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April 8, 2017
Take Control of Your Relationship By Understanding Men! Part 3: Competition!
Hi Ladies!
I’m Gregg, #1 best-selling author and a dating and life coach for women.
I have been answering all your emails, every day, and the subject of “understanding men” from a man’s point of view seems to be what resonates the most. Even my podcasts with pros like Lorna Poole, Suzanne Oshima and, coming in May, Dr. Allen Darbonne, are about my strategies to understand and get what a woman desires from men.
Everyone, even the pros, want to hear more about my game changing strategies!
On February 24th I blogged about the 12 ingredients that go into men. Do you remember them? Please read that blog now
March 31, 2017
Take Control of Your Relationship By Understanding Men! Part 2: Winning!
Hello readers!
Gregg here again trying to be a good blogger.
I have been answering all your emails, every day, and the subject of “understanding men” from a man’s point of view seems to be what resonates the most. Even my podcasts and video summits that I have been asked to do with Lorna Poole, Suzanne Oshima and, coming in May, Dr. Allen Darbonne are about my strategies to understand and get what a woman desires from men.
Everyone is amazed who hears about these strategies!
On February 24th I blogged about the 12 DNA ingredients that go into men. Do you remember them? Please read that blog now
March 20, 2017
A Closer Look At Long Distance Relationships
The phrase “Distance makes the heart grow fonder,” is used by many to console those who may have their doubts about committing to a long distance relationship. However, there are many factors that go into making one work, and each case will no doubt have its own unique qualities that need addressing. In this infographic, we take a look at long distance relationships on a wider scale and provide some interesting statistics to put a little data behind the distant dating game. Read on to find out just how many people are loving from afar, why that may be the case, and what you can do to help ensure your long distance relationship stands the test of time and space.
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March 18, 2017
Young Women and Their Dating Choices
I’m down in Delray Beach Florida for 2 weeks and I am meeting up with a lot of spring breakers and women in their mid-twenties. I wanted to learn more about young women and their dating choices. I am hearing a constant theme as they discuss their dating issues.
Young men have very little motivation for anything!
Of course they must be generalizing or I hope they are. As they brought me along through the night, “Uncle Gregg”, I started to believe them more and more. Guys were being rude, they showed little respect and they just wanted to hookup and would lie about almost anything to do it. Now I know this is spring break to some but many women were mid-twenty year olds out of college and pursuing their careers and facing the same problem. The few men who were respectful and “datable” were quite a bit older, in their late twenties and early thirties.
If you want to learn more about men in relationships go here!
I was aware of this decline. I believe it has a lot to do with technology and the ease of GPS to spot a woman with a nice ass 1 mile away – it’s crazy!
I asked over and over, to the women who really wanted a real man in their life, where they were meeting them. They said “at bars”, where else?”
I then went into my rant about trying to find a man who wants a relationship at a bar is akin to lying in the Florida sun all day without lotion – you’re gonna get burned!!
Young Women and Their Dating Choices
My 2 step plan is better!
1) Start early and develop your story in life.
What’s it going to be? How will you be defined? What will you be exceptional at? Create your vision by brainstorming 50-100 pursuits that you always wanted to do – a bucket list in your twenties. Then, pick 5 and do them! If you are thirty or forty do the same thing! Heck, if you are fifty or sixty, start now!
Here is where you will meet that guy of dreams or at least have a much better chance of doing it. The wonderful bonus is that you might find your future career choice! At the very least you will have fun and meet some new friends.
2) Date a few years older.
I found if women meet and date guys a few years older, say 5 years, they will find a better pool of datable men. Guys seem to hang on to their college years much longer than women. But to do this women must hang out at places that older men hang out at, which brings me back to my point above.
Almost every woman that I said this to, agreed, but out of about thirty, only two were actually meeting men outside of bars and being more constructive in their lives.
Now I realize 21 year olds are just having fun – I get that. Heck, I love bars too. But next year (or this year for many) they will graduate and I wonder how many will heed my advice and slow down the partying and set a more positive and fulfilling course in life.
Regardless, I’m headed back out on “The Ave”, as they call it in Delray Beach Florida, to see if I this old man can change some young lives for the better – wish me luck!!
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March 10, 2017
How to Stop Being so Emotional in a Relationship
Houston, we have an emotional problem!
Imagine if the Apollo 13 astronauts broke down and began yelling and screaming at each other while their chances of returning to earth alive dwindled? They needed every second they had to work out their power issues with ground control.
They did it! They worked through their issues, found a solution, and lived to tell the world about.
Let’s look how emotions can ruin our relationships on earth. How many times have you unloaded on your boyfriend and later regretted the outburst? I know I have felt bad after cutting off a driver and then following up with my middle finger! I felt like a loser. I felt even more of a loser when I find out the driver was 75 and I almost gave her a heart attack.
