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677 How to Feel Lighter with Katie Bramlett

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“Your mind is obsessing and thinking, but your body is saying something different. What happens if you listen to that body once in a while?” – Katie Bramlett

Intro

Today, I’m sharing a chat with Katie Bramlett about her perfectionism, self-acceptance, and rejecting messages from society that harm our mental wellness. She tells us how questioning the toxic nature of the fitness industry led her to co-found WeShape, a fitness app focused on emotional safety and self-acceptance. Plus, how listening to and reconnecting with your body can help your mental health!

Highlights:3:00 The mindset and career shift that sparked WeShape5:40 Katie’s journey with her perfectionism and need for external validation9:30 Battling perfectionism through embodiment14:00 Focusing on healthy childhood development to improve the mindsets of adults 16:10 How to cultivate a sense of self-acceptance27:50 Katie’s biggest boundary struggle: Overfunctioning!Connect with Katie Bramlett

Katie Bramlett is the CEO and Co-Founder of WeShape and Host of The Feeling Lighter Podcast by WeShape. With a background in Developmental Psychology and excellent skills in Infrastructure and Operations, Katie concentrates on the goal that you should strive to feel better in and about your body, not focusing on how to change your body.

With over twenty years of experience, Katie is passionate about social change and is leading WeShape’s brand mission of bringing awareness to the toxic weight-loss culture.

Her entire company and product are rooted in intention, movement, community, and beliefs. She aims to help people bring self-love and emotional intelligence to fitness and to create self-awareness through meaningful conversations.

Website: https://weshape.com

Free challenge: https://weshape.com/terri

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I WROTE A BOOK ABOUT BOUNDARIES! Boundary Boss is THE essential guidebook for authentically expressing your desires, setting healthy limits, and bringing more satisfaction, joy, and peace into all of your personal and professional relationships. There are super JUICY bonuses when you pre-order, so what are you waiting for?

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676 Always Late or Early? Why How You Relate to Time Matters in Relationships

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“It’s not just about being early or being late. How much do you value your time?” – Terri Cole

 

Intro

How do you relate to time?

Are you someone who’s always late or meticulously early? Do you schedule yourself within an inch of your life? Do discrepancies in your relationship with time ever create conflict with others?

If you’re nodding your head, then this episode is for you, my friend. I’m breaking down time boundaries and how they can become disordered. You’ll also learn how to better negotiate time boundaries with yourself and others for a more harmonious relationship with time (seeing as how it IS just a construct in our minds!)

Highlights:03:45 My personal experience with disordered time boundaries13:22 The many ways that disordered time boundaries are expressed14:53 How the habits of role models can influence your time boundaries16:17 Poor time management can lead to making a bad impression on others19:48 Changing your mind about timeLinks Mentioned:

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675 How to Live a Kick-Ass Life with Andrea Owen

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“Before sobriety, I couldn’t be with other people’s emotions because I couldn’t be with my own.” – Andrea Owen

Intro

On today’s episode, I’m chatting with Andrea Owen to explore the journey of self-discovery, the nuances of personal growth, and the vital role of vulnerability in relationships. Andrea shares how the re-release of her book, 52 Ways to Life a Kick-Ass Life, addresses personal growth, toxic positivity, and the role of shame in our unwanted behavior patterns. Plus, she tells us how we can use genuine vulnerability to get the help and connection we need!

Highlights:2:20 Andrea’s origin story7:45 The toll of toxic positivity17:00 The bandwidth a need for control takes up20:40 Reclaiming nuance in the age of the internet 24:20 Learning to ask for help and expose vulnerabilityConnect with Andrea Owen

Keynote Speaker. Life coach. Author. Hellraiser. Andrea Owen is creating a global impact in women’s empowerment with her books being translated into 19 languages and available in 23 countries. She helps high-achieving women maximize unshakeable confidence, master their mindset, and magnify their courage.

