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January 26, 2020
Why You Should Never Stop Dating Your Husband
When you first meet a new guy, you���re excited for every date. Each time you get together, it���s special for both of you. For you, you���re taking the temperature of the relationship. For him, he���s enjoying the mystery he considers to be you.
However, after you���ve settled in, maybe even moved in together or gotten married, you stop dating each other.
This is a mistake.
Falling into a routine where you exist among one another without really spending quality time together becomes detrimental to your long-term relationship success. Instead, settle into a routine of a weekly date night!
Why is date night so important?
It Helps You stay out of a Rut
It���s so easy to fall into a rut. You put your lives on autopilot and just go. You wake up every morning, get ready for and go to work, come home, fix dinner, watch some television ��� maybe even together, and go to bed.
This is boring – Spice it up!
Men don���t survive well in boredom, and many women don���t either for that matter.
As humans, we crave excitement and adventure, and yet this can feel risky and frightening. It���s when you push past the fear and experience that excitement and adventure that you begin to feel alive!
When you do this together, it���s such a bonus for your relationship! You get away from the daily distractions of work, kids and other responsibilities and spend a couple of hours focused on one another and your relationship.
Dating Your Husband Again Helps Build Intimacy Between You
Intimacy isn���t something you build between the sheets. It���s built-in the special moments you share together. It���s in that excitement and adventure you share together.
Early on, romantic moments and opportunities to build intimacy come frequently, but somewhere along the way, you begin to try less. It���s not intentional. Other aspects of life just creep in and take over.
When you go on dates, you take the time to remember what it is you love about one another, what drew you to each other. This helps keep that flame burning.
You Build a Stronger Foundation
Connecting on a weekly basis helps you build your relationship. Not every date night will happen during the best moments of your relationship, but if you have a regularly scheduled date night and you stick with it, no matter what, you have the opportunity to sit down in a quiet space and work it through.
Date nights shouldn���t be about arguing or disagreeing with one another. They should be about working through solutions without the distractions that often get in the way.
Working through your problems in a calm, patient way helps you improve your communication skills. This builds a strong foundation to fall back on when things get tough.
If you take the time to work through the small things as they come up, to communicate with one another in a healthy way, more difficult challenges will be easier to overcome.
Dating Your Husband | You Experience Fun and Playful Moments Together
A great way to interject good moments into your relationship is to have fun together. Go putt putt golfing or zip-lining. Go hang out at a comedy club with some friends or just get silly together. Make a game of grocery shopping or bake together and make a competition out of it.
This type of investment in your relationship is HUGE and definitely makes a positive impact on your long-term relationship success!
While the correlation between fun and relationship success is big, it���s an even bigger deal for men, according to studies conducted over time.
Overcoming Date Night Hurdles and Excuses
There are many excuses couples use for not practicing a regular date night routine. Most of these are just excuses, and using them is like laying down the bricks to divorce court. IF you want your relationship to be successful, take my advice and overcome these hurdles!
Excuse #1: It���s too expensive to go on a date night every week
Date night does not mean going to a five-star restaurant. It might be something as easy as taking a walk around the neighborhood together or heading over to the beach if you have one close by.
Date night can also be staying home and watching Netflix or something on a DVD or your cable DVR. You can stay home and do something you both enjoy together like cooking or even entertaining friends.
You can have a game night or find a book to read together in whatever genre you both enjoy.
Excuse #2: We���re both just too tired to go out on a date
In this instance, choose something low-key. Light a fire, snuggle up on the couch together and talk. Set the cell phones aside, turn off the television and give one another your undivided attention.
This is another instance where reading a book together can be great. Take turns reading aloud to one another.
Think of date night as a form of self-care. It���s a great way to experience some much-needed downtime while also making time to connect with one another.
Even though you���re both tired, a workout can be a great way to recharge. It releases endorphins and makes you feel energized again.
Excuse #3: I always have to plan everything and I���m sick of it
Yes, this can always land on one person, but then I suggest that you make a game out of it. Challenge him to come up with a better date night plan. You plan one and then challenge him to do better.
Men love a challenge! Of course, it���s up to you to participate in whatever he plans. Even if it scares the heck out of you. You���ve issued the challenge so it���s up to you to play.
