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Dry Texting-What is He Really Saying with His One-Word Texts?

Dry Texting-What is He Really Saying with His One-Word Texts?

What the heck is dry texting? It’s when you put together the perfect text, check it twice, and hit send. Two days later you get – “lol.”

I know how much that irritates you because I’m the one who gets the emails asking what the heck is going on!

The sad (for you) truth is that guys do not like to text paragraphs, but if you are getting one word answers while waiting two days, it’s time to dump him for good.

I’m serious. There is no excuse for dry texting. It means one thing – he doesn’t care about you.

But you’ll probably make excuses for him, won’t you? He was at work. We had a great first date…blah, blah. Let’s see if you’re right.

Dry Texting Exceptions
You were Texting Back and Forth, and He Just Quit Replying

This happens. In my best seller Text Him This Not That, you learn how men text their male friends – in short bursts that are to-the-point. Never paragraphs.

Guys get sick of reading paragraphs of texts. They just won’t do it. If I were to text my buddy John a 100 word novel, he would dry text back, “WTF!?”

Texting is just the new way of talking and men are not great communicators for the most part. They communicate best in person, with actions and body language!

So, if he is engaging in long texting conversations, and suddenly dry texts, his male DNA (I just realized I hate communicating with women) might have kicked in! Consider yourself lucky and back off your texting.

Your Guy is Old

Let’s face it, some old guys never got the memo that texting is cool! Yes, they’re out there. I have 65+ readers that are dating men that refuse to have smart phones. There are older guys that have smart phones but have no idea how to use them let alone text properly.

Therefore, women might be getting one word answers because that’s all these guys can muster without throwing the phone into the swimming pool!

He’s Busy

If I’m driving or I’m at work, I rarely reply to texts unless I see they’re really important (someone is ill, injured, etc.) But, I will still text back later, if I care. People do have lives and texting can be an annoyance during the day. In fact, I have a no texting policy for the guys who work for my construction company.

Dry Texting as a Test

For confident women, dry texting is a godsend! It shows you immediately through his actions if he likes you. Use it to your advantage.

Once he gives you a few one-word texts, stop texting completely. You could even give him some shit back before you dump him by texting, “YTSFO” and see what he says, if anything.

When he dry texts back, “?”, you say “Your texting sucks, f**k off!”

It may just put a smile on your face!

But Don’t Shy Guys Dry Text?

In my experience working with shy guys, no. In fact, many shy guys are good texters. Texting becomes a good conduit for them to get around their shyness.

In fact, shy guys are the type that will read an endless text. So if can not help yourself and you are determined to text novels, you might consider putting a shy guy at the top of your dating list.

Dry Texting Summary

I can’t think of a better test at the beginning of a relationship to judge how much a man likes you than dry texting. If you send him, “I have some great news to tell you,” and he responds the next day with a question mark, he doesn’t care to be in a relationship with you.

The reason doesn’t matter because he doesn’t even know you. Therefore, it is not about you, it’s about him so why waste your time?

The key is to date several men, even more than one at a time, so you have choices and options. If you are dating one guy, you may tend to go all in too quickly and allow him to get away with this crap. But if you are able to date multiple men (not sleep with but date), you don’t care as much if one of them dry texts you.

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Are You Ready to Get Back Out There?

The two-thirds of 2020 has made dating a difficult challenge for most people and, for that matter, for guys like me who want to help single women find great men. First, it was one of the worst flu seasons on record, and then COVID-19 invaded.

My hope is that the worst is behind us and because of that, I want to help you prepare yourself to get back into the dating scene!

Every spring, I start a dedicated workout with P90X, which takes 90 days. This gives me three months to get myself back in shape.

In much the same way, it’s time to get you back into shape – and not just your body, but your mind too. In order to hit the dating scene running, you’ll need to do a little prep work and I have just the program!

When writing my best-selling book, Comfortable in Your Own Shoes, I focused on providing women with a confidence-building guide specifically directed at them.

Today, I’d like to give you that book for free!

This book will help you understand more about:

Self-love and self-care
Changing the negative words that you silently say to yourself every day into positives
Getting back out there (safely of course) and taking some risks

 

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This is the time to build your confidence while we’re still somewhat sequestered from the virus.

Affirmations, visualization, desensitization, goal setting and meditation are five things that will help you get to that ready to date place!

