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How Will I Know if He Really Loves Me?

“How will I know if he really loves me…?” Tiffany here. Sorry if you now have that classic 1980’s Whitney Houston song stuck in your head. But really, is there any way to know for sure? It’s not like guys profess their love from the rooftops and gush all over when they see us. They’re not wired that way. And if by chance he does say those three magic words — I love you — well, what then? Words are just words. Does he mean them or is he just trying to appease you, or worse, is he just trying to get in your pants? Some guys are devious that way, and some women fall for it because they are blinded by their own feelings (feelings we proudly show every chance we get, because, face it, we ARE wired that way).

Let’s go back to that song that’s stuck in your head.

How will I know (Don’t trust your feelings)

How will I know

How will I know (Love can be deceiving)

How will I know

How will I know if he really loves me

I say a prayer with every heart beat

I fall in love whenever we meet

I’m asking you what you know about these things

When it comes to relationship advice for women, Gregg Michaelsen knows about these things! This Boston dating coach will be the first to tell you men love DIFFERENTLY than women. It’s pretty much the whole premise of To Date A Man, You Must Understand A Man, one of his best-selling dating advice books. According to Gregg, women ooze love unconditionally, but men don’t love like that.  They don’t generally spill their emotions, constantly confirming their love for us. But that doesn’t mean they don’t love us back. Even if it’s hard for them to TELL us how they feel, they SHOW us, in their own way, through their ACTIONS. We just need to know what to look for!

Solving Your Problems

Does he give you a massage when your back aches? Did he put air in your tires and check your oil before your trip to visit your parents? Does he mow the lawn when the grass gets too high? Did he bring you your favorite pumpkin spice cappuccino because he knew you had a big deadline at work last week?

When guys do these “manly” things for us, they are showing us they care. Now that we know this to be true, we can use it to our advantage. Compliment him on how nice the lawn looks, and show appreciation when he makes sure you are safe. Do this, and he will be showing his love every chance he can!

Protecting You

Does he open the door for you? Does he give you his coat when you’re chilly? Does he walk you to your car and make sure you get home safely? Does he defend you at all costs? Chivalry is not dead! In fact, it’s a powerful way men show their true feelings. He’s not just being a gentleman, ladies. He cares about you! Don’t let his effort go unnoticed.

Socially Announcing You

If he loves you, he will want to introduce you to the important people in his life. He will want you to meet his friends, and he will want you to meet his family. He will share his hobbies with you and invite you to join in. He will update his relationship status on Facebook and post photos of you on his profile page. He will be proud to show you off, and he will be excited about including you in his life.

Sex

Not to go into too many graphic details, but is he a taker or a giver? If he wants to please you just as much as he wants to be pleased, he cares. Simple as that.

Showing his love can rarely be faked. You just need to pay attention to the clues. Actions speak louder than words. So be confident in his feelings for you, even if he doesn’t say those three words right away, or as often as you’d like. You will know.

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Is Your Smartphone Hurting Your Relationship?

According to a recent Baylor University study, phubbing – or phone snubbing – was found to harm relationships, leaving people less happy and less satisfied overall. Phubbing occurs when someone focuses their attention on their phone instead of the people they are with. Hello! It’s me, Tiffany with the latest trending topic on social media and a question for you – is your smartphone hurting your relationship?

The Negative Effect of Phubbing

The study showed that people who are overly attached to their phones tend to have more conflict in their lives, which leads to more fighting and hurt feelings (usually about the phone issue at hand), and can further the damage a relationship.

In today’s fast-paced, technology driven world, people communicate face-to-face less and less often. How can you interact on an intimate level with your face buried in your smartphone? Real connections are either lost or never made to begin with when this happens.

Yes, social media is a great tool to meet new people and keep in touch when you are apart, but when you are with someone in person, there is a detachment that does more harm than good when your focus is on your phone and not your significant other.

Warning Signs You (or Your Partner) Might be Phubbing

Ask yourself these questions:

Is there a phone always within view when you are together
Do you keep yours on the nightstand at bedtime
Is it always on the coffee table when you are snuggling on the couch
Do you need it on the table during dinner?
Does the phone seem to be glued to your hand or your partner’s hand?
Does your partner answer a call or text in the middle of a conversation with you?
Are you distracted, checking your phone or scrolling through Reddit/Facebook/Twitter instead of being present and engaged?
Is your partner never content to just enjoy quiet time together without checking for messages?
Do you whip out your phone whenever there is a lull in conversation?
Does he need his phone to fall asleep?

