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March 27, 2020
My Boyfriend is Not Romantic
I have received many emails from women who were headed for divorce, based solely on their husband or boyfriend not being romantic enough.
I grew up in a family that didn’t show love. I have three older sisters and I am the only son. I never saw my mom and dad kiss, and we never said, “I love you” before bed or when we said goodbye. I learned from my parents not to show love in emotive ways and took this unromantic behavior into my relationships.
I personally decided I needed to change because I was being accused of being an unromantic boyfriend, and that sucks!
Showing love didn’t compute back then.
Today, I try hard to express my love because I am aware that this does not come naturally to
me.
And even more importantly, I have learned that dating a romantic guy is important for
many women.
Why?
Because women can generally express their feelings better than men. As a woman, you were encouraged, growing up, to show your emotions.
The opposite is true for boys. Boys
are taught to hide their feelings; Never cry, be tough, win.
Given these cultural and familial caused flaws in men’s behavior, I feel it’s important to look for the other signs and ways an unromantic man shows you he loves you.
Here’s how an unromantic man shows you he loves you
An unromantic man shows you he loves you by being chivalrous.
Chivalry
Here are some examples of chivalry:
He protects you when you are in public
He does things for you
He takes out the garbage and fixes the things he can fix
He’ll stay home when you are sick or at least check on you throughout his day
Now, taking out the garbage isn’t quite as romantic as flowers and “I love you”, but it is a way in which an unromantic man shows his love.
I think it’s important for women to realize that men show love in very different ways. Most of
us dread Valentine’s Day and birthdays because we are afraid we will let you down!
I’m not saying to give a lazy man a pass because he forgot your birthday.
I am saying to root for him – guide him on how he can make you happy. Reward him for his
behavior even if it’s a bit shy of your grand expectation.
If you do this, he will get better; I will get better; all men will get better!
If you scold him for not being the romantic boyfriend you saw in the movies, you will never
be happy with his efforts, and this will soon lead to anger and contempt.
Both men and women need to stop blaming the other for their shortcomings and start
understanding and listening to how the other thinks and what he or she is going through. When you are able to do this, amazing things can happen.
Being a romantic boyfriend is just one example.
My focus is to help women fully understand how men think so they can navigate situations
like this easily and effectively by creating a win/win for each side.
You understand that he does love you – he’s just not able to show it in the way that you want him to, due to learned behavior.
Now you aren’t resentful. Instead, you reward him for showing what he can and, maybe soon, he does things better.
See? He really is a romantic boyfriend ?
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March 15, 2020
Relationship Burnout and How to Handle It
Are you tired of putting in the work and getting nothing in return? Is your motivation to keep the relationship going falling off? Has the sex dwindled? These are some of the signs that you are suffering from relationship burnout.
Relationship burnout happens when one or both of you start thinking about parting ways. Sometimes it’s not even the relationship that’s at fault – it’s outside forces like a mixed family or long work hours that strain a relationship. It’s like you are falling out of love.
Here’s what to do:
Face it Head on
This takes guts and confidence, but in a perfect world, this is how I deal with it. Sit his ass down and ask him how he is feeling about your relationship. He will squirm and may even eventually lie, so take the reigns and tell him that you have relationship burnout and you need him to help you.
Wow!
Can you do it? It’s by far the best way. Guys feel the need to fix things and when you word it like this – directly, he might recognize and try to fix the situation.
Or
He might say straight to your face, “Yep, we need to break up” but don’t look at this as a bad thing because it was going to happen anyway.
Remember, this is something you are both probably experiencing so it will be a relief to talk about it and see what can or cannot be done.
Take a break
A break can be a wonderful thing. This means a real break. No communicating for weeks or even months. No snooping. No checking in. And no asking later who dated whom.
This ‘breakup’ is for grownups who can handle the consequences of being single for a test period for the good of the relationship.
Or
Accepting that the breakup needs to be permanent and that is a good thing for both parties.