Are these 5 words foreign to you? They are for many people. My dad taught me how to use these tools as a kid and they work!

Folding these activities into your life won’t be drudgery – it will be fun! Especially if you stick with me! I love injecting fun into most things.

And, when I add some insight into the male brain, you’ll be more than ready to get out there and meet the man of your dreams.

So, if you are ready to prepare, I’ve got the tools to get you started. And to show you that I am serious.

To get your free book, just click the button below!

I’m ready to get back out there with you – are you ready????

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Seven Ways to Improve Your Self-Esteem When Dating

Guest Post Written By Lana Otoya

Lana is a professional dating coach for successful women at Millennialships.com. She helps successful and confident women meet successful and confident men.

When you are dating, things can get tough. You go on date after date, only to discover that the men you like the most are never interested in you.

Even the most confident person in the whole world might start to question their attractiveness if this keeps happening. 

The key here is not to get discouraged. When you give up on dating, you lose your chance to find a loving and supporting relationship. 

Here are seven ways for how to improve your self-esteem when dating.

#7 – Know Where Confidence Comes From

Confidence is a key aspect of dating because it helps you attract men, and also feel better about the whole process.

The interesting thing about confidence is that you can get it from multiple sources. Most people get self-confidence from “track record” or “history”. This is when you look to your past experiences to help you determine if you are good or bad at something.

For example, if you always get A’s on all your math tests, you are going to be pretty confident that you are a skilled mathematician.

If you’ve had bad relationships in the past or never seem to get into a long-term relationship, your track record is not providing you with the confidence you need to attract a man. So how can you be confident if your track record is tainted?

The good news is that you can tap into your self-esteem. Self-esteem, although similar, is not the same as self-confidence. Self-confidence is often felt as a result of external validation, much like the math example. Where self-esteem is something that comes from within you. It’s something that you feel rather than something you see.

 Self Confidence vs. Self Esteem:

Here is a nice explanation of self-esteem from Psychology Today:

“Self-esteem is our cognitive and, above all, emotional appraisal of our own worth. More than that, it is the matrix through which we think, feel, and act, and reflects and determines our relation to ourselves, to others, and to the world.

People with healthy self-esteem do not need to prop themselves up with externals such as income, status, or notoriety…On the contrary, they treat themselves with respect and look after their health, community, and environment.”

As you can see, healthy self-esteem comes from believing you are worthy, and respecting yourself despite any negative situations that life may present to you.

When dating, just remember that rejection and struggle happens to many people while they are looking for their long-term partner. You only need that one person to make everything worth it, so don’t tell yourself you don’t deserve love when you know it’s not true.

#6 – Have Realistic Expectations

Another way that you can help yourself feel confident during dating is to have realistic expectations. The online dating process is slow. You will message a lot of men who don’t message you back. You will go on dates with men who are losers. You will start to see a guy who seems really nice, only to have him ghost you after a few dates. I know this is a harsh reality but going in with these expectations helps you realize that it’s not you. This happens to everyone.

Even the most attractive, model-like women have trouble dating and finding a partner. This is because finding a partner only has so much to do with appearance and attraction, and much more to do with meshing two personalities together.

Sometimes it can take a while to find two personalities to really fit, but you only need to find one person and when you do, it’s really an amazing feeling!

#5 – How to Improve Self Esteem in Relationships: Move Slowly

When you are in a new relationship with someone who is really fun and awesome, you can be tempted to move things too quickly.

As a dating coach, I’ve seen many women get so excited about a new man who she tells her friends all about him, deletes all her dating apps and stops communicating with all men. Then, she realizes a few weeks later that he’s not interested in a long-term relationship.

There’s nothing wrong with getting excited and enjoying the honeymoon phase, but cutting off all other ties and letting all your friends know that you found “the one” can make the feeling of rejection much worse than it needs to be.

Always keep your options open until the two of you are on the same page.

#4 – Don’t Take Things Personally

Even if someone rejects you, it’s not really “you” that he is rejecting. It could be many different things.

There are seven billion people on this earth, and no two people have the exact same personality.

When dealing with so much variety in preferences, hobbies, values, etc., there are going to be people who clash. If you feel like things are going well with a man and then suddenly, he changes his mind, it could be any one of these little things that are not matching up. Maybe you live a little too far away from his house or maybe he’s not ready for a relationship.

