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May 20, 2019
Am I Dealing with a Stage 5 Clinger?
Remember that guy you hooked up with a month ago who keeps showing up where you are? How about that dude you went on one date with who keeps texting?
You could have crossed paths with or even be dating a Stage 5 Clinger and not be aware of it.
Often, its men who talk about women being clingy, but men can be just as clingy and sometimes it can get downright creepy.
A clinger is a man who needs constant reinforcement that he���s needed, liked or loved. The Urban Dictionary defines a Stage 5 Clinger as:
A member of the opposite sex who is likely to become overly attached, overly fast. Virgins, those on the rebound, and the emotionally fragile are more likely to have this term applied to them. Originally from the movie Wedding Crashers.
Stage 5 Clinger Signs
The texting ratio is out of balance
He texts you 5 times to your one. He initiates the conversation and then ends it asking why you aren���t responding.
Men are lousy communicators, remember?
He just keeps texting you
So, the fact that this one can���t stop texting might appear to be a good thing. Maybe you finally found yourself a communicator.
No. He wants communication for the wrong reasons. He needs to feel wanted because he probably wasn���t loved in his past. Texting him back will only worsen the problem.
He showers you with (too many) compliments
A compliment here and there is a good thing. But if he worships the ground you walk on, it starts to feel wrong. As a couple, you should be on the same level with a bit of give and take mixed in with healthy banter to create fun and challenge.
He agrees with everything
Another sign of Stage 5 Clinger is when he agrees with everything you say. Wherever you want to go and whatever you want to do, he will comply.
If you���re alone he���s fine but bring in another group of friends and he might not like the situation because it will feel too competitive for his insecurities.
He pressures you to hang out
Stage 5 Clingers don���t want you running around having fun with your friends. They see this as a threat to your relationship, even if you don���t really have a relationship.
He defines you as his girlfriend when you���re not
Yeah you might have gone out on a date or two but that was it. Now, this guy is treating you like you���re all in!
You met mom and his family (somehow) and they stare at you like you are the one for Johnny, even though Johnny is still living in the basement.
Did he just look at my phone?
If he takes peeks at your phone or demands to see what you���re doing on your phone, you have a Stage 5 Clinger on your hands!
Jealousy and anger toward your male contacts can be an issue with him if he���s a clinger, and it will only get worse from here.
I just had a coaching client contact me about a male a co-worker who was getting a bit too cozy and was checking her contacts and they haven���t even dated!
What his friends say doesn���t match up
Does he say things that his friends deny?
Sure, guys will exaggerate a bit, but if he is saying things that his friends laugh about because they didn���t happen, you���d better back away. A Stage 5 Clinger will tell you anything to reel you in if he is infatuated.
Stage 5 Clinger Conclusion
Men can be Stage 5 Clingers just like women can. These are signs that a man doesn���t have the confidence in himself to date on a mature and healthy level.
A guy should give you space to do your own thing, just as should you him.
Look for these signs and if you see three or more, run!
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May 8, 2019
5 Ways To Spice Up Your “Soon To Become Boring” Relationship
Today, we have guest blogger Maria Parker.
There are two types of people in this world ��� those who fall in love and commit for the long haul and those who have an unexplainable fear of falling in love, also known as philophobia.
Although you might say that only one of those two groups is doing something wrong with their life, I dare you to think again.
You see, the group who falls in love and commits for the long haul also divides into two subgroups ��� people who think, ���That���s it! I never have to worry about love anymore,��� and those who keep trying to make their other half happy and satisfied just like when they first started dating.
So, not only philophobiacs have problems related to love, a lot of those who are in love often take that love for granted, leaving them empty-handed and alone in the end.
Without constantly putting effort and trying hard, you can���t have a happy relationship. Even the best ones came crashing down for one reason only ��� routine that turns in boredom. Where there is no excitement, the passion fades away.
All of you who���ve been in long term relationships know what I���m talking about. After that much time spent together, you think there isn���t much you can do to spice things up. Well, that���s where you���re wrong.
There is a lot of things you can do, things that haven���t crossed your mind because they are so simple, yet they work like a charm.
Let���s see how you can help your relationship get back on the right track and change yourself for the better while you���re at it!