Website: https://andreaowen.com

Books: https://andreaowen.com/books

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I WROTE A BOOK ABOUT BOUNDARIES! Boundary Boss is THE essential guidebook for authentically expressing your desires, setting healthy limits, and bringing more satisfaction, joy, and peace into all of your personal and professional relationships. There are super JUICY bonuses when you pre-order, so what are you waiting for?

TAKE THE BOUNDARY STYLE QUIZ I always say, ya can’t change anything until you become aware of it, so take the quiz and discover your unique boundary style!

FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL Instagram is my jam and one of my favorite ways to connect with you. I put out new content there every, single day.

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674 How Childhood Neglect Shapes Your Relationships + Identity in Adulthood

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“Abuse does not have to be physical. Neglect is a silent killer of joy. It’s the one that’s talked about the least in articles and online, you don’t hear that much about it, but it can be devastating.” – Terri Cole

 

Intro

Physical and verbal abuse are not the only kinds of childhood trauma that can impact us in our adult lives. Though often overlooked, childhood emotional neglect from parents who were overbearing, overly lax, absent, or dismissive can lead to adult difficulties with self-esteem, emotional literacy, and boundaries. Today I am helping you determine whether you might have experienced childhood neglect and guiding you through some steps you can take to heal now that you are grown up.

Highlights:02:14 Neglect is an impactful form of abuse03:14 Recognizing neglectful scenarios05:39 Impacts of childhood neglect on adult behavior: hyper independence06:08 Disordered boundaries07:20 Amplified fear of abandonment08:19 Being highly self-critical09:15 Emotional illiteracy11:28 Low self-esteem12:26 Excessive shame, blame, and guilt13:50 There are steps you can take to recover from childhood neglect14:53 Be gentle with yourself16:16 Become more emotionally literate17:16 Dial in to your needs and desiresLinks Mentioned:

Download the healing guide I made to accompany this episode here.

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I WROTE A BOOK ABOUT BOUNDARIES! Boundary Boss is THE essential guidebook for authentically expressing your desires, setting healthy limits and bringing more satisfaction, joy and peace into all of your personal and professional relationships. There are super JUICY bonuses when you pre-order, so what are you waiting for?

TAKE THE BOUNDARY STYLE QUIZ I always say, ya can’t change anything until you become aware of it, so take the quiz and discover your unique boundary style!

FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL Instagram is my jam and one of my favorite ways to connect with you. I put out new content there every, single day ?

JOIN OUR FREE FACEBOOK GROUP Become a part of our powerful community of real love revolutionaries!

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673 The Autoimmune Cure with Dr. Sara Gottfried

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“It makes sense that when you have this chronic, toxic stress response, that it’s affecting more than just your psychology– It’s also affecting your physiology. Your hormones, your immune system, and your nervous system as well as your psyche.” – Dr. Sara Gottfried

Intro

On today’s episode, I’m so stoked to talk to Dr. Sara Gottfried, a medical doctor and hormone expert whose work I really connect with. We talk about one of my favorite subjects: The gender gap in healthcare and how we can help women navigate big hormonal changes like menopause. She also shares a more holistic and effective perspective on treatment for autoimmune disease, and tells us about her own personal boundary struggles!

Highlights:3:30 How the things Sara witnessed in her practice inspired her most recent book6:20 The connection between trauma and hormones9:00 Sara’s origin story12:00 Why we need to rebrand menopause and close the gender gap24:20 How trauma lives in the body31:30 A holistic treatment of autoimmune disease35:40 Sara’s most challenging boundary struggleConnect with Sara Gottfried

Sara Szal Gottfried MD is a physician, researcher, educator, mother, and seeker. She graduated from Harvard Medical School and MIT, and is more likely to prescribe a continuous glucose monitor and microbiome restoration than the latest pharmaceutical. Dr. Gottfried is a global keynote speaker and the author of four New York Times bestselling books about trauma, hormones, and health. Her latest book is THE AUTOIMMUNE CURE. She is a Clinical Assistant Professor in Dept. of Integrative Medicine and Nutritional Sciences at Thomas Jefferson University, and Director of Precision Medicine at the Marcus Institute of Integrative Health. Her focus is at the interface of mental and physical health, personalized molecular profiling, the use of wearables, and how to leverage these tools to improve your health.

