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The Top 9 Reasons to Try Online Dating

Are you having trouble finding a good match? Do you want multiple men lined up at your door, just to have a chance to meet you? Would you like to pick out the perfect guy for you from a gigantic pool of men? Then maybe it’s time to try online dating! Anna here. And no, I haven’t lost my mind. If the thought of online dating makes you shudder, think again. According to statisticbrain.com, 49,250,000 single people in the US have dipped their toes in the online dating pool this year. That’s a big pool. And more than half of them are men! According to Gregg Michaelsen, Boston’s top dating coach and best selling author, it’s “the way of the world.” So keep an open mind, and keep reading to learn more.

Love is in The Mouse

Maybe you have tried online dating before, or maybe you never even considered it. Regardless of your single situation, they key to successful online dating is knowing the RIGHT WAY to do it. In the book, Love is in The Mouse, Gregg Michaelsen covers everything you need to know — your profile, pics, screening out the losers, being safe, and actually going on a date with someone you met online. It’s like having the ultimate Wingman!

The 9 Advantages of Online Dating

Chances are you know at least one person married to or in a committed relationship with someone they met online. Honestly, I can name quite a few! But if that’s not enough, and you still need convincing, here are the top nine reasons to try online dating.

On many sites, men outnumber women by four to one. That’s why many sites are FREE to women.


Online dating gives you options and the power to date multiple men. You can easily fill your bucket with as many fish as you want. If he is wrong for you, toss him back in the pool. If he’s a great catch — keep him!


With online dating you can experiment and meet different types of men than whom you normally gravitate towards. You may surprise yourself, and fall for someone you would not have considered before, but who is perfect for you.


Get a boost in confidence by having multiple options, and multiple men telling you how awesome you are! And if one guy happens to not take interest, it’s no biggie. You have backups waiting in the wings.


It’s just a date. One of many. Both of you know you are just testing the waters with each other, so there’s no pressure (and no settling out of desperation).


With online dating you can learn what attracts you and what you really value in a man. You will also learn what turns you off, and what you don’t want in a man. If your date turns out to be a jerk, you can excuse yourself, and block him from contacting you again.


Online dating keeps you busy, and at the least, you get to go out and have a good meal. And if it’s not a love match, you might still make a new friend.
Guys crave a challenge. With online dating, you become instantly more attractive and desirable because men know they have to compete to win your heart (think The Bachelorette). You become the bait!


When men compete, they are forced to step up their game. Need I say more?

Now that you’re in the know, why not give online dating a try? After all, there’s nothing to lose if it doesn’t work out — and a lot to gain if it does!

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What to do if You are Burned out from Dating

If you’ve been chronically single for a while, you may start to feel like dating is no longer fun. You may even dread it. And who could blame you? The same old places to haunt, the same old small talk to make, and the same old lulls in conversation can get boring and tedious, to say the least. Don’t forget the worry about whether or not he will call or text you for a second date, and all the awkwardness of whether or not he’ll go in for a kiss. And then there is the whole monotony of having to get ready and all dressed to impress, and for what? Just to waste time meeting and having to let down another guy you don’t connect with — or worse, another guy who will eventually bruise your heart?

Tiffany here. Dating burnout is bound to happen at some point, but it doesn’t mean all hope is lost forever. Rest assured, it’s just a temporary setback, and you will get over it, if you know how. Here’s what to do if you find yourself burned out from dating.

Dating Detox

If dating is dragging you down, it’s okay to step aside and check out for a while. Stop being overscheduled and overwhelmed with one date after another. Instead, drive to the beach and enjoy a vacation with your best girlfriends, visit family or your old college roommate for the weekend, or just take a few weeks (or months) to focus on refreshing your outlook with a little me-time.

It’s okay to be alone, and you should embrace the freedom to do what you love, with no strings attached. Take up a new hobby and take your mind off of what’s troubling you. Or find excitement and joy in the little things, like reading a good mystery novel while drinking a Grande Mocha Frappuccino at Starbucks — table for one. You could just veg on the couch in your comfy sweats with a blanket, a bowl of popcorn and your favorite movie — no boys allowed. Take a breather, recharge your batteries, and detox from dating for a while. We promise you will feel much better if you do.