If any of these behaviors sound familiar, a smartphone may be hurting your relationship.

Alone with Your Selfies

More bad news — that selfie habit can also be damaging your relationship. Posting photos of yourself on social media can alienate the people in your life and make them see you in a negative light. Probably the opposite effect you were hoping for when you snapped that pic of your sexy pout, on your phone camera, and splashed it all over the Internet.

Most people find selfies annoying and narcissistic, especially if you’re always interrupting a good time to take a picture, posting more than once a day, or constantly checking for ‘likes’ and comments. If anything, your man will think you’re insecure. And according to Gregg Michaelsen, Boston’s top dating coach and best-selling author of dating books for women, insecurity is a big turn off. There’s nothing more attractive than confidence.

How to Break the Habit

Smartphone addiction is a real issue, but it’s unrealistic to think you or your partner can quit your phones cold turkey. Smartphones serve a real purpose in regards to safety and convenience, but what can you do when your phone usage goes from practical to obsessive?

Being aware of the problem is the first step. The next thing to do is to set boundaries. Have a face-to-face discussion with your partner about your feelings, and agree upon when it’s okay and when it’s not okay to be on the phone when you’re together. Keep phones off the dinner table and definitely out of the bedroom. And visit stopphubbing.com to break the habit for good — I promise it’s worth the visit for a chuckle and a little insight at the least!

I will admit it. I learned about the dangers of phubbing while scrolling though my favorite news feed. And you’re probably reading this on your phone right now. We all could benefit from a little less screen time, I’m sure! But, if your man loves his cel phone more than he loves you, it’s probably time to hang up.

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How to Deal with a Moody Boyfriend

Women often get a bad rap for being moody, but the truth is, guys can be moody too! We ALL have our moments, but what happens when you have a moody boyfriend? You love him, but are his bad moods bringing you down? Amber is our guest blogger today with some tips to help you deal with your moody man.

When He Pleads The 5th

If your boyfriend seems distant and quiet, he may be struggling to tell you what’s on his mind. Maybe he thinks you’ll judge him or be critical of him, which could be adding to his stress. If you’ve read To Date a man, You Must Understand a Man, you know men and women are drastically different in the way they communicate and love. Women wear our hearts on our sleeves and shout our feelings from the rooftops. Men…. not so much. Make sure he knows you are there for him and willing to listen when he’s ready. Don’t pressure him — just be there, and be kind. Chances are, he will feel better once he lets it all out, and realizes he has someone in his corner.

It’s Not You, It’s Him

Remind yourself this too shall pass. Moods change like the weather, so if his crankiness is too much to take at the moment, don’t feel like you need to carry the weight of it yourself. Go out with your girlfriends, hit the gym, or grab a book and head to the coffee shop – whatever you need to do to decompress. A little space will do wonders for you, and it will give him some time to work through what is bothering him. Just remember – whatever he’s dealing with is not your fault.

Hot and Cold

He loves me. He loves me not. He loves me. It’s hard to tell when your guys is always either hot or cold. One minute he’s all into you, pouring on the affection, and the next minute he’s too preoccupied with his own issues to even notice you’re around. What gives? Think of it this way. You know how guys think about sex 95% of the time? Well, the other 5% they have to obsess about something else. So if it’s not you, what is it? His job? His friends? His team losing the Super Bowl? Whatever is weighing heavy on his mind, chances are he will be preoccupied. Men have a one-track-mind by design, but it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you.

Bring On the Fun

Time alone can be helpful, but time together can also turn his frown upside down. Go ahead and distract him with something fun! Hit the bowling alley or arcade, watch funny YouTube videos or a laugh out loud comedy and cuddle on the coach. You could also spend the day at an amusement park riding the rollercoasters, go for a bike ride together, whip up your favorite meal, put on your favorite song and dance in the kitchen, or just have a good-old make out session. Whatever floats your boats and gets his mind off his troubles!