Put more effort into the way you look
Her’s another way to spice up your relationship; Your look! What you wear is how you feel. I���m not saying you should be dressed up all the time, but you shouldn���t hang around the house in your huge sweatpants and oversized T-shirts. It will ruin your self-esteem sooner or later, not to mention how your partner perceives you.
Try something else from time to time. Slip into something sexier, do something different with your hair, basically put some effort in sweeping your partner off their feet.
Oil can be your best friend
When talking about routine and boredom in long-term relationships, you can���t avoid talking about sex. When sex becomes boring, your relationship is really coming to an end. So, to prevent this from happening or if it���s already happening, use oil ��� it can be a relationship saver.
If for some reason you aren���t having sex or you think you don���t have time for sex, offer your partner a romantic massage with oil. This will turn from just a relaxing massage into wild sex in a matter of minutes. I told you already and I���m going to tell you again ��� oil is your best friend.
Technology is distracting you
I know, the season finale of GOT is approaching and you���d rather watch TV than snuggle with your partner. Well, keep one thing in mind: after your partner leaves you, you���ll have plenty of time to watch TV if that���s what you want.
TV in your room ��� not a good idea. The chances are you���re going to fall asleep leaving your partner unsatisfied, which increases the chance of your relationship crashing like a house of cards.
Spice Up Your Relationship | Play exciting games
Have you ever tried playing ���never have I ever��� questions? Despite the fact you think you know everything about your partner, by playing this game, you will be proven otherwise. There are definitely at least a few things you had no idea about.
On the plus side, you can turn this game into a great sex tool. Use your sexual fantasies and your wildest wishes ��� who knows, maybe they���ll come true.
Do something you���re too old for
Do something you always wanted to do, but do it with your partner. Is it a concert you���ve been dying to go to ever since you were in high school, or maybe you wanted to get a tattoo? Whatever it is, don���t hesitate to do it.
The trick is, you have to do it with your partner. You have to share that experience with them. That experience will serve as a bonding tool between you ��� something that will bring change and excitement into your relationship.
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April 27, 2019
Free Relationship Advice for Women | From a Guy Who Cares!
Free relationship advice is mandatory when you are new to the dating scene. How do you flirt? What do you text a guy? How do you craft an online dating profile?
Hello! If we haven���t talked before, my name is Gregg. I give both paid and free relationship advice for women. I am a dating coach and a multiple #1 bestselling author having sold a quarter million books.
I say this not to blow sunshine up my ass but to give you proof that I can help you with any dating or relationship advice you may need!
Big deal, right? You can get free relationship advice anywhere�� – just pick any forum.
Yes and no. Much of the free advice out there doesn’t work because it’s unrealistic. How can you make a great presentation to a guy without building a foundation of self-esteem? How can you test that a man isn’t messing with you without the skills to understand our male minds?
Let’s continue.
I am also a life coach. My Dad owned a company called Leadership Attitudes. He was a life coach before they were ever given a formal title. I was given 5 tools at a very early age ��� tools that I would like to give you: Affirmations, Meditation, Goal Setting, Visualization and Desensitization.
These 5 tools changed my life ��� I live by them and I believe you should too!
Why is my dual skill-set important to you? Because any pro can give you free relationship advice or dating advice but what good is it if you can���t execute it because you lack confidence?
Exactly. You can���t.
���Hey Lisa, go over to that tall, attractive man and engage him in stimulating conversation. Then, get his number and ask him go out!���
Good luck.
Too many women rely on a man for their happiness. This is like putting the cart before the horse. Don’t do it!
Instead, Build Yourself and He Will Come!
It’s not just a phrase that sits atop my website – It is the key component for you to find a great guy, and keep him. These six words are the key to acquiring that elusive prize women call happiness.
Therefore, you need, not only free dating and relationship advice, but a life coach in your corner to help you execute the strategies I give you.
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Free Relationship Advice for Women
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Help my guy is seeing someone else
100 things to talk about with your boyfriend
Should you go for a NSA relationship?
Do emotionally unavailable men ever change?
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Why do men come back months later
How to get over a guy you never dated
How to get out of a relationship rut
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April 17, 2019
Why Do Men Stare at Women and What are They Thinking?