Attitude Adjustment

Think of it this way. When you are sick, you take care of yourself and take the time to rest and recuperate. The same should hold true when you are sick and tired of dating. You may even learn a little something about what you want in a relationship after your dating detox.

Now is the time to make a change for the better. Dip your toes in the dating pool instead of diving right in, and take the time to feel out the situation before saying yes to another date. You may just save yourself from becoming burned out again! Think of the types of men you have dated in the past. Why didn’t it work out? Now count how many dates you’ve been on in the recent past. Did you agree to go out with these people because you thought you had to, or because you wanted to?

Instead of saying yes to every Tom, Dick, and Harry or Tucker, Declan, and Holden, be selective and only say yes when you feel there might be a connection, and when you actually feel like going out! You are not obligated as a single girl to always say yes to a date. With that said, of course, keep an open mind. Some unexpected and not-so-obvious guy may surprise you if you give him a chance, while another who is attractive on the surface may be all wrong for you deep down inside. If you consistently are drawn to a certain type and it never turns out well for you, maybe it’s time to reconsider what is really important and attractive to you in a mate.

Take a break, focus on yourself for a while and don’t be afraid to be alone. Figure out what you want, adjust your outlook and attitude towards men, and dating, in the process. When you decide you are ready to start dating again, you will feel refreshed, renewed and maybe even excited about dating! Being comfortable with yourself and feeling confident and independent is attractive, and it will show. Guys will want to be around you, and you’ll find yourself surrounded by options. And you can choose whom, when and if you are ready.

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The Beginner’s Guide To Online Dating

If I had a dollar for every person I’ve met who found their perfect match online, I could buy myself a cute pair of Jimmy Choo sling-back pumps, and I wouldn’t be the only one with a new pair of shoes. According to a recent survey by the Pew Research Center, online dating is more popular now than ever before. A whopping 41% of American adults say they know someone who uses online dating, while 29% know someone who has married or entered a long-term relationship with someone they met online. It doesn’t hurt that most of the people who use online dating sites in the US are well educated and fairly affluent.

Tiffany here. Face it, online dating works, and there is proven research to back it up.  It’s a great tool for meeting new people, and there really is no reason to shy away from this proven method of dating. Think of it this way, while there are just a handful of potential boyfriends at any given bar or bookstore coffee shop, there are endless possibilities in the cyber dating world. You can have your pick of men online, and you can bet your confidence will sky rocket when you see just how many guys are into you!

Sounds wonderful, right? But, it still doesn’t change the fact that online dating can be scary and intimidating, especially for the beginner. Knowledge is power, and this helpful Beginner’s Guide to Online Dating can equip you with the information you need to get started on this modern path to love.

Online Dating 101

There are many online dating sites to choose from, and it’s up to you to determine which one is the best fit for you. Once you do, it’s time to set up your profile. You want to put your best foot forward, but you may not have a clue how. Here are seven helpful tips and smart rules to follow.

The Photo Dilemma: Sorry ladies, that selfie of you with the giant eyes and pouty duck lips (that got so many likes on Facebook) is not going to cut it. Try to avoid crazy angles that distort your features. Yes, you want a photo that makes you feel beautiful, but if he can’t recognize you when you finally meet, it’s false advertising. Instead, choose a great photo of yourself that actually looks like you, and showcases your awesome personality.


TMI (Too Much Information!): Don’t reveal too much about yourself. Write what you would feel comfortable sharing with a guy you just met at a bar. You wouldn’t empty the contents of your purse on the bar top, so don’t do it online. Give a little something to pique his interest without over sharing. Guys like a little mystery, and besides, you still have no idea what kind of guy he is, so why should he know all about you?


Good To Know: With that said, there is certain information you may want to mention in your profile, like favorite movies, bands, and books, or your interests and hobbies. After all, you want to meet someone you are compatible with, and having these things in common will give you something interesting to talk about on your first date. Write about things you would want your ideal date to respond to.


Keep Your Options Open: You’ve probably heard the old adage, “Don’t put all your eggs into one basket.” It’s been around for a long time, but it is still good advice today. When it comes to online dating, you can’t pin all your future hopes and dreams on one person you’ve just met. He may seem like the perfect guy right from the start, but things don’t always work out in the end. It’s best to line up a few dates and narrow the field as things progress.


