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July 30, 2017
Take Control of Your Relationship By Understanding Men! Part 12: Guys Take Longer to Fall in Love.
I have been answering your emails, every day, and the subject of “understanding men” from a man’s perspective has become very popular.
On February 24th I blogged about the 12 ingredients that go into men. Can you name all 12? You need to know these so you can understand men once and for all.
Today I want to talk about the 11th ingredient – Guys take longer to fall in love.
A while back I met a beautiful woman from Russia in Delray, FL. No, she was not a paid Russian bride or a spy, haha. We spent three wonderful days together, and then I had to leave and go back to my home in Boston. She was bummed. I asked her if she wanted to join me in Boston for the rest of her vacation. She said yes and we had a wonderful time.
I quickly realized that we were not on the same page. I was getting to know her and having fun living in the moment. Unbeknownst to me, she was sizing me up to be a husband and father. Her decision, it seemed, was already made. I was naïve to this, and just having fun getting to know her.
She perceived my invitation for her to join me in Boston to mean that I, ultimately, wanted her to be my wife, because that was her goal.
So what’s the problem here?
Men don’t fall in love like that. We take time.
My Russian girl (let’s call her Alisa) was reading into our relationship differently than I was. I was getting to know her, while she had already determined our fate and anything that did not fit this narrative was a disappointment to her.
The irony?
Because she was moving so fast, I never got to know her for fear of really letting her down! It was easier to just end things. Looking back, sadly, I really liked her but I will never know what might have been.
For more on this exact subject please watch another video with the pros and me at http://bit.ly/2rWQ13K?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss.
In this video you will see resistance from the women on the panel questioning my answer. They can’t possibly know how men feel! In fact, after the shoot the male producer came up to me and quietly said, “You are so right, man!”
Remember also, that my tactics have evolved over my 55 years and are the result of interviewing thousands of men. This is not just “Gregg” speaking.
You see, men live more in the moment than women do. We can’t spot our next relationship milestone if it slapped us in the face.
We are oblivious. Falling in love happens to us when it feels right. Women, on the other hand, seem to look at each positive event as a milestone to advance the relationship.
“I met his family”
“He took me away for the weekend”
“He said he loved me when he was drunk”
“His dog lapped my face – destiny!”
I did all these things with Alisa, (my cat licked her face, no dog) but I was not anywhere near my milestone! She would have been better served to just roll with the weekend and let love happen – if it was going to happen at all. Some women need to live more in the moment, stay happy, and enjoy the process. There needs to be time for both parties to get to know each other before judgement, before the “all in” is declared, and men normally take longer.
That said, some men will take advantage of this time and drag out this period because they have some outside issues and are afraid of commitment. These men are wet kittens and should be avoided. That’s why women should always set reasonable time limits.
So just because he is hitting your milestones does not mean that he is falling in love. My weeding out rules still apply.
So if you feel you have met Mr. Right, don’t push him, relax’ and give him time, and he will come to you!
I can take ANY scenario, pick from the DNA tree (or the conveyor belt to manhood as I like to call it), and solve your problems that you have with men and now you can too!!
Next week, I will discuss DNA Imprint #12 – Men can get bored easy.
Losing weight on Nutrisystem
Gregg
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July 11, 2017
Take Control of Your Relationship By Understanding Men! Part 11: Men Need to Feel That They Can Provide
Relationship communication is easy to figure out when you have an ace in the hole.
Hello, I am Gregg and I am #1 multiple best-selling author and a dating and life coach. I am your ace!
I have been answering your emails, every day, and the subject of “understanding men” from a man’s perspective has become very popular.
On February 24th I blogged about the 12 ingredients that go into men. Can you name all 12? You need to know these so you can understand men once and for all. Please read that blog now
June 20, 2017
Take Control of Your Relationship By Understanding Men! Part 10: Why Do Men Cheat and How to Stop This From Ever Happening!
Take Control of Your Relationship By Understanding Men! Part 10: Why Do Men Cheat and How to Stop This From Ever Happening!
Relationship communication is easy to figure out when you have an ace in the hole.
Hello, I am Gregg and I am #1 multiple best-selling author and a dating and life coach. I am your ace!
I have been answering your emails, every day, and the subject of “understanding men” from a man’s perspective has become very popular.
On February 24th I blogged about the 12 ingredients that go into men. Can you name all 12? You need to know these so you can understand men once and for all. Please read that blog now
June 9, 2017
Take Control of Your Relationship By Understanding Men! Part 9: Men Need to Feel Appreciated!
Relationship communication is easy to figure out when you have an ace in the hole. Hello, I am Gregg, a #1 multiple best-selling author and a dating and life coach. I am your ace!
I have been answering your emails, every day, and the subject of “understanding men” from a man’s perspective has become very popular.
On February 24th I blogged about the 12 ingredients that go into men. Can you name all 12? You need to know these so you can understand men once and for all. Please read that blog now
May 27, 2017
These 6 Things are Killing Your Chances of Meeting a Man!
Meting a man takes work but can be fun! One needs to commit and not just hope someone pops into their life. These six things are ruining your chances:
You compartmentalize your social life.
I see this all the time and I did it once too. Women tend to dedicate one or two nights to meeting a man. She might work all week and then head out on her weekends to rendezvous with her friends. This allows a whopping total of 8 hours to meet a guy. Of this time, she is catching up with the latest news from her friends, further lowering her odds. There are 112 non-sleeping hours in the week to meet men…use them!