Know When to Hold ‘em and When to Fold ‘em

We all get moody now and then. If your guy is having a bad day, a bad week, or even a bad month, try to be understanding. As long as he is kind and does not take it out on you (abuse of ANY kind is NEVER okay!), give him love, support, and some space to sort out his feelings. On the other hand, if his moods are getting in the way of your happiness, it may be time to decide weather or not he is right for you. Remember Gregg Michaelsen’s dating advice for women —YOU are the chooser, and can have your pick of guys. Donald Downers need not apply.

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Let’s Talk about Sex in a Relationship

I get a lot of emails from my readers about sex. I answer them all individually but I leave the sex tips to the plethora of books and articles out there. I try to stay above the fray, if you will.

Sex in a relationship is huge! Hook-ups are huge. These things are hard to ignore, and let’s not forget, sex is extremely enjoyable second to – wait for it – nothing! Ok, food, money and good health is up there too but sex is pretty friggin’ awesome when it’s done right (and safely.)

I always say men fail in the bedroom and I try to help my readers understand the need to teach their guy how to please them, but I rarely point out how women fall short with men! Oral sex is not just oral sex. Intercourse is not just intercourse!

In my stupid, horny years I slept with a lot of women (yeah I know) and to this day I remember a few, not because they were beautiful, but because I remember how spectacular they were in the sack. I mean, one woman made my eyeballs spin around the in back of my brain – spectacular!

We can’t ignore the fact that sex is a very important component in all relationships. If you want to keep your guy, you need to feed him filet mignon in the bedroom instead of hamburger helper! Should a relationship be based on sex? Of course not, although many relationships do survive longer than they should because of great sex.

If you are going be a complete Jedi woman, as I teach in all my books, you need to be a master Jedi in the bedroom. This will complete your game, increase enjoyment for both of you 10 fold and keep your guy from ever straying. Can you imagine how many times the two of you are going to hop in the sack, do it in an elevator or join the mile high club if the sex is spectacular? Great sex should also keep a man off the porn sites, unless it includes you.

I am not going to write articles on oral sex and intercourse here, but we do need to address this subject and I have just the guy to help you. His name is Michael Webb and he is Oprah’s love expert who also happens to be a friend of mine. He has coached over ten thousand couples worldwide and is one of the most respected experts in his field. What he teaches is excellent and he does it in a professional way. I strongly recommend what he has to offer. Here is one great example!

I believe this book is a must for any woman who wants to keep her guy and keep him happy! Click the image to check it out!

 

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Women’s Top Questions for Men Answered

Good morning ladies, it’s Kirbie today, and I just finished reading all of the fantastic comments from Gregg’s post, 8 Questions All Men Would Like Women to Answer, and I think we have a few questions of our own, so I speak for us all when I ask these – but please feel free to ask a different question in the comments and we will let Gregg provide us with his “Guy” answers to women’s top questions for men!

Why do we have to conform to you all of the time?

As I was reading the responses to the above blog, what occurred to me was this one question….why do WE have to conform to YOUR personality all of the time? Why can’t you guys bend in our direction? Yes, I realize we need to understand how the male mind works, but it seems as if the end result is “this is how men are, deal with it.” Where’s the give and take?

Why all of the adventure?

I don’t know how many online profiles I have read where the guy wants a woman who is interested in his boating, hiking, biking, workout and golf habits? Many available women past a certain age are most likely divorced and raising children. We don’t have your free time…don’t expect us to be interested in spending every waking moment before we met you adventure seeking. Adventure for us is throwing a dark-colored pair of socks in with lights to see if the whole load gets trashed or leaving the 3-year old alone while we go to the bathroom.

Why do you think we want to hear every bodily function you have?

Seriously. Okay everyone has gas and everyone uses the bathroom, but this is not an open invitation to share those moments with us. Close the bathroom door. At least mute the phone if you absolutely must use the bathroom while we’re talking on the phone, and for heaven’s sake, if you had chili with onions for dinner, start the meal with a Beano.