Learning to deal with life’s curve balls logically, without all the emotions is a much better plan. I like to count to 10 and take 2 huge breathes before I do or say anything. It works! I have also learned (if I have the time) if I can write the problem down and examine the source of my toxic emotions, I am better armed to deal with it in a logical manner. The time spent thinking, diffuses my emotions and helps me think clear.
I now know that the person who is on the receiving end of my rant might never look at me the same again. He or she might never compromise on the issue because I was so “over the top.” This means handling situations with emotion instead of logically and realistically becomes a lose/lose situation. People want win/win solutions to their problems and arguments.
Of course, bottling up your emotions can be problematic too, especially if you are a guy. Guys tend to keep things to themselves. Women naturally lead with their emotions so what are they to do? Bottle them up also?
Try channeling your emotions elsewhere.
Go for a 3 mile run. Kick box the crap out of a punching bag. Call your mom or call your girlfriend and let your emotions fly! They will listen and understand. Guy’s won’t. Guy’s will want to fix your problem or, if the outburst is directed towards them, they will retreat. But if you blow off some steam to your friends first, you might find you are ready to face your issue logically and realistically.
Try it.
Heavy destructive emotions directed at a lover slowly break down the relationship like melting snow in spring – don’t let this happen. Instead, listen to other person and be open to discussion while checking your attitude at the door.
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March 3, 2017
Lessons Learned about Women from My Dating Years
I thought it might be fun to look back and reminisce about some lessons learned about women that I have acquired through my dating experiences. I asked a few of my male readers too. Feel free to comment below if you feel you agree or not or you want to toss in some of your own about women or men!
“Don’t try to fix her problems, instead listen and try to understand. She wants empathy.”
“Never question how many shoes she has and if she intends to wear them all.”
“If she has a cat or dog, you better show her that you care as much about them as you do her or you will be toast. If you think you can fake it you can’t – her pet will know.”
“Never have a serious conversation while drunk.”
“Speak in full sentences and never answer with “good” or “sure.” Long complete sentences seem to tell her that you care for some reason.”
“Help her around the house especially with “unmanly” chores like doing dishes, cooking and cleaning.”
“Hug your wife or girlfriend everyday at least once – this will take away any small anger she might be hiding that you don’t know about.”
“Do not re-arrange your co-owned condo or house without first consulting her!”
“Text her back immediately or else you will pay for it later.”
“Make sure she has met all your friends, even the ones you rarely see.”
“Understand that Valentine’s Day is only for women and not men, then make it 10 times more special than you wanted too.”
“Her birthday lasts 61 days. 30 days leading up to it, her actual day, then 30 days after her actual birthday.”
“Your shoes matter too.”
“Don’t mess with her plants.”
“Orgasms remain a mystery – we wish women came with an owner’s manuals.”
“Every woman I have dated seems to like high-end cheese. Maybe that’s just me, but it seems to be a trend.”
“Learn all about wine or you will appear uneducated to her even if you graduated Harvard.”
“Most women have no sense of direction and will get lost in a Walmart even with a GPS.”
“She knows all your pass-codes.”
“A great sense of humor can counter a small penis (This particular advice comes from my friend not me :)”
“Women can multitask like a machine but they know that you can’t so don’t try looking at your phone while she is talking – she will get pissed.”
“Don’t ever compare your wife or girlfriend to her mother. If you must compare make it to a hot 20 something diva.”
“If you have dated for a year or longer you will never get away with a lie – she will know your body language like a shark smells blood.”
“If you don’t know what the 4 C’s mean you are going to learn REAL SOON!”
“And finally, don’t wear that shirt! It looks like shit. Let her pick it out.”
So there you have it! 25 or so lessons learned about women that my colleagues and I put together! I bet you have a few chosen ones for men now don’t you??!!
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February 24, 2017
Take Control of Your Relationship By Understanding Men!
DNA is a Bitch!
Hi Ladies. This is Gregg. And I’m on to something big! I want to teach you how to Take Control of Your Relationship.
I’ve been studying men more and more because you have been asking more and more questions. I’ve been at the bars on Saturday nights and in the workplace trenches getting down and dirty to find and bring you answers.
My findings have suggested that everything that guides a man and makes him act the way he acts is imprinted on us when we were young and growing up. If we can learn and accept these imprints, then we can use them to take control of your relationship.
The 12 main “DNA Imprints” are these;
We need to win, winning is everything!
Competition is huge
Men fear rejection
We hold in our emotions
Money is very important to us
Status and how we measure up to our peers ranks high
Men love challenge – we need it to win
Men need to feel appreciated
We were taught to sleep with as many women as we can
Men need to feel that they can provide
Guys take longer to fall in love
Men can get bored easy when the challenge and mystery disappear so they seek change
Based on these 12 ingredients that go into men, I have found the formula for women to get what they want out of men simply by approaching him in the language that he understands based on these 12 ingredients.
I call this language “Man Mode.” And I touched upon this concept in “To Date a Man, You Must Understand a Man” which has sold 10’s of thousands of copies and is catching on with more and more media as we speak.
