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Ask lunaKM – Getting the Headspace Back After a Break

Dear lunaKM,

I was in a happy D/s relationship with my husband for some time, but because of family problems the D/s part was missing a bit recently. Now that all problems are gone I find it extremely difficult to get back in that headspace I had before. Is there something, that could help me?

-needs headspace

Hi there,

I understand how hard it can be to come back to D/s after a break.

First, I hope you’ve talked with your husband about wanting to get back into the D/s and if he hasn’t taken on his Dom role again then it will be even harder for you to pick up submission again. Approach him about it when he has nothing else going on so that he can focus on you and the concerns you have. Don’t bring it up during bedtime or sexy times. If you have to, schedule it like a family meeting of sorts.

After you’ve talked to him, and he’s back to his Dominant self if you are still having problems, ask him for help keeping you in your place. It can even be a part of your play or a new ritual.

So, once that’s all been established, how can you work to get your headspace back on your own? Well it really does depend on how your submission manifests but some things that might work are mantras, slowing things down, journaling and patience.

Yeah, about that patience thing. You never mentioned how long ago the stress and problems were, but you have to give each of you time to fall back into the comfortable rhythm of the day and your relationship.

Other articles on the site about recovering the headspace:

Regaining Submissive Mindspace through Ritual by nan{SL}

Leaving Work at the Door: How to Find the Mindset Once You Are Both Home

The Things I Carry That Help My Submission by tequilarose

Ask lunaKM – A Disconnect with Submission

Everyone Needs a Break, Right – Do you Break from Submission?

Capturing That Elusive Submissive Mindset

Finding My Focus by tequilarose

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Published on March 11, 2015 07:00

Mentorship Misunderstandings

In the last month or so I have begun to seek a mentor and have been approached about being a mentor myself, a position which I accepted. As these events unfolded, I experienced a lot of flak from the online community – why would a submissive need a mentor if she already has a Dom?

To me the answer was obvious – but apparently the jury was still out when it came to these other people online.

To me there is a distinct difference between what I provide as a mentor (and expect from a mentor) and what my Dominant provides. This does not mean that my Chief is in any way lacking. I just expect different things from the two.

Chief is able to give me a safe place to submit, a loving relationship, guidance and structure in my life, and a fun play and sex life. This is what I expect from a Dominant. As a mentor, I am able to help people learn about different types of BDSM relationships, give insight into my own relationship, make suggestions about things that my mentee can do to improve their submission, and help them through a lot of the challenges that come with entering into the lifestyle. I do not make rules for them, but I can suggest new ways of looking at a situation. I can direct them to research certain things, and provide precautions about particular play activities. I am basically an interactive version of SubmissiveGuide!

Many people online said that they mentored submissives by beating them or causing them non-consensual pain until they were “broken in”. I received one particularly disturbing message of an elderly man offering to mentor me by “Raping me until I learned how to properly submit.” This is not mentoring, this is abuse.

That being said, even outside of abuse, when seeking a mentor it is important you are clear with what you want. Some submissives do go to more trained couples as an aspect of their training, to learn ropes, bondage, how to accept a spanking better. Some submissives, especially those who are unowned, seek someone to be regimented and give them assignments so they can better hone in on their assignments. There is a never-ending list of possibilities. But you need to know what you want before you seek someone out.

I made the following printable chart which you can fill out and send to potential mentoring candidates to ensure clarity on both ends.

Google Document available for download and printing

Name: BDSM Identity: Sub Dom Switch Other

Status: Owned Owned & Collared In a Relationship In-Training Unowned

Dominants Name (if applicable):

I am seeking a mentor: Online In-Person Combination of the Two

Hard Limits:

Soft Limits:

The following chart is based on the following ranking system: 0 – not seeking, 1 – might be interested, 2 – interested in, 3 – require this

There are empty spaces at the bottom to fill in other needs you have.