The 60-minute poop (sorry I know, it’s a gross topic)

When women need to use the bathroom, we go in, we sit down and we go. We don’t, as my mother calls it, “nest”. We don’t take reading materials. We do what we need to do and we move on. Why is this not the case for men? If you want to read Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition, do it somewhere else. Some day, you’re gonna get hemorrhoids from this (true fact) and we’re not rubbing any cream on it for you!

Shoes, socks and belts

Black shoes go with a black belt – and while we’re at it – black socks – not white socks. By the same token, what’s up with this new trend to wear black socks with tennis shoes? Um no. We don’t expect men to be all matchy matchy like women are, but there are a few no-brainers which make you look like you know what you’re doing – and I know some woman in your life has already told you these! I speak for all women everywhere when I say this – “She is right”.

Have you ever ‘swallowed’ – (no not like that) – I mean have you ever tasted semen yourself?

This could possibly eliminate all of the begging men do on this topic. Seriously – it’s not a salted caramel latte you’re asking us to throw back – not even in the neighborhood. While we’re on the topic of sex, if you would leave your penis alone when we’re not around, it might not take so many antics to get you off in the first place.

Boobs – what’s the attraction?

Women’s breasts are functional – placed there to nurture offspring with highly nourishing milk. Nowhere is it written that breasts are for your entertainment. If men got less giddy about breasts, maybe women wouldn’t get harassed so often when they attempt to do what is natural – feed their child. Due to this male obsession, women damage their bodies with needless and sometimes dangerous implants – all in the name of looking attractive to a man. Personally, after 4 children, I’ve got nothing of interest to offer in this area.

Okay, now show me yours

Okay ladies, now it’s your turn to ask your questions! Be sure to put them in the comments below and let’s see what Gregg has to say in response.

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4 Questions to ask Yourself Before You Commit

How do you know if someone is right for you? Sure you’re attracted to him, and you get along great, but if you commit to a relationship you are closing yourself from possibly meeting Mr. Right. If you just aren’t there yet, it’s probably best to keep things casual for now and keep you options open. It’s Tiffany today with 4 questions to ask yourself before you commit!

Is He Your Friend?

It’s true. There is no romantic relationship without that physical, chemical spark. But if you ask happily married couples what their secret is, chances are they will say they married their best friend. When you think back on past failed relationship, chances are you were lovers but never really friends. Think of the qualities you look for in a friend — shared interests and values, mutual respect and trust, appreciation for one another, compatible personalities, and the ability to feel comfortable and happy when you’re just hanging out, spending lots of time together. Do you have that? You may be into him physically, but you can’t be hot and heavy all of time (even if you want to). He may be a good lover, but when it comes down to it, he should be a good friend too.

Does He Communicate?

In any good relationship, you must be open and honest with each other. Conversation by nature is a give and take, back and forth kind of thing! If he is normally a Chatty Charles but shuts down when it comes to certain topics, or if he sits there silently scowling while you are talking, it may be time to wonder why.

He should be someone you can talk openly and honestly with about the important stuff without worrying about whether he is judging you or withholding information. You should trust him with your secrets and he should trust you with his.

On a related note, are your conversations stimulating or do you find yourself bored and yawning, staring into his dreamy eyes? Just like you click in the bedroom, the two of you need to click conversationally. Sure, it’s nice to enjoy some quiet time together now and then, but in the end, you don’t want to be stuck in a marriage with someone who will not or cannot communicate.

Do You Really Know Him?

Trust and friendship take time. You may really want to have a boyfriend or you may really want to be engaged, but make sure you really know the guy before you rush into anything. Don’t let your biological clock blind you! Do you know what he wants for the future (besides you)?

It’s important to make sure you are both on the same page with your relationship. I have more than one friend who married and divorced because one wanted kids and the other did not. Another reason why open and honest communication is so important! According to Boston’s top dating coach, Gregg Michaelsen, a great way to really get to know someone is to meet his family. There is a reason people traditionally “meet the parents” before getting married — It just makes sense! His upbringing has set the foundation for who he is as an adult, and can really be en eye opener. Spend some time with his parents and siblings, and observe him closely. How does he treat them? How do they treat him? What is the family dynamic? Do you like what you see?

Does He Love You?

