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September 18, 2017
What are your voyeur experiences?
Nudity has different aspects.For some it is vulgar or sexual.For some it is spiritual. To me nudity is immensely spiritual.Human body (of both sexes) is amalgamation of infinite contours and emotions.It reacts to touch, view and expresses itself.
But nudity has types.One is physical nudity which is indeed pleasing to our outer senses.Other is spiritual nudity which is more pensive than physical nudity.You can be nude physically in front of any one but might not be mentally nude.Mental nudeness is much more deeper.We look beyond physical body.Our thoughts unite, our spirits conjure,our senses interact. Spiritual nudity means that you need not speak any bit, just sit around with each other, feel the unknown, unsung music of life.
When you are nude in all senses, i.e. physically, spiritually,psychologically,mentally , only then the two people can experience real enlightenment and extreme pleasure. Its beyond explanation and beyond comprehension.
Enlightenment is orgasm of your soul.Its after effects last for several hours may be weeks. It is like escalating the orgasm but never fulfilling it and arousing more.People misunderstand enlightenment as ‘renouncement’ and sainthood.In fact enlightenment is sex of souls.It is not physical sex (although it is) only, it reaches to your soul, your inner body and every thing you have.It is not fast but slow,damn slow.It does not release tension but people who are already happy are involved in it.If you are already happy and ecstatic and do sex for pleasure only and not to release sexual urge or mental tension, it becomes enlightenment.
In tantric sex som times people do not penetrate and still get all the orgasm.Touch is the primer in tantric sex.Touch, massage, gentle kisses, all move in conjunction to allow you to reach unknown states of pleasure.Normal sex is too fast.Just like a hungry person eating food.Tantric sex is like a desert which a contended person enjoys.His hunger is already satiated.
Sex is for unhappy, tantric sex is for already happy seeking spiritual sex and not physical.There are no rules about any thing .It just goes with the flow.You may penetrate, you may not do it.It is primarily a massage technique aimed to provide pleasure to every cell in your body and not just your genitals.No performance pressure is there as we go with the flow.Copulation is also done it necessary.We do not crave for it but flow for it.
We just go with the flow with no hurry.We are aiming for any act.We are just moving like a river.We go wherever river takes us. No agendas, no rules, no decorum to be maintained.
Its natural, free flowing and really what sex should be and not the impulsive outbreak of hormones rushing down under you to get a release as soon as possible.You don’t seek any release (as no agenda even to copulate is predefined),but you flow with the ease in mind that our purpose is to seek enlightenment of soul and not pleasure on body.
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How do I make the best use of a week?
My rule book
Leave all social media including Quora (for one week only).
Get a feature phone with only call and basic text function and with no internet.
Plan your week in unplanned way.Get out of the house (alone or may be with like minded best friend). Don’t decide where to go,what t do,no,planning whatsoever.Follow your instinct.You might be surprised by accurate an interesting randomness of your mind.
Play a game with you friend (lover) or any close acquaintance.Decide to meet at any place (say marine drive) on a particular day and time.but no directions whatsoever i.e. no fixed place to meet.You may choose a garden also.Let us know compatibility of each other.If you find each other in less than five minutes of reaching your destined place, then you are highly compatible as you both chose similar spot to take a break.If you choose unseen spot, its even better.
Unplanned life is natural.You go with your natural instinctual flow and not forced media fed mind control.
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September 17, 2017
Is it possible to meet your soulmate online?
It is quite possible. In fact I would say its easier.
Why ?
To find your soul mate you need to know about core values of any one. To know core values, you must know the person quite well.Online profiles are a great way to know many hidden things in any one’s personality.
You can constantly track some one online and know what they like and what they don’t and plan accordingly. You can connect to them easily.Its less awkward and also less painful!
You can write long messages to them which you can never do while you are offline with them. You can really pour your heart out. You can present your better self to them and quite easily.
Having said all that, I must confess that love can be initiated online but cannot be successfully carried forward. You have to come face to face, may be on call (Ear to ear), or on Skype etc. Text only love is too dry. At least attach pictures to text-only love for love to thrive. I don’t know about girls (As they are more imaginative and emotional), but boys need real voice, real pic and real date!
Out of sight, out of mind.
How can I get over heartbreak with coworker? He used to take care of me, made me laugh. I feel so stupid to fell for him. Now I’ve to face him daily.
Ok. He is you boss.
What ever i gather from your description that ‘he is in a bit of dilemma’. I think some body has given him some expert advice about future with you.
Why I am writing this ? This may look counter intuitive, but for a man to leave a girl just like that is not that easy. Men are insanely practical. He can’t Marry you,okay, but he can love you!
Some one might have told him some secret of yours (Your secret Instagram friend!). Men never leave you because they can’t marry you. Men leave you when you have done something wrong.
Just cross check your sources, wait for sometime before approaching. love usually returns if you allow time to come back. Don’t push him. After bad memories with you, comes good memories with you. Just be in touch but not in ‘touch’.
