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September 23, 2017
What are the top 10 philosophical ideas that everyone should understand?
Love is freedom but attachment is bounding : Do you love your partner or are just attached to them ? Love frees you.If I don’t care what my lover does behind my back, she is free to leave any time , any moment with no strings attached and still she choose to live with me, then that is love.Same argument in vice versa sense. Love is freedom and not a golden cage.Love is acceptance of some one with all flaws.There are no conditions in love.Both of you are free, to come or go, any time.No hidden terms and conditions.
Running but never reaching : We all run from pillar to post, from dawn to dusk, from childhood to death, but sadly reach no where.We come back to square one each morning.The key to life’s well being is in stopping for a while. Just stop for one hour,one minute,one second and you shall find infinite bliss.Whatever you do, whoever you become,whatever you get (in terms of materials,people or fame,recognition etc.), it shall end.That joy is short lived, very short.But why? Because that joy is borrowed joy. It depends on terms and conditions to be met.The logic is ‘Only if, then this’ applies. Your internal bliss is not real, it is not independent of outcome, it depends on activities and events. You know what is the self reported joy of winning a Nobel prize. For most of them it is seven days!. For others it’s even less!
Joy is in the process and not in success :What Geeta said, what Mahavira pronounced, what Buddha told. Real joy is and must be in ‘Karma’ (work) and not out come. In practice accomplishment usually brings the end to the joy! You wanted that great SUV. You got that now under your hood. The joy shall last a maximum of seven days! Why ? Cause now mind knows and wants others MUVs out there.Mind is never satisfied.
Love doesn’t (never) completes you but can compliment you : All relationships fail because we are searching for people who can provide us completeness and also happiness. But if both the partner are searching for the same goal, then a deficit will soon occur and relationship will start to drain you rather fulfill you.As Freud and other psychologists have stated, a relationship which lasts has to be complementing and not completing. One must be provider for most of the time with role reversal in between. Just like parent- child.In any relationship one has to be emotionally vulnerable and at least one of them has to be stoic.If both are mature enough, then it is the best duo out there.But the minimum criteria is ‘a least one’. In the course of time the stronger one shall change the vulnerable one.Vulnerability has its own charm and must never die but it has to be monitored and channeled subsequently.
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Why should we get married if we are happy with our bachelor life? Is without marriage our life incomplete?
Marriage,love,relationships,girl/boy friend never makes you happy or complete.Relationships can compliment your life, add a bit more spice to your already happy and healthy life.
If you are unhappy before relationship, you shall continue to be unhappy once the honeymoon phase is over.
Yes love changes people. But at least one of you must be complete enough to cater to other one. We all need (read crave) love. But love is NOT a magic pill to solve all your problems. Love can compliment your life, help to achieve goals, motivate to do bigger things in life.
Mathematically, if you are 80% happy by yourself, then love can help you achieve other 20%. But if you are 20% happy, love cannot supplement other 80%.
Love is complimentary and NOT supplementary. You must have a social circle, life of your own to enjoy being in love.
Last point, we do not market ourselves for love. It happens, out of sudden, impromptu,without warnings or signs. Love is some thing which can’t be cultivated or stopped.We can form relationships but love is sprouted out of nowhere.
Ghalib sums it well
इश्क पर ज़ोर नहीं है ये वो आतिश “ग़ालिब”
जो लगाये न लगे और बुझाये न बने
– मिर्ज़ा ग़ालिब
Translation : Love is an uncontrollable fire,It cannot be started on a whim, and cannot be extinguished if you try.
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September 22, 2017
What is the difference between wisdom and knowledge?
Knowledge speaks and wisdom listens.
The hierarchy of wisdom tree is like this.
Data < Information < Knowledge < Wisdom < Insight.
Information is raw fruit.
Knowledge is polished fruit.
Wisdom is like juice of knowledge.
Insight is the invisible fragrance of that juice.
