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July 29, 2017
Hemant Pandey’s answer to What are the truths we realise in everyday life? – Quora
Every body secretly wants you to fail. Even if you are getting successful, they want you to be less successful than them.
If you are too good and nice, you will be used for your generosity and termed as fool in close circles.
Girls are hopelessly in love with Jerks and assholes. Earlier you learn this, better you get in dating game.
Girls will love you even if she knows that you are a jerk!
Girls say they want nice helpful faithful guys but fall for Jerks, who don’t give them a damn and treat them like crap. Never believe what a girl says. They love Jerks!
Girls are usually interested in men older than them. They date older men because of their experience and social standing.
Only numbers that matters in your real life is your bank balance. No one cares for your grades as soon as you are out of college.
People often secretly envy you but bash you on the face. Suppose you are walking in season rains with out umbrella, enjoying the rains, people will bash you on the face but secretly envy you.
We all want economic freedom but are never willing to take risks associated with it.
Source: Hemant Pandey’s answer to What are the truths we realise in everyday life? – Quora
Art of cold approach : Only two methods which works every time
We all know that day game is the real pick up and seduction. For example you saw a sexy girl going in a mall in front of you. You know that you are never gonna see her ever again if you miss her this time. How to cold approach her?
I give you two takeaways which always work.
Don’t look at her or stare her if you are planning to approach. Let her know that you just went and bumped into her. If you start staring any girl for longer duration and not approaching, you fall into stare zone pretty fast and can never get out of it. If you look at her then approach her quickly.
What to say while approaching any girl out of blue ? I prefer commenting on dress or accessories. Girls are fashion conscious. You can tell her some corrective measure in her dress. Say that shoes don’t go well with this top or any thing you can think off. Fashion is always a good topic to start with any girl. Next change topic very fast and continue some private banter like name , age etc.
Second method of cold approach is ‘help me’ method. Ask for any mundane help like ‘Do you have a pen’ or what ever.
Rule for ‘help me’ approach
Always ask open ended help. Do not ask for way to cinema which she will point out and run. *After initial break out, switch topics fast. When we switch topics fast our brain gets confused and we are temporarily hypnotized (this is the basis of all hypnotic commands).
If she is in hurry, leave her before she leaves you and give her your number to contact later. Leave the conversation in between for Zeigarnick effect to work. If she gives her number back, you win. If she doesn’t even in that case onus to contact further is on her. You can use fractionation on her after break out.
Fractionation is mixing of two contradictory emotions in short time or in one sentence some times. This might look bullshit to male mind but for female mind it does wonders. You can just say ‘ I find you attractive even though you are quite average’. You are creating confusion in her mind and in turn making her more receptive towards your talks.
Last take away : Never give plain compliment to any girl. Always add a small rider of disguised insult (very subtle). You will be surprised by the results.
Remember all seduction is confusing other person and hence switching off their rational critical mind.
Secret to modern women’s heart
(1) Hemant Pandey’s answer to If top Quora writers created another fake profile to answer the questions, would their answers get as many views and upvotes as they get now? – Quora
Probably not. This idea had been tested by quite a few authors.
Up vote depends on followers. These are people who like to read the answers and writing style of writer.
Quora algorithms favor established writers.
Writers personality does have effect on up votes.
Quora shows answers based on liking of users. Established writers are more influential in affecting the automatic algorithms. Quora shows more of writer’s answers to people who have liked their content any time before. Thus previous history too helps any writer to get more views and appreciation.
This effect is known as Mathew’s effect in psychology.
July 24, 2017
Hemant Pandey’s answer to What should I do when mind says move on and heart says hold on? – Quora
Neither.
Follow your instinct or gut feeling.
Mind is logical and heart is emotional but instinct or sixth sense is magical. You instinct is developed in you since ages.Its inbuilt in your genes. The most feeble voice which some times says to you like ‘Don’t go out, it might rain ‘ and then your mind shuts that voice and presents logic about weather forecast or your heart says ‘but she called right ?’.
Always follow your instinct when in doubt. We all have it. To recognize it, just think of those voices which are feeble but sans logic or emotion.
Let me give you on more example. You are going some where and in between a task your mind asks ‘What’s the time ?’. A feeble voice says 1:10 PM. You look at your watch. Bang! 1:10 PM exact. It all happens with us and we discard it as luck or what ever!
Source: Hemant Pandey’s answer to What should I do when mind says move on and heart says hold on? – Quora
Hemant Pandey’s answer to What is the hardest thing to do? – Quora
Showing anger to a calm person.
Resisting urge to meet your lover.
Getting message of loan amount cut from your salary each month and still feeling relaxed.
Looking at the face of a sexy girl wearing very low neck top.
Being quiet for whole day as meditation practice.
Trying to choose your best girl friend when you love all of them equally.
Loving many women with same devotion and care and being honest to your self.
Letting Pakistan win from India in cricket.
Rejecting some one who is nice in all respect for love and losing their friendship too in return.
Giving loan to your best friend knowing he will never return.
Getting into Mumbai local in peak hours.
Source: Hemant Pandey’s answer to What is the hardest thing to do? – Quora
Hemant Pandey’s answer to What are some reasons a man rejects a woman? – Quora
Biggest turn offs from a man’s perspective
Men are NOT very serious always. Don’t take every thing they say to your heart!. Most of the time boys are in a fun mood most of the time and number of jokes they crack can easily out number almost any thing they do. Boys have real stress and this is their out let.
Men DON’T like over emotional girls, who always take smallest of things to their heart.Its okay and it happens. Girls are some times over emotional for things said by their boy friends!
Men HATE clingy girls. Girls who are always nagging, sobbing and over descriptive about their every aspect of life. Their is a line between being cute and being boring.