Regardless of the reason, just know that if a man is not a good fit, you’re much better off without him.

#3 – Rejection and Shame Happen to Everyone

Researcher Brene Brown determined the feeling of rejection you experience when others do not accept you is a global feeling. This means that it happens to every human unless they have a serious mental disability. We are tribal animals whose evolution has made us want to fit in with the crowd. It is vital to our survival.

When you get rejected by someone, you have an intense feeling of shame. You purposefully analyze and critique yourself to see what might have gone wrong. This is a survival instinct because your brain is trying to help you fit in better next time.

The truth is though, you don’t need to fit in with everybody anymore. You do not rely on a certain caveman tribe in order to get your food and shelter. If someone rejects you, you can still live a perfectly happy life and not have to worry that you didn’t get along with just one person.

#2 – Focus on Self-Care

Dating can be a roller coaster of emotions. When you’re dating, you should be sure to have a structured and regular self-care routine. This allows you to remind yourself that you are the source of your own happiness, not anyone else.

#1 – How to Improve Self Esteem in Relationships: Have Fun

The pressures of finding a partner and all the swiping and texting rules can really be a downer. It’s best to pull back and remind yourself that dating should be fun. Instead of thinking, “I hate being single”, “This date is going nowhere” or that you  would rather be in your pajamas, remember – it’s just drinks.

You’re not being forced to speak in front of one thousand people or run a marathon. You’re just sipping on some cocktails with a new person. Even the most horrifying dates can still be fun. They can be a learning experience or simply an excellent story to tell your friends!

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My Boyfriend is Not Romantic

Maybe Your Boyfriend is a Romantic and You Just Don’t Realize It!

I have received many emails from women who were headed for divorce, based solely on their husband (or boyfriend) not being romantic enough.

I grew up in a family who didn’t show love. I have three older sisters and I am the only son. I never saw my mom and dad kiss, and we never said, “I love you” before bed or when we said goodbye. I learned from my parents not to show love in emotive ways and took this unromantic behavior into my relationships.

I personally decided I needed to change because I was being accused of being an unromantic boyfriend, and that sucks!

Showing love didn’t compute back then.

Today, I try hard to express my love because I am aware that this does not come naturally to me.

And even more importantly, I have learned that dating a romantic guy is important for many women.

Why?

Because women can generally express their feelings better than men. As a woman, you were encouraged, growing up, to show your emotions. The opposite is true for boys. Boys are taught to hide their feelings; Never cry, be tough, win.

Given these cultural and familial caused flaws in men’s behavior, I feel it’s important to look for the other signs and ways an unromantic man shows you he loves you.

Here’s how an unromantic man shows you he loves you

Chivalry

Here are some examples of chivalry:

He protects you when you are in public
He does things for you
He takes out the garbage and fixes the things he can fix
He’ll stay home when you are sick or at least check on you throughout his day

Now, taking out the garbage isn’t quite as romantic as flowers and “I love you”, but it is a way in which an unromantic man shows his love.

I think it’s important for women to realize that men show love in very different ways. Most of us dread Valentine’s Day and birthdays because we are afraid we will let you down!

I’m not saying to give a lazy man a pass because he forgot your birthday.

I am saying to root for him – guide him on how he can make you happy. Reward him for his behavior even if it’s a bit shy of your grand expectation.

If you do this: he will get better, I will get better, all men will get better!

If you scold him for not being the romantic boyfriend you saw in the movies, you will never be happy with his efforts, and this will soon lead to anger and contempt.

Both men and women need to stop blaming the other for their shortcomings and start understanding and listening to how the other thinks and what he or she is going through. When you are able to do this, amazing things can happen.

Being a romantic boyfriend is just one example.

My focus is to help women fully understand how men think so they can navigate situations like this easily and effectively by creating a win/win for each side.

You understand that he does love you – he’s just not able to show it in the way that you want him to, due to learned behavior.

Now you aren’t resentful. Instead, you reward him for showing what he can and, maybe soon, he does things better.

See? He really is a romantic boyfriend

My Boyfriend is Not Romantic

I have received many emails from women who were headed for divorce, based solely on their husband or boyfriend not being romantic enough.