But now I have perfected Man Mode and I am writing the book with all my new findings as we speak.
My new book 10 Secrets You Need to Know About Men | Dating Coach Tells All is filled with examples of everyday situations and then answered and solved with my formula! No more philosophical crap from so-called experts that make you feel good for a minute but won’t work.
The formula for getting what you want from any guy reads like this;
Take the situation + see which of the 12 DNA categories it fits into above + adjust your language or action to your man based on the category and my instructions = get the results that you want!
Sounds simple right? It is and it works like magic!!
Gone are the days of you begging for the ring, wondering where you stand in the relationship or watching your guy ogle at other women!
Take Control of Your Relationship!
Say Hello to solving just about any problem with a quality guy using my formula above! He won’t even know what you are doing – he just knows that he loves you and that he isn’t going anywhere!
The book will hit the streets in 3-6 months. I will keep you posted.
This is gonna be BIG!!
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February 17, 2017
Getting What You Want From a Man
Hi ladies, Gregg here. I want to give you a tip to help you get what you want from a man by communicating in a way that motivates him.
This is a dating advice tip but also can be used in your everyday life.
Let’s face it all day long we are dealing with other people and, like most of us, we want to get something from another person. If you are married you might be looking for affection. If you are single, you may be looking for a phone call or if you are employed you may be looking for a raise. If you have kids, you want them to behave.
So why can’t most of us get what we want? The answer is because we never “ask” from the other person’s point of view. We just come out and state our own needs. We say, “Can you please mow the lawn today, the kids are having a tent party and you have put it off for 2 weeks.”
This is criticizing and almost insulting. I have a better way. Always think in terms of the other person’s point of view. Maybe your husband has been very busy with work or maybe its been raining when he wanted to cut the grass. Try this instead;
“Honey, the lawn needs cutting, if I help you write up your work proposal tonight will that free up some time for you to cut it tomorrow?”
See the difference? You provided something that helps him. Now hubby is much more likely to get it cut because you thought of his needs too. The bonus? You start working together as a team on his project and he will love you for it.
This is powerful stuff! In order to execute this, we simply need to address the other persons needs and not just care about our own.
For more on getting what you want in your dating life and everyday life get my best seller; “Power To Communicate: Get What You Want by Knowing When to Listen and Making Your Words Matter” CLICK HERE!
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December 30, 2016
A New Year’s Message From Gregg
Once again we’ve reached the point when we pause to reflect on the past year, treasure the memories it provided, and look forward with eager anticipation to what the New Year has in store.
As I look back on 2016, I can’t help but think how truly thankful I am for my business, my clients and my staff – and certainly for all of you who read and enjoy my books each day. I’m always thrilled and deeply grateful for your feedback.
Looking ahead to 2017 and all the promise that it brings, here’s hoping for a healthy, happy and prosperous year for us all.
Wishing you your best year yet!
Gregg and the WhoHoldsTheCardsNow Team!
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December 3, 2016
Winning the Game of Teen Life: A Teenager’s Survival Guide
5 DAY FREE TEEN BOOK GIVEAWAY! Winning The Game of Teen Life: A Teenager’s Survival Guide
Hello my readers! Gregg here, and this post is for all the Moms out there with teenagers 13–18 years old.
It has come to my attention, as I read all your great emails, that if I could grab youths early in their development, I could circumvent many of the problems that teens will run into later in their lives.
Financials, self-confidence, peer pressure and bullying just don’t get addressed like they should in high school. As an adult life coach, I spend a great deal of time helping people develop skills which help them live happier, and more successful lives. For many adults, their problems began in their teen years when growing up was brutal. Confidence can hit an all-time low as we try to find our way through life. Failed relationships, tragedies, like the loss of a friend or family member, divorce, bullying and a host of other events in our young lives slowly scratch away at our outer layer of confidence, leaving us feeling unsure of ourselves, vulnerable and incapable.
Grab Your Son or Daughter and Join Me – Let’s Help Them Kick Butt In High School!
I will be their mentor. I will be their protector. This book contains the pieces of the complicated teen-life puzzle that are missing – the pieces your son or daughter needs! Their friends don’t know these secrets and you can’t always be there because you are too busy – but I can help!
In Winning the Game of (Teen) Life, I am going to crank-up the self-esteem for teens before the damage becomes more difficult to undo. I use this book as a launching point, with two workbooks and a journal included for free. These combined tools provide teens with a new identity, a new confidence, a new sense of what is going on around them, and a new ability to walk confidently in hallways which once were dreaded. Teens who follow this program, beginning to end, will find themselves spending less time worrying and more time enjoying the best years of their lives!
Because I am serious about taking on this venture, I am going to give this book away for free Dec 8th through Dec. 12th! During these dates get Winning the Game of (Teen) Life by CLICKING HERE.
My only favor I ask? If you like the book, please review the book HERE. Click a star – and tell me what you think. Thank you!
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