Let It Go: If you find yourself just not feeling it, don’t be afraid to walk away. After a few emails back and forth, you should feel some sort of connection. He may be a really nice guy, but if he’s not for you, it’s OK to bow out and stop corresponding with him. You may even find yourself needing a break from dating altogether, and that’s fine too. Sometimes a few weeks are all you need to come back refreshed and ready to try again. Yes, there are duds out there, but there are extraordinary men as well. So do what you need to do, but don’t get discouraged.


Meet Cute (and Safe!): If you do find someone you really hit it off with online, there will come a time to meet face to face. This prospect can be both exciting, and horrifying! He may be a wonderful man, but you need to be safe. Always meet in a public place! This cannot be stressed enough. If he really is the wonderful man you think he is, he will understand.


Hello, Goodbye: If the date just isn’t what you expected, don’t be afraid to call it short. Maybe the sparks you had online just aren’t there in person, or maybe you really just aren’t a good match. And that’s okay. Not every guy you meet is going to be your soul mate. But remember, it only takes ONE. Online dating does work, but it is a process — so be patient.

Is Mr. Right out there, floating on a cloud somewhere, just waiting for you to come along? You’ll never know if you don’t give online dating a try!

Do you need helpful tips to create a dating profile that stands out from the crowd, and techniques to help you weed out the losers and find that extraordinary man you’re looking for? If so, check out Love is in the Mouse! Online Dating for Women: Crush Your Rivals and Start Dating Extraordinary Men by best selling author and Boston’s top dating coach, Gregg Michaelsen.

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Are YOU Putting Your Best Foot Forward?

Hi friends. It’s Kirbie today and I’m frustrated. I don’t know about you, but I am tired of wanting to lose the 10-12 pounds I need to lose. I got hot into exercise at the first of the year. Not because of a resolution – I don’t do those, but because my 3 adult daughters and I all wanted to challenge each other. Sadly, only one of us is still exercising and it ain’t me, unfortunately. I have a half-way good reason, but that’s not the point. Are you putting your best foot forward? I know I’m not!

Last weekend, I discovered a jewel of a show called Fit to Fat to Fit. The idea of this show is genius really. They pair a personal trainer with someone who needs to lose weight. The trainer visits the client and explains how he (the trainer) will be gaining weight over the next four months so he can better understand the plight of the client. The trainers, some of them a tad arrogant toward their client, learn some valuable lessons, but I learned one or two as well.

I’ve watched 3-4 episodes of the show now and what I have taken away from it will hopefully be the motivating factor I need to get moving again – after I recover from this darned bug.

On Day 1 of their working out together, after the trainer has gained upward of 50-60 pounds, he puts the client through a pretty tough workout. This afternoon, I watched a woman who just was really hard to get motivated. At one point, the trainer asked her, “Are you going to give up? HUH? HUH? I know you can do this, but do YOU?”

Her responses, which I don’t recall now, centered around denying her desire to give up. She was determined, although whiny. He pushed her way past what she perceived her limits to be. And here is where I come in. I know, I am certain, I do not push myself to my limits. I’ve had several surgeries on key joints over the last 10 or so years, and it does somewhat limit what I can do, but even still, I don’t push myself.

I need to take some of those workouts I see on PopSugar, the ones I dismiss as “too difficult” and go for it with one of them. I need to stop looking for the workout that looks “do-able” and go for one which looks like there’s no way I can do it – then just kill it.

Here is the difference. If I only choose a workout I can do now, what’s the challenge to my body? Sure, there is some, because I’m just that much overweight, but it won’t challenge me for long. It won’t force me to push myself. I’m 53 this May but that doesn’t mean I’m completely incapable of pushing myself physically.

In another show, another phrase spoke to me. The trainer said “How many times have you said “I’ll start on Monday”? (when it’s Tuesday). That’s me. I don’t know if it’s the Type A who resides within me sometimes or what, but I do the same thing. For some reason, I put it off, using ‘timing’ as an excuse.

So here’s the thing. I’m done making excuses! I’m done finding the workout that is ‘do-able’. I want the workout that’s not do-able. I want to push myself to a point past anything I’ve imagined. I want to be able to say I pushed myself as hard as I could and I did it! I can’t imagine how great that will feel!