I grew up in a family that didn’t show love. I have three older sisters and I am the only son. I never saw my mom and dad kiss, and we never said, “I love you” before bed or when we said goodbye. I learned from my parents not to show love in emotive ways and took this unromantic behavior into my relationships.

I personally decided I needed to change because I was being accused of being an unromantic boyfriend, and that sucks!

Showing love didn’t compute back then.

Today, I try hard to express my love because I am aware that this does not come naturally to
me.

And even more importantly, I have learned that dating a romantic guy is important for
many women.

Why?

Because women can generally express their feelings better than men. As a woman, you were encouraged, growing up, to show your emotions.

The opposite is true for boys. Boys
are taught to hide their feelings; Never cry, be tough, win.

Given these cultural and familial caused flaws in men’s behavior, I feel it’s important to look for the other signs and ways an unromantic man shows you he loves you.

Here’s how an unromantic man shows you he loves you

 

An unromantic man shows you he loves you by being chivalrous.

Chivalry

Here are some examples of chivalry:

He protects you when you are in public
He does things for you
He takes out the garbage and fixes the things he can fix
He’ll stay home when you are sick or at least check on you throughout his day

Now, taking out the garbage isn’t quite as romantic as flowers and “I love you”, but it is a way in which an unromantic man shows his love.

I think it’s important for women to realize that men show love in very different ways. Most of
us dread Valentine’s Day and birthdays because we are afraid we will let you down!

I’m not saying to give a lazy man a pass because he forgot your birthday.

I am saying to root for him – guide him on how he can make you happy. Reward him for his
behavior even if it’s a bit shy of your grand expectation.

If you do this, he will get better; I will get better; all men will get better!

If you scold him for not being the romantic boyfriend you saw in the movies, you will never
be happy with his efforts, and this will soon lead to anger and contempt.

Both men and women need to stop blaming the other for their shortcomings and start
understanding and listening to how the other thinks and what he or she is going through. When you are able to do this, amazing things can happen.

Being a romantic boyfriend is just one example.

My focus is to help women fully understand how men think so they can navigate situations
like this easily and effectively by creating a win/win for each side.

You understand that he does love you – he’s just not able to show it in the way that you want him to, due to learned behavior.

Now you aren’t resentful. Instead, you reward him for showing what he can and, maybe soon, he does things better.

See? He really is a romantic boyfriend ?

 

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Relationship Burnout and How to Handle It

Are you tired of putting in the work and getting nothing in return? Is your motivation to keep the relationship going falling off? Has the sex dwindled? These are some of the signs that you are suffering from relationship burnout.

Relationship burnout happens when one or both of you start thinking about parting ways. Sometimes it’s not even the relationship that’s at fault – it’s outside forces like a mixed family or long work hours that strain a relationship. It’s like you are falling out of love.

Here’s what to do:

Face it Head on

This takes guts and confidence, but in a perfect world, this is how I deal with it. Sit his ass down and ask him how he is feeling about your relationship. He will squirm and may even eventually lie, so take the reigns and tell him that you have relationship burnout and you need him to help you.

Wow!

Can you do it? It’s by far the best way. Guys feel the need to fix things and when you word it like this – directly, he might recognize and try to fix the situation.

Or

He might say straight to your face, “Yep, we need to break up” but don’t look at this as a bad thing because it was going to happen anyway.

Remember, this is something you are both probably experiencing so it will be a relief to talk about it and see what can or cannot be done.

Take a break

A break can be a wonderful thing. This means a real break. No communicating for weeks or even months. No snooping. No checking in. And no asking later who dated whom.

This ‘breakup’ is for grownups who can handle the consequences of being single for a test period for the good of the relationship.

Or

Accepting that the breakup needs to be permanent and that is a good thing for both parties.

Work through it

Discuss how each one of you will change or compromise going forward. If he is working long hours, he gives up 8 hours. You, in exchange, stop pressuring him to have another kid or exercise. Listen to the other side and feel what they are feeling instead of siding with your own needs.

Yes, this is called communication and it’s rare in many relationships, but it works! Too many times, the other party has no idea what their significant other is feeling until they put themselves in the others shoes.

Realize there could be something deeper

If your complaint is that he is too clingy, realize that something in his past might be triggering this trait. Maybe his mom or dad abandoned him early in his life.

When you start to listen and understand, you may be more inclined to allow his behavior to continue. You can also talk to him about it when it’s happening so he can help himself.