If you make a game out of planning date nights, he���ll be more likely to participate. He might not want to participate because you haven���t found something that piques his interest yet.
Sit down together and come up with some ideas together. He���ll be more likely to participate in the planning if he gets energized and excited about the process.
Excuse #4: He never wants to do anything
Chances are, that���s half of the sentence. He might not want to do anything you���ve suggested so far. Again, plan a date night you think he will enjoy, even if you won���t, and then challenge him to come up with something more fun.
Another thing you can do to keep dating your husband is involve his friends. Plan a couple���s date night with one or more other couples. This might be a great way to get him involved in the beginning, and then when he discovers that he enjoys spending this time, you can transition into some date nights for just the two of you.
���Rules��� of Date Night
When you and your guy are having a date night, it���s important to try your best to follow a few simple ���rules���:
Turn off cell phones, or if that is impossible due to being on-call or having children, at least keep the use to those situations
Practice good listening skills
Try to avoid arguing with one another ��� work on more positive problem-solving skills
Plan the next date night while you���re together
Dating Your Husband Wrap Up
Falling into a routine where you exist among one another without spending quality time together becomes detrimental to your long-term relationship success. Stop the downward slide and start making you and your spouse the most important part of your world again. Settle into a routine of a weekly date night!
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January 20, 2020
How to Stop Liking Someone | 5 Simple Tactics
Have you ever jumped into a hot tub only to have the water spill over the edge? This is called displacement. That water spilling over the edge will never make it back into the hot tub���or it shouldn���t unless you allow it to return.
We���ve all been there. Crushing on some guy or gal that we shouldn���t be. He is married, a player or simply a lousy fit. He only calls you when he wants to get laid or he borrows money from you all the time but never pays you back.
Heck, I���ve gotten questions from women with all the above issues and it was long distance to boot!
Stop the madness. Learn the ways to stop liking someone that has no place taking up space in your life and brain.
Displacement
Take the time that you are spending with him or thinking about him and fill it up with something you like a lot. Notice, I said a lot. If you fill it by jogging four miles and you hate jogging, you will simply cry about him while jogging.
But if you love horse back riding and you are on the back of an appaloosa ��� then BAM���displacement!
The more time and the activities you can attend, the better you will feel as time works its magic.
Reasons I hate your Ass
You���ll enjoy this one.
Make two columns. On the top left write in bold letters: ���Reasons I hate your ass.���
On the top right, write: ���More reasons I hate his ass.��� I like having two columns the same ����
OK, hate may too strong so go with ���why he���s not a good fit��� if you like.
Start writing. Really think about the hurt you will feel if you continue down this road that your gut, family and friends are warning you about. Look over your list whenever you start thinking about him or he texts you (late night) to join him.
How to stop liking someone – Don���t sit idle
This is when it hits. You���re staying home on a Saturday night when all your friends are out and you start thinking about him again.
Get back out there! Meet new people. Have fun with your friends and go easy on the alcohol. Flirt with new men you meet even if you have little interest. The confidence boost will feel great.
Block him
If you are allowing him to see you on social media, you aren���t letting go. Block him. Make it clear to your friends that you need to let go so they stop talking about him, even if they have nothing good to say about him.
What happens is that just when you begin to heal, he will contact you to say hi and the feelings start to flow again. Take this option away.
And finally ��� Break your routine
Rearranging your day is exciting! It makes you think more. Routines are programmed so you don���t think. Exploring a new Mexican restaurant instead of your usual dig will have you more engaged in the moment.
To stop liking someone means making a conscious plan. It���s like taking Theraflu right when you feel your first symptoms ��� you���ll heal faster!!
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December 8, 2019
Are You Selling Yourself Short in Your Dating Life?
Have you ever had a friend tell you that you are selling yourself short when it comes to men and dating?
I have and it���s pissed off a lot of women!
It���s no wonder relationships fail at the high rate they do ��� people sell themselves short.
Why?
It���s all about self-worth. If you don���t think highly of yourself there is a greater chance that you will pick a mate that doesn���t have much self-worth either. The negative mind reminds a woman of how average she looks, how incapable she is in life and how awful her attitude is.
Is this the right way to go into a relationship?