I challenge you to do the same. Maybe it’s not a weight loss or strength building workout. Maybe it’s a new job or career challenge. Maybe you can challenge yourself to face a fear. Find a way to push yourself beyond what you perceive your limits to be (but be safe, of course!). At the end of my journey, I’ll try to remember to share with you my “before and after” info.

What’s your challenge? How will you be putting your best foot forward?

Game on!

If you’re really ready for a challenge, get ready for Gregg’s new book, Own Your Tomorrow: 14 Steps to Prepare for Love, due out on Amazon on February 21, and on sale for a limited time for just 99 cents! Sign up for Gregg’s newsletter at the top or bottom of this, or any page to stay informed!

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Little Ways to say I Love You without saying the Words

Tiffany here. Who would have thought three little words could be so huge? You feel it in your heart, but actually saying, “I love you” for the first time can be a tricky situation, and it’s often difficult to know just when the time is right. Say it too soon, and you risk scaring him away. Wait too long, and he may begin to doubt your feelings, and maybe even the relationship. Good news – it doesn’t have to be all or nothing! There are lots of little ways to show your love without ever uttering a word. You can build your emotional bond by letting him know you care through your actions. It’s the little things that count.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Boston dating coach, Gregg Michaelsen tells us men communicate differently than women. While they may not shout their feelings from the rooftop the way we tend to, we need to look closely at the things they do to show us they care. Does he put air in your tires and fill your gas tank before you leave to visit your sister who lives in another state? Does he call and check on you when you have to work late, or bring you your favorite coffee to help you get through a rough day? Does he fix the leg on the antique table your Grandmother gave you, or rub your back when you have a headache? It’s little things like this which prove his love for you. His actions are much more powerful than words. We can do the same with our own little ways to say, “I love you.”

Little Ways To Say I Love You

Keep this list handy for inspiration, and think of your own uniquely sweet ideas which symbolize something special about him, and your relationship.

Always kiss him hello
Leave little notes on his car windshield or bathroom mirror, or sneak them into his pocket
Cook his favorite meal, just for the two of you
Bake him cookies – just because
Bring him breakfast in bed after a romantic evening together
Take the time to get to know, and like, his friends
Take the time to bond with his family
Text or call him once during the day to let him know you are thinking of him
Hold hands whenever you can
Watch the Super Bowl with him, even if you hate football
Wear that red dress he loves so much
Make him a love song playlist, the modern equivalent of a mix tape
If you see something he would love, don’t be afraid to get him little surprise gifts to show he was on your mind, and how well you know him
Make him a handmade Valentine
Laugh at his corny jokes
Cut his hair or shave his beard – it’s actually surprisingly intimate!
Show appreciation when he does something nice for you
Give him the last french fry or bite of dessert
Show up with beer, pizza and his favorite movie if he’s had a rough day
Listen when he needs to vent
Ask him about his day, look him in the eyes, and give him your undivided attention
Cheer him on when he needs encouragement, and be supportive, not critical
Make a big deal of his accomplishments
Try your hand at golf if he loves to play, or a hobby he has a passion for. Who knows, you may develop a new interest!
Compliment him
Send him a letter if you are away and tell him you miss him
You chose him for a reason – don’t try to change him
Go with him to boring work functions
Ask his advice and respect his opinion
Help him with a difficult or tedious task
Back him up when someone puts him down
Three letters — PDA — because you are proud to be with him
Give him a foot massage when you are relaxing on the couch
Tell him when he does something you like in bed
Always kiss him goodnight

Eventually, if all goes well, one of you will finally say those three little words and mean it! But until that moment, treat him the way you like to be treated, and show him you care through your actions.

If you would like more suggestions on things you can do to strengthen your relationship, check out my book, Pennies in the Jar: How to Keep a Man for Life.

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3 Signs Your Boyfriend is Cheating on You

If you’ve ever been suspicious of your man, you may have had good reason to be. According to numerous studies, anywhere between 25% and 72% of men seek a little something on the side — and 70% of women have no idea their guy is cheating! No wonder infidelity is such a hot topic! Especially now, thanks to social media and sites like Tinder, it’s easier than ever to casually hook up with someone, no strings attached. While he may want to be in a relationship with you, he may still want to have sex with someone else. Face it, guys don’t always think with their brains. So how do you know if your guy has strayed? Anna is here today with 3 signs your boyfriend is cheating on you.

