Danny Silk



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Keep Your Love On: Connecti...

4.51 avg rating — 1,957 ratings — published 2013 — 5 editions
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Culture of Honor: Sustainin...

4.47 avg rating — 1,521 ratings — published 2009 — 12 editions
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Loving Our Kids on Purpose:...

4.43 avg rating — 1,336 ratings — published 2008 — 14 editions
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Loving Our Kids on Purpose

4.39 avg rating — 155 ratings — published 2009 — 3 editions
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Powerful and Free: Confront...

4.53 avg rating — 193 ratings — published 2012 — 4 editions
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The Practice of Honor: Putt...

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Defining The Relationship W...

4.39 avg rating — 28 ratings — published 2011
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Keep Your Love On - KYLO St...

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Powerful And Free

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“make an agreement to exercise mutual control over each other. The unspoken pact between them is, “It’s my job to make you happy, and your job to make me happy. And the best way to get you to work on my life is to act miserable. The more miserable I am, the more you will have to try to make me feel better.” Powerless people use various tactics, such as getting upset, withdrawing, nagging, ridiculing, pouting, crying, or getting angry, to pressure, manipulate, and punish one another into keeping this pact. However, this ongoing power play does nothing to make them happy and mitigate their anxiety in the long term. In fact, their anxiety only escalates by continually affirming that they are not actually powerful. Any sense of love and safety they feel by gaining or surrendering control is tenuous and fleeting. A relational bond built on mutual control simply cannot produce anything remotely like safety, love, or trust. It can only produce more fear, pain, distrust, punishment, and misery. And when taken to an extreme, it produces things like domestic violence.”
Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On: Connection Communication And Boundaries

“Yes, it’s vulnerable and scary to keep your love on toward someone who has become a perceived threat—you cannot guarantee what he or she is going to do. But you can guarantee your own choice. And you can always choose connection.”
Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On

“Powerful people do not try to control other people. They know it doesn’t work, and that it’s not their job. Their job is to control themselves.”
Danny Silk, Keep Your Love On



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