So you’re on the train and a cute guy keeps staring at you. Why do men stare at women? What is he thinking?
1) He wants to steal your money, phone and your jewelry
2) He likes you
Let’s go with option #2 – it’s more fun!
I wish I could say that when you catch a guy staring at you, he is analyzing the odds of compatibility by using an algorithm more complex than what Google uses.
But he is not.
He is thinking in short, unimpressive thoughts:
I really would like to f*** her
I wonder if she wants to f*** me? (I’m not always proud of my gender)
Those shoes can’t be comfortable
I really like her
Where am I headed in life?
Did I leave the coffee machine on? I need to get a machine that automatically shuts off so I don’t have to ask myself this every day
I should say something but it’s too late – she knows I’m staring at her and she’s getting creeped out
Wish I had my favorite shirt on – If I did I bet she would check me out
Guys just love staring at women. We can’t help ourselves. We like guessing what they are like in person and where they are from by watching their mannerisms. Most men stare more than a woman is comfortable with if they knew.
That’s why men look away when their eyes meet and then they go back to staring.
Men will stare more at a women who stand out. Maybe she is wearing a bright, yellow scarf or maybe she walks differently. It’s just fun to watch.
Men are always looking at female butts. I like legs so long-legged women attract me. Many of my friends are attracted to cleavage. Married men, it seems, like to stare at everything!
Hair attracts men. Long hair or beautiful, shiny hair. Purple hair too. Big red lips attract men according to scientific studies.
Men just can’t help themselves
Most stares are harmless even if you are in a relationship. Let him stare a little. If it’s blatantly obvious, OK he might be a jerk, but if he sneaks a peek here and there don’t sweat it.
In fact, do the same. This will keep him on his game – men love the competition and fighting for you! Then, you can both laugh at the fact that it’s healthy and OK to stare at attractive people and couples.
When you catch a guy staring at you what should you do?
Well, if he seems cool, is attractive, and you are in a public area then glance back. Play a little game with him. When he stares, you stare then look away and give a little smile. Your smile should be his clue to come over and say something.
But he probably won’t. Guys need to be clubbed over the head to understand that a woman is trying to flirt so be more aggressive.
Walk by him and brush up against him by ‘accident.’
Say something! It’s OK to be the aggressor – it shows confidence around men. “You gonna’ finish that fruity drink, or do I need to help you?” Then laugh at your bravado! He will love it.
Just make sure the guy isn’t just staring at your body. This means he just wants to have sex with you. You can usually tell – it’s more of a creepy stare.
If he is staring at your face and your body, then he is most likely into you. That’s what men do who are interested – we move up and down with our eyes over the female body.
Shy guys will act nervous if you catch them staring. They wish they could get up the nerve, but they can’t. My friend John is like this – great guy but you would need to approach him after you caught him staring at you.
Why do men stare at women?
Bottom line, men stare at women all the time. It’s natural and harmless for the most part. We are not thinking deep thoughts – just checking you out and thinking, ‘what if?’
It’s up to start the flirting process if you are interested in him or just want to have some fun flirting!
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April 3, 2019
NSA Relationship? Here are 8 Reasons you Might Want One
NSA relationship means ‘no strings attached’ in case you didn’t know.
We all have heard the reasons that NSA relationship don’t work, but I want to throw a stick in the spokes and see if I can get you to consider another side.
A side that might help you find true love later.
You see, if you are confident enough going into an NSA relationship, you can come out with new skills that will help you find your Mr. Right if that is your ultimate goal.
Of course, you need to follow some rules as I will explain throughout this article.
8 Reasons to Consider an NSA Relationship
You’re back on the dating scene and you just want a breathing man
Let’s say you just got out of a sexless marriage where every day for the last five years was a chore.
You’re lonely. You want to live a little. You want to feel like a horny kid at the prom again!
I get it and this is where an NSA relationship can help you out. There is no need to screen 500 guys looking for the perfect man – you just want a pizza date and a dick.
I would encourage you to find a guy in a similar circumstance for your first fling. Talk about it. Share your feelings. You can even talk about about your ex – something you should never do with a man you really care for.