He Falls Off The Grid

Does he promise to call you right back and then you don’t hear from him for days? Does it take him hours to return your text when you know he’s not busy and his phone is always attached to his hip? Does he forget to call and check in while he’s on a business trip or out with his buddies for a guy weekend? Does he make excuses like his phone battery was “dead” – and he’s made that excuse more than once?  Does he show up late or cancel plans because he suddenly had to work late at night or got held up? You don’t need to keep tabs on him at all times (that’s a little stalker-ish), but if you happen to notice your guy is MIA more often than not, it’s time to wonder why.

He Guards His Phone With His Life

Most guys keep their phones with them most of the time. But does he take it everywhere he goes — like on frequent trips to the bathroom for example? Does he keep it locked under a password or switch it to airplane mode so you can’t see his incoming texts?  Does he freak out when you so much as touch his phone to move it off the coffee table?  If so, it may be time to do some investigating.

His Friends are All Players (and Hot Girls)

Like Gregg Michaelsen tells us in his best-selling dating advice books, if his best buddies are all players, he is probably guilty of being one himself. Do his friends go home with a different girl each night? Do they all seem commitment-phobic? Do they make lewd jokes about women – and does your guy laugh? Watch him closely the next time he’s with his crew and pay more attention when it’s just the two of you. Does he become a different person when he’s with the guys? Does he talk about other women in inappropriate ways? Is he is flirty with the waitress? Are all his Facebook friends hot girls? All these are clues to watch for!

More Signs Your Boyfriend is Cheating on You

He’s unusually nice to you (I mean excessively, gushingly nice when he’s not normally that way)
He starts bringing you flowers and expensive gifts for no reason (maybe because he feels guilty)
He doesn’t want to go out with you tonight, and then calls you later for a booty call (maybe because he was looking for someone else to take home and struck out)
After hanging with the guys, he crashes at a friend’s house (instead of at your house)
He’s suddenly a neat freak (who is this snappy dresser with the clean apartment, and what happened to that slob you met last year?)
He says he needs a night at home by himself (and then can’t be reached)
He’s on the defensive (why is he snapping at you over nothing)
He’s critical and makes you feel bad about yourself (because he is making comparisons perhaps)
He has some new moves in the bedroom (and wants to try them out with you)
You catch him lying (even tiny ones show he’s capable of being sneaky)

Forget looking for lipstick on the collar. Times have changed, and girlfriends need to be savvier than ever! Female intuition is a real thing so just the fact that you’re suspicious should be a real red flag. Trust your gut girls.

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Quickie Workouts for Women at Home

Hi, Tiffany here to talk with you about some recent statistics I discovered. Did you know the #1 New Years Resolution is to lose weight? This is closely followed by goals like getting organized, enjoying life to the fullest, and falling in love. This shouldn’t surprise anyone. Especially after learning the average person gains anywhere from 5 to 20 pounds over the holidays. Why? Because with an abundance of joy that comes with the season there is also:

An abundance of stress
An abundance parties
An abundance of really yummy food

What can you do if you want to shed those extra holiday pounds? It’s a bit cold outside to go for a run or ride a bike. Of course, you could always bundle up, but all those bulky layers can really slow you down. Besides, you are probably SUPER busy now that the New Year has begun. I know I am! Is it even possible to sneak in a workout during what little down time you have?

Surprisingly, there are quite a few effective workouts for women at home. All of them are simple and painless, and a few may be even fun! Best of all, they each can be done 10 minutes or less. Since experts recommend at least 30 minutes of physical activity a day, strive for 3 or 4 mini workouts spaced throughout the day, or go for the long haul and do a few consecutively in the morning or in the evening after work. It’s true, you don’t have to devote hours at the gym to see results!