Work through it
Discuss how each one of you will change or compromise going forward. If he is working long hours, he gives up 8 hours. You, in exchange, stop pressuring him to have another kid or exercise. Listen to the other side and feel what they are feeling instead of siding with your own needs.
Yes, this is called communication and it’s rare in many relationships, but it works! Too many times, the other party has no idea what their significant other is feeling until they put themselves in the others shoes.
Realize there could be something deeper
If your complaint is that he is too clingy, realize that something in his past might be triggering this trait. Maybe his mom or dad abandoned him early in his life.
When you start to listen and understand, you may be more inclined to allow his behavior to continue. You can also talk to him about it when it’s happening so he can help himself.
Relationship Burnout is real
Relationship burnout is going to happen. In some cases, it cannot be fixed but in many it just needs to tackled head on and with few a tips.
The worse thing that couples will do is nothing. Nothing builds contempt on both sides and almost always leads to the relationship ending…badly.
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March 7, 2020
Make Your Passion Your Paycheck | The 6 Steps
We all know happiness comes from within, right? So, what makes you happy? I bet you have, or dream of a hobby or passion that makes you intensely happy – Horseback riding or traveling let’s say.
Then make your passion your paycheck!
How do I know this to be the truth? Because I live it!
FYI: When someone spouts facts that you question, do yourself a favor and dig into their life and see if they live what they say!
I worked construction. I still do at times because I like parts of it. But what I loved, and was really good at was helping women understand the male mind so they could be happy in their relationship.
This was my passion.
So, what did I do? I made my passion my paycheck!
My family laughed at me. My friends humored me. My employees said, “Yeah, and I want go to Mars – find us more work.”
300,000 books later – I am one happy son of a bitch!
Don’t feed yourself all this crap that you don’t have the money or you’re too old – I do not want to hear that. You don’t need money; you don’t need more years – you need the list of things that makes you intensely happy!!
You will find the time and the money if you make that one thing your goal! I wanted to help women understand men, so I decided to do just that. The plan included monetizing my idea so I could stop being semi-miserable with my current source of income and move towards my passion.
I wrote books. I wasn’t a writer – heck, Charlotte’s Web was the last book I read, but that didn’t matter. I had something I was good at and others needed.
The 6 Steps to Make Your Passion Your Paycheck
Brainstorm
Get out the pen and paper and write down 10-20 activities that make you happy. Don’t write down the excuses – write down the activities.
Sleep on it and narrow the list
What pops out at you and what is easiest to monetize? If it’s travel, you’ll need a YouTube channel or a website with a blog.
How will you make your passion your paycheck?
I want specifics. Mine was to join Amazon’s KDP Select program and learn how to write, publish a book, and market it. I kept my day job while I learned every possible nugget from the pros – mostly for free.
Turn the specifics into goals
In other words, break down your plan into baby steps. Enter times. Be realistic. Be prepared to adjust on the fly.
Reward yourself
Yes, reward yourself for even the smallest achievement.
This is where people lose interest because they:
Are trying something they really don’t love or
They don’t reward themselves!
My latest goal was to trade my work truck for an RV so I could travel the country selling my passion. On my list was to spend an afternoon schooling myself on what class RV I should buy. Once I did this, my reward was to relax in the hot tub and eat Ben and Jerry’s ice cream!
Was schooling myself about RV’s tough? Of course not – because it was another passion!!!
Watch your PayPal account grow!
Listen to me – when you see your first 50 cents get deposited into your PayPal account, you will freak! Why? Because you know if you can make 50 cents then you make 10K, 100K – it’s just a matter of time!
When I sold my first book, I reacted the same way – and this was not my Mom buying it, granted she bought 5!
Make Your Passion Your Paycheck
Am I making this all to simple? A little bit, yes, because I want to get your attention. But it really is this easy because your precious time is now is surrounded by your passion. If you love horses, will you be miserable cleaning horse shit? I bet you won’t, even if this is one of the worse parts of the equestrian lifestyle.