No. Friggin. Way.
Build Yourself and He Will Come.
I beat this to death in my books and teachings. The man is not the answer. A positive you is! What your mind tells you all day is not reality, it���s the false reality created by a hurtful past.
It���s not your fault. There was no class called ���Life Coaching 101��� in high school or college. So no wonder women choose the stiffs who use them and move on. They expect to get dumped.
It really is pathetic and sad but it so not your fault.
What to do if you are selling yourself short?
Be aware of all the words your inner self is telling you during the day. Be especially aware around the mirror at home. Lose ���I can���t, I won���t, I look like crap, why did I��� type of negativity and replace it with the opposite.
I look great today
I am deserving of love!
Let���s work out
What a beautiful day
I am thankful today for���
Hey, I don���t even care if you don���t believe what you are saying! Just start replacing the ugly with the positive and soon the magic will happen ��� you will believe what you say to be true!
Hocus pocus? I���m afraid not my friend. You see, your mind can be trained. Feed it positive input and out pours confidence. Feed it shit and out pours depression, stress, lack of confidence and yes ��� shitty relationships.
So today is the day to stop selling yourself short! If this is you and would like to delve deeper into how to change this and live a happier life please checkout these two freebies below and my best selling confidence course called ���Comfortable in Your own Shoes.��� ��
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November 20, 2019
Why Online Dating Sucks and Sends Women Running for Cover!
Online dating sucks for a variety of reasons. Fake pics, embellished profiles and guys living in the basement smoking pot with no career hopes are a few reasons.
Then, you get him out only to find out he is a total dirt bag. He’s actually ‘separated’ which means he is in an argument with his wife about his porn addiction and anger issues. Of course, you don’t find this part out until much later.
Basically, men lie because they can get away with it! That means you end up wasting your time with some loser which gets you friggin’ frustrated as hell and you give up. Then, coaches like me get yelled at.
I get it.
Why Online Dating Sucks
But online dating does work for the few women that know how to game the system! The facts don’t lie. Many folks meet and find love online. So how do turn the cards in your favor? You put a plan in place long before you join Match.com or whatever dating site you choose.
I’m the dating coach who games the system for you! And a quarter million books sold says I ain’t jokin’
Your plan arrives on Dec. 6th and is called:
What To Do When Online Dating Sends You Running For Cover
EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO SUCCEED IN ONLINE DATING AND FIND THE MAN OF YOUR DREAMS
If you’re like most of the women who email me, you’re tired of swapping emails with men, only to be ghosted or to meet guys who turn out to be real jerks in person, even though online they seemed really sweet.
I get it and hearing about your painful experiences makes me so annoyed with men!
The issue isn’t with online dating, it’s with not knowing exactly what type of man you’re looking for and then being able to articulate that in a way that weeds out the players.
I want you to have the relationship of your dreams. I want you to meet the guy who will be your dream guy online and in person. I want to help you overcome the frustrations of online dating and meet the great man you deserve!
That’s why I wrote What to Do When Online Dating Sends You Running for Cover!
Inside this book, you learn the skills you need to succeed at online dating, including:
Taking a deep dive into who you are and what you want out of your life
Higher confidence so you can attract that great man who’s just right for you
A deep dive into the male mind to help you understand why men behave the way they do
The best primer ever on building an irresistible online dating profile
Tools to weed out the players and losers
Sure-fire methods to get him offline and on a real date
Now longer will you utter the words, “This is why online dating sucks!”
Look for it Dec. 6th!
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November 19, 2019
Why Is He Texting Me If He’s Not Interested and What to Do
Doesn’t this aggravate the crap out of you? You meet a guy. You like him and you think he might be worth a shot and he likes you too, right?
Well, maybe not.
You don’t know because he blows hot and cold. He keeps you hanging but doesn’t pull the trigger. He keeps texting you but doesn’t ask you out.
Why does he keep contacting me?
You’re on deck
Of course, right? You are his #2. His girlfriend, or wife for all you know at this stage, has been boring him lately, and he’s thinking he might need a break from her. He figures if he can keep you hanging long enough, he can keep his options open.
He’s clueless
I was that guy. I thought I wanted a girlfriend, and I did around the holidays and when I lost my cat Tucker, but then summer came along and my friends wanted to party in Boston.