He’s a free therapist
Like I said, talking openly to a person (your new NSA lover) who is in the same position can get your feelings out on the table for free! None of this $150 per hour crap spouting off to a person who has never been through this and doesn’t give one poop.
Free therapy from your lover
I digress…
Seriously, this might help you see where you went wrong in choosing your ex or help you see the mistakes that you made that could have changed the outcome.
Mr. NSA relationship man will share his feelings too. Feelings from a man’s perspective. Both of you can glean valuable information to use in the future.
You can have sex in an elevator!
Yes, isn’t that great! And in an airplane and even at the beach – watch out for the sand though. No need to say anything more
March 29, 2019
Are You a Clingy Girlfriend? 6 Behaviors to Avoid
Jessica contacted me and asked if she was becoming that clingy girlfriend after three months of dating.
She said her Zeus was pulling away and not responding to her texts like he used to. Jess said her friends are wondering why she is acting so weird around this guy – like she lost all sense of herself.
She knew she was a hot mess but didn’t know what to do about it.
Jessica had become a clingy girlfriend!
Being clingy is a subjective quality. One man might be OK with ‘clingyness.’ While another will feel cooped up. That’s why it’s important to know what type of man you are with.
I solve this issue in my best seller Manimals: Understanding Different Types of Men and How to Date Them.
For most men go ahead and cling one day but ‘uncling’ the next. Run to your social life for a weekend and then run back to him. This is the best of worlds for both of you.
He loves the independence he gets. He also loves the mystery and excitement of missing you. You, on the other hand, get a loyal boyfriend that keeps desiring your ass!
So gauge your man and keep him guessing by adjusting your level of clinginess. Of course, this can only be accomplished by a high-value woman who has a life outside of her man.
Let’s first identify the clingy girlfriend signs and then solve the issue.
Clingy Girlfriend Signs
Look at your phone
Too much of this is not good!
Do you see one of his texts to your three? Are his texts one sentence to your paragraphs? How much time does he take to respond compared to how much time you take? And who always texts last?
Of course, these are all rhetorical questions.
If the ratio is disproportionate then you have become, or are becoming, a clingy girlfriend.
Is he your hobby?
Have hobbies of your own. Participate in his. And by all means have a hobby together.
But never make him your hobby!
This is what women do because it’s natural for you. But it kills a relationship. Men need to feel like they have some sort of freedom even when they have been married for ten years and have three kids.
I call this ‘perceived freedom.’ Give it to him! No, we are not talking freedom to go to Vegas for a week. We are talking about letting the poor man have a life outside of yours – Every now and then.
Last year my buddy Ted couldn’t even grab a drink with me because his wife would not let him. I hadn’t seen him in two years. She was so damn clingy and insecure that it wasn’t worth it for Ted to say hi to me over a couple of beers.
Really?
Guess what? They are separated as we speak. Ted couldn’t take it anymore.
Tell me about your social life
If your answer is that you have none outside of his, then, Houston, we have a clingy girlfriend problem.
Cling to your friends and family!
I know that you have no time and that you are crazy busy at work blah, blah, blah.
I’m not buying it. What matters is your friends and family in my book. Boyfriends are in second place. Husbands are family so they count but I still put them on equal footing with your close friends.
Close friends and family will always be there. Boyfriends and husbands? I give less than a 50/50 shot of being there to the end unless you follow my advice – and so far I only have a quarter million who do
March 17, 2019
I Hate Being Single! Let Me Help You Change That
Guess what? Your mirror called and is telling you to get a boyfriend.
Right? Your mirror, your mom, your friends and even your cat thinks you are a broken woman with little to offer. Nonsense!
What if I were to tell you that I get on average 35 emails per day from women that are supposedly ‘living the dream’ in a relationship.
When has your mirror ever been right?
These are your counterparts describing to me the cheating, the lying, the custody battles and the emotional (and sometimes physical) abuse over and over again.
Does that make you feel, maybe, just a little bit better about your current situation?
You see too many of these women got into a relationship too soon and/or for all the wrong reasons.
I crave the emails from you – The Single Woman – who wants support and information to help you be happy with or without a man.