You know how you feel about him, and it should be obvious how he feels about you. It does not matter if he says he loves you a hundred times a day or not at all. We women wear our hearts on our sleeves but men are different. They show their love through their actions. Is he proud to have you by his side? Is he protective of you? Is he generous? Does he treat you with kindness and respect? One of Gregg’s best dating tips for women is to understand how men love. These actions cannot be faked. When you know, you know. There are lots of men in the dating pool. Don’t settle for anything less than love.

 

Hopefully your answers to these four questions will give you some clarity when it comes to making the decision to finally commit to one man. By now, you should be on your way to becoming an exclusive couple, or staying open to the possibility of finding your one and only one day soon!

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4 Roadblocks which are Keeping You from Love

Hi, Tiffany here. We all want to love and be loved. It’s amazing to feel a real, lasting connection with another person — to be lucky enough to find that someone who makes our hearts race, someone we can actually settle down with for the long haul.  But the road to love can be bumpy, with some serious twists and turns. If we’re not careful, we can lose control or worse, hit a roadblock that completely stops a relationship in its tracks. Best advice? Avoid these 4 roadblocks which are keeping you from love.

#1 Beware of the Superficial

It’s easy to get lost in a superficial checklist of qualities you look for in a partner. But remember, you are not buying a car! A hot body and shiny good looks only take you so far. Stop stressing about things that don’t really matter. So far, you have only dated blonds (because you have thing for Brad Pitt), or guys taller than you in heels. How far has that gotten you?

Physical attraction is important, but did you ever notice how a guy gets more (or less) appealing the more you get to know him? That hunky man who treats you poorly can quickly drop to a zero, while the sweet man who makes you laugh can suddenly rev your engine. Don’t get stuck on a checklist. Instead, open yourself up to new possibilities and see where it takes you. The happiest relationships share fundamental values, compatible interests, and travel deeper than what is on the surface.

#2 Don’t Let Anxiety Hold You Back

Dating is filled with uncertainty, and it can be intimidating. Instinctually, you may feel a bit of anxiety about the whole thing, and start to avoid dating altogether. Or if you are putting yourself out there, you may decide to floor it in reverse once things really get going. Instead of worrying and focusing on the negative, imagine the best-case scenario. Picture the two of you reaching that destination together. Let yourself feel happy. Don’t let worry halt your chances of finding love.

#3 Ditch The Baggage and Travel Light

In To Date A Man, You Must Understand A Man, dating coach Gregg Michaelsen teaches us all about baggage handling. And as usual, it’s is a great bit of relationship and dating advice! The message is simple, and as plain to see as a flashing street sign. Don’t let your baggage slow you down. Remember, men have baggage too, and they find it refreshing when we are honest and unload it right from the start. As long as you keep it light and positive, you should have nothing but green lights ahead. He will, in turn, feel comfortable enough to let you in on his baggage as well. Get it out there and leave it all behind. That’s the best way to start your journey together — traveling light!

#4 Stay on Track and Keep Moving Forward

Many of us get scared when we get too close. That old baggage resurfaces again, and we start making comparisons. We don’t want to get hurt again. We become unsure, or we become afraid to make a commitment. So we put up walls and distance ourselves from love, making it virtually impossible to move forward. Don’t get stuck in your own head. You may think you are protecting yourself from a major disaster, but in reality, you are just preventing yourself from reaching the place where you really want to be. If you’re not open to love, you will never get there. Stay on track, move past the fear, and make a choice to keep your heart open.

There is a lot of dating advice for women out there. Because love CAN be a difficult road filled with obstacles. But the fact is, we may just be responsible for some of those roadblocks. Like a good Driver’s Ed refresher course, sometimes we need a little reminder to avoid the things that get in the way of our happiness. The finish line is in sight — so avoid those roadblocks, and enjoy the ride!

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How to Get Out of the Friend Zone

Tiffany here. You know that cute guy friend you love to hang out with? Maybe you’ve known him forever, or maybe you’ve only recently met. Either way, you get along great, conversation is always natural and easy and you just feel comfortable whenever you are together. He’s your buddy…. your pal…. But, one day your feelings change. Instead of comfortable, you start to feel nervous and tingly around him. You start missing him when you’re not together. And when you are together — face it — you’d rather be kissing than talking. There you are, pining away and harboring this secret crush, stuck in the friend zone with no way out. Fear not, I have a little advice to help you get out of the friend zone.