Relationship Burnout is real

Relationship burnout is going to happen. In some cases, it cannot be fixed but in many it just needs to tackled head on and with few a tips.

The worse thing that couples will do is nothing. Nothing builds contempt on both sides and almost always leads to the relationship ending…badly.

If you decide you want to make your relationship work then I have the resources to help you. Click the button below for a very special deal on my best selling books!

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Make Your Passion Your Paycheck | The 6 Steps

6 Steps to Make Your Passion Your Paycheck!

We all know happiness comes from within, right? So, what makes you happy? I bet you have, or dream of a hobby or passion that makes you intensely happy – Horseback riding or traveling let’s say.

Then make your passion your paycheck!

How do I know this to be the truth? Because I live it!

FYI: When someone spouts facts that you question, do yourself a favor and dig into their life and see if they live what they say!

I worked construction. I still do at times because I like parts of it. But what I loved, and was really good at was helping women understand the male mind so they could be happy in their relationship.

This was my passion.

So, what did I do? I made my passion my paycheck!

My family laughed at me. My friends humored me. My employees said, “Yeah, and I want go to Mars – find us more work.”

300,000 books later – I am one happy son of a bitch!

Don’t feed yourself all this crap that you don’t have the money or you’re too old – I do not want to hear that. You don’t need money; you don’t need more years – you need the list of  things that makes you intensely happy!!

You will find the time and the money if you make that one thing your goal! I wanted to help women understand men, so I decided to do just that. The plan included monetizing my idea so I could stop being semi-miserable with my current source of income and move towards my passion.

I wrote books. I wasn’t a writer – heck, Charlotte’s Web was the last book I read, but that didn’t matter. I had something I was good at and others needed.

The 6 Steps to Make Your Passion Your Paycheck
Brainstorm

Get out the pen and paper and write down 10-20 activities that make you happy. Don’t write down the excuses – write down the activities.

Sleep on it and narrow the list

What pops out at you and what is easiest to monetize? If it’s travel, you’ll need a YouTube channel or a website with a blog.

How will you make your passion your paycheck?

I want specifics. Mine was to join Amazon’s KDP Select program and learn how to write, publish a book, and market it. I kept my day job while I learned every possible nugget from the pros – mostly for free.

Turn the specifics into goals

In other words, break down your plan into baby steps. Enter times. Be realistic. Be prepared to adjust on the fly.

Reward yourself

Yes, reward yourself for even the smallest achievement.

This is where people lose interest because they:

Are trying something they really don’t love or
They don’t reward themselves!

My latest goal was to trade my work truck for an RV so I could travel the country selling my passion. On my list was to spend an afternoon schooling myself on what class RV I should buy. Once I did this, my reward was to relax in the hot tub and eat Ben and Jerry’s ice cream!

Was schooling myself about RV’s tough? Of course not – because it was another passion!!!

Watch your PayPal account grow!

Listen to me – when you see your first 50 cents get deposited into your PayPal account, you will freak! Why? Because you know if you can make 50 cents then you make 10K, 100K – it’s just a matter of time!

When I sold my first book, I reacted the same way – and this was not my Mom buying it, granted she bought 5!

Make Your Passion Your Paycheck

Am I making this all to simple? A little bit, yes, because I want to get your attention. But it really is this easy because your precious time is now is surrounded by your passion. If you love horses, will you be miserable cleaning horse shit? I bet you won’t, even if this is one of the worse parts of the equestrian lifestyle.

Just imagine, you have now made your passion into your paycheck, and you are happy! Others see you happy and they want more of you. Men want more of you because you are successful and confident. Everything spirals up and up!

So, what do you have to lose? Your crappy job?

Are you ready for your detailed plan and a toolbox? Just Hit the Button Below!

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Can You Fall out of Love?

I hear it all the time, ”Gregg, he says he fell out of love with me – can you fall out of love?”

When I hear this question, I realize that this couple has misunderstood a fundamental aspect of their relationship – love.

Many people operate on the idea that you feel love for someone, and this can be true, but it’s not what makes a relationship successful.

What makes a relationship successful is understanding one important thing about the word love. It’s a verb – an action word. Love is an action, not a feeling.

Once you begin to understand this, the answer to the question, can you fall out of love, becomes more obvious. No, you cannot fall out of love, you merely stop trying to love someone else.

