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August 17, 2017
(1) Hemant Pandey’s answer to How do I connect with anyone? – Quora
Gospel truths of connecting with any one.
Meet people with an attitude that you know them for years.
Be a genuine active listener.
Cut the fillers and formalities. We feel how others want to make us feel, alike. If you make them feel like friends forever, they shall accept that unconsciously. Happens in much more profound ways to girls. Girls are natural. They adapt themselves in accordance with your behavior. They mirror your behavior.
Genuinely offer help. Care for them, love them and they shall shower you with love back. We are intuitively very much developed. We can see through , who is genuine and who is not. it is another thing that in love we are blinded by halo effect and hence fail!
Help others with out expectations. Yes we all have hidden agendas and in surface plans to exploit others. We do favors to people so as to get some thing in return. Try this same thing with out expectations. I assure you that results shall be much better and bonds more lasting. Best ROI are with deed we do for others with out expectations.
Source: (1) Hemant Pandey’s answer to How do I connect with anyone? – Quora
August 16, 2017
Hemant Pandey’s answer to Why is this generation so afraid to fall in love? – Quora
Falling in true love is a great responsibility. It is just not dating mating and separating. Love means total surrender, total devotion and total care. Our generation is narcissistic and hence love is tough. Love is sacrifice and giving. Forget in this era.
We all know from inside what we want from that handsome rich guy or that sexy lean lass. We know our material and sexual inhibitions. Media has corrupted our minds so much, that we rather believe there is no love but lust and greed.
We have forgotten the true art of selfless love and we are running towards a mirage of sexual pleasure and material gratification. This girl will full fill me and my desires. Oh that one seems better and she will certainly bring more pleasure. We are humans and we will get bored with superficial love even with most gorgeous women of this world. We are running from pillar to post in search of something imaginary in perspective and today’s insane media standards. We must understand that material benefits and physical pleasure ultimately cater to a bunch of neurons in our mind (I don’t undermine the value of these) and romantic love is the most addictive and pleasure giving substance in whole world. See this video (For video click Quora link).
Also watch this wonderful romantic song (For video click Quora link).
Only those who have loved can feel this. I am right now mesmerized viewing this.
Source: Hemant Pandey’s answer to Why is this generation so afraid to fall in love? – Quora
August 14, 2017
Alpha Male Definition
Alpha male is again NOT an absolute term. You are Alpha in the group where all are below you and vice versa.
A local Alpha male who is popular in his circles is just another beta in a party of celebs!In that sense , Alpha male is a local term, relative to the surroundings.
You don’t have to beat every body but only those in your vicinity.Secondly Alpha male is not a noun but a adjective (not in literal sense).
Alpha male is just a set of behaviour and mindset, deeply ingrained into any one. Anyone can become local Alpha and get girls. No need to become a celeb.
Source: overview for ajayhemant
August 13, 2017
August 10, 2017
How to use women’s imagination against her? : seduction
We all are aware of the fact that women are ultra imaginative. You say one and they tell two but think 10.
Tips to use her imagination against her.
Never give her direct answers to any of her subjective questions. She says ‘Weather is cool’ You say ‘I am more!’ or some thing unrelated but interesting. Try to connect her thoughts to ‘we’ of the discussion. She says ‘what about a date?’ You say ‘No I am thinking about a walk together’.
Always leave sentences incomplete which fuels her imagination later. ‘I was thinking about…’ then odd silence. Lets see what she fills it up with. If she fills up with some thing positive like ‘me’, leave the conversation and change topic. Say oh I am getting a call. Let that incomplete thought remain stuck in her mind and let her ponder over it at night. This technique works very well with perfect 10s and thinking girls.
Approve disapprove method. Give her approval of any thing but at the same time refute that approval with slight ‘neg’. ‘You look gorgeous in this red top but eh.. a little fat!’
Essence of all these methods is to trick her imagination to think about you more. She may love you, she may hate you but you must stay into her imagination most of the time.
A girl who thinks about you in any sense, positive or negative is bound to fall in love with you.
Seduction is chess of mind. One wrong move and you are doomed.
Secret to modern woman’s heart
August 9, 2017
Seduction : Personality or Eloquence or both? Can a average looking Joe get a perfect 10 ? : seduction
We know having a great personality and good looks can take you far in seduction world. But is personality the only determining factor or gabbing skills matter.
The journey to women’s heart is often through her ears. But what to do if your looks fail you? How to surpass that initial threshold?
I tell you a solid method.
You have to be 2X perseverant. Women’s initial rejection is never final and they change mind. Thus stick more with your approach and never let them get a hint that you are affected by their rejection (initial default knee jerk rejection).
Focus on your words, poetic lingo, sexy tone and all. Slowly they will melt and in no time they will forget about looks. Women internalize every thing, sooner or later. Learn the lingo of women’s mind i.e. fractionation.
About ‘negging’, do you ‘neg’ more or ‘neg’ less ? I feel that you have to be neutral to a women if your looks don’t support you. If you ‘Neg’ as if you are a rock star, your personality will not help your argument and women will drop you as if you are just ‘bad looking’ insecure man or ‘Asshole’. Remember women are always ready for friendship with any one. They have been socially conditioned to gain a favorable social environment every where. This ‘I am your friend’ approach never fails since it is harmless. Even if you are a stud, this will never fail. Friendship only approach has two greatest ingredients any women wants in any male. Harmlessness and usefulness.
