687 Healing Your Relationships with Dr. Thema Bryant

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“Sometimes, we’re choosing people based on potential instead of who they are in the present. And then instead of picking a partner, you’re picking a project. What would it be like to be with a peer?” – Dr. Thema Bryant

Intro

I first found Dr. Bryant on Instagram, where her approachable wisdom about partnerships reeled me in. Today, I’m sharing it with all of you! This conversation is a real talk about why we sometimes seek relationships where people need us instead of want us and overcoming the urge to control everything instead of co-creating with a partner. Plus, we chat about when to cut someone out and when continuing to improve your 50% of the relationship might be a viable choice.

Highlights:3:45 Dr. Bryant’s origin story5:10 Taking responsibility for your part in relationships7:35 Releasing complete control in relationships to co-create10:15 Choosing relationship partners based on potential instead of the present12:40 Why people with traumatic pasts can be attracted to those who need them rather than those who want them17:30 How socialization contributes to gender roles in communication, and how to meet in the middle23:00 Moving on from people who don’t reciprocate love27:40 Why now is the time for Dr. Bryant’s brand new book, Matters of the Heart: Healing Your Relationship with Yourself and Those You LoveConnect with Dr. Thema Bryant

Dr. Thema Bryant is a psychologist, author, professor, sacred artist, and minister who is leading the way in creating healthy relationships, healing traumas, and overcoming stress and oppression. Dr. Thema is the author of the soon to be released book Matters of the Heart, which aims to empower readers to connect with themselves and to others, delving into topics such as: control issues, emotional unavailability, practical activation activities, case studies, and teaching how to shift mindset and patterns around romance. 

Dr. Thema Bryant completed her doctorate in Clinical Psychology at Duke University and her post-doctoral training at Harvard Medical Center’s Victims of Violence Program. Upon graduating, she became the Coordinator of the Princeton University SHARE Program, which provides intervention and prevention programming to combat sexual assault, sexual harassment, and harassment based on sexual orientation. She is currently a tenured professor of psychology in the Graduate School of Education and Psychology at Pepperdine University, where she directs the Culture and Trauma Research Laboratory. Dr. Thema is an ordained elder in the African Methodist Episcopal Church and leads the mental health ministry at First A.M.E. Church in Los Angeles. Most recently, she was the 2023 president of the American Psychological Association (APA) and is the host of The Homecoming Podcast. 

Order Dr. Bryant’s brand new book here: https://drthema.com/matters-of-the-heart/

Website: https://drthema.com

IG: https://instagram.com/dr.thema

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