YEE-HAAA! Relationship Gregg was gone and I was single. Then, I got lonely again. I texted whoever I was ‘sort of’ dating at the time…yep, I was clueless.
Ego
Guys and their egos. Many sense a woman might like them so they keep them around through text even though they are not serious. It keeps what little confidence they have in check.
Why Is He Texting Me If He’s Not Interested and What to Do
So how do you handle his ass?
Confront him
Get in his face! Text him. Call him on the phone and be crystal clear about where you stand. Do it in a way that fits your style, but do it!
Tell him to stop texting you unless he is serious. Then, tell him that his window of opportunity is quickly closing. Smile if you want as the words roll off your tongue but tell him!
You are a high-value woman and a high-value woman waits for no man who can’t make up his mind about what he wants within a reasonable time frame.
Forget the “Oh he will come around” or, “Maybe I need to change a few things to draw him in” crap.
Screw him! Time is too precious and there are too many great men out there to be bothered by some guy you hardly know that keeps texting you when he’s not interested.
I am amazed at how much time wonderful women waste on guys who aren’t even in their league.
Learn How to Stop Dating Losers
Have you had your heart broken by a user or player?
The book to end that heartbreak is here! Players beware! I am teaching women how to sniff out those users, as well as the couch potatoes and losers! THE book to end the player’s game is finally here!
With over 250K books sold, Gregg Michaelsen dominates the dating advice world by offering easy-to-follow, game-changing advice. Just read the reviews above!
Buy Kindle Version
Buy Audible Version
Buy Print Version
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Why Is He Texting Me If He���s Not Interested and What to Do
Doesn���t this aggravate the crap out of you? You meet a guy. You like him and you think he might be worth a shot and he likes you too, right?
Well, maybe not.
You don���t know because he blows hot and cold. He keeps you hanging but doesn���t pull the trigger. He keeps texting you but doesn���t ask you out.
Why does he keep contacting me?
You���re on deck
Of course, right? You are his #2. His girlfriend, or wife for all you know at this stage, has been boring him lately, and he���s thinking he might need a break from her. He figures if he can keep you hanging long enough, he can keep his options open.
He���s clueless
I was that guy. I thought I wanted a girlfriend, and I did around the holidays and when I lost my cat Tucker, but then summer came along and my friends wanted to party in Boston.
YEE-HAAA! Relationship Gregg was gone and I was single. Then, I got lonely again. I texted whoever I was ���sort of��� dating at the time���yep, I was clueless.
Ego
Guys and their egos. Many sense a woman might like them so they keep them around through text even though they are not serious. It keeps what little confidence they have in check.
Why Is He Texting Me If He���s Not Interested and What to Do
So how do you handle his ass?
Confront him
Get in his face! Text him. Call him on the phone and be crystal clear about where you stand. Do it in a way that fits your style, but do it!
Tell him to stop texting you unless he is serious. Then, tell him that his window of opportunity is quickly closing. Smile if you want as the words roll off your tongue but tell him!
You are a high-value woman and a high-value woman waits for no man who can���t make up his mind about what he wants within a reasonable time frame.
Forget the ���Oh he will come around��� or, ���Maybe I need to change a few things to draw him in��� crap.
Screw him! Time is too precious and there are too many great men out there to be bothered by some guy you hardly know that keeps texting you when he���s not interested.
I am amazed at how much time wonderful women waste on guys who aren’t even in their league.
Learn How to Stop Dating Losers
Have you had your heart broken by a user or player?
The book to end that heartbreak is here! Players beware! I am teaching women how to sniff out those users, as well as the couch potatoes and losers! THE book to end the player’s game is finally here!
With over 250K books sold, Gregg Michaelsen dominates the dating advice world by offering easy-to-follow, game-changing advice. Just read the reviews above!
Buy Kindle Version
Buy Audible Version
Buy Print Version
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November 9, 2019
Should I Tell Him How I Feel?
I get the “Should I Tell Him How I Feel?” question all the time from women who are scared to share their feelings with a man they like.
They ask:
“What about the game Gregg?”
“What about the challenge and keeping the mystery you always talk about?”