Just imagine, you have now made your passion into your paycheck, and you are happy! Others see you happy and they want more of you. Men want more of you because you are successful and confident. Everything spirals up and up!
So, what do you have to lose? Your crappy job?
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February 28, 2020
Can You Fall out of Love?
I hear it all the time, ”Gregg, he says he fell out of love with me – can you fall out of love?”
When I hear this question, I realize that this couple has misunderstood a fundamental aspect of their relationship – love.
Many people operate on the idea that you feel love for someone, and this can be true, but it’s not what makes a relationship successful.
What makes a relationship successful is understanding one important thing about the word love. It’s a verb – an action word. Love is an action, not a feeling.
Once you begin to understand this, the answer to the question, can you fall out of love, becomes more obvious. No, you cannot fall out of love, you merely stop trying to love someone else.
Let’s look at an example couple, Jess and Rob.
Jess is a retail manager with a business degree and aspirations of being more than a store manager her entire life. She’s a woman on the move with goals and she’s going after them. She got her first store manager job at just 22 and she hasn’t stopped moving forward since – that is until she got a new boss.
This is when her plans were temporarily derailed. This new boss was clueless in his new job. He focused on all the wrong things, according to company policy. He would enter the store and become all worked up over things corporate didn’t even really care about, often yelling for 30 minutes, tuning out, and not even allowing any sort of response.
This quickly turned Jess inside out. He not only shook her confidence to the core, but he made her feel frustrated and powerless. She would go home after having him in her store, crawl in a hot bath and cry.
Enter Rob, who had been Jess’s boyfriend for a few years. Jess and Rob had purchased their new home together just months before the new boss stormed onto the scene. Rob feels helpless where Jess’s work problems are concerned but does little to be supportive – to love her during this difficult time.
Jess begins looking for a new job, knowing she cannot continue in the present environment. She revamps her resume and starts doing interviews.
What does Rob do? He finds another girlfriend – while still living with Jess. It was only a matter of time before Jess found out about the new girlfriend, the house was sold, and the relationship was over.
Jess got a new job and took two years from dating to focus on her career and get herself back together. She’s now right where she wants to be, managing a big store with her sights set on the next step. During her time off from dating, she started working out, eating healthy and getting her life back in order.
At 27, she has a new boyfriend now and everything is right where she wants it.
Can you fall out of love?
Without putting energy into loving someone, I suppose you can, but what really happens is that you stop taking action to appreciate your partner. You stop listening and caring. You stop wanting your partner to be happy. You stop wanting to fix his favorite meal and you forget to be grateful for the soup he brought you when you had the flu.
To stay in love is to recognize that each of you must be proactive. Instead of looking for the flaws of your partner, examine ways in which you can compliment his weaknesses with your strengths. If he sucks at cooking, make a deal where you cook, and he cleans up. If you hate gardening but he enjoys mowing the lawn, find a division of labor you can both agree upon or hire a neighbor kid to pull your weeds.
Recognizing someone’s weaknesses doesn’t mean you need to give up on them. It means you must work together to help one another. If neither of you can cook, maybe it’s time to take a cooking class together. If neither of you enjoys yard-work, buy a condo where much of it is done for you, or live in an apartment where there is no yard-work.
There are always solutions and ways to work around weaknesses, if you want to try. Loving someone means recognizing where they need you and filling that void. It means appreciating that he tried to cook, even though he burned the meat. It means not blowing your stack when he mows over your daffodils.
Successful couples are grateful for one another and they appreciate one another, for their strengths and weaknesses. They take the time to love as a verb – an action.
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February 21, 2020
Help! I���m Dating a Quiet Guy
5 Things You Need to Know About Dating a Quiet GuyQuiet guys can be great men to date, if you understand just how they tick. I���ve worked with a lot of men, and although every guy is different, I have found that quiet guys have certain attributes.