Best Workouts For Women at Home

com offers the 10-Minute-Trainer, a total body workout that activates all your muscles groups in just one move — perfect for anyone with a busy schedule. But be prepared to sweat! This workout focuses on your upper body, lower body, and your core, plus cardio, all at the same time. FYI, did you know that best selling author and relationship coach Gregg Michaelsen is also a Team Beachbody coach?
If you have a garage or enough space at home, jumping rope is an awesome workout which increases your heart rate and tones your whole body, plus it can really make you feel like a kid again! Skip yourself slim with the 10-Minute Jump Rope Workout from Fitness Magazine, including the basics to get you started. This workout burns 135 calories fast, and sculpts your shoulders, chest, arms and legs.
Speaking of feeling like a kid again, a mini trampoline takes up very little space, and some can even be folded in half and stored away when not in use. This low stress, high impact workout lets you burn calories the fun way, right in the comfort of your own living room. Some mini trampoline manufacturers like Urban Rebounder even provide their own workout videos.
Of course, you don’t need fancy equipment to get a good workout at home. Simple exercises like push-ups, planks and sit-ups use your own bodyweight as resistance training, and can easily be done on the floor while you watch TV at night. Streaming workouts like The Daily Burn let you watch workout videos on your computer, tablet, TV, or smartphone.

Of course, it’s always more fun to workout with a friend, or boyfriend. Exercising together keeps you motivated and makes things more fun. Of course, sex is also a great way to sneak in some extra cardio! According to Women’s Health Magazine, sex burns anywhere from 85 to 250 calories, depending on how long you spend in the sack. Plus you can also tone your back, butt, abs, and thighs by working up a sweat with your man.

Regardless of what you choose, pick something which matches your physical and time limitations and go for it! Putting it off until there is a good time to exercise means you’ll be stepping on the scale to even bigger numbers – and more weight to lose than you have right now.

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The Top 5 First Date Do’s and Don’ts for 2016

It’s the start of a new year, and the perfect time to talk about first dates. Going out with a totally new guy can be both exciting and nerve wracking at the same time! You can’t wait to hang out with him one-on-one, but all the while, your mind is full of what-ifs and worry. It’s Tiffany today with some helpful advice in this department. I’m here to help you stop stressing with the top five first date do’s and don’ts for 2016!

DO: Be Yourself

The best way to ensure a second date, and possibly a successful relationship in the future, is to be real. Trying to be something you are not, in the way you act AND in the way you present yourself, will only backfire and lead to disaster. Don’t wear a fancy dress and heels if you’re a jeans and boots kind of girl, and don’t say you love skydiving if you’re not prepared to jump out of a plane. It’s as simple as that. If he doesn’t like you for who you are, he’s not the right guy for you.

DO: Be On Time

There’s no such thing as fashionably late. If you are meeting him at 8PM, it does not mean leave the house at 8PM. It means be there at 8PM, or slightly earlier. After 30 minutes, he will probably think you’re a no-show and take off. If he does wait for you, at the least, you’ve been just plain inconsiderate. If it normally takes you two hours to do your hair and get ready, plan accordingly.

DO: Keep Comfort in Mind

On a first date, or any subsequent date for that matter, you want to be able to focus on the conversation, and spend your time enjoying his company and getting to know him better. You don’t want to be distracted by shoes that pinch your feet, no matter how sexy they are. Avoid worrying about things popping out that shouldn’t by choosing your wardrobe wisely. You can look great and still be somewhat comfortable. Remember, you need to be able to walk, talk and breathe.

DON’T: Be Wishy-Washy

If he asks you what you want to do, be decisive and involved. Don’t say. “I don’t know, whatever you want to do is fine.” You may just end up at some freaky movie that scares the crap out of you and eating sushi when you’re allergic to fish. You’ll both end up feeling bad about how the date went if you let him make all the decisions and things go awry. How long can you really keep up appearances? Wishy-washy can get old real fast for everyone involved. Guys tend to like a girl who speaks up.

DON’T: Starve

If he orders steak and you want steak, order steak. If you love pasta, order pasta. Don’t just poke around a side salad and pretend that’s all you need. Guys will tell you there’s nothing more uncomfortable than a girl who won’t eat on a date. Besides, you may end up “hangry” (hungry/angry) if you starve yourself, and that’s probably not the best way to make a good first impression. If you’re worried about a goodnight kiss, keep some gum or mints in your pocket for later.

DON’T: Overshare

Some of us tend to talk a lot when we’re nervous. Let him get to know you, but don’t over share or monopolize the conversation. He does not need to know every last messy detail about your life on a first date. Ask him questions about his job, his friends and family, his hobbies, and favorite bands or TV shows to keep the conversation naturally flowing back and forth between the two of you. Don’t interrupt what he is saying, even if something awesome and relatable pops in your head, it can wait until he’s done.