Insight comes when your conscious mind stops giving answers and you get sixth sense for your wisdom. Insight is like a feeling, it doesn’t have to be decorated and protected by words.Another name for insight is ‘hunch’.
In dating terms
Data = To see
Information = Acquaintance
Knowledge = Friend
Wisdom = Love
Insight = Soulmate
What should be the most important thing in your life?
Most important thing in my life, your life or any one’s life is to live life to the fullest.
My motto is life must be fun. Whoever you are, where ever you are, what ever you do, you must enjoy your job, life and work.
One day we all shall become atoms and molecules, either cremated or buried or what ever. Till the time we have this cosmic intelligence and consciousness in our reach we must cherish and enjoy every moment of it.
All the worries, problems and whatever we have or we don’t have, are worthless when we acknowledge the fact that any amount of money or power cannot give you one extra day in your life.
Live life and not pass it.
Test question : If you wake up and ask your self ‘Did I enjoyed yesterday fully ?’. If you answer is yes, congrats for being alive.
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Which is the quality that men are more attracted to, intelligence or innocence?
A mix of both.
Innocence as in dull…No
Inteligence as in cunning…A big no.
Let me elaborate. Men are provider by nature. We like our girls to be slightly dependent on us.We love when you say that ‘Book my ticket from your mobile’ or ‘Search that address from google maps’ etc.. We are ‘fixers’ and we love to fix things.In fact we feel accomplished when our girl asks us to do some thing which she can’t do.It gives us a purpose in ‘her’ life.
Innocence here mean ‘slightly dependent’ specially for gender divided roles.As a rule of thumb, never try role reversal where you man can do something for you.He would love to change that bulb or fix your washing machine.
Innocence means unawareness of roles which are more suited to men. It Helps us to compliment the relationship. Innocence never means the revelation of the fact that ‘kisses produce babies’. Its dumbness.
Innocence also means lack of over smartness and over articulateness of each and every bill.
By intelligence men want emotionally intelligent girl. You should be empathic and nurturing. Can’t integrate e^x^2 ? Okay. But you must know why your man is upset, with out him telling you all, since men rarely speak their heart out.
Love = Care (for men) = Compassion (for women)
You must have intelligent innocence and innocent intelligence.
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September 21, 2017
What are some words of wisdom for men?
World gives every thing to those who don’t need it. (Mathew Effect). More you have it, more they give it to you!
You can become a celebrity, ONLY if you actively stop looking for it.
Two independent people can really and truly love each other. Dependent people are only attached.
Love is freedom. More freedom you give to your partners, more love they return you back.
Confidence is indeed sexy, sexier than those six packs or six figures.
‘Law of attraction’ works ONLY for those who stop attracting.
If sex makes people happy, we shall not have any one unhappy on our planet (Sooner or later, we all get it). Only love and sex out of pure love gives you eternal bliss.Rest is fiction and media hype.
I believe in those who ‘show’ (by their actions) they care and not who ‘say’ (via their words) they care.Words were and shall always remain hollow and superficial.
Looking for next point…Yes you got it…Mind is never satisfied.
Here is the audio version of same answer with additional commentary.
Would you be willing to record yourself reading one of your Quora answers?
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What are some random thoughts that have occurred to your mind which made you think a bit?
Few random hypothetical sci-fi thoughts experiments…
Present is (might be) a projection of future on to the past . As suggested by double slit experiment , future affects the past!. A strange consequence of all this might be that we are living in a pre-programmed universe guided NOT by the past but by the future.Our destinies are predecided (Just like in a video game), we are just playing our parts. If that is the case, just chill and fuck free will!
Aliens might be future humans visiting us. Further given the size of universe it is seemingly impossible that Aliens use inter stellar traveling to come to us. One possible scenario is use of star gates, which creates short cuts in space time fabric to cover large distance sin short amount of time.
Big bang never occurred . We are living in an eternal cycle of creation and destruction.The fact that everything started from a point is anti physics and against laws of physics. This is same as justifying God for creation of universe.
