Defensive Quotes

Quotes tagged as "defensive" (showing 1-21 of 21)
Kyra Gregory
“Have we become so defensive that we cannot even tolerate a kind act?”
Kyra Gregory, Butterfly

Criss Jami
“I'm not offended until you think I'm offended.”
Criss Jami, Killosophy

Defense mechanism in which the existence of unpleasant realities is disavowed; refers to keeping out of conscious awareness any aspects of external reality that, if acknowledged, would produce anxiety.”
Benjamin James Sadock, Sadock's Comprehensive Glossary of Psychiatry and Psychology

Sarah E. Olson
“July 15, 1991

Nita: My mother was a paragon of our neighborhood, People always come up to us with hugs, saying "You have the most wonderful mother." l'd think. “Don't you see what's going on in this house?” To this day, if somehow even in jest raises their hand to me, I will do this (raises hands to protect face and cowers) I cringe. Then they look at me like, what's your probem? You don't get that from a great childhood.”
Sarah E. Olson, Becoming One: A Story of Triumph Over Dissociative Identity Disorder

Tony Curl
“Getting defensive doesn't hide the fact that you know you could have done better. Stop putting your energy into your excuses.”
Tony Curl

Stephen W. Porges
“Playing nice" comes naturally when our neuroception detects safety and promotes physiological states that support social behavior. However, pro-social behavior will not occur when our neuroception misreads the environmental cues and triggers physiological states that support defensive strategies. After all, "playing nice" is not appropriate or adaptive behavior in dangerous or life-threatening situations. In these situations, humans - like other mammals - react with more primitive neurobiological defense systems. To create relationships, humans must subdue these defensive reactions to engage, attach, and form lasting social bonds. Humans have adaptive neurobehavioral systems for both pro-social and defensive behaviors.”
Stephen W. Porges, The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-regulation

Stephen M. Irwin
“I need to ask, are you afraid of spiders?"
Nicholas blinked, suddenly caught off guard, "Yes, I'm afraid of spiders."
"Were you always?"
"What are you, a psychiatrist?"
Pritam took a breath. He could feel Laine's eyes on him, appraising his line of questioning.
"Is it possible that the trauma of losing your best friend as a child and the trauma of losing your wife as an adult and the trauma of seeing Laine's husband take his life in front of you just recently..." Pritam shrugged and raised his palms, "You see where I'm going?"
Nicholas looked at Laine. She watched back. Her gray eyes missed nothing.
"Sure," agreed Nicholas, standing. "And my sister's nuts, too, and we both like imagining that little white dogs are big nasty spiders because our daddy died and we never got enough cuddles."
"Your father died?" asked Laine. "When?"
"Who cares?"
Pritam sighed. "You must see this from our point of - "
"I'd love to!" snapped Nicholas. "I'd love to see it from your point of view, because mine is not that much fun! It's insane! It's insane that I see dead people, Pritam! It's insane that this," he flicked out the sardonyx necklace,"stopped me from kidnapping a little girl!"
"That's what you believe," Pritam said carefully.
"That's what I fucking believe!" Nicholas stabbed his finger through the air at the dead bird talisman lying slack on the coffee table.”
Stephen M. Irwin, The Dead Path

Asa Don Brown
“The key to healthy communication is having a willingness to lay aside our defensive tendencies and accept responsibility for our part of the relationship”
Asa Don Brown, Interpersonal Skills in the Workplace, Finding Solutions that Work

Criss Jami
“Whatever thing a man gets quickly enraged about is his idol, and whatever thing he makes his idol becomes his religion.”
Criss Jami, Killosophy

Kate McGahan
“I see how you look at me,” spits the hateful man. He thinks we look upon him with the evil eye when we are not looking at him that way at all. We are just looking at him. It’s because he can’t accept the hate inside of himself that he projects it onto us.”
Kate McGahan, JACK McAFGHAN: Reflections on Life with my Master

Sam Owen
“When you become aggressive in arguments, you force the other person to become defensive which means they’ll either get ready to fight you or ready to flee from you.”
Sam Owen, 500 Relationships And Life Quotes: Bite-Sized Advice For Busy People

Stephen W. Porges
“The detection of a person as safe or dangerous triggers neurobiologically determined pro-social or defensive behaviors.
Even though we may not always be aware of danger on a cognitive level, on a neurophysiological level, our body has already started a sequence of neural processes that would facilitate adaptive defense behaviors such as fight, flight or freeze. ”
Stephen W. Porges, The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-regulation

Michael Finkel
“Soon he essentially stopped talking. "I am retreating into silence as a defensive mode," he mentioned. Eventually, he was down to uttering just five words, and only to guards: yes; no; please; thank you. "I am surprised," he wrote, "by the amount of respect this garners me. That silence intimidates puzzles me. Silence is to me normal, comfortable." Later he added, "I will admit to feeling a little contempt for those who can't keep quiet.”
Michael Finkel, The Stranger in the Woods: The Extraordinary Story of the Last True Hermit

Craig D. Lounsbrough
“Suddenly finding myself imprisoned in the ruins of the fortresses I created, I realize that that which I built to protect me has now become a labyrinth that is set to destroy me. And laying spent in the rubble, I finally realize that there is only one fortress and I cannot create it because there is only one God.”
Craig D. Lounsbrough

“rather awkwardly shy and therefore at times defensive and rather too assertive”
John Williams

Stephen W. Porges
“To switch effectively from defense to social engagement strategies, the nervous system must do two things: (1) assess risk, and (2) if the environment looks safe, inhibit the primitive defensive reactions to fight, flight or freeze.”
Stephen W. Porges, The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-regulation

Jamie Arpin-Ricci
“There is nothing like the moving solidarity of survivors to bring out seemingly boundless impulse to deflect, deny, and defend.”
Jamie Arpin-Ricci

Stephen W. Porges
“A child's (or an adult's) nervous system may detect danger or a threat to life when the child enters a new environment or meets a strange person. Cognitively, there is no reason for them to be frightened. But often, even if they understand this, their bodies betray them. Sometimes this betrayal is private; only they are aware that their hearts are beating fast and contracting with such force that they start to sway. For others, the responses are more overt. They may tremble. Their faces may flush, or perspiration may pour from their hands and forehead. Still others may become pale and dizzy and feel precipitously faint.”
Stephen W. Porges, The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-regulation

“When you whine like a mouse, it portrays an obnoxious image of yourself. This kind of characteristics should get shielded with a rock, so you look and sound like mighty and defensive.”
Saaif Alam

Craig D. Lounsbrough
“Defense mechanisms protect us. Fortresses isolate us. And far too often we begin with the former and end up constructing the latter.”
Craig D. Lounsbrough

Amit Kalantri
“Prudence is precaution, prudence is protection.”
Amit Kalantri, Wealth of Words

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