Follow my tips below and thrive with your quiet, shy guy.
They listen���a lotDating a quiet guy can be the perfect remedy for your bad day, incident with your cat, or exciting train ride you took to NYC.
Why?
Because quiet guys are excellent listeners. They want to hear about your day. You can text him paragraphs and he will actually read it all! Your quiet guy will not be dry texting you anytime soon.
H might not be compelled to talk about his day but, trust me, he has honed his listening skills to the max.
So, go ahead and rant about hairballs while your shy guy smiles ear to ear.
Quiet guys remember factsRemember the last player you dated – the one who forgot your birthday? That won���t happen with Mr. Quiet Guy. He listens and he imprints important things in your life.
He knows your favorite color is orange and that your Mom���s secret recipe involves lamb-chops. Feel free to tell him these personal facts ��� rest assured that they will not be forgotten
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He makes you feel specialHave you ever dated a guy who really seemed to get you? He looked deep into your eyes, said wonderful things, and made you think he was the one. Then, you watched as he looked deep into your girlfriend’s eyes and did the exact same thing.
Yeah, that sucks. Dating a quiet guy is better because he only opens up to you. He is not necessarily comfortable around people he doesn���t know well, so this attribute is reserved only for you.
How refreshing!
When he talks, people listenI���m a loudmouth. I bellow over my friends. Therefore, what I say seems to get overlooked. I get it. I say so much that it���s too much to handle.
The quiet guy doesn���t say much because, well, he���s shy. Therefore, when he does say something people really listen! It���s like when Forrest Gump finally stopped running and everyone was waiting to see what he had to say.
When your quiet guy has something to say, listen to him intently and ask him questions. You’re going to learn something worth knowing and you will grow closer to him.
He���s not going to fight backThis is a good thing. That fighting with your ex was not healthy, even though you might have enjoyed it at times. Many women welcome, and even need drama in their lives. Dating a quiet guy puts an end to this.
A quiet guy is not going to fight back. He is more apt to listen and make his point hours or days later, after he reflects on your conversation. And when he does, it will be eye opening.
Realize this and start ���fighting��� like he does ��� listen more! You���ll find that it is much more conducive to solving your issue.
He likes his quiet time
Great news for you! This means he’s fine when you go out with your friends. He wants you too because he needs his introverted time alone. When you return, you’ll have stories to tell that he wants to hear. This is a win/win for both of you!
Dating Quiet GuysOK, so maybe dating a quiet guy will not light your hair on fire, but quiet guys can be great men to date if you understand how they tick. Think about the five attributes above and realize how awesome your relationship can be if you take advantage of his qualities.
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Help! I’m Dating a Quiet Guy
Quiet guys can be great men to date, if you understand just how they tick. I’ve worked with a lot of men, and although every guy is different, I have found that quiet guys have certain attributes.
Follow my tips below and thrive with your quiet, shy guy.
They listen…a lot
Dating a quiet guy can be the perfect remedy for your bad day, incident with your cat, or exciting train ride you took to NYC.
Why?
Because quiet guys are excellent listeners. They want to hear about your day. They might be too shy to talk about their day but, trust me, they have honed their listening skills to the max.
So, go ahead and rant about hairballs while your shy guy smiles ear to ear.
Quiet guys remember facts
Remember the last player you dated – the one who forgot your birthday? That won’t happen with Mr. Quiet Guy. He listens and he imprints important things in your life.
He knows your favorite color is orange and that your Mom’s secret recipe involves lamb-chops. Feel free to tell him these personal facts – rest assured that they will not be forgotten
Worried about keeping your quiet guy? I have a great book deal for you!
He makes you feel special
Have you ever dated a guy who really seemed to get you? He looked deep into your eyes, said wonderful things, and made you think he was the one. Then, you watched as he looked deep into your girlfriend’s eyes and did the exact same thing.
Yeah, that sucks. Dating a quiet guy is better because he only opens up to you. He is not necessarily comfortable around people he doesn’t know well, so this attribute is reserved only for you.
