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How smart people think?

There is no such known species like ‘smart people’. Its only that some have found the hidden tap of creativity and many have just not witnessed.

Smart people do a lot of pre-thinking. They always have deep thoughts with themselves and already have a thought data bank for many topics.They think about imaginary situations and processes very often.Hence they usually have a solution ready when they are presented with real world problem it.[image error]
Smart people are often very critical about things and processes. This makes them question almost every thing out there under the sun.This also make them become critical thinkers. They do not easily validate a point and tend to think about every aspect of the problem.Their negatives at many times out weights positives.Through their thinking patterns they resolve each one into positives.
Smart people know the technique of meta-cognition (thinking about thinking). They often analyze their own thinking patterns and hence do better.
Every one is smart, few know this too.

How can I focus on and be motivated toward a goal or career after I failed in love or have a broken heart?

I guess this line might motivate you.

If she betrayed then

Your pain is her happiness. Be happy and let her suffer.

If she didn’t betrayed you but due to circumstances you two were separated then

Your pain is her suffering. Be happy and let her be happy.

Strange thing is love. Love is giving and not expecting anything in return.

How do I get my boyfriend spend more time with me?

Love is a fine art.

If he goes far, let him go. Stop nagging and he will fall back. Boys are kiddish at times and they do enjoy company of other guys more than their girls due to ‘dirty talk’ factor.

What ever, just ignore him when you really feel hurt. Soon he will realize his mistake.

Nothing kills love more than neglect and nothing nourishes it more than neglect!

It all depends on perspective and timing.

 

If people of the world are becoming extremely selfish, how can one find love?

People are becoming extremely selfish and hence every one wants to find true love!

We all want to be selfish with others but true to our lovers. that is evolution. Hence after few tricks of mind we all settle for true love.

Yes to break that initial barrier of mistrust is difficult but once broken,we all are very nice human beings.

I think women wearing a glamorous dress in order to expose and attract men is wrong. Am I right or wrong thinking that way?

In mating game each gender expresses their favorable points.

Men too show status,money,body,power,social skills etc. to woo women.

For women it is well known that beautiful body signifies healthy body and genes.Thus it is no wrong to showcase your qualities which are marketable.

Is physical attraction short lived?

Physical attraction is not short lived but has little impact is long run. Once you are physically attracted to someone then minor changes in their looks doesn’t affect your feelings. Once rapport is achieved then these things take back seat.

Before falling is love or getting attached, our evolutionary brain scans for changes and is sensitive to it. Once love is accomplished, these things never bother anyone. All girls get fat when pregnant, does it affect quality of love.

I can assure you that if you go only for sex and beauty, you will get bored in one year at most. We get bored by bodies too soon. Same legs, same boobs, same kiss. It’s Universal fact.

You need stimulation between ears than legs for longer relationships. Always go with one you can take for hours and not do sex for hours. Humans are evolved for caring and loving and not for banging. However your hormones try to fool you, comfort of mind is first and last requirement in love.

You must be comfortable with silence as well as speech of your girl. Always talk to them on phone,chat to determine compatibility.

Is it important to have a guy in your life in order to be happy?

 

A partner is unnecessary but a companion is needed by all. We all want one special person in our life to whom we can be natural,naked in all sense, without pretense and any ‘gain’ whatsoever.

I call that person a soulmate. In the world when souls are missing, where shall one find soulmate. We are so overwhelmed by mind and ego that we think that people are fool when they open themselves up. We only like those people who can be a somewhat a challenge to our mind.

Mind o mind, you never fail to amuse me.

Thus it is not at all important to have anyone in life of he is not original and natural at least to you.

How can love be defined?

Mind and ego are two greatest enemies of love. Ego protects our mind and mind protects our hearts.

But why ?

We all fall in true love in our life time. Some times mutual love. Even then its not completed. The reason is our over thinking mind. We think too much. Some times we over value others and other times we undervalue them (same person!). Mind is there to protect our tender heart.Some times one opens their heart and we start to play it with our mind, thinking them as weak and vulnerable.When they close their heart an open their mind, we open up!

This mistiming is greatest cause of love less world.

Secondly we have become too self centred. We want it but never want to share it.Love is sharing and caring. But media made us too selfie oriented and ego centred.We are nothing but our ego. We king of act nice to get the people’s attention and love. But soon our real colours surface (both ways) and ego starts to clash.

Thus love fades away. True love is synchrony of feelings. Feelings of both people synchronise simultaneously and love overtakes ego and petty worldly feelings.People don’t realise the pleasure of true love since they never had it in full except with their mother or parents in some cases.

You know prime need of all humans is security and comfort. Greatest security is in knowing that some one out there can die for you, and will never leave you in any circumstance. You can depend on them totally if needed. This kind of feeling can only come through true love. I don’t say the one must die for another but ‘can die if need comes’ is the real comfort.

Love is greatest comfort, rest are mere words.

 

Does true love exist?

What a question!

It does exist, I have personally experienced it many times. Only problem,… your compatible true love may never come in your vicinity.

Yes there are people in this world who are like us, similar but you may never see them. Luck is an important distinguisher.

Apart from luck many other factors count. One of the i shaving each partner in right frame of mind. Some times you are not ready and some times I. Hence true love is their but you get very limited opportunity to meet right people in your life. Miss one and you may wait for another 10 years or so!

This song sums it all

What is the real truth of life?

Seven ultimate truth of modern life.

You are ever alone. Every relationship (except your mother) has an element of selfishness inbuilt. pure true love is nothing but a mirage built on pre-selected criteria. My girlfriend loves NOT ME But what I am. Similarly I love her only because , she might be sexy, a good social trophy or caring or trust worthy etc. etc..All this is subconscious but often comes to surface when the weather of finance change for man and breeze of looks change for women. I don’t condemn it but I call spade a spade.
Money is indeed the most important form of ‘looks’ a man has and ‘looks’ are the greatest currency for any women. I don’t find this wrong either.
Modern corporate world is just like jungle. We all are there for hunt. Never believe any one and beware of ‘friends’.
Your truest friend ‘cuss’ you the most but they are the only one who stand when you really need them.
Rich class (Upper middle class and high class) society is filled with sooth talkers but dramatically dry and emotionless from inside. Studies have conclusively proven that with growing money empathy of individuals take a nose dive. Next time you find your self dying in a road accident, be sure to ask help from a nearby peasant or laborer. Don’t expect any BMW to stop by.

How Wealth Reduces Compassion
Got Money? Then You Might Lack Compassion | TIME.com
6 studies on how money affects the mind
http://inspiredeconomist.com/201…


Only way to become successful in any field is to focus on your core job and leave rest to almighty. People who start walking reach but people who go on planning the perfect route, perfect time to start and perfect environment to progress, only go on planning.
We will do what we like and whatever our core values are. We shall find reasons to support what ever we do. A cheater shall cheat, a thief will rob. They will find perfect arguments to support whatever they do. Like Tiger woods? You cheater! In psychology these principles are called confirmation and conservation bias.

Bonus Tip : Have you ever seen people giving perfect arguments on TV and sharing brilliant knowledge. Do you feel inferior to them? Worry not. Now consider.

They are talking about their respective field of expertise. They have worked so long on that field that they are obviously very good.
Any one going on TV prepares for at least one week. They research and find curated information. Ask those political experts about websites SSL certificate and they shall shit in the pants. We all have our domain of expertise. If calculus is not that glamorous doesn’t means that mathematicians know nothing about any thing else.
We all have immense knowledge for which we are unaware of and we often undervalue. Try answering a question on your prime domain knowledge and then see what masterpiece you can create.

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