Are You a Clingy Girlfriend? 6 Behaviors to Avoid
Jessica contacted me and asked if she was becoming that clingy girlfriend after three months of dating.
She said her Zeus was pulling away and not responding to her texts like he used to. Jess said her friends are wondering why she is acting so weird around this guy – like she lost all sense of herself.
She knew she was a hot mess but didn’t know what to do about it.
Jessica had become a clingy girlfriend!
Being clingy is a subjective quality. One man might be OK with ‘clingyness.’ While another will feel cooped up. That’s why it’s important to know what type of man you are with.
I solve this issue in my best seller Manimals: Understanding Different Types of Men and How to Date Them.
For most men go ahead and cling one day but ‘uncling’ the next. Run to your social life for a weekend and then run back to him. This is the best of worlds for both of you.
He loves the independence he gets. He also loves the mystery and excitement of missing you. You, on the other hand, get a loyal boyfriend that keeps desiring your ass!
So gauge your man and keep him guessing by adjusting your level of clinginess. Of course, this can only be accomplished by a high-value woman who has a life outside of her man.
Let’s first identify the clingy girlfriend signs and then solve the issue.
Clingy Girlfriend Signs
Look at your phone
Too much of this is not good!
Do you see one of his texts to your three? Are his texts one sentence to your paragraphs? How much time does he take to respond compared to how much time you take? And who always texts last?
Of course, these are all rhetorical questions.
If the ratio is disproportionate then you have become, or are becoming, a clingy girlfriend.
Is he your hobby?
Have hobbies of your own. Participate in his. And by all means have a hobby together.
But never make him your hobby!
This is what women do because it’s natural for you. But it kills a relationship. Men need to feel like they have some sort of freedom even when they have been married for ten years and have three kids.
I call this ‘perceived freedom.’ Give it to him! No, we are not talking freedom to go to Vegas for a week. We are talking about letting the poor man have a life outside of yours – Every now and then.
Last year my buddy Ted couldn’t even grab a drink with me because his wife would not let him. I hadn’t seen him in two years. She was so damn clingy and insecure that it wasn’t worth it for Ted to say hi to me over a couple of beers.
Really?
Guess what? They are separated as we speak. Ted couldn’t take it anymore.
Tell me about your social life
If your answer is that you have none outside of his, then, Houston, we have a clingy girlfriend problem.
Cling to your friends and family!
I know that you have no time and that you are crazy busy at work blah, blah, blah.
I’m not buying it. What matters is your friends and family in my book. Boyfriends are in second place. Husbands are family so they count but I still put them on equal footing with your close friends.
Close friends and family will always be there. Boyfriends and husbands? I give less than a 50/50 shot of being there to the end unless you follow my advice – and so far I only have a quarter million who do