How refreshing!
When he talks, people listen
I’m a loudmouth. I bellow over my friends. Therefore, what I say seems to get overlooked. I get it. I say so much that it’s too much to handle.
The quiet guy doesn’t say much because, well, he’s shy. Therefore, when he does say something people really listen! It’s like when Forrest Gump finally stopped running and everyone was waiting to see what he had to say.
When your quiet guy has something to say, listen to him intently and ask him questions. You’re going to learn something worth knowing and you will grow closer to him.
He’s not going to fight back
This is a good thing. That fighting with your ex was not healthy, even though you might have enjoyed it at times. Many women welcome, and even need drama in their lives. Dating a quiet guy puts an end to this.
A quiet guy is not going to fight back. He is more apt to listen and make his point hours or days later, after he reflects on your conversation. And when he does, it will be eye opening.
Realize this and start “fighting” like he does – listen more! You’ll find that it is much more conducive to solving your issue.
He likes his quiet time
Great news for you! This means he’s fine when you go out with your friends. He wants you too because he needs his introverted time alone. When you return, you’ll have stories to tell that he wants to hear. This is a win/win for both of you!
Dating Quiet Guys
OK, so maybe dating a quiet guy will not light your hair on fire, but quiet guys can be great men to date if you understand how they tick. Think about the five attributes above and realize how awesome your relationship can be if you take advantage of his qualities.
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February 15, 2020
Do I Like Him or The Idea of Him? 5 Questions to Ask Yourself
Have you ever asked yourself, ���Why the f**k am I with this man?���
There comes a time in every woman���s life when she must evaluate if the man she is with is the right man for her.
What are the reasons I���m dating him? Does he complete me?
Sometimes we like the idea of being in love over loving the right guy. The thought of children running around on the perfectly manicured lawn with the swing set in the backyard might overtake your choice.
If this is your reality, ask yourself a few questions to gain perspective.
What exactly do I like about him?
If your first thought is ���Wait, do I even like him?��� Houston, we have a problem! You should be able to rattle off a few reasons without much thought. They should be good reasons too. Like ���I love how he makes me feel when we���re together���, or, ���The way he took care of me when I was sick was amazing!���
If you find you���re telling yourself that you���re with him because you don���t want to be single like your best friend, dig a little deeper.
Do I like him for who I think he can become?
This is one of the most common signs that you like the idea of him more than you actually like him! Often a woman will take in a stray kitten of a man, think she can clean up his matted fur, and make him into the man of her dreams.
Instead, she gets a wet kitten who won���t pee in the litter box! Love a man for who he is and not for who you think he will become. Anything else will only lead to disappointment and misery. Too many women have gone down this losing path.
If these questions lead you to thinking about finding a new guy then I have a GREAT offer for you!
Do our core values and goals gel?
You want kids but he thinks he might someday. You save money while he spends like a fool. You feel you are independent, but he is needy.
These things are a big deal and cannot be overlooked. If you do, do so at your own peril. You must get the big things worked out before marriage or you are simply liking the idea of him and not him!
How much do I know about him?
Have you dug into his past or run a criminal check? Do you know what his family and friends think of him? Does he love animals? What���s he passionate about?
If you don���t have these answers, you probably don���t know him well enough to be in love with him. You might just be infatuated with the idea of him. Or maybe you don���t care to know about these things. This too states that you might just like the idea of him and not him.
Am I ready for love?
A woman is ready for love after she is confident in her ability to be one half of a great relationship. This means she���s happy alone without the need of another person in her life. A man simply completes her and adds the ���cherry on top��� to her already complete life.
If she is not ready for love, he will become her only hobby. This will constrict him and potentially ruin the relationship.
Do I Like Him or The Idea of Him?
Ask yourself these five questions as you evaluate what he truly represents to you. If your answers confuse the heck out of you ��� then reevaluate your motives behind dating this particular guy.