Let’s look at an example couple, Jess and Rob.

Jess is a retail manager with a business degree and aspirations of being more than a store manager her entire life. She’s a woman on the move with goals and she’s going after them. She got her first store manager job at just 22 and she hasn’t stopped moving forward since – that is until she got a new boss.

This is when her plans were temporarily derailed. This new boss was clueless in his new job. He focused on all the wrong things, according to company policy. He would enter the store and become all worked up over things corporate didn’t even really care about, often yelling for 30 minutes, tuning out, and not even allowing any sort of response.

This quickly turned Jess inside out. He not only shook her confidence to the core, but he made her feel frustrated and powerless. She would go home after having him in her store, crawl in a hot bath and cry.

Enter Rob, who had been Jess’s boyfriend for a few years. Jess and Rob had purchased their new home together just months before the new boss stormed onto the scene. Rob feels helpless where Jess’s work problems are concerned but does little to be supportive – to love her during this difficult time.

Jess begins looking for a new job, knowing she cannot continue in the present environment. She revamps her resume and starts doing interviews.

What does Rob do? He finds another girlfriend – while still living with Jess. It was only a matter of time before Jess found out about the new girlfriend, the house was sold, and the relationship was over.

Jess got a new job and took two years from dating to focus on her career and get herself back together. She’s now right where she wants to be, managing a big store with her sights set on the next step. During her time off from dating, she started working out, eating healthy and getting her life back in order.

At 27, she has a new boyfriend now and everything is right where she wants it.

Can you fall out of love?

Without putting energy into loving someone, I suppose you can, but what really happens is that you stop taking action to appreciate your partner. You stop listening and caring. You stop wanting your partner to be happy. You stop wanting to fix his favorite meal and you forget to be grateful for the soup he brought you when you had the flu.

To stay in love is to recognize that each of you must be proactive. Instead of looking for the flaws of your partner, examine ways in which you can compliment his weaknesses with your strengths. If he sucks at cooking, make a deal where you cook, and he cleans up. If you hate gardening but he enjoys mowing the lawn, find a division of labor you can both agree upon or hire a neighbor kid to pull your weeds.

Recognizing someone’s weaknesses doesn’t mean you need to give up on them. It means you must work together to help one another. If neither of you can cook, maybe it’s time to take a cooking class together. If neither of you enjoys yard-work, buy a condo where much of it is done for you, or live in an apartment where there is no yard-work.

There are always solutions and ways to work around weaknesses, if you want to try. Loving someone means recognizing where they need you and filling that void. It means appreciating that he tried to cook, even though he burned the meat. It means not blowing your stack when he mows over your daffodils.

Successful couples are grateful for one another and they appreciate one another, for their strengths and weaknesses. They take the time to love as a verb – an action.

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Help! I���m Dating a Quiet Guy

5 Things You Need to Know About Dating a Quiet Guy

Quiet guys can be great men to date, if you understand just how they tick. I���ve worked with a lot of men, and although every guy is different, I have found that quiet guys have certain attributes.

Follow my tips below and thrive with your quiet, shy guy.

They listen���a lot

Dating a quiet guy can be the perfect remedy for your bad day, incident with your cat, or exciting train ride you took to NYC.

Why?

Because quiet guys are excellent listeners. They want to hear about your day. You can text him paragraphs and he will actually read it all! Your quiet guy will not be dry texting you anytime soon.

H might not be compelled to talk about his day but, trust me, he has honed his listening skills to the max.

So, go ahead and rant about hairballs while your shy guy smiles ear to ear.

Quiet guys remember facts

Remember the last player you dated – the one who forgot your birthday? That won���t happen with Mr. Quiet Guy. He listens and he imprints important things in your life.

He knows your favorite color is orange and that your Mom���s secret recipe involves lamb-chops. Feel free to tell him these personal facts ��� rest assured that they will not be forgotten

Worried about keeping your quiet guy? I have a great book deal for you!

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He makes you feel special

Have you ever dated a guy who really seemed to get you? He looked deep into your eyes, said wonderful things, and made you think he was the one. Then, you watched as he looked deep into your girlfriend’s eyes and did the exact same thing.

Yeah, that sucks. Dating a quiet guy is better because he only opens up to you. He is not necessarily comfortable around people he doesn���t know well, so this attribute is reserved only for you.