Or
“Shouldn’t he make the first move?”
I get it. And, yes, I have said those things – so let’s clear things up now.
It’s how you act after you make it clear that matters! If you tell a man you have feelings for him and start texting him to death, lining up dates, and stalking his ex, yes you will chase the horse out of the barn.
BUT,
If you say, “Jim, I’m starting to like your shapely ass”, and back off, amazing things could happen. He will expect you to start texting him a million times and, instead, he is shocked that the opposite happens – you go back to your amazing fun-filled life where you are happy with or without his shapely ass.
Do you see the difference? You bulldoze through the friendship crap and you open the door to love while you create challenge and mystery.
You put the ball in his court to do what he wants with it. If he does nothing, then you try one more time two weeks later, or you move on without any hurt.
Then, you do it again with another man who gets your attention.
Should I Tell Him How I Feel?
The key is developing a vibrant social life so you have these opportunities. Next, have the confidence to tell men how you feel without taking a hit if you don’t get your desired outcome.
Put these two things in place and the rest is easy!
How?
Get your confidence here.
Get your social life here.
The alternative? Wait, wonder and hope he makes the first move.
Flirt endlessly.
Both suck! Get it over with.
Tell him how you feel. I guarantee you will be shocked by the outcome. You’ll find that the guy you thought wanted nothing to do with you wants to grab a pizza this weekend.
And, you’ll feel great about yourself for doing what few women dare try!
Oh, and what’s the worst outcome? He smiles and you never hear from him again? Big friggin’ deal. Stop allowing yourself to imagine the worst outcome and start envisioning the best outcome. In fact, do this with any decision you make.
So, should I tell him how I feel?
The answer is a resounding yes!
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October 7, 2019
The Ultimate Collection of Fall Date Night Ideas for Married Couples
I don���t know about where you live, but in New England, fall is a beautiful time of year and it can also be a very romantic time as fireplaces begin to blaze and the beautiful colors of autumn dance across the landscape.
It���s a great time to get back into the date night habit or start one if you haven���t put one in place. I���ve compiled this list of date night ideas for you and, I���ve even got a free bucket list printable for you to jot down the ideas you���d like to use!
Spend Time Outdoors Together
Find your way through a corn maze together ��� no maps allowed
Date night idea – Go through a haunted house together
Find a local harvest festival or county fair
Make a bonfire and snuggle under a blanket ��� don���t forget the s���mores
Have a pumpkin carving contest
Rake a big pile of leaves and jump into it
Get or make Halloween costumes for a famous pair or couple
Attend a local high school football game on Homecoming night
Go on a hayride ��� evening if possible, for added romance
Visit a local farmer���s market
Camp out in the backyard on a clear night and do some star gazing
Take an autumn walk in the woods
Have a scary movie marathon on Halloween
Do a pumpkin beer tasting night
Find a local Renaissance Festival, dress up and go
Go apple picking
Find a local pumpkin patch and pick your own pumpkins
Have a fall picnic
Three words ��� bob for apples
Make scarecrows out of old clothing or thrift store duds
Have a drive-in movie date
Go on a bike ride together on a local trail
Take a cool night dip in the hot tub
Hire a photographer or ask a friend to do some outdoor fall photos of the two of you
Take a walk in the woods and gather some fall flowers and leaves for an arrangement at home
Go tailgating with friends at a local sporting event
Gather friends for a fun, fall flag football game
Take a hot air balloon ride together
Start a Giving Plate tradition ��� fill a plate with goodies and a note for the recipient to keep the treats, refill the plate and pass it on to someone else
Fly kites
Go to an outdoor adventure park and embark in some risk-taking adventures
Play mini golf before the cold weather sets in (if you get cold weather, that is)
Download your FREE Fall Bucket List Worksheet
Spend Time Indoors Together Date Night Ideas
Go to a used bookstore and find books you can read together during the cooler weather
Stay in and cook a cozy meal together
Bake your favorite gooey baked treat together
Gather some friends and go bowling
Make a Halloween Haunted House with candy (like a gingerbread house)
Start a gratitude journal
Find a hobby you can share or combine hobbies you both have and spend that time together
Set up a hot chocolate bar and invite friends over
Decorate for fall together
Invite friends over and host a chili cook-off
Take a class together ��� photography, cooking, etc.