Mind has ability to move out of human body . Else how come our ancestors were so sure about of position of stars, planets etc. with out any modern instruments ? Might be out of body experiment!
There is no mid point on number line .We can select any arbitrary point as zero and choose it as center. Think again. Think in terms of zooming. We can zoom an atom to the size of 100 million universes! There is no infinitesimal or infinity theoretically. Its all in the mind!
Earth might be center of universe. Technically since earth , sun and galaxies are all moving with respect to each other, we can choose earth as center of universe. And also keeping earth as fixed, we can in fact prove that sun and other planets revolve around earth!. It is just change of frame of reference as well as change of mind. Strange, isn’t it!
Real science (That with military and other powerful agencies in this world) is at least 60 years ahead of common science .If they want to spy on you, forget FB and whats app, they can capture thoughts of your mind from satellite up there. Scary ?
They can control weather via weather control technologies. Research HAARP and Tesla free energy.
Economic Turmoil : A very big economic collapse is coming.Might be near 2035. All data points of debt point to that.Small collapses will be seen however in between. We might be heading towards one world currency and one world government.
A mini world war might begin in as less as in a years time.
Matrix : We are in fact living in a matrix. A very carefully constructed matrix.Very subtle though.Mind is too easy to manipulate, you see.
Human’s are the Aliens : We, humans are the aliens to earth. We might have been left here for a purpose.
God must be a mathematician or scientist . The precision with which he crafted, devised every thing and disguised its source , is impeccable. Laws of universe are consciously accurate and consistent.
Women keep us grounded in this earth. If there were no women then
We all must have moved to another galaxy (In search of women!).
We all must have destroyed every thing out there.
Quora shall replace FB one day and we need to find better alternatives as before.
Greatest meditation happens after sex . The greatest distracted of mind is already tamed.
If sex is sugar ball, pure love is honey.The only perceivable difference between the two is the life span of both.
We dislike things we can’t understand.
All philosophy come to end, when stomach is hungry.
Ecstasy begins where mind ends. In deep meditative states, when all thoughts, space and every things comes to a standstill,you can meet your silent creator.He is always there but you only search for him out side.
Secret to success is moving fast but secret to happiness is slowing down.
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Where can we find happiness?
You don’t have to find happiness or go any where in search of it.Its already there.Just like a switch. You already have bulb in your room,you only need to turn it on.
Happiness is with in. You are happy in two circumstances.
You do what you love
You love what you do
How to turn on that switch ? Just know few realities of life.
Mind is never satisfied. What ever you get, what ever you do,mind is designed to be ‘restless’. This restlessness is good for human progress but bad for our mutual happiness.
Just slow down. Sit for a while.Stop doing any thing and every thing. Be present in the moment.Enjoy the slowness of life.Clam down.Silent…more silent…and you shall see life waiting for you and NOT normal routine.
Happiness is in realizing what you have and stop comparing or complaining whatever you don’t have.Pursue your dreams, but also enjoy the present moment.Happiness lies in such small things that you can’t believe.Never confuse comfort (from money) for happiness. No one is happier than that careless child playing in rain mixed mud, unaware of every thing around, immersed in his life and NOT worrying about society, people and who ever.We only live once, but how many of us really live even once ?
You don’t need to find happiness but unveil it in yourself.
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How do I differentiate between love and attraction?
You pluck a flower when you are attracted to it. You water it when you love.
Why we feel attracted to evil?
I recollect a little story which I found in internet.
A grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other.
One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.
The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”
The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed.
Source : The Parable -Tale of Two Wolves – The One You Feed
We all will do whatever we want to do. We just find reasons to support that.
Now to your answer.
Evil is exciting.
Evil has grey shades.
Evil is a change from usual routine.
Most importantly evil is real. No sugar coating. A bad boy wants only one thing from you and he doesn’t play a ‘nice guy’ to get that (A nice guy eventually also want the same ‘one’ thing but he play nice for that).
You can adapt boldness of evil, originality of evil and many more qualities. World has every thing. You become of what you choose.
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