Sound familiar? You’ve seen it a million times, played out in romantic comedies (think When Harry Met Sally and My Best Friend’s Wedding), best-selling novels (think Bridget Jones’s Diary and everything written by Jane Austen), and countless TV shows (think Monica and Chandler and Ross and Rachel on Friends). And now you’re living it — for real! What’s a girl to do? How do you get him to notice you as more than just a friend?

The Girl Next-Door or Just One of the Guys

Right now, you probably fall into one of two categories. He either sees you as one of the guys (you’re cool to hang out with but too cool to date), or the girl next-door (he loves you…. like a sister of course). Unless he is secretly pining away for you too, and you just don’t know it yet! Whatever the case may be, you can handle it the same way. The bottom line is men are competitive. It’s like this primal instinct. Sometimes it just takes another guy to be interested in you to open his eyes and kick him in the rear. Try innocently flirting with other guys in his presence, and see what happens! 

Keep It a Mystery and Let the Sexual Tension Build

It’s OK to flirt now and then — it’s always nice to get attention from the opposite sex — but it’s NOT OK to throw yourself at guys, or go too far with someone you have no interest in, just to catch attention of the one you want. Also, don’t talk about your love life with your guy friend. Blabbing about recent dates, sexual experiences, and past boyfriends is TMI (too much information)! Keeping it a mystery will only stir his interest (and his imagination)! Don’t be surprised if one day he starts to flirt with YOU. Just don’t take the bait. Where is the challenge if he has you eating out of the palm of his hand? If there is anything we have learned from movies, books and TV, it’s to let that sexual tension build! If you leave him wondering where he stands with you, he will be eating out of YOUR hand instead. Remember Gregg’s dating advice — YOU are in control and YOU are the chooser. Save the gossip and steamy details for your girlfriends.

Proceed With Caution and Let Him Chase You

Your feelings may have changed, but your personality shouldn’t. If you go from the cool, sweet, fun girl to the crazy, obsessive, possessive girl, you may lose a chance at love, and your friendship to boot. Once his interest is sparked, play hard to get. I know it’s a cliché, but there is some truth behind those words! When he asks you to hang out, tell him you have plans. You’re not at his beck and call, and there are other people who want to spend time with you. Ignore his texts once in a while or at least wait to respond. Let him miss you. Guys like a challenge! Follow this dating tip and he will chase YOU!

Act Appropriately When He Has a Change of Heart

When he does have a change of heart and he finally expresses his feelings to you in an open and honest way, things will just feel right. Those natural, comfortable, easy vibes you felt as friends will be that much better with feelings of love in the mix.

And now that he’s caught you, chances are he won’t let go! Couples who start out as friends build a strong foundation which can lead to lasting love. After all, who wants to spend the rest of his or her life with someone who lacks substance? Looks fade, but true friendships don’t. And wouldn’t it be nice to be married to (and grow old with) your best friend?

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How to Make a Great First Impression on a Date

Hi Ladies, Tiffany today. Do you want to know how to spark an instant connection with someone new? Here are some simple to follow dating tips that will help you make a great first impression!

Of course you want to make a great first impression when you meet someone new, especially when that someone is a handsome potential boyfriend. It’s actually easier than you would think! Here are four simple dating tips to help you shine….

Nix The Narcissism

It’s easy to get caught up in a one-sided conversation, where you talk non-stop about yourself in an effort to impress, especially when your nerves take over. Sadly, this tactic will usually backfire, leaving him disinterested, and leaving you wondering why. The next time you meet a new man, avoid the temptation to over-share. Instead of making it all about you, keep the conversation flowing back and forth. Of course, don’t interrogate him with questions. But do encourage him to talk about himself now and then. Respond with genuine interest, and really get to know each other!

Stay Cool, Calm, And Collected

It’s normal to feel a little anxious and jittery on a first date. But don’t let your nerves get the best of you! Take a deep breath, relax and focus on him. Chances are he’s just as nervous as you, so make him feel at ease and the conversation will flow naturally! Speaking of conversation, remember to speak slowly and clearly. Rambling on is a sure sign of insecurity. Men are attracted to confidence, and if he feels comfortable when he’s with you he will want to spend more time with you!