How refreshing!

When he talks, people listen

I���m a loudmouth. I bellow over my friends. Therefore, what I say seems to get overlooked. I get it. I say so much that it���s too much to handle.

The quiet guy doesn���t say much because, well, he���s shy. Therefore, when he does say something people really listen! It���s like when Forrest Gump finally stopped running and everyone was waiting to see what he had to say.

When your quiet guy has something to say, listen to him intently and ask him questions. You’re going to learn something worth knowing and you will grow closer to him.

He���s not going to fight back

This is a good thing. That fighting with your ex was not healthy, even though you might have enjoyed it at times. Many women welcome, and even need drama in their lives. Dating a quiet guy puts an end to this.

A quiet guy is not going to fight back. He is more apt to listen and make his point hours or days later, after he reflects on your conversation. And when he does, it will be eye opening.

Realize this and start ���fighting��� like he does ��� listen more! You���ll find that it is much more conducive to solving your issue.

He likes his quiet time

Great news for you! This means he’s fine when you go out with your friends. He wants you too because he needs his introverted time alone. When you return, you’ll have stories to tell that he wants to hear. This is a win/win for both of you!

Dating Quiet Guys

OK, so maybe dating a quiet guy will not light your hair on fire, but quiet guys can be great men to date if you understand how they tick. Think about the five attributes above and realize how awesome your relationship can be if you take advantage of his qualities.

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Help! I’m Dating a Quiet Guy

5 Things You Need to Know About Dating a Quiet Guy

Quiet guys can be great men to date, if you understand just how they tick. I’ve worked with a lot of men, and although every guy is different, I have found that quiet guys have certain attributes.

Follow my tips below and thrive with your quiet, shy guy.

They listen…a lot

Dating a quiet guy can be the perfect remedy for your bad day, incident with your cat, or exciting train ride you took to NYC.

Why?

Because quiet guys are excellent listeners. They want to hear about your day. They might be too shy to talk about their day but, trust me, they have honed their listening skills to the max.

So, go ahead and rant about hairballs while your shy guy smiles ear to ear.

Quiet guys remember facts

Remember the last player you dated – the one who forgot your birthday? That won’t happen with Mr. Quiet Guy. He listens and he imprints important things in your life.

He knows your favorite color is orange and that your Mom’s secret recipe involves lamb-chops. Feel free to tell him these personal facts – rest assured that they will not be forgotten

Worried about keeping your quiet guy? I have a great book deal for you!

He makes you feel special

Have you ever dated a guy who really seemed to get you? He looked deep into your eyes, said wonderful things, and made you think he was the one. Then, you watched as he looked deep into your girlfriend’s eyes and did the exact same thing.

Yeah, that sucks. Dating a quiet guy is better because he only opens up to you. He is not necessarily comfortable around people he doesn’t know well, so this attribute is reserved only for you.

How refreshing!

When he talks, people listen

I’m a loudmouth. I bellow over my friends. Therefore, what I say seems to get overlooked. I get it. I say so much that it’s too much to handle.

The quiet guy doesn’t say much because, well, he’s shy. Therefore, when he does say something people really listen! It’s like when Forrest Gump finally stopped running and everyone was waiting to see what he had to say.

When your quiet guy has something to say, listen to him intently and ask him questions. You’re going to learn something worth knowing and you will grow closer to him.

He’s not going to fight back

This is a good thing. That fighting with your ex was not healthy, even though you might have enjoyed it at times. Many women welcome, and even need drama in their lives. Dating a quiet guy puts an end to this.

A quiet guy is not going to fight back. He is more apt to listen and make his point hours or days later, after he reflects on your conversation. And when he does, it will be eye opening.

Realize this and start “fighting” like he does – listen more! You’ll find that it is much more conducive to solving your issue.

He likes his quiet time

Great news for you! This means he’s fine when you go out with your friends. He wants you too because he needs his introverted time alone. When you return, you’ll have stories to tell that he wants to hear. This is a win/win for both of you!

Dating Quiet Guys

OK, so maybe dating a quiet guy will not light your hair on fire, but quiet guys can be great men to date if you understand how they tick. Think about the five attributes above and realize how awesome your relationship can be if you take advantage of his qualities.

The post Help! I’m Dating a Quiet Guy appeared first on Who Holds the Cards Now.