Every day, all day, is an opportunity. Meet men getting coffee, grocery shopping, riding in elevators, and at lunch. Yes, it takes a bit of confidence and that’s why I teach it! The more social you become during the day, the easier it becomes to strike up a conversation with a guy. I call this desensitization and it works.
All the wrong places.
I consider most bars the worst place to meet men. Sure, go to bars to have fun but if you want to meet quality men I prefer you patronize wine tastings or charity events. Supporting a great cause gives you something in common and most players are too into themselves to bother giving their time or money to a charity so you are safe.
I’ve said it a thousand times and I will say it again, sign up tonight for a hobby you have always wanted to learn about and go. This kills two birds – you will learn something new which will grow your confidence and you will meet some great people. With any luck, a cool guy will be there too.
Your body language is poor.
Every Saturday night I go out and purposely engage a group of women. They will ask me why are they single and what are they doing wrong. I tell them to spread out and get into groups of twos or, even better, go it alone for few minutes and regroup later. Guys don’t want to approach a bunch of women huddled together like kittens, they need to see an opportunity to approach – give them this opportunity by spreading out and squaring your shoulders towards the room and not towards each other.
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Also, smile at people and laugh together. People are attracted to laughter and positive vibes so throw a few out there.
All talk but little action.
Coaching women brings a few with excuses: “I don’t have the time”, “No one likes me”, or “Gregg, I attract all the losers.” Yes, that’s what happens when you put 10% effort into anything. Don’t say you want a great guy, instead go out and take the necessary steps, time, and strategies to increase your odds. I like to set goals around meeting the guy of your dreams. Why wouldn’t you? Isn’t it one of the most important things in life?
Your screening sucks.
You wouldn’t bring a bad pair of shoes home from the mall would you? No, you would try them on, look at them from every angle and even interrogate your friends about how they look on you. So why do you continue dating any guy that’s cute and breathing? You shouldn’t until he passes all your tests. Until then, date multiple guys until one makes the cut. Some women can’t do this because they have morals. I get that, but you are not sleeping with these men – you are screening potential suitors by dating them once or twice, and having fun. No big deal.
Dating is a chore.
If your attitude stinks then men will pass on you. Embrace the single life! You grow and learn about yourself when you are single. You could be spending the rest of your life with a guy, so why would not enjoy a single stretch? Guys are more sensitive than you think. If they feel your bitterness towards dating, then you will not be showcasing yourself in the best light. Find a wing-woman and have some fun!
If you get these 6 things under control then your outcome will be a forgone conclusion! Fall into one of these six traps and you might remain single, or worse, you could start dating the wrong guy.
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Helping you find a man,
Gregg
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May 17, 2017
Take Control of Your Relationship By Understanding Men! Part 8: Men Love Challenge
Men and women in relationships are easy to figure out when you have an ace in the hole. Hello, I am Gregg, a #1 multiple best-selling author and a dating and life coach. I am your ace!
I have been answering your emails, every day, and the subject of “understanding men” from a man’s perspective has become very popular. Let’s get to it!
On February 24th I blogged about the 12 ingredients that go into men. Can you name all 12? You need to. Please read that blog now
May 9, 2017
Take Control of Your Relationship By Understanding Men! Part 7: The Importance of Status in Our Lives!
Happy Monday and thank you!!
Why am I thanking you? Because you sent my latest book, The 10 Secrets You Need to Know About Men to the moon! In fact, it is sitting at #1 right now in all of the dating books on Amazon! You wrote this book, you told me through our private emails what you needed the most and I responded – I am just your messenger for understanding men. This is your book!
So I’ve kept it at 99 cents for you until Friday May 12th.
For you first timers, I am Gregg, a #1 multiple best-selling author and a dating/life coach.
I have been answering your emails, every day, and the subject of “understanding men” from a man’s perspective has become a very popular subject, so let’s continue!
On February 24th I blogged about the 12 ingredients that go into men. Do you know them? You need to. Please read that blog now
April 29, 2017
Take Control of Your Relationship By Understanding Men! Part 6: Money and Its Importance to Men
Happy Saturday!
Today it’s 80 degrees in Boston and I am a very happy camper to be able to blog to you gals from my deck!
For those of you who are new, I am Gregg, a #1 multiple best-selling author and a dating/life coach.
I have been answering your emails, every day, and the subject of “understanding men” from a man’s perspective has become a very popular subject, so let’s continue!
On February 24th I blogged about the 12 ingredients that go into men. Do you remember them? Please read that blog now
April 22, 2017
Take Control of Your Relationship By Understanding Men! Part 5: Why Men Hide Their Feelings
Happy Saturday!
I’m Gregg, #1 best-selling author and a dating and life coach for women.
I have been answering all your emails, every day, and the subject of “understanding men” from a man’s point of view seems to be what resonates the most.
On February 24th I blogged about the 12 ingredients that go into men. Do you remember them? Please read that blog now
April 14, 2017
Take Control of Your Relationship By Understanding Men! Part 4: Rejection!
Hi Ladies!
I’m Gregg, #1 best-selling author and a dating and life coach for women.
I have been answering all your emails, every day, and the subject of “understanding men” from a man’s point of view seems to be what resonates the most. Even my podcasts with pros like Lorna Poole, Suzanne Oshima and, coming in May, Dr. Allen Darbonne, are about my strategies to understand and get what a woman desires from men.
Everyone, even the pros, want to hear more about my game changing strategies!
On February 24th I blogged about the 12 ingredients that go into men. Do you remember them? Please read that blog now
