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September 21, 2017
Does your face get prettier when you lose a lot of weight?
Yes, your looks can improve drastically with weight loss.But weight loss should mean ‘health gain’. If you lose weight just by contaminating for Jaundice, no.
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Will you ever accept a person who proposes you sneakily?
Lets assume a hypothetical situation.(I will assume myself in situations as I would have behaved).
You can read my other answers and know that I never propose (d) a girl. Why ?
I am quite shy in expressing real feelings in front of real person. Other wise I am quite chatty and can connect to almost any one instantly. I can hold long discussions and chats. Then whats the problem in proposing the right one , when I know in many cases that the love is mutual ? Because I give enough more than direct hints to the person concerned that I really do love them. if you ask them in private they will testify this. So they know I love them without doubt. Enough evidences, proofs and testimonies. Then I expect them to make a move. It serves two purposes.
I know that I am the only one. (Girl proposing a boy is less common).
Girl has enough emotional intelligence to catch non verbal feelings.(Very important for me). You can this think as a kind of test.
Thus the need of sneaky proposal is by itself eradicated. Sneaky means conspicuous, suspicious and low confidence. It can also be turned around and you might say that I didn’t meant that and all! You are trying to have a safety net, a cushion. You are not baring it all. You have doubts, fears and insecurities. If only reason is shyness (Non existent now a days), then fine, else this can be a turn off.
Love is all about complete surrender, a complete surrender of ego and self. If you can’t risk yourself totally, then you are not risking at all. If some one proposes to me with full emotion and without safety nets, means she is staking her total self worth and identity for me. What can be a better proof of love than it is ? If you love, you don’t expect any thing. This is the ultimate stage of love. You need to burn your bridges and leave your self behind for the pursuit. Love is God. No cheating with him.
If some one is not in that ultimate stage of ‘Stake All’, then it is very difficult for that person to keep hold of me. I have strong testing mechanisms. I devote my all energy an life to love and hence I have very difficult passing criteria.
If you are sneaky, I am freaky, my girl!
PS : For casual relationships, friendships, flicks, time pass, utilitarian partnerships, FWB and so on, the criteria are what is mutually agreed.
Conclusion : You must invest the same amount of energy and tests as the other person is employing.
Last word : I am just a Mirror, You see your image in me not mine. I am formless.
What are the leading causes to why majority of people are suffering and miserable in their life?
Buddha said : Root of all evil is desire.
The problem is not that we must not desire or fulfill our ambitions.The problem is that we attach our inner happiness and bliss with the outcome of those desire.
Desire is NOT the real evil but attachment to outcome is.
The moment my next happiness is dependent on new SUV, the same moment I plan termination date of my happiness!. The second moment I get the SUV, the joy begins to diminish!. Mind want a better bigger MUV the very next week and my all joy now shifts to imaginary happiness in future!
Happiness is already there, its already hidden in present moment.You can be blissful with out reason. Have you seen little kids. Are they happy ? Do they need reasons for their happiness ? No.They are happy all in themselves.
People are NOT suffering because they don’t have enough, because enough is never enough. Your infiniti is again just infinitesimal if we go on doubling it for a while.I don’t teach mediocre life or life without dreams or ambitions but I do emphasize on detaching you bliss from ‘outcomes’.
We all were eternally happy when we were kids. That is our basic nature. the media, corporate and system has poisoned us for unhappiness and then they sell us solutions for our bliss!
A bigger house, a bigger Audi, bank balance etc. all feed our ego. Ego is restless and is never satisfied.Run after success,money,love or whatever but by staying in your bliss zone and not drifting away with them.
This is the prime reason for happiness and sadness, combined.
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September 20, 2017
What have you sacrificed to achieve something in life?
I have sacrificed fake social media life to get some real cool friends.
I have sacrificed ‘ego feeding’ social media to gain insightful ‘knowledge media’.
I have sacrificed social norms and boundaries to ‘do what I love’ and ‘follow my heart in every possible way.