Ironically, you are in a much better position to find a great guy because you are taking the time to discover yourself, what you desire and understand the male mind before you jump in the pool.
Bravo to you I say!
Now let’s delve into why “I hate being single” is advantageous. Plenty of blogs regurgitate the same obvious reasons – let’s discuss some of the more fun reasons.
Go ahead – use it all up
Use up all the hot water
Yep. That gas water heater thingy that you have heard about in the basement need not be rationed for some irritating jerk that farts on the couch. Every drop of H2O is yours! Use it until it’s gone…then, wait the 20 minutes, and take another bath this time with candles.
You can watch re-runs of the Bachelor
Right? No boyfriend is going to put up with that shit! That clicker is going to come out of your hands so quick and go to the ballgame so fast you won’t even see the proposal!
That bed is all yours
Make the bed in the morning or not. Wash the sheets or not. Reverse your body so your feet are on your pillow. Fart and then laugh as your cat appears perplexed. Flip around like a seal until you’re too tired to flip anymore – the bed is yours to what you want to do with it and it’s great!
How to be Okay with Being Single
Go ahead be picky
He is too short. His teeth are a mess. Is he wearing cowboy boots? Isn’t he a little bit egotistical? His breathe stinks. Why did he text that? Why didn’t he text me back? Blah, blah, blah. These things don’t matter because, in your head, you already have the perfect guy – who needs a real one?
How Sweet
You can drive a 2-seater
No kids, no husband means that you don’t need a 40K minivan – you can drive around in a Mustang convertible. In fact, you can buy a motorcycle too because your non-existent husband doesn’t need the second parking spot.
Spend forever on your hair and makeup!
Do I sound bitter as a male? Maybe I am. But, hey, my bitterness is your gain if you are single. You can take an ice age to do your hair and then take another one to do your makeup. If you get it wrong? Stay in!
7 more and you will be complete!
You can own several cats (or dogs)
I’m sorry but that cat lady we hear so much about is to be admired in my book. I love cats! If my condo association would allow me, I would have 10 Maine coon cats. I could care less what others think of me – I want 10 cats.
There will be no arguing
Cats don’t argue. A Dog won’t challenge you on the pairs of shoes you own – in fact Fido will enjoy carrying them around your apartment.
You get sleep
I am coaching a couple that is on the brink of breakup due to snoring. This might not sound like much, but can you imagine night after night being woken up 10, maybe 20 times because your boyfriend or husband is howling like a wolf?
All Mine!
Your food is all yours
Deep down didn’t you hate when your ex stole half your fries? I know you did. You didn’t show it, but the contempt was there, building, like an earthquake on the San Andrea’s fault line.
I Hate Being Single!
You can be as selfish as you desire
Go ahead it’s OK. Put yourself first every morning, every afternoon, and while you’re at it, at nighttime too! He will steal most of this time soon enough so “hate being single” while you can.
You save on the wedding
I cringe every time I go to a wedding. I think of the cost of the thing. Last fall I was at a one with 250 people in Laguna Beach. I barely knew the couple. Why was I even there? I’m eating their shrimp, lobster and prime rib. That wedding had to cost 100K for which they will be paying off their whole life.
Elope for God’s sake!
I digress…
Travel at will
Screw the planning and the arguing of where you are going to go on vacation and just go! You got the money and the time. Just be careful not to fall for a foreigner with an Italian accent that will want to make you his wife – don’t go for it or this blog will suck for you [image error]
March 2, 2019
The 7 Reasons Why Men Come Back Months Later
You and your boyfriend breakup, and he doesn’t care about you until months later, after you stopped caring about him. Curious isn’t it? Men come back like a flock of sheep to grass. There are several reasons for this and I’ve got seven of them for you today!
First, let’s look at why he probably left, then follow up with the seven reasons why men come back months later.
Why He Left: The Challenge Evaporates
Nothing worth having comes without a fight. You’ve heard this phrase before, and oh does it apply to men! The challenge was lost the day you moved in and went exclusive. The key is to keep the challenge going while you are together.
Stay crazy. Break your routine. Stay true to your friends. Keep your hobbies, join in his, but never make him your hobby. This is the stuff that keeps a man on his toes.