Activity
Ranking
Notes
Physical Punishment Training (In-Person)

Physical Punishment Training (Online)

Written Assignments

Household Training (tips for cooking, cleaning, etc)

Physical Fetish Training

Mental Fetish Training

General Education Training

Ropes/Bondage Training

Assistance in Finding a Dom

Communication Training

Physical Shape Assistance

Skill Assistance (Erotic Dance, Dirty Talk, etc)

Overcoming Limits (Discussion Based)

Overcoming Limits (Physically Based)

Providing an Outside Perspective

Recommendation of Readings/Articles

General Discussions

Learning New Fetishes

Goren Positions

Transition Instruction Sub to Slave

Transition Instruction Vanilla to Sub

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Published on March 10, 2015 07:00

We all Stumble – Submissive Meditation Monday

Every Monday in March I’m going to try something new and I’d love your opinion in the comments below. If you like the idea I might continue them on a regular (although not every Monday) schedule. I’m devoting Monday’s to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. Today’s topic is about struggling.

It can come upon us suddenly. That realization that you’ve backslid in your journey.

Or maybe it has happened bit by bit for days, weeks or months. You feel less in touch with your submission than you want to be.

This isn’t the time to beat yourself up over where you are now. This isn’t the time to try to figure out when you slipped. Take a deep breath and accept that you are here now and can get back on track.

The first step to getting back on track is accepting that you stumbled. You can not be perfect 100% of the time. You probably can’t even be perfect 5% of the time. The goal is to be your best as much as possible and to continue growing and learning the rest of the time. This includes times you are backpedaling.

You can learn from those moments you’ve lost your submission more than the times you are in focus. Take 10 minutes today to think about the last time you made a mistake or that you lost your submissive focus. What did you learn about that moment? Did you learn that you are not your failures? Because you aren’t. You are not a sum of all the mistakes and loss in concentration or focus. You are more. You are a being full of potential that ebbs and flows through submission.

Your submission is dynamic. It moves like the waves. Let your mental focus flow through you and start rebuilding your positive energy.

You’ve slipped but now you are ready to climb back up. You can do this!

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Published on March 09, 2015 07:00

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

Hi folks,

If you are in an area that follows Daylight Savings, hopefully you remembered to set your clocks forward!

I’m spending a lot of time playing games and less on work this week. I do have work to do this week though and I’m ready to get going on it! I have a bit of dental work coming up week after this and so I’m ready to get the work done before that.

Oh and KnyghtMare spoiled me this week and let me get some new bras and a lovely blouse that should arrive soon! I can’t wait.

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Now for the week in review:
This Week on Submissive Guide

This section highlights the articles posted this week on Submissive Guide and other updates to the blog, if any.

Define Love – Submissive Meditation Monday
What’s My Age Again? Being Little and Growing Older by tequilarose
Submissive Chat Night: Rituals and Protocol
I Will Not Support Your Affair

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Ask lunaKM Advice Column

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Ask lunaKM – What is a Leather Family?

I hear people talking constantly and in profile about being “in a Leather family” or Leather community. My question is simple but I know the answer is not. What does “in a leather family” mean? What is Leather? I know where it started, but what does it mean in today’s BDSM society?
Thank you for your help.

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Dug Out from the Archives

Let’s dig into the archives and reconsider some of the older articles on Submissive Guide that you may have missed.

In 2014: 4 Things You Should Not Put Up With Just Because He’s a Dominant
In 2013: A List of National BDSM Events – Attend One, or Two, or Three
In 2012: What is a Bottom?
In 2011: More Than One D/s Household Living Together by SehAnru
In 2010: by Rayne

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TPOK Minicast 20 – Fetishes

4 Mar 2015, 6:00am GMT

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I Will Not Support Your Affair

I first wrote this on FetLife but I think it’s time I put it here too. Please note that this is just my opinion and may not reflect the views of my contributors or guest authors.

I got a request for advice in my email (I get a lot of those). In it detailed an affair with a married person and a desire to find a D/s relationship within their own failing marriage.

This is a common email for me. Most of the time I send them my standard, I do not support cheating and can not help you, email. For some reason I responded a bit more in-depth about how this person can work to repair their marriage and perhaps, just maybe add the kink or D/s they desired. But I also didn’t shy away about telling them that their other relationship was wrong.

And I got a “you aren’t as friendly, supportive, tolerant as you come off online,” response.

You are right.