Website: saraszalmd.com

 

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I WROTE A BOOK ABOUT BOUNDARIES! Boundary Boss is THE essential guidebook for authentically expressing your desires, setting healthy limits, and bringing more satisfaction, joy, and peace into all of your personal and professional relationships. There are super JUICY bonuses when you pre-order, so what are you waiting for?

TAKE THE BOUNDARY STYLE QUIZ I always say, ya can’t change anything until you become aware of it, so take the quiz and discover your unique boundary style!

FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL Instagram is my jam and one of my favorite ways to connect with you. I put out new content there every, single day.

JOIN OUR FREE FACEBOOK GROUP Become a part of our powerful community of real love revolutionaries!

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672 Helpful or Codependent? The Patterns in Your Relationships to Watch For

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“When we are codependent, we’re acting out our discomfort with someone else’s negative emotion by taking it on. We try to fix it ourselves, even though it is not our side of the street.” – Terri Cole

 

Intro

Is the way you care for people in your life more like codependency than real, authentic love? It’s scary to think about, I know. But if you are codependent, recognizing that fact is the first step toward expressing the healthy, reciprocated care you really want to share with the people in your life.

In this episode I will guide you through the signs and symptoms that might indicate codependency in all different types of relationships: romantic, work, parent-child, and friendship. I also share what it looks like to be in recovery from codependency, so you know what to look forward to if you do think you might be codependent and you want that to change.

Highlights:02:30 Codependency is an unhealthy investment in the decisions, feelings, and circumstances of the people in your life to the detriment of your own wellbeing.03:30 How much urgency do you feel to fix other people’s problems?04:50 Do you relate to people as projects?07:10 What do you feel when someone in your life is in a tough situation?08:55 Misconceptions and the importance of recognizing high-functioning codependency11:25 Codependency in romantic relationships: Can you find satisfaction in your own life?12:00 Do you recognize your relationship is unhealthy but stay anyway?12:20 Do you prioritize your partner at the expense of your own wellbeing?13:10 Are you always aware of your partner’s mood and what they’re doing?14:10 Codependency at work: Gossiping about people who aren’t there14:35 Do you do work that isn’t yours and then feel resentful because of it?14:50 Codependency with your child: Do you do more for your child than is age appropriate and healthy?16:10 Are you too afraid of your child’s rejection to discipline them effectively?17:10 Codependency in friendships: Is there an imbalance between giving and taking?18:25 Signs of recovery from codependencyLinks Mentioned:

Find the downloadable guide I made to guide you through the symptoms of codependency here.

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I WROTE A BOOK ABOUT BOUNDARIES! Boundary Boss is THE essential guidebook for authentically expressing your desires, setting healthy limits and bringing more satisfaction, joy and peace into all of your personal and professional relationships. There are super JUICY bonuses when you pre-order, so what are you waiting for?

TAKE THE BOUNDARY STYLE QUIZ I always say, ya can’t change anything until you become aware of it, so take the quiz and discover your unique boundary style!

FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL Instagram is my jam and one of my favorite ways to connect with you. I put out new content there every, single day ?

JOIN OUR FREE FACEBOOK GROUP Become a part of our powerful community of real love revolutionaries!

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671 Getting Unstuck with Britt Frank

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“Show me a person who doesn’t know what it’s like to be stuck, and I will show you someone who’s not very honest. We all get stuck.” – Britt Frank

Intro

Today, I’m sharing a chat with my new-old friend Britt Frank– We met so recently, but it feels like we’ve known each other forever!

We talk about getting unstuck, the importance of mind-body connection in personal growth, and how anxiety can act as a map for navigating stuckness.

Plus, Britt shares some tips and tools for overcoming fear and doubt from her new Getting Unstuck Workbook.