I have sacrificed wealth, for free and quality time, to gain knowledge, insight and enlightenment.
Lastly I sacrificed Windows for my Mac…
Do you like your job?
Absolutely.
I love it. I am a mathepreneur. I teach mathematics. I absolutely love my job. I. Love mathematics and hence anything related to math.
I’m a evening person. My job starts when school ends. Good for me.
I’m my own boss. If I don’t feel good today I can take a off.
I have three off months in a year when schools are closed and exams are going on. Thus a lot of vacation time. I had Goa on the cards but due to injury in my neck and shoulders, it is not materializing.
I love young people and I meet a lot of them.
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What are the lame things some Indians do to appear cool?
Hindi words in English conversation : Earlier we used to have a ‘bit’ of English in our conversation , like ‘station’ or ‘Train’ as Hindi counterparts were quite difficult to pronounce.Now we have exactly the opposite. I met a guy who was very ‘Seedha’. ‘Pakka’ I will meet you today.Huh…
I don’t oppose any language or culture. But I use it as a skill and as and when required. I do love Shakespeare but I have also read ‘Premchand’ (Don’t ask ‘who Premchand’). Mother always comes first. Aunt is always second.
I suspect that after 20 years we will make those people celebrity who can speak ‘Shudh Hindi’. I endorse English as outer clothes and not as blood flowing in your veins. You can change Hindi to your respective mother tongue.
# Relationship Goals # Squad Goals #Heartburn Times : We don’t really love those people that much (from whom we are going to have future break up in next six months). This is just peer pressure to show off and fight #Jealousy issues. Same with squads or whatever. The show off is just too much. Trading likes for likes is also a hollow game extended to maintain and extend #Social Image.
Too much ‘pea-cocking’ : Males in general and females in particular are too much into pea-cocking mode. Those Instagram dog filters or ear piercing or beard look, all look too pale and attention grabbing. Again I am not against anyone of them, but every thing is NOT for every one. It must suit your persona and general personality.
Shirt less selfies and PDA pics : Some times a shirt less selfie is fine if you have nice body. But every second day, its boring. It just sends a signal ‘Dude do you have any thing else to show off or it is all you have ?’ Same with PDA pics of hugging, kissing and smooching , publicly. Do it, but not on Instagram or FB but on Snap chat or Whats App. I looooveeee youuuuu sooooo mooooch….. fine…but a ‘bit’ privately.
Booze, smoke,party,fast bikes,useless fashion etc. :Every thing is fine if you do it in limits and in moderation. Your purpose is to let people know and not ‘show’ people about your personal life.People having boring days with nothing to do or show are often more adept in proving about their ‘hot’ social life. If I am happy and happening, I am. There is no need of validation and show off.
Remember, we are what we hide and not what we show…
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What are the ways to be happy leaving past behind?
The problem with past is that ‘it’s nowhere’ but only in our imagination.
Further multiple researches has proven that past which we relive is not the exact replica of events , as they occurred.
https://news.northwestern.edu/st….
Our brain remembers each time what we remembered last time!. We can’t rely on our memories too much.
Only happiness is in the present.Past is history and future is mystery.
One of the key elements of living in present is training of mind via meditation.Meditation is not concentration or focus but leaving every thought behind and just relaxing in thoughtless world. You can do this meditation anywhere anytime.
Meditation technique (Sahaj Yoga)
Just close your eyes. (If in public place just focus on your breadth.)
Do nothing. Just do nothing. Not even try to focus anywhere.
Watch your thoughts. They shall rush,try to disturb you. Just don’t react to them. Don’t even try to unreactive to them.
Slowly you will find them settling and you attaining enlightenment.
It does takes time and patience but believe me just working for 9 months in a row can help you reach super conscious state.In the beginning it would be very difficult but if you are persistent, it becomes easy from 2nd month onwards.