Men seriously hate show off. The most hated word in men arena is ‘Awwww…’. We know what is real and what is fake. We know when you are really offended and when you are using psycho techniques.
Men hate too many tantrums. Be real and genuine.Its okay that you are fairer sex and need (demand) extra care, love and attention.But baby, your extra tantrums speak for them selves, they shout hard and are often a great turn off. Love is for equals and not give and take. You want only ‘that’ thing, now bear my tantrums.
Men hate when you lie. They are more clever than you think. When you say that you were busy , they can easily find out that you were online on that FB chat.They know that no one, except Rahul Gandhi, is that busy all day. If you don’t call, message back etc. implies you are having ego issues, playing some creepy psychology or raising you perceived value for only ‘that’ thing.
Some girls are exceptions but most are the rules!
Source: Hemant Pandey’s answer to What are some reasons a man rejects a woman? – Quora
Hemant Pandey’s answer to What are the psychological facts about crush or falling in love that people don’t know? – Quora
Love is a mind game in the beginning. No one is going to fall in love with you in minutes. They will play, test you, check you and then totally fall for you.
If mind games phase gets cleared, then you get some real Emotional well being. Emotional phase attracts a lot of jealousy,fights and even breakup!
If you succeed here then the trance like love start to happen. Only 1% couples reach that phase. This is true love.
Hemant Pandey’s answer to What was the worst mistake you made that was your fault? – Quora
In career :
It took long time for me to have courage to start my own business. I really regret that. I wasted lot of my time for paychecks. A brand take 5 years to establish in any market. Initially payoff is low but it grows exponentially afterwards. I am still learning.
Second mistake while in job was to trade experience for money. To earn more I switched jobs more often. My salary grew but not my experience. I also preferred big companies in lieu of new ventures. The learning opportunity and challenges are very few in big companies. In smaller companies challenges are more and you learn multiple streams like business development and communication skills. Big companies are like zoo. You are fed well but you never learn to hunt on your own. For an enterpreneural spirit this becomes double important.
In love
Never give too much to anyone. It feeds to their ego and depletes your self respect. We are humans and we operate primarily with mind. We can never set off our ego or turn off our mind completly.
You will come across one special person or girl in your life for whom you will feel that they complete you, they are different,simple, innocent,egoless,out of this world. You will feel that ‘ yes, now here is the girl I was waiting for!’. Don’t buy that crap! All are same. We all are human and no one is special. And this is natural. In this cruel world how can one survive without all the tricks of the trade? People behave selectively, they may be nice and loving and good to you but they know all the games! They can use you too if they find you weak. Hence keep testing and no expectations.
Whenever heart says yes but mind says no…go with the mind. Whenever heart says no but mind says yes…go with the heart. Our gut feel is almost right abstaining decisions but not in matter of assertion. When we want something badly our senses get marred by greed and need. When we have no greed associated,heart is usually right.
Love is a long process. Untill it is over you need to keep check off your feelings and investment. Getting sex from a girl is a bad test of love now a days. Earlier when chastity was honored it was a better test. Now the scarciest resource any one have is time. You can measure ‘some ones’ love for you by amount of time they devote to you. Sex is too cheap to measure love! I prefer 10 hours from my girlfriend than three rounds of hot sex.
Love has changed with the advent and evolution of social media. You can never tell how many WhatsApp numbers your lover has and what he or she does behind the curtains. Cheating is too easy to do and hide. Thus learn some mind games else be ready to be dumped and doomed.
In life
This is very common. People care for non living things like money and cars and forget/neglect their own body. I still regret the wasted years in McD and subway. I also regret the unnecessary hard work to increase numbers in my mobile banking app. I wish I would have continued with my physical workout without giving a break in between. I’m now active again but lost time never comes back.
I wasted too much time in following my true love. She did loved me but I was never practical. She was younger (age gap), different state (Bengal) language,culture and many other aspects. I thought love shall surpass all odds. But my friend everyone is not that strong. Hence brothers,career first. Frame it on your bedroom wall. CAREER FIRST. Love is too much. Don’t worry.
Source: Hemant Pandey’s answer to What was the worst mistake you made that was your fault? – Quora
How do you deal with writer’s block?
I write in blocks itself. My modus operandi.
1. I start three four books at any given time.
2. I have a google drive file called book ideas for any particular topic.
3. As ideas hit me, I just update that particular file.
4. Writers are moody people and right mood can really make a difference. I wait for the right mood to come. When it comes, I go for long hours to write my chapters. Some times I write whole day and other times I don’t write for days.
5. I always churn topics to avoid boredom. I have varied interests ranging from mathematics to writing to arts to any thing.
6. I don’t have any set time to write or any deadlines. I write without pressure.
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July 23, 2017
Subtle texting rules
Age is just a number. I have seen 44 year old courting 22 year old.
Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter. Mark Twain
Cold start means that you must bump into her. If you are into staring game and don’t approach in next 10 seconds then you will remain in stare – zone forever!. Just pass near by and say as if it naturally occurred to you. You shall get better in 10 approaches.
The best opener for any girl out there is ‘self improvement’ or ‘cold reading’ ‘eye reading’ ‘ face reading’ or any other superficial bullshit you can thin off. palm reading works very well. Learn a bit or two about palm reading.
You talk to them incessantly about fashion. They just love their bodies (their bread and butter) and clothing, dressing sense, color matching etc. etc.
Remember only one basic tenet of cold approach, it must never look like cold approach. it must look like friendly suggestion.Earlier you establish friend like rapport the better it is. Just assume that they are your friends and they start the role playing very soon.
Secret to modern women’s heart