After you have harmless access to her friend zone, you can slowly practice the game on her. After some time when you have surpassed her guard, she considers you at par with studs.
The seduction methods I suggest are fractionation as well as ‘pattern of absence and presence’ to spark attraction.
Remember woman’s wall of defense is tough but not deep.
Secret to Modern woman’s heart
Golden rule of walking away
Always dump first. Never go back before two apologies. Ist apology is ‘test apology’. If guys learn to dump girls at appropriate time, they will never lose 90% of girls. But guys are too coward for that. Anyway they lose both, self respect and the girl.
August 3, 2017
Seduction is like blind chess. What to do when things go out of the hand. Strategies to avoid loss of power due to inherent mistakes while seducing. : seduction
We all have experienced this phase in seduction. You say some thing or do some thing to create more desire and attraction and things back fire.
Either one of this happens.
You tried to incite envy and things back fired and she became extremely angry.
You became too beta and into love mode and she started neglecting you and treating you like shit. Your power was taken and now you are insecure.
In true love beta mode you sent flurry of messages and slowly response time increased and she started neglecting your messages.
In any case remember these points.
Your current desperation is a temporary state of mind. How ever hard this might seem and however hard your mind tries to put you into further desperation mode (Primarily due to our primal brain response to avoid losses).
Wait for three days and do not initiate any contact, neither respond to any of hers. Let her self esteem and over blown ego come down. This is the most difficult phase. Believe me after three days you will feel a lot better and she will feel a lot worse!
Always restart conversation with normal unromantic short texts like “Hey every thing okay?”. No longer texts, apologies or whatever. The primary reason for this is that ,girls are too moody and they always live in their current state of mind. You gauge her reaction and mood before asking for apology!! (Which you never do, BTW).
Always double the time of ‘no response’ or ‘restart response’ in case of no response from her. For example if she is really pissed off and not replying after three days, wait for one more additional week, if continues, wait for 15 days and so on. No girl has ever resisted me a 15 day no contact block.
Mistakes most guys do is to give her more importance losing their power further in a vicious circle. Remember, greatest weapon in seduction are ‘neglect’ and ‘indifference’. Even if she knows that you are using seduction on her, she will not resist.
How many of us know that world is rigged, share markets are manipulated,politicians are corrupt and still follow the rules.
One who loves the least, controls the relationship,in general.
Secret to modern woman’s heart
Hemant Pandey’s answer to What are some of the ways to enhance your common sense? – Quora
I have a much broader perspective of life.I simply don’t measure what I do, how much I do and how often I do. I have certain interests and what I truly care is to learn as much as I can in those ares. I am a perpetual researcher. I skim forums (Reddit) or other wise, watch videos, different Quora answers and make notes on my google drive file. I have separate file for each genre.
I am a writer and I ponder over many topics, latest research. Even when I am traveling, I carry my internet dongle (to save battery) and continue research.
I apply the known research models of learning like ‘Interleaved learning’ as well as ‘Spaced learning’. Mixing topics has shown to increase retention by as much as 76%.
A surprise final test occurred one day or one month later. The result? When the test was one day later, scores were 25 percent better for problems trained with interleaving; at one month later, the interleaving advantage grew to 76 percent.
That is phenomenal.
There is a body of research that suggests that spacing learning over time helps people learn more quickly and remember better. It has been found to be effective in various domains, from sales training to language learning to medicine (Caple, 1997; Castel, Logan, Haber, & Viehman, 2012; Grote, 1995; Kerfoot et al., 2007; Lambert, 2009; Landauer & Ross, 1977; Lehmann-Willenbrock & Kauffeld, 2010; Toppino & Cohen, 2010).
I use pedagogical methods for my students as well as for me itself.
Writing on Quora helps me retain more information over the time! Yes sharing is indeed caring.
How To Retain 90% Of Everything You Learn
90% of what they learn when they teach someone else/use immediately.
75% of what they learn when they practice what they learned.
50% of what they learn when engaged in a group discussion.
30% of what they learn when they see a demonstration.
20% of what they learn from audio-visual.
10% of what they learn when they’ve learned from reading.
5% of what they learn when they’ve learned from lecture.
Thus learn more and more importantly share it with others. Remember if others don’t share what they learn, they too are going to loose 90% of it.
Source: Hemant Pandey’s answer to What are some of the ways to enhance your common sense? – Quora
August 2, 2017
Can you short circuit any girls mind to like you instantly?
We love shortcuts. We all want one magic pill to swallow and get success overnight.
If all those seduction books work and all those love gurus are efficient, then why we have more and more books popping up and still the need is unfilled.
Yes you can short circuit any girls mind in 2 minutes and guide her to your apartment in 10 minutes. But is this easy?
Sorry no.
The people who do this effortlessly have trained themselves for years and now they have that sixth sense and intuitive perfection.
We need to learn ‘why’ of seduction and apply to our personality. Every one is different. My methods may not work for you but the understanding of the subject will surely work. Understand the basics and apply them to your skeleton. Methods don’t always works and basic understanding seldom fail.
More you focus on why rather than ‘what’ and ‘how’ better player you will become in few years.
Learn the tools but also the ability to create your own tools when required.
Secret to modern women’s heart