Highlights:2:55 Britt’s origin story6:10 Using anxiety as a map to get out of stuck11:50 Are you stuck because you have no choices, or because you don’t like the choices you have?13:30 A more holistic perspective on addiction20:50 Seeing your own bad habits through the lens of a cost-benefit analysis23:40 Choosing easy moves first instead of worrying about the hard moves27:00 Changing your routine to break autopilot and make space for wins31:20 Britt’s most challenging boundary struggleConnect with Britt Frank

BRITT FRANK, MSW, LSCSW, SEP, is a clinician, speaker, and trauma specialist, and the author of The Science of Stuck. She received her BA from Duke University and her MSW from the University of Kansas, where she is an award-winning adjunct professor. Frank speaks and writes widely about emotional wellness and healing. Her work has been featured by NPR, The New York Times, Forbes, Esquire, New York Magazine, and the Society for Human Resource Management.

Website: https://scienceofstuck.com
IG: https://instagram.com/brittfrank

 

 

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I WROTE A BOOK ABOUT BOUNDARIES! Boundary Boss is THE essential guidebook for authentically expressing your desires, setting healthy limits, and bringing more satisfaction, joy, and peace into all of your personal and professional relationships. There are super JUICY bonuses when you pre-order, so what are you waiting for?

TAKE THE BOUNDARY STYLE QUIZ I always say, ya can’t change anything until you become aware of it, so take the quiz and discover your unique boundary style!

FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL Instagram is my jam and one of my favorite ways to connect with you. I put out new content there every, single day.

JOIN OUR FREE FACEBOOK GROUP Become a part of our powerful community of real love revolutionaries!

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670 Are You Self-Soothing or Self-Numbing? (How to Tell + Why It’s Important!)

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“Self-soothing is using things that create a sense of calm for you, with all of your senses, to get back to a centered place when your equilibrium has been disrupted.” – Terri Cole

Intro

When you have a rough interaction with someone, a disappointing outcome, or you get bad news, what do you do to help yourself feel better?

Do you have a couple of drinks? Maybe smoke a little weed? Or eat a tub of ice cream? No judgment here, but I want to invite you to think about it because many of us confuse self-numbing with self-soothing. 

In this episode, you’ll learn my favorite self-soothing tips, healthy ways to support your nervous system and emotional wellbeing, plus how to create your own self-soothing and stress relief toolkit. 

Learning how to effectively self-soothe can be life-changing!

Highlights:02:25 What is self-soothing?03:50 Self-soothing with all your sensesMore self-soothing methods09:40 Movement10:00 Energy work11:15 Bathing12:20 Guided meditation13:25 Why you should talk about your soothing language with your partner before you are stressedLinks Mentioned:

Visit  hfcbook.com to order my brand new book about breaking the cycle of high functioning codependency, Too Much!

Find the downloadable guide I made to go along with today’s episode here.

Take the boundary quiz and learn more about your Boundary Style

Here are some ways I can support you:

I WROTE A BOOK ABOUT BOUNDARIES! Boundary Boss is THE essential guidebook for authentically expressing your desires, setting healthy limits, and bringing more satisfaction, joy, and peace into all of your personal and professional relationships. Purchase your copy now!

TAKE THE BOUNDARY STYLE QUIZ I always say, ya can’t change anything until you become aware of it, so take the quiz and discover your unique boundary style!

FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL Instagram is my jam and one of my favorite ways to connect with you. I put out new content there every, single day.

JOIN OUR FREE FACEBOOK GROUP Become a part of our powerful community of real love revolutionaries!

SIGN UP FOR THE NEWSLETTER Want love notes from me delivered straight to your inbox? I share things to inspire and empower you each week, plus what I’m reading, watching, cooking…you get the idea ?

669 More Prosperity + Ease with Cathy Heller

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“We didn’t come to the world for a pile of things. We have much, much bigger dreams than that.” – Cathy Heller

Intro

I am thrilled to welcome my pal, author, podcaster, and teacher, Cathy Heller, to the show to talk about her new book, Abundant Ever After: Tools for Creating a Life of Prosperity and Ease, because who doesn’t want that?!