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February 7, 2020
How to Apologize to Your Boyfriend
You know I���m not a big fan of apologies unless you purposely ran over your boyfriend���s dog ��� which I know you would never do. ��I prefer acknowledging the mistake, fixing it and moving forward.
But, there are times when you mess up big-time. Maybe you had too much to drink and you flirted with the waiter, or you called out your mother-in-law���s bitchy behavior.
I get it. So what are some tactics to apologize to your boyfriend?
It’s as much about what you��do say as what you��don’t. Check these out.
How can I make it up to you?
Acknowledge that you were wrong and do something good to make your boyfriend happy. Maybe it���s under the sheets, or it could be making his favorite chili.
While executing something nice, make it clear you were wrong, and that it won’t happen again.
Put yourself in his shoes
This can really help. Say, ���If you were flirting with a hot waitress I would have reacted just like you did. I understand and now I see where I was wrong.���
This type of language diffuses the situation quickly.
How to apologize to your boyfriend: Don���t explain away your behavior
This gets dangerous. The very moment you start to justify your actions, you’re preparing to start an even bigger argument.
���Somebody had to tell her that her chili sucks���
���You were flirting with the bartender earlier, remember?���
These will never work. Apologizing to your boyfriend by putting it back on him will backfire. Swallow your pride, own your mistake and move on.
Leave it be
Once you apologize let it go. Do not keep apologizing! This just reminds him of the incident and puts him back into his bad mood towards you. Now, he will get jittery the next time you are out drinking in public.
I see this often ��� a woman will feel so bad that she keeps apologizing over and over. Her apology becomes meaningless, and it’s a signal of low confidence. Show your strength by saying it once and letting it go.
Be your best
Get back to being the woman he loves. Laugh, have fun and do the things he likes to do. Get his mind off his anger. Displacement works very well in these apologetic times!
But, don’t go overboard or be fake about it. Overdoing it won’t help either. It just becomes an empty gesture.
Fix the issue
Many people apologize the right way but do the very same thing again and wonder why the relationship ends abruptly. If you drink again and overtly flirt with another waiter, I’m gone!
Instead, handle the apology and then have a talk with yourself. Do I have a drinking problem? Do I need help? Am I flirting because I am not happy with him? Am I a hot, jealous mess and therefore I feel I need to flirt? Is my confidence in the dumpster?
He doesn���t need to know this part, but you do ��� and you need to fix it before it bites you in the ass again!
How to Apologize to Your Boyfriend Conclusion
These are very simple but powerful tactics! Don���t underestimate the damage you may have caused to the long-term health of your relationship.
Take time to own what happened, put in the energy to fix what might be broken inside and move forward to a healthy, happy relationship.
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January 31, 2020
What Do Guys Really Want for Valentine’s Day
Ah, the stress men face when Valentine’s Day nears. For me, and many men, it’s as tough or tougher than Christmas because it needs to be romantic. It needs to be right or we are screwed!
But what about men? What do we want? I mean it’s our day too right?
Well, I got on it and I surveyed my vast network of guys and here are the surprising results.
Make it about us too
Surprised? I wasn’t. Getting some nice cologne is okay, but if I must then shower you with gifts the rest of the night, well that doesn’t seem fair. We want it to be our day too. Somewhere along the way, Valentine’s Day became more about women than men. At least that’s how my guys felt. Don’t shoot the messenger!
Okay, okay. How about 75% you and 25% us? That will work.
Spend quality time
Yep, we want to be together alone too. You and me against the world! A cool restaurant maybe, with white linens and candles glowing. The real ones, not those fake plastic flickering things. It’s fun to look around at other couples enjoying themselves and think just how lucky we are today.
Many guys I talked to live in cold climates and they loved the idea of cooking at home together and snuggling up around the fireplace.
Others were fine doing whatever their significant others wanted to do as long as it was quiet and intimate. Yes, I’m talking about men!