Light a fire, put on the cozy socks and snuggle with a movie binge and some popcorn
Great date night idea! Breakfast in bed ��� pumpkin donuts and warm apple cider
Create your own fall cocktail together
Learn how to brew your own autumn beer
Host a Halloween costume party for your friends
Pass out Halloween candy to Trick or Treaters���in costume (but don���t scare the little ones)
Find an autumn theme puzzle and spend a chilly weekend in putting it together
Have a Michael Jackson���s Thriller dance move competition
Stay in and watch favorite seasonal cartoons ��� The Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown, etc.
Invite friends over for a board game night or play with just the two of you
Go to a local comedy club together
Visit a local roller-skating rink
Make your own pizzas together
Cook through a recipe book together
Learn more about wines with weekly wine tasting
Go to the theater or opera
Go to a live music venue and hang out with friends
Have friends over for a trivia night
Hang out at a local arcade and play games
Find an area of your lives you want to improve and watch TED talks on the subject
Learn a foreign language together ��� then plan a trip to that country
Have a fondue dinner together
Go rock climbing together
Plan a weekly ethnic food tour with different regions each week
Do a progressive dinner night with friends ��� have a different course at each home
Get your FREE Fall Bucket List Worksheet
Road Trippin���
Take an autumn scenic drive when the leaves are in full color
Do a tour of covered bridges
Tour local wineries
Take a tour of local ghost sites in your area
Visit the Kentucky Bourbon trail and warm up with some great bourbon
Tour an historic town
Find a romantic bed and breakfast and spend the weekend by the fire relaxing
Head to the mountains and watch the sunrise together
Go camping or find a cabin in the woods for the weekend
Revisit your high school or college alma mater and go to a football game
Visit a neighboring town and go antiquing
Oktoberfest ��� local or ��� what the heck, go to Germany!
Spend the day kayaking or canoeing
Visit an art museum, arboretum or science museum together
Travel to see a concert of your favorite group
Take a trip by train (be sure to get a sleeper car!)
Date Night Ideas for Married Couples that Give Back
Build a Habitat for Humanity project together
Volunteer for a local Meals on Wheels or soup kitchen together
Visit a local animal shelter and help with the pets
Go to a local nursing home and play games with the residents
Go to New York City for the Thanksgiving Day Parade
Don’t forget your FREE Fall Bucket List Worksheet
Bring the Romance Back with a Few Hot Date Night Ideas
Strip poker, or strip any game
Do movie night in bed
Get a couple���s massage ��� better yet, give one another a massage
Dance together at home or go out dancing
Plan your future
Start a couple���s journal together
Get all dressed up for a night on the town ��� order in
Read a romantic book together
Share a bubble bath together with candles, wine and lots of heat
Practice your kissing
Write love letters to each other
Snuggle under a blanket fort
Play truth or dare
Two cans of whipped cream = whipped cream fight! How you get it off is up to you!
Start writing to each other in a couples journal
Create a bucket list and start checking off your adventures!
A relationship takes work. But it can be fun work if you know how to go about it and my date night ideas are just what the therapist ordered! My relationship thrives because we make each other our priority. I want to share with you the secrets to bulletproof yours.
Careers, kids, and everyday stress can take its toll on the communication between you. That���s why you need these date night ideas for married couples and what better time to start then fall in America!
Download your FREE Fall Bucket List Worksheet
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The Ultimate Collection of Fall Date Night Ideas for Couples
I don���t know about where you live, but in New England, fall is a beautiful time of year and it can also be a very romantic time as fireplaces begin to blaze and the beautiful colors of autumn dance across the landscape.
It���s a great time to get back into the date night habit or start one if you haven���t put one in place. I���ve compiled this list of ideas for you and, I���ve even got a free bucket list printable for you to jot down the ideas you���d like to use!