We talk about creating what you want and the resistance we feel toward that, abundance, being afraid and putting things out in the world anyway, our inherent oneness, and feeling unworthy of ease and prosperity. 

Cathy breaks all of this down in an accessible and practical way, and I know many of you will resonate with what she shares here.

Highlights:2:20 Why now was the right time to write Abundant Ever After: Tools for Creating a Life of Prosperity and Ease6:15 How to push through self-sabotage and create prosperity18:00 Moving from imposter syndrome to one-ness26:50 Navigating abundance without falling into materialismConnect with Cathy Heller

Cathy is a renowned teacher, podcaster and author. She hosts one of the top spiritual podcasts, Abundant Ever After, which has been downloaded 45 million times. She’s a practitioner of the law of reception, and has a deep understanding of the universal principles of manifestation. Cathy guides individuals on a transformative journey towards unlocking their highest potential.

Drawing from the wisdom of Jewish mysticism and ancient teachings, Cathy illuminates the path to spiritual growth and abundance. Through her unique approach, Cathy empowers students to embrace their innate ability to receive and manifest their desires effortlessly with a focus on meditation and mindfulness practices.

Book: https://cathyheller.com/book

 

 

Here are some ways we can connect and grow together:

I WROTE A BOOK ABOUT BOUNDARIES! Boundary Boss is THE essential guidebook for authentically expressing your desires, setting healthy limits, and bringing more satisfaction, joy, and peace into all of your personal and professional relationships. There are super JUICY bonuses when you pre-order, so what are you waiting for?

TAKE THE BOUNDARY STYLE QUIZ I always say, ya can’t change anything until you become aware of it, so take the quiz and discover your unique boundary style!

FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL Instagram is my jam and one of my favorite ways to connect with you. I put out new content there every, single day.

JOIN OUR FREE FACEBOOK GROUP Become a part of our powerful community of real love revolutionaries!

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668 Feeling Anxious? Small Changes That Can Make a Big Impact

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“Change is often temporary. Transformation is many small, steady changes that lead to a foundational shift in your life. A transformation requires your attention and your intention.” – Terri Cole

Intro

How much anxiety and fear are you walking around with on a daily basis?

If you struggle with worry, fear, or anxiety consistently thrumming in the backdrop of your mind, it is worth it for you to take a look at where the roots of these thought patterns lie.

In this episode, you’ll learn simple shifts you can make to better manage anxiety so you can have less stress and more joy in your life!

Highlights:03:20 Understand what provokes your anxiety06:00 Consider whether substances like caffeine and alcohol might be making your anxiety more overwhelming09:30 How other habits, like not eating or sleeping enough, can contribute to anxiety12:15 Talk to your doctor about supplements13:55 Even small steps, like exercising a little bit more, can help you feel less anxiousLinks Mentioned:

Visit  hfcbook.com to order my brand new book about breaking the cycle of high functioning codependency, Too Much!

Find the downloadable guide I made to go along with today’s episode here.

Take the boundary quiz and learn more about your Boundary Style

Here are some ways I can support you:

I WROTE A BOOK ABOUT BOUNDARIES! Boundary Boss is THE essential guidebook for authentically expressing your desires, setting healthy limits, and bringing more satisfaction, joy, and peace into all of your personal and professional relationships. Purchase your copy now!

TAKE THE BOUNDARY STYLE QUIZ I always say, ya can’t change anything until you become aware of it, so take the quiz and discover your unique boundary style!

FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL Instagram is my jam and one of my favorite ways to connect with you. I put out new content there every, single day.

JOIN OUR FREE FACEBOOK GROUP Become a part of our powerful community of real love revolutionaries!

SIGN UP FOR THE NEWSLETTER Want love notes from me delivered straight to your inbox? I share things to inspire and empower you each week, plus what I’m reading, watching, cooking…you get the idea ?