Quite often I interview 65-80-year-old couples. I ask them what their secret is. The man almost always says, “I felt like I never caught her – I still haven’t!” The woman just smiles as she sits next to him…she knows the secret!
The 7 Reasons: The Grass Wasn’t Greener after All
Sorry, but the grass is rarely greener!
While you were apart, he partied like a rock star and he got bored. Big surprise. Then, he realized other women didn’t except his flaws like you did. Staying apart from you means he needs to lose the weight, make more of his own money and start treating people with more respect.
He thinks this seems like a lot of work. He realizes there is an easier way, and that is to get back with you.
Why Men Come Back Months Later | He’s Testing the Waters
Your ex wants to be single, but he doesn’t want you to be single. If things don’t work out in his singles life, you are his fall back choice. Never allow this to happen! If he comes waltzing back, he needs a real plan accompanied by real action before you take him back, and that’s assuming you are still single.
He wants to get Laid
You made him feel like he was the greatest guy out there, so he thought every other woman would think the same. He was dead wrong. And now, he’s having a hard time just getting sex. He figures you will still want to have sex with him, if he just makes a little effort, so sure enough, months later, he’s texting you again.
Memories
Memories bring Men Home
Memories are tough, that’s why I tell women to build as many powerful, fun memories as possible with the man they are with. I call them pennies in the jar. Men come back months later when they experience something that reminds them of you – even if they are with a new person.
I talk to older couples and they say, time after time, they stayed together because they had so many wonderful memories together that no other person could replace. With your next boyfriend, I recommend you do the same.
The Pressure from Friends and Family
Beta men listen to the important people in their lives because they trust them. When their friends and family start piling on the reasons why they should have never left their ex, it begins to sink in.
They listen and start thinking about the other reasons: the memories, the sex, and the unconditional love they used to receive. Soon, they want to come home.
Why Men Come Back Months Later | He is Ready
He is finally ready
A few guys genuinely need a break to think about things. This is not a bad thing. Many have issues they need to fix. I know because I was one of those guys. I couldn’t love because I saw my parents fall apart in front of me; I was bitter and confused. I got help.
A healthy male comes back when he realizes that he would prefer being with you than being single and hanging out with his friends. That, my friend, can happen in a New York minute if you have done the work and become a confident woman.
You are a Challenge Again!
I saved the best for last because this is Mt Everest of reasons why men come back months later. When I coach women, I suggest they lose the weight, build a vibrant social life, and have fun. What does this do? It builds confidence and makes a woman interesting and attractive because she is happy and has stories to tell and she looks great!
Do you take him back? Hell no! You laugh in his face and flaunt your new guy in his presence. Am I being vindictive? Yeah, maybe.
There you have it – Why Men Come Back Months Later!
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February 16, 2019
Riding Solo – Embrace Being Single!
My next book is for all the single women out there who are having a hard time enjoying being single. You might be single mom dating or a woman fresh out of college, if so, my new book Riding Solo can help you.
Inside you’ll find issues addressed that you have emailed me about. Issues like rumination and the lack of single quality men. I’m going to talk about what is going on in your mind and how to change some of the beliefs that are causing you to hate being single.
Build Yourself and He Will Come will be a constant theme that I will be hammering home!
Men are attracted to happy, confident women not women who rely on their confidence based on a man. It’s like putting the cart before the horse – don’t do it!
You may find yourself now wanting to pursue a relationship, but you have these types of thoughts banging around in your head:
All of the good guys are already taken
Men my age date much younger women
I’m too out of practice to make a good girlfriend or wife
I’m too independent to be in a relationship
While these may seem like valid thoughts, they are railroading your desire to be in a relationship. These inner thoughts are sabotaging your efforts. They all qualify as negative self-talk and they all hinder what you think is your goal of having a great relationship.
Not only that, these thoughts are ideas you’ve conjured up in your mind. They are not true but, you’ve come to believe they’re true. These are called self-limiting beliefs. You will be learning how to get rid of those very soon!
Everyone tells you to enjoy being single – embrace it. Grow. Don’t you hate hearing that!
How to Enjoy Being Single
Remember that trip to Greece you wanted to take? How about those violin lessons you never finished? As we speak, people are lying on their death beds wishing they lived their lives differently. They’re regretting chances they didn’t take.