If you contact me with something I find morally reprehensible I am not going to shy away from telling you so. Why should I be supportive when there are open, acceptable ways to have more than one relationship? You do yourself a disservice if you think that sneaking behind someone’s back makes you happy.

I promote going out and seeking what you need and want in a D/s relationship. I encourage novices to know when to get out and when to stay. I try my best to show you that you do not have to settle. And even if your situation is complex and you feel you have to stay in a non-kink relationship because of x, y and z at least you know what you have and I can try to help you make the most of a difficult situation.

But I will not help you cheat. I will not support your affairs (physical or otherwise). I will not give you ideas on how to go behind your partner’s back to get what you want because you are too afraid, too shy, stuck in a failing relationship or whatever. Cheating is still cheating and I am not going to lower my morals just to make you feel better.

–lunaKM

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Published on March 06, 2015 07:00

Submissive Chat Night: Rituals and Protocol

It’s time again for another chat night here at Submissive Guide. I’d welcome everyone to come on in Tuesday for a bit of conversation. Anything and everything can be discussed. Please come with questions or a curiosity about Dominant/submissive relationships.

Info

When: 03/10/15 @ 8 PM CST – 9:30 PM CST (Not in CST? Find out the time where you are!)

Where: Chat room on the website, or use an IRC Client

Topic: Ritual and Protocol

What is ritual?
What is protocol?
What are some common protocols?
How do you develop rituals?
How do I add them to my relationship?
more…

HOW TO GET TO THE CHAT ROOM

The chat room is attached to this site under the link at the top, or you can click this link here. It will ask for your nickname and then automatically connect you to the chat room. It is open all the time, so if you want to meet some people, hang out in there. I try to be there when I’m at my computer too.

If you use an IRC desktop client you can connect to the server directly. Here is the information you need to find the room:

Server: irc.kink-network.com

Port: 6667

Channel: #submissive-guide

Questions? Let me know. Otherwise I hope to see a lot of you there on Tuesday!

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Published on March 05, 2015 07:00

Ask lunaKM – What is a Leather Family?

Hello Luna

I hear people talking constantly and in profile about being “in a Leather family” or Leather community. My question is simple but I know the answer is not. What does “in a leather family” mean? What is Leather? I know where it started, but what does it mean in today’s BDSM society?
Thank you for your help

kitten

Hi kitten!

That’s a great question and one that has fluctuated and evolved throughout recent history. Since I have not researched leather family history or leather history I can only give you what my thoughts and impressions are as well as what I have picked up from others in my time within the BDSM community. I’ll also include links that I’ve found online that talk about Leather and the Leather community.

First, what does it mean when someone marks on their profile that they are in a leather family? Well, that depends on what people with that in their profile think it means to them. For most I’ve seen it used when a group of people who have a D/s or BDSM relationship with all or most of the others in the “family”. For others, I’ve seen it used as a designation for people who have a similar belief system and opinion on BDSM topics and safety mantras.

But what does it really mean? It means that the people in this family have a mutual respect and protocol within this group. They could have a formal handbook or a verbal by-laws or nothing of the kind. They’ve agreed to function as a family. Here’s the definition from the BDSM Glossary Group on FetLife:

A grouping of three or more individuals in a relationship; usually (not always) living together. Can be organized around any number of relationship structures, including leather, polyamorous, polygamous, or “traditional” family with a daddy, mommy, and age-playing “children.” The structure can be informal and fluid, or rigid and well-defined. Usually headed by a paternal Dominant, male or female. Can be similar or the same to a Clan, Pack, or House, household

Where it came from, in my understanding, is the gay BDSM community. For this, I’d rather defer to the resources that I’ve found that talk about Leather History and its origins. As I said I’m not an expert in this so I’ll send you to these.

Where Can I Find Information on the Leather Lifestyle?

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Published on March 04, 2015 07:00

What’s My Age Again? Being Little and Growing Older

I love birthdays. I love getting presents and even more than presents, I love getting birthday cake. Because come on, birthday cake is awesome and it’s not a birthday without cake. My own personal belief. I remember when I was younger, I kept pondering ways to make my birthday a national holiday. For the most part, getting older hasn’t really bothered me. For the most part. This last year, I turned thirty-two. I have my days where I feel a lot older than that and then I have my days where I feel like I’m nowhere near that. Then, there are days where my biological age kinda screws with my little age.