Spend Time Outdoors Together
Find your way through a corn maze together ��� no maps allowed
Date night idea – Go through a haunted house together
Find a local harvest festival or county fair
Make a bonfire and snuggle under a blanket ��� don���t forget the s���mores
Have a pumpkin carving contest
Rake a big pile of leaves and jump into it
Get or make Halloween costumes for a famous pair or couple
Attend a local high school football game on Homecoming night
Go on a hayride ��� evening if possible, for added romance
Visit a local farmer���s market
Camp out in the backyard on a clear night and do some star gazing
Take an autumn walk in the woods
Have a scary movie marathon on Halloween
Do a pumpkin beer tasting night
Find a local Renaissance Festival, dress up and go
Go apple picking
Find a local pumpkin patch and pick your own pumpkins
Have a fall picnic
Three words ��� bob for apples
Make scarecrows out of old clothing or thrift store duds
Have a drive-in movie date
Go on a bike ride together on a local trail
Take a cool night dip in the hot tub
Hire a photographer or ask a friend to do some outdoor fall photos of the two of you
Take a walk in the woods and gather some fall flowers and leaves for an arrangement at home
Go tailgating with friends at a local sporting event
Gather friends for a fun, fall flag football game
Take a hot air balloon ride together
Start a Giving Plate tradition ��� fill a plate with goodies and a note for the recipient to keep the treats, refill the plate and pass it on to someone else
Fly kites
Go to an outdoor adventure park and embark in some risk-taking adventures
Play mini golf before the cold weather sets in (if you get cold weather, that is)
Spend Time Indoors Together Date Night Ideas
Go to a used bookstore and find books you can read together during the cooler weather
Stay in and cook a cozy meal together
Bake your favorite gooey baked treat together
Gather some friends and go bowling
Make a Halloween Haunted House with candy (like a gingerbread house)
Start a gratitude journal
Find a hobby you can share or combine hobbies you both have and spend that time together
Set up a hot chocolate bar and invite friends over
Decorate for fall together
Invite friends over and host a chili cookoff
Take a class together ��� photography, cooking, etc.
Light a fire, put on the cozy socks and snuggle with a movie binge and some popcorn
Great date night idea! Breakfast in bed ��� pumpkin donuts and warm apple cider
Create your own fall cocktail together
Learn how to brew your own autumn beer
Host a Halloween costume party for your friends
Pass out Halloween candy to Trick or Treaters���in costume (but don���t scare the little ones)
Find an autumn theme puzzle and spend a chilly weekend in putting it together
Have a Michael Jackson���s Thriller dance move competition
Stay in and watch favorite seasonal cartoons ��� The Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown, etc.
Invite friends over for a board game night or play with just the two of you
Go to a local comedy club together
Visit a local roller-skating rink
Make your own pizzas together
Cook through a recipe book together
Learn more about wines with weekly wine tasting
Go to the theater or opera
Go to a live music venue and hang out with friends
Have friends over for a trivia night
Hang out at a local arcade and play games
Find an area of your lives you want to improve and watch TED talks on the subject
Learn a foreign language together ��� then plan a trip to that country
Have a fondue dinner together
Go rock climbing together
Plan a weekly ethnic food tour with different regions each week
Do a progressive dinner night with friends ��� have a different course at each home
Road Trippin���
Take an autumn scenic drive when the leaves are in full color
Do a tour of covered bridges
Tour local wineries
Take a tour of local ghost sites in your area
Visit the Kentucky Bourbon trail and warm up with some great bourbon
Tour an historic town
Find a romantic bed and breakfast and spend the weekend by the fire relaxing
Head to the mountains and watch the sunrise together
Go camping or find a cabin in the woods for the weekend
Revisit your high school or college alma mater and go to a football game
Visit a neighboring town and go antiquing
Oktoberfest ��� local or ��� what the heck, go to Germany!
Spend the day kayaking or canoeing
Visit an art museum, arboretum or science museum together
Travel to see a concert of your favorite group
Take a trip by train (be sure to get a sleeper car!)
Date Night Ideas that Give Back
Build a Habitat for Humanity project together
Volunteer for a local Meals on Wheels or soup kitchen together
Visit a local animal shelter and help with the pets
Go to a local nursing home and play games with the residents
Go to New York City for the Thanksgiving Day Parade
Bring the Romance Back
Strip poker, or strip any game
Do movie night in bed
Get a couple���s massage ��� better yet, give one another a massage
Dance together at home or go out dancing
Plan your future
Start a couple���s journal together
Get all dressed up for a night on the town ��� order in
Read a romantic book together
Share a bubble bath together with candles, wine and lots of heat
Practice your kissing
Write love letters to each other
Snuggle under a blanket fort
Play truth or dare
Two cans of whipped cream = whipped cream fight! How you get it off is up to you!