If love is true, it comes back at least thrice.Don’t worry. Just wait and please leave him alone to think. Why not take a month off! (Best idea for the situation).
Why do gals pine for their Ex even after entering a new relationship? Why can’t they have a ‘clean/clinical’ once-and-for-all breakup just like guys?
Let me give you an analogy. Suppose you switch from iPhone to Micromax and your expectations are ruined. What will you do ? Either nag about android or praise you iPhone!
I think you get the analogy. You haven’t occupied her mind an heart completely. He is still there!. She is only evaluating you for the time being, sort of till he patches up or she gets a new iPhone!
If my girl or potential girl even mentions are of any ‘good friend’ of her,its almost like, go with him!. I will certainly dump her and even facilitate their meetings!
I value my self.If you don’t resist/can’t resist this bull shit in the beginning she is going to ruminate about him more! .If you love your ex so much and still like his semi nude selfies on Instagram dreaming him having sex with you, what the hell I am even staying here for a while!
Girls respect you only that much, you respect your self. Be a man , show your balls if you have one and just cut the crap. She will never ever think about him. This is the only way to stop her thinking about him and start thinking about you.
To begin a new chapter, you have to scrap the older one. Overwrite her mind and not go on nostalgic moments with her ex. Some times we need a shock to remove persistent dust.
PS : Don’t go with the flow of your girls thoughts. Always moderate them. Girls are emotional and cannot tap their ‘Old love’ by them selves always. They think its is fine to like other guys nude selfies but its not fine with men!
Is is okay to get attracted to other girls while you are in committed relationship?
Developing feelings as ‘Minor Crush’… It’s perfectly normal. We are humans and we are ‘hardwired’ to love. But developing feelings such as ‘missing’ them, stalking other guys,messaging them,attracting (luring) them,comparing therm to your partner and wishing them to be in your life…a strict no.
I wrote this long before that even if you love your house, you still appreciate other houses on the street. Appreciation is different from wanting.
Some people are poly amorous[1]. They can maintain and love many partners equally.I don’t know about you.You must test your feelings and your gut feel.
One more explanation could be that you don’t love your partner fully and find him imperfect.Love is too complex emotion to be defined.
Footnotes
Why do they say never ask a man how much he earns, and never ask a woman her age?
We restrict our selves asking people things they cannot change and can be judged for that.
You cannot change age of a girl, which is a sensitive issue. Some (haughty) girls are ‘sixteen since sixteen’. Why break their illusion of being an old woman!
Men also cannot change their income in a day.A man’s worth is often perceived by the number of zeroes in his bank account.They often lie about it also. Why take a rich man’s tag from someone!
These things are associated with our pride (read false ego). We must handle them with care!
Will they be ever together again even if they didn’t confess their feelings ?
Yes, they might.
Any one has to take a step. Loving is never enough. You need to work hard for it.
Communication is required as if now telepathy is unconfirmed (Confirmed only for dreams.Dream telepathy means that if you dream about someone means they are ‘missing ‘ you. If two people who love each other dream at same-time , they can alter each others dreams).
I suggest you that you propose you or at least make your love clear. Any one who speaks his/her heart out is freed from the guilt for life.
Sigmund Freud also experienced this
Is it possible to meet your soulmate online?
It is quite possible. In fact I would say its easier.
Why ?
To find your soul mate you need to know about core values of any one. To know core values, you must know the person quite well.Online profiles are a great way to know many hidden things in any one’s personality.
You can constantly track some one online and know what they like and what they don’t and plan accordingly. You can connect to them easily.Its less awkward and also less painful!
You can write long messages to them which you can never do while you are offline with them. You can really pour your heart out. You can present your better self to them and quite easily.
Having said all that, I must confess that love can be initiated online but cannot be successfully carried forward. You have to come face to face, may be on call (Ear to ear), or on Skype etc. Text only love is too dry. At least attach pictures to text-only love for love to thrive. I don’t know about girls (As they are more imaginative and emotional), but boys need real voice, real pic and real date!
Out of sight, out of mind.
via Hemant Pandey’s answer to Is it possible to meet your soulmate online? – Quora
What can I do to stop attracting manipulative men?
Manipulation is relative.
We all manipulate in little small ways to distort realities. Suppose you have a head ache, even then you are smiling, it a bit of manipulation.
When we manipulate (Read tweak) our selves for better, then its fine.
To stop attracting manipulative men, you need to recognize the signs and give simple tests to them. Usually the best test for a pick up artist or a seducer is ‘ how long he is wiling to waste (In his terms) with you’. If some one sticks with you for say longer than a month , then he might be genuine. If some one leaves you before seven hours (In total time spent with you, may be spread across days). They have got this seven hour rule for every girl to their bed.
Time and effort are best tests. Hold your self a little in the beginning, don’t give him physical pleasures and then see his reactions. These seducers are usually very disturbed by their tricks not working. Either he will start loving you genuinely (If he was really interested) or else will run away.
Bottom line : You can’t stop but filter.