When those days happen, I question everything. I start feeling that I’m stupid for being little. I get this conversation going inside my head where I tell myself I shouldn’t want to spend my afternoons coloring and watching cartoons. I shouldn’t want to run people over in Build A Bear just to get to that ONE stuffie I MUST HAVE or literally bouncing off the walls or jumping up and down squealing in delight because I finally have my Pinkie Pie. I shouldn’t stomp my foot and pout when I find this super cute bambi shirt but then realize it’s so not in my size. I tell myself I’m too old to act like this. Normal thirty-two year old women don’t want a princess style bedroom that includes pink carpet and a huge white four post canopy bed. They don’t ask Santa for a pony. I’m pretty sure they don’t beg for five pounds of glitter either. But then I have to stop this horrible sometimes never-ending vicious cycle. I have to tell myself that I’m not like other thirty-two year old women, I’m me and part of being me is being little.

This is something that all littles go through. I’ve had several readers email me and specifically ask me this question and I can’t tell you how many threads I’ve seen in several of the little groups on Fetlife dealing with this topic. I wish I could give you a nice and shiny clear answer as how to deal with this struggle, but unfortunately I can’t. I really wish I could because then I could make my life easier as well as everyone else’s. But like in life, it’s all about finding the right sense of balance.

While I’m not working outside the home at the moment, I have in the past and it sucked a lot because I had to put away my little side and be a big girl and it sucked. I felt in a way, I was suffocating, which made going to work that much more difficult. But then I learned how to express a bit of who I really am while disguised as your mild mannered fast food employee. I would wear my hair in pigtails. I’d add ribbons and pretty hair clips. I would wear brightly colored socks. Super frilly and girlie underwear. I would play with the kids’ toys when I had a free moment(we’re not going to discuss how many of those things I would end up taking home with me!). If there was a kid’s night going on, I would get in line to get my face painted. It also helps to have some coworkers who like to joke and play around. If you work in an office, you can always decorate your desk. There’s so many fun things you can get for your desk. If you love Hello Kitty, there are TONS of office supplies you can get. Buy some brightly colored sticky notes and pens. Make the wallpaper on your computer to one of your favorite cartoon characters. Get a fun cover for your cell phone or tablet. Wear fun hair clips, but as long as they’re business appropriate.

If you’re a parent, there’s still things you can do to embrace your little side. While I don’t know exactly first hand about it since I don’t have any children of my own, I have done my fair share of babysitting. I know with kids, you still have to be the responsible authoritarian, there’s no reason you can’t let your little out. Maybe you and your child have some of the same favorite cartoons, board games, and picture books in common. If you have favorite items from your childhood, how much fun would it be to share those with your children? There’s always trips to the park, toy stores, and zoos where you can express yourself. Yes, maybe other adults may think your behavior is inappropriate and turn their noses up at you, but you’re bonding with your child, having lots of fun together, and making some fantastic memories in the progress. If you don’t have any children of your own, there’s nothing wrong with playing aunt or uncle to the children of your friends or other children within your own family.

Now, as for the whole mental state, when you find yourself thinking you’re too old to be enjoying typical children activities, that one is a little harder. Something that I have found that is a great help is having a support network of little friends who can help you through this. It’s always good to not be alone when you’re struggling and always make sure to let your big know. It’s such a wonderful feeling to get the reassurance you need from your big. And this last point, while it tends to be one of those easier said than done things, but remember, there’s nothing wrong with being who you are. All littles are such amazing and special individuals and it’s something we need to remember.

I want to leave you with this quote from American author Mark Twain. While I had been planning on doing an article on this topic for a while now, I didn’t know how to approach it but then I saw this quote in my inbox and was inspired.

Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind
then it doesn’t matter.

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Published on March 03, 2015 07:00

Define Love – Submissive Meditation Monday

Every Monday in March I’m going to try something new and I’d love your opinion in the comments below. If you like the idea I might continue them on a regular (although not every Monday) schedule. I’m devoting Monday’s to meditation, reflection and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. Today’s topic is love.