Be Mindful Of Body Language

According to Psychology Today, being in sync with another person is attractive. If you adjust your posture to match his, and follow his gestures, it will make you infinitely more alluring. To establish an instant connection, mirror the tilt of his head, make eye contact, smile when he smiles, and shift your body along with him. We can communication volumes with our bodies! Occasionally lean in toward him when he says something interesting. Keep you feet pointed forward towards him, with your legs uncrossed and comfortable. Arms should be also be uncrossed in a natural position with your hands relaxed and open. And be a bit flirtatious by playfully touching your jewelry or your hair. This is all considered positive body language, a hot topic when it comes dating advice for women!

Keep Things Real

We all know and love Gregg Michaelsen, Boston’s tops dating coach, and best-selling author of dating advice books. If you’ve read any of his books, you know self-esteem is a key issue in his dating advice for women. Gregg reminds us over and over again that we are quality women, and we should never change ourselves for anyone or give up who we are, especially for a man. Don’t lie and say things just to impress a guy. Be open and honest about your likes and dislikes right from the start, and let him get to know the real you, and how amazing you are! If he doesn’t like you for who you are, or if you don’t have anything in common, he’s not a good fit for you anyway! Don’t sweat it. You can have your pick of men, and your perfect match may be just around the corner waiting to have an instant connection with you!

If your new acquaintance doesn’t heed this advice, cut him some slack if he makes a less than stellar first impression. Nerves can get the best of him too, and there may be a great guy hidden beneath all that narcissistic, insecure rambling. Now if he still makes it all about him when you meet again, that’s a whole ‘nother story!

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8 Questions ALL Men Would Like Women to Answer

Gregg here today! Ladies, there are questions all men would like women to answer. I hope I don’t come across as sexist, but these are burning questions men have but, if we work together, I think you can clue us in!

Please choose which you’d like to answer and put your response in the comments (or answer them all!) I’m on pins and needles!

Why so many pairs of shoes?

Ten seems sufficient. Twenty? Thirty? Fifty and sometimes over one hundred? Why? Are you covering up something in your personality?  Often times you won’t even wear them and yet they need to be on display for all to see.

The toilet seat

Isn’t easier to just put down the toilet seat then squawking at us four times a day? We obviously will never learn so why not just put it down yourself?

Your hatred towards our sports teams

We just want to see our four professional teams and a few college games per week. Can’t you enjoy them with us? Instead of telling us to get off the couch, can’t you sit on the couch with us? And why not learn the rules? We will be happy to teach you using the cat laser toy!

The talk

Why must we always be asked where this relationship is headed? Why does it always have to be headed somewhere?  Can’t it just remain right where it is? I don’t know many guys who ask there girl where they are headed. Men just want to enjoy the here and now, can’t women do the same?

Over an hour to get ready?

Why? What goes on in the shower? Your bodies are smaller than ours so why does it take four times as long to get your body clean? Do you really need the ten items in the shower? Pert has a two in one shampoo and conditioner, can’t you use that? Then comes the makeup, the drying and sculpting of the hair, not to mention the clothes being changed over and over again. I was ready an hour and a half ago. Now, I just want to stay in and watch my sports.

Parallel parking

Is there a gene in your DNA which does not allow you to parallel park? You shouldn’t need to purchase a car based on its ability to park itself. Why can’t this be learned without airbag deployment?

Over texting

Why are women’s texts the length of the Gettysburg address? Just tell us that you will be over at 8:30 and end the text there. If we don’t respond, it doesn’t mean we hate you or we didn’t get the text, it means, “OK, see you then.” We are not breaking up. If we are forced to send back a response, let it be one smiley face and leave it at that.

Orgasms

Now this one might not be your fault but why does it take an owner’s manual, three baby goats, and a jester to make you reach an orgasm? Are we that bad in bed? Can’t we just get off more times than you and call it even? Why does it need to be equal? We can look at a glass of milk and have an orgasm – this is not our fault.

Answer these eight questions, and we will change our ways forever! OK, I lied – we’re incapable of change. Just please don’t ask us eight questions back – that wouldn’t be fair!

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