More First Date Do’s and Don’ts

DO: Put your phone away — status updates can wait
DON’T: Run to the bathroom every five minutes to check your hair and makeup
DO: Pay attention and be a good listener
DON’T: Mention other guys
DO: Offer To Pay or Split the Bill. If he declines, at least leave the tip or pay for the popcorn. If he accepts, be prepared to actually pay
DON’T: Drink too much
DO: Send a quick and casual, “Had a great time, thanks again!” text afterwards
DON’T: Send him a long and intense, “I had the best time, you are the perfect guy for me, I can’t wait to see you again and introduce you to my family and BFFs, how does tomorrow sound XOXOX?” text afterwards and stalk him until he responds

Here’s To A Happy (and Romantic) New Year!

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Taking Personal Responsibility to Find Love in 2016!

I have decided to make 2016 the year for taking personal responsibility! Here’s the thing, though. I need you to join me! It’s never fun to do something like this alone. Just so you know how committed I am to dragging you along, let me show you what I did! I wrapped my truck! Can you believe it? I can’t believe the response I’ve gotten! I park at the mall and when I come out, someone is always waiting to talk to me!

But, I digress…

Big things are in store for us in 2016, I hope you are as excited about this New Year as I am! This is your year to stop the insanity! No more excuses! It’s time to find love – find that one great partner! Are you ready? No? Well, get ready because I’m about to get tough! (And I don’t get tough often!)

You need to make a decision. Do you want to find love or not? I mean really – you have all the tools. I have twelve of the best books on the market covering almost everything you need to know. So why are you not applying my tactics? Nevermind, I know…

“Gregg, it’s hard.”
“I don’t have the time.”
“Online dating sucks, they are all creeps.”
“I’m overweight so I never get chosen.”

Excuses! All of them!

I have a close friend, Peter, who can’t lose weight. I usually stay out of “Gregg the life coach mode”, with my close friends unless they ask but I stepped in the poo last week. Peter is 40 pounds overweight and complains daily about how the gym sucks. He tried another gym and he said the same thing to me.

I couldn’t take it anymore.

I said, “Peter, it’s not the gyms – it’s you. The gym is just a big space with weights and machines which just sit there. They have no personality. You need to do something with them. The refrigerator is very similar – a machine that you need to stock with foods which will keep you thin – but you need to stock it with food which will keep you thin!”

Yeah, I pissed him off – wasn’t the first time, and it won’t be the last.

But do you understand my message? I am holding you accountable this year! I want you to find love, but you need to give it more than just a half-ass effort. Online dating doesn’t suck if you know what you are doing.

Are you screening multiple guys as I describe in Love is in The Mouse?
Are you asking the right questions?
Are you rotating your pics and visiting the site every day so you stay at the top?
Are you casting your net wide?
Are you presenting your best side, both with your profile and your pics?
Did you take my confidence course before you started dating?

If you are doing these things for real then you are tossing out the losers, the couch potatoes and the users! If you are committing to yourself and absorbing my information, then you are having success – you have no choice. The quality guys are there, but they need to see you. You need to rise above the others.

One of the biggest issues I’m seeing over and over is women are picking and hanging onto the wrong guy! STOP IT!

As a single woman who follows my advice, you are surrounding yourself with several men. This helps you avoid falling into a dangerous trap. When you only date one guy at a time, you can immediately latch onto him, thinking he should return the favor. The problem is, he shouldn’t, and why would he anyway? You don’t know enough about him or vice versa. You don’t know if he is emotionally available, dating and totally getting into someone else, or what’s going on in his life which may make him a wet kitten – all things which make him a wrong guy for you.

When a guy isn’t right for you, don’t take it personally, be glad you found out before too much time has passed. Timing is everything. This same thing applies to ex-boyfriends and husbands. If he won’t deal with his alcoholism, hasn’t supported himself for the last 12 years, and/or isn’t divorced yet, lose him! I don’t care if his penis is twelve feet long, you need to lose him and find the man who is right for you.

I say these things because I care for you. We need to step up – all of us! This includes me, in fact let’s make a promise to each other to try harder in 2016.  I am setting new goals and I am going to be there for more of you, more often, with the advice and the motivation you need, but you need to do your part. You need to absorb this information and apply it!