Say the word, “love” quietly to yourself right now, a couple of times, listen to the resonance of it, and wonder about what it means. The word love is one of the sweetest sounds in the language. Listen to how soft it is, soft as a glove.

Depending on how you’re feeling at the moment, you may be a bit defensive when you think about love, or you may embrace the opportunity to enjoy yourself. Accept whatever mood you’re in as part of the experience, and experiment with these questions:

When have you known love in your life?
When you think of what love is, whom have you loved?
In your current life, who is it you love the most intensely?

Love wants to permeate you in every way. Let it.

When we associate love and submission, we often see them as a working unit. One can not submit without love. But love can manifest in many ways and romantic love is but one of those ways. You must allow yourself to see all the ways you can love and be loved in submission. Love doesn’t have to be directed at a person, and it might surprise you that the most important love is the love you feel for yourself.

Rise every morning full of love for how your body looks and feels. Enjoy the sensation of being in your skin and caring for your body with a love and devotion that you may have never known before. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I urge you to look in the mirror and behold beauty.

When you love yourself it shines out for everyone around you to see and feel. Love is palpable, it’s something you can spread and share just by your presence.

Love is an emotion. Love is an action. Love is an experience.

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Published on March 02, 2015 07:00

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

Hi folks,

KnyghtMare and I had a wild, sexy romantic week this week and I’m feeling high and happy. This does not promote a good writing regime and so I’ve fallen a bit behind on my writing quota. Hopefully I’ll do a better job this week! Sometimes, when I’ve not worked my hardest I feel troubled about it; but then I remember that I could learn to be lenient on myself. I’m so hard on myself, and I am sure a lot of you are also. My own life teaches me that I shouldn’t hold myself to a level that I can’t uphold. I am human and allowed less stressful weeks. It doesn’t mean I’m lazy, it just means I’m taking care of me.

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Now for the week in review:
This Week on Submissive Guide

This section highlights the articles posted this week on Submissive Guide and other updates to the blog, if any.

Submissive Frenzies by Mistress Steel
M/s in Black and White by charmed blyss
Book Review: The Dom with a Safeword-The Badass Brats by tequilarose

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Ask lunaKM – Detailed Definitions to Save a Relationship

I am married to my Dom and I live him with ask my heart and always to the best of my ability do what he asks of me. I introduced him to this lifestyle and have tried many times to explain the roles we both have that keeps us both wanting to be our best and performing to the best of our abilities. We are falling apart and I’m so broken by the possible end of our relationship. The thing is I do my part 100 and all I ask for is that he respect me and treat me good, I deserve earn and need it. Is there any way you could post an in-depth definition/description of each role. I’ve tried to find it online but can’t and I’m hanging by the very last shredded thread of life trying to keep us together. Please help me my heart is shattered and I’m completely broken and not in a good way.

Celest

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Dug Out from the Archives

Let’s dig into the archives and reconsider some of the older articles on Submissive Guide that you may have missed.

In 2014: What to Do When Punishment Starts to Feel Good
In 2013: Living M/s Book Club – Week 4
In 2012: Research Page: Electrical Play
In 2011: Tina-poLD’s Personal Thoughts on Domestic Service
In 2010: The Myth of a Slut by Slut M

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Next Submissive Guide Chat Night

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Date: March 10th, 2015

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Topic: Ritual and Protocol

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Are there any goals you hope to accomplish within the next year? Are there any from the last year you have not been able to do yet but still want to accomplish?
Are you micromanaged? Do you find you flourish best in a micromanaged environment? Why or why not?
Do you consider yourself dependent on your owner? Is this a positive or negative thing to be in your opinion? Is becoming dependent a goal in your dynamic?
“The eye of the master will do more work than both his hands.” – Benjamin Franklin
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Featured Podcast of the Week – The People of Kink

TPOK Minicast 19 – Does kink mean sex?

25 Feb 2015, 6:00am GMT

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Some people think there are sexual undertones to all kinky play. Others think that it’s only sexual when they are having actual sex. AngelaRae, Eva Morgan and Crazy Heart talk about how they see sex and kink mingling together.

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Published on March 01, 2015 10:00