Enlightenment is the awareness of the fact that our internal natural state of mind is perfect bliss. We only have to tune ourselves to our original state of mind. We have nothing new to learn in meditation but only to unlearn what is unnecessary.
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What’s a good way to continue on with your life, while still accepting the meaninglessness of life?
Life is never meaningless or purposeless. Our attachments with ‘things’, ‘people’ and ‘I’ (ego) render it as meaningless. Life has a purpose and it is to enjoy it fully.
Enjoy the little moments of precious time.
Enjoy little raindrops.
Enjoy song that birds sing at the dawn.
Enjoy innocent smile of small kids.
Enjoy the nature, wind, waterfalls and yes lfe.
Make your life a celebration.
We are always concerned about imaginary societal rules (who never worry or care for us in the hour of need ), but always there to stop us to follow our heart.
Life becomes meaningless when we waste it following things and NOT happiness, following objects and not people, following profession and not passion.
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What makes a person adorable?
Apart from being intelligent, having good manners, table and social etiquette,good conversationalist, having sense of humor, a bit successful, having social skills,I rate three extra qualities for absolutely adorable person.
Originality
Empathy
Simplicity (Short term ego memory)
Originality : You must be original.It’s okay to be a bit shy, a bit weird, a bit short tempered (only a bit though) or a bit cunning, but be original. Your behavior must be consistent in all wakes and forms of life. People hate selective behavior.Your originality is valued and loved.I hate those people (actually dislike as hate is a strong word) who behave nicely (means too nicely or diplomatic), just to please people all the time. World can sense your submission. People like gutsy people. If I like some one, I will say it without sugarcoating and drama.Confidence is sexy.
Empathy : Next comes the most sought of quality in a long term partner/friend/relationship. It is empathy. You must have nerve and ability to feel pain and pleasure of other people. I care not how wonderful/beautiful/intelligent you are. If you can’t feel the ‘feelings’, all is vain.Humans survived tough times only because of empathy and social helping attitude and not because of their mind.Whatever we have is achieved till date is due to extensive knowledge sharing.
Simplicity (Short term ego splash) : We love original people, we love sensitive people but we are actually pissed off by ‘over sensitive’ people. If someone is taking extra pretense (just for show off) on any trivial issue, it becomes utterly disgusting.Adorable people have short term memory for ego issues. We love simple people from whom we can expect rational behavior (read predictable). I do not want a friend who leaves a movie in between since I couldn’t get their favorite coke flavor!. You can recall your only those best friend now who were utterly simple.
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What are prerequisites of healthy relationships?
Whether you marry or not, only one thing works and that is true passionate love.
Marriage is often a safeguard for women rights and hence a bound and hence a spoiler. Marriages let us take other person for granted.
In earlier days social norms were not liberal enough to allow two people to live together. But now a days it’s perfectly acceptable for two people to live together as long as they want. Marriage is a glorified myth tied to our minds.
Only love can free you and make people stick with you. We all have this remarkable innate ability to judge who love’s us and who doesn’t.Thus no need of a social clause.
Also in earlier times women were not financially and socially equipped to face life. In today’s generation, this is not the case. Equal opportunities span every where for every one.Companionship has replaced the image of provider and protector.Keeping in view of today’s mind set, I boldly predict end of marriage (clause) as we know it in one decade or less.
Supreme courts around the world are recognizing ‘live in’ as equal to marriage and children out of these relationships have entitlement to property and every thing. My child doesn’t need a certificate of marriage to inherit any thing from me. Right ?
Same goes for any one I love or care. A legal agreement in itself a spoiler. It says “Baby I love you but still we need a social agreement to prove our loyalty towards each other for whole life. Our love is now sealed by act of our constitution!
Love is freedom. Freedom is love. We are and shall not be bonded by any clauses whatsoever (not even moral obligation).
You are free to leave any time so am I. Let us see now how strong is chemical imbalance of our minds (aka love). If it stays even then, I call it love, else just lust, attachment,need or want or whatever.
Love is strong enough bonding by itself.
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