Deal? Awesome!

Hopefully, I am helping you today or maybe, like my friend, Peter, I am pissing you off – that’s your decision to make but my heart is in the right place.

Gregg…your Drill Sergeant.

P.S. If you see me in my truck in the Boston area, (above) give a shout out and say “Hi!”

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Taking Personal Responsibility to Find Love in 2016!

Big things are in store for me and you in 2016. I hope you are as excited as I am about this new year! Are you? You’re not??? Why not? Ohhh, I know, you haven’t found a high value man yet. Why not? Nevermind, the reason doesn’t matter. That’s in the past. Today is the day I challenge you to join me in taking personal responsibility for the future. Are you ready?

First, let me share what I did for you – I wrapped my truck! Can you believe it? I must be the only dating coach brave enough (or stupid enough according to my guy friends) to drive around advertising my man-taming abilities to women!

I digress…enough of nice-guy Gregg – I’m going to get tough now!

You need to make a decision. Do you want to find love or don’t you? You have all the tools. I have twelve of the best books on the market covering almost everything you need to know.

I hear all kinds of excuses from women who say they can’t take the steps in my books:

“Gregg, it’s hard.”
“I don’t have the time.”
“ Online dating sucks, they are all creeps.”
“ I’m overweight so I never get chosen.”

Excuses!

I have a close friend who can’t lose weight. I usually stay out of Gregg the life coach mode, with my close friends unless they ask, but I stepped in the poo last week. We’ll call my friend Peter. Peter is 40 pounds overweight and complains daily about how the gym sucks. He tried another gym and he said the same thing to me.

I couldn’t take it anymore.

I said, “Peter, it’s not the gyms – it’s you. The gym is just a big space with weights and machines which just sit there. They have no personality. You need to do something with them. The refrigerator is very similar – a machine that you need to stock with foods which will keep you thin – but you need to stock it with food which will actually keep you thin!”

Yeah, I pissed him off – wasn’t the first time, and it won’t be the last.

But do you understand my message? I am holding you accountable this year! I am asking you to take personal responsibility for your life! I want you to find love, but you need to give it more than just a half-ass effort.

Online dating doesn’t suck if you know what you are doing

Are you screening multiple guys as I describe in Love is in The Mouse?
Are you asking the right questions?
Are you rotating your pics and visiting the site every day so you stay at the top?
Are you casting your net wide?
Are you presenting your best side, both with your profile and your pics?
Did you take my confidence course before you started dating?

If you are doing these things for real then you are tossing out the losers, the couch potatoes and the users! If you are committing to yourself and absorbing my information, then you are having success – you have no choice. The quality guys are there, but they need to see you. You need to rise above the others.

Choosing Mr. Right

One of the biggest issues I’m seeing over and over is women are picking and hanging onto the wrong guy! STOP IT!

As a single woman who follows my advice, you are surrounding yourself with several men. This helps you avoid falling into a dangerous trap. When you only date one guy at a time, you can immediately latch onto him, thinking he should return the favor. The problem is, he shouldn’t, and why would he anyway? You don’t know enough about him or vice versa. You don’t know if he is emotionally available, dating and totally getting into someone else, or what’s going on in his life which may make him a wet kitten – all things which make him a wrong guy for you.

When a guy isn’t right for you, don’t take it personally, be glad you found out before too much time has passed. Timing is everything.

This same thing applies to ex-boyfriends and husbands. If he won’t deal with his alcoholism, hasn’t supported himself for the last 12 years, and/or isn’t divorced yet, lose him! I don’t care if his penis is twelve feet long, you need to lose him and find the man who is right for you.

Today is the Day for Taking Personal Responsibility

I say these things because I care for you. We need to step up – all of us! This includes me, in fact let’s make a promise to each other to try harder in 2016.  I am setting new goals and I am going to be there for more of you, more often, with the advice and the motivation you need, but you need to do your part. You need to absorb this information and apply it!

Deal? Awesome!

Hopefully, I am helping you today or maybe, like my friend, Peter, I am pissing you off – that’s your decision to make but my heart is in the right place.

Gregg…your Drill Sergeant.

P.S. If you see me in my truck, shown here, in the Boston area, give a shout out and say “Hi!” This has been a huge success! Now, when I walk out of the mall, I have people who want to speak to me!

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