What Do Guys Really Want for Valentine’s Day | Recognition for their effort
This may sound odd, but the guys told me that they get worried about not spending enough or doing something that every other guy does like getting flowers or chocolates.
Gary said, “I worry about Beth looking disappointed at me because I didn’t make it special enough.”
It’s important for women to realize that most of us are not good at this romantic stuff. We try, but we still need your help to make us better. Tell us that we made you happy and recognize the effort. If you do, you’ll find that we can and will get better.
Go for it in the bedroom
Let’s face it, sex can get a bit boring after years together and three kids running around. Make tonight special for both of you and mix it up this year! Spend some extra time doing some fun stuff with your hands and your tongue. Set a new precedent in the bedroom by teasing him.
He should be in as a romantic state as he ever will be on this day so go for it!
Massage!
This is my favorite. I’ll take a massage without having to reciprocate (I know, selfish) over a gift any day. And most men agreed with me. Follow up with a some oral givings and we will be in heaven!
What Do Guys Really Want for Valentine’s Day
My big takeaway is this: Valentine’s Day should be fun for both of you, but through the years, it has become a chore for men. Yes, that is our fault but help us be better won’t you?
And on behalf of all the men that screw up on Valentine’s Day, let me say, “There is always next year to get it right!”
Check out my great infographic and get some ideas churning for the big day!
GET YOUR INFOGRAPHIC
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What Do Guys Really Want for Valentine���s Day
Ah, the stress men face when Valentine’s Day nears. For me, and many men, it���s as tough or tougher than Christmas because it needs to be romantic. It needs to be right or we are screwed!
But what about men? What do we want? I mean it���s our day too right?
Well, I got on it and I surveyed my vast network of guys and here are the surprising results.
Make it about us too
Surprised? I wasn���t. Getting some nice cologne is okay, but if I must then shower you with gifts the rest of the night, well that doesn���t seem fair. We want it to be our day too. Somewhere along the way, Valentine’s Day became more about women than men. At least that’s how my guys felt.��Don’t shoot the messenger!
Okay, okay. How about 75% you and 25% us? That will work.
Spend quality time
Yep, we want to be together alone too. You and me against the world! A cool restaurant maybe, with white linens and candles glowing. The real ones, not those fake plastic flickering things. It���s fun to look around at other couples enjoying themselves and think just how lucky we are today.
Many guys I talked to live in cold climates and they loved the idea of cooking at home together and snuggling up around the fireplace.
Others were fine doing whatever their significant others wanted to do as long as it was quiet and intimate. Yes, I���m talking about men!
What Do Guys Really Want for Valentine���s Day | Recognition for their effort
This may sound odd, but the guys told me that they get worried about not spending enough or doing something that every other guy does like getting flowers or chocolates.
Gary said, ���I worry about Beth looking disappointed at me because I didn���t make it special enough.���
It���s important for women to realize that most of us are not good at this romantic stuff. We try, but we still need your help to make us better. Tell us that we made you happy and recognize the effort. If you do, you���ll find that we can and will get better.
Go for it in the bedroom
Let’s face it, sex can get a bit boring after years together and three kids running around. Make tonight special for both of you and mix it up this year! Spend some extra time doing some fun stuff with your hands and your tongue. Set a new precedent in the bedroom by teasing him.
He should be in as a romantic state as he ever will be on this day so go for it!
Massage!
This is my favorite. I���ll take a massage without having to reciprocate (I know, selfish) over a gift any day. And most men agreed with me. Follow up with a some oral givings and we will be in heaven!
What Do Guys Really Want for Valentine���s Day
My big takeaway is this: Valentine’s Day should be fun for both of you, but through the years, it has become a chore for men. Yes, that is our fault but help us be better won’t you?
And on behalf of all the men that screw up on Valentine’s Day, let me say, ���There is always next year to get it right!���
Check out my great infographic and get some ideas churning for the big day!
GET YOUR INFOGRAPHIC
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