Start writing to each other in a couples journal
Create a bucket list and start checking off your adventures!
A relationship takes work. But it can be fun work if you know how to go about it and my date night ideas are just what the therapist ordered! My relationship thrives because we make each other our priority. I want to share with you the secrets to bulletproof yours.
Careers, kids, and everyday stress can take its toll on the communication between you. That���s why you need date night ideas and what better time to start then fall in America!
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October 4, 2019
4 Ways to Bring Out the Hero Instinct in a Man
What the heck is hero instinct? Let me explain.
Many men long to be a hero in everyday life – we live vicariously through the super heroes of our past.�� The reality is that we are pretty safe these days so saving the world probably isn’t going to happen. But we would still like to be a real-life hero with the woman we love or might soon meet.
Have you noticed that almost all men have a hero? In high school, my hero was Bobby Orr, who played for the Boston Bruins. As a kid my hero was Batman, and there were many more throughout my youth.
Today I fantasize about being a hero in everyday life ��� taking out a terrorist or rescuing some elderly person from an attacker. The hero instinct resides in all men.
I sometimes think about what it would be like to be The Terminator!
Sure, the reality is that I might wet my pants and run, but I still want to believe I can be that hero.
It would make me feel great if I were to get treated as a hero sometimes, and if that someone was female, I would be very attracted to her.
How can you use this to your advantage and find a great guy?
Make him your hero!
But your instincts and upbringing say otherwise. You want to give everything to your man and ask for little. You want to take care of him.
I get it, but quite often this attracts the takers and not the heroes.
Find the Right Man by Triggering his Hero Instincts
Compliment Him
Hero instincts get fired-up by compliments, but you must choose the right compliments for them to be meaningful. Tell a carpenter he has great woodworking skills and he���ll think, ���Eh���I hear that all the time.��� Tell him you admire how considerate he is to the people he meets and BAM���hero instinct!
Like everything else I teach you, use compliments sparingly or they lose their impact.
Target your compliments in areas he might not otherwise receive them in, to ensure you���re the only person he���s hearing it from.
Challenge Him
Superman didn���t just show up for anything ��� he showed up when there was no one else who could save the world from evil!�� Do the same thing ��� well, in a 21st century way of course.
Challenge him to a game of racquetball or a hotdog eating contest. Make him ���put on his cape��� and defeat the enemy (the hotdog) or lose the girl.
Ask for Help
Women rarely ask for help, and I don���t understand why. Maybe it���s because you are so independent that you feel you���re all set in life. This may be true but, for the sake of Gotham City, ask him for help!
Guys fix things. It���s what we are built for. Kitchen sinks, moving furniture, mowing lawns, and bathing your dog are ways we show that we like you.
Yeah, it���s not as romantic as flowers and chocolate but it is our way of saving you from the evil world.
Let him help you and trigger his hero instinct so he stays with you and craves more!
Hero Instinct – Make Him Work for You
���Nothing worthwhile comes without a fight.��� These words should be on everyone���s mirror ��� they���re on mine!
Make him recognize that you���re not some ���placeholder girl��� until someone new and better comes along. You are a keeper and to keep you means he needs to stay on his toes!
Do this by keeping and returning to your vibrant social life outside of his.
Here are a few more ways to show that you are keeper:
Break your routine ��� when he zigs, you zag!
Change your look. It���s fun
Stay positive even when the world around you is in a constant state of misery
Be open to all ideas and be open to trying new things
Thrive outside your comfort zone
Take on new hobbies and adventures so you always have stories to tell!
Hero Instinct Conclusion
Most women don���t even understand the hero instinct inside men. If they did, they would lock onto it and keep it alive! The women who understand this concept are the keepers ��� you know, they are the women that always seem to get the guy.
When a man doesn���t feel the hero instinct stirred within, he might start to look elsewhere. And its so simple to stir! It���s almost comical like the marvel comics he still loves.
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