the opposition or to wield coercive power.”
Robert Boyers, The Tyranny of Virtue: Identity, the Academy, and the Hunt for Political Heresies

“Confidence attracts copycats!”
Aniekee Tochukwu Ezekiel

Dolly Parton
“I've often said I don't lose my temper as much as use it. I don’t do either unless I have to because I love peace and harmony, but when you step in my territory, I will call you on it.”
Dolly Parton

“Say NO to all meaningless activities, so do not need a calendar to remember when is the next really fulfilling event in your life.”
Rodolfo Peon

Roumen Bezergianov
“When you are fulfilling the meaning of your life, your steps are assertive, but when you are after power or pleasure, you become aggressive.”
Roumen Bezergianov, Character Education with Chess

Mitta Xinindlu
“Be weary of people who accuse you of aggression when you're being assertive. ”
Mitta Xinindlu

Laurence Galian
“You must give the aggressive and hostile aspects of yourself constructive ways of expression through assertiveness, determination, self-assuredness, boldness, mental toughness, decisiveness, learning how to articulate one's feelings, speaking directly, forcefulness, and sport.”
Laurence Galian, The Sun At Midnight: The Revealed Mysteries Of The Ahlul Bayt Sufis

“Not being you is risky way of becoming.”
Aniekee Tochukwu Ezekiel

“Be calm; yet assertive.
Be meek; yet courageous.
Be gentle; yet bold.
Be kind; yet strong.”
Charles F Glassman

“Get so far out of your comfort zone you can’t find your way back.”
Paulette Dale Ph.D, "Did You Say Something, Susan?”: How Any Woman Can Gain Confidence with Assertive Communication

“Step so far outside of your comfort zone that you can’t find your way back.”
Paulette Dale, Ph.D.

“It's not harsh to be assertive, its harsher when people take advantage of you”
Janna Cachola

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