In order to accomplish these things, you might want to consider suspending the endless pursuit of just any man and take a break! Make this the season of you. The year of you. There are plenty of new opportunities in the future to become one with another person, but that time is not now.
You have work to do.
You are capable of more than you realize. You just got sidetracked along the way by life. Maybe it was your lack of financial stability that delayed your dreams or maybe you didn’t want to date when your children were young. It doesn’t matter.
For now, you are single and you have no excuses. Still, your default thought process says you must get into a relationship or you’re a failure. That thought process isn’t getting you anywhere! I know because I was single for most of my life and it was the best thing that happened to me!
Change is in the air…
Look for Riding Solo in early 2019!
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February 1, 2019
Just How Many Dates Before Sex Should a Woman Have?
First Date Sex? My thoughts are evolving on this subject as I listen to my readers and hear what is actually happening on Saturday nights.
My initial advice has always been to only have sex after a man has proven his worth through a series of tests that you put him through – without his knowledge of course.
Right now, I want to ‘tweak’ my advice to fit what I am hearing more and more – people want instant gratification and they don’t want to wait for it.
In other words, they want sex now!
I get it.
Younger people are having sex on the first or second date. Older women might have gone years in a sexless marriage and want their sexual desires satisfied now – not when the two of you decide to be exclusive.
Time after time, I get the email saying, Gregg I f****d up – I slept with him too soon now what?
Having sex on the first or second date can lead to some awkward moments. You know, like getting up in the morning, hungover, and wanting to get the heck out of there. And then wandering if he will treat you with respect for having sex so soon.
So what if you could change your mindset? What if you could go into the date thinking,
Hey, what happens will happen. If I feel comfortable enough and want to have sex with this guy, I’m going to go for it and have no regrets. I’m not going to let myself get attached. I am going to treat this like I just got what I wanted!
That’s a bold, new way of treating the age-old question of – how many dates before sex should I have?
It’s how you react to him after you have sex that matters
This is where it gets good! Now you can use all my best tactics to lure him in.
How?
You treat him like you are the ‘player guy.’ Get out of bed and go home without cuddling. If he is at your apartment, kick him the heck out!
Yes, you heard me right.
Grab his number and don’t call him. When he texts, and he will I bet, get back to him on your own sweet time. Then, when he plans a date, postpone it, and then set it up at your convenience.
Basically, do the opposite of what you want to do – assuming you like him.
What? Why? You’ve been drinking Gregg!
No. this is brilliant actually. You lost some of your power by sleeping with him so soon and this is how you gain it back. You show him that you were the one who got what you wanted.
This puts his precious ego in a tail spin because he just got introduced to your two, little, friends:
Challenge and Mystery!
This was taken away after having sex – now he knows that he must work hard to get you back in the sack. And even harder if he wants to be your girlfriend. He is quickly learning that he didn’t win anything that night – there is no follow-up to the evening reminding him how awesome he was.
Nope. Just the sound of crickets. Chirp. Chirp.
Put an expiration date on him like milk in the frig
First Date Sex? Go for it if you have the confidence!
You did great! You have lured him in, and you are dating on a regular basis because you are gauging his interest in you and reciprocating the same amount (or less) interest towards him.
And it’s working.
Now, set the time when he needs to step up his game and become exclusive with you. This maybe two months or four months – you set the rule. At that time, you challenge him to crap or get off the pot or you will need to move on.
This ultimatum works because you are coming from a position of power that you earned through your earlier moves. You are never whining and begging for him to marry you. Nope. It’s not necessary.
Wrapping Up | How Many Dates Before Sex?
If you have the confidence to pull first date sex off then forget the old rules and do it. Decide what is best for you. Care less how he will feel towards you. Have fallback guys in case this guy reveals himself as a total player.
Keep your emotions in check by realizing it was you who got what you wanted and not just him.
The key here is to prove, afterward having sex, that your time is valuable, and he is not – at least not yet anyway.
Now, you can go back to the old rules and do your screening while you set a time limit on his butt!
For more great tips on having first date sex go here!
You’re my motivation!
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