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751 Secrets of Adulthood with Gretchen Rubin

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“When uncertain about how to proceed, make the choice that allows you to live the bigger life. Step into the future.” – Gretchen Rubin

Intro

On today’s episode I’m interviewing special guest Gretchen Rubin, who transitioned from a successful law career to become a bestselling author, speaker, and happiness expert. She tells me all about how her quest to understand power, money, fame, and happiness led her to write bestselling books like The Happiness Project. In this episode, Gretchen shares her insights on redefining success, embracing change, and living a life aligned with your values. Tune in to explore how you can expand your own idea of success and step into a bigger life!

Highlights:5:15 The inspiration behind Gretchen’s book, Secrets of Adulthood8:30 Gretchen’s origin story12:40 The direction that helped Gretchen leave behind her law training to become a writer16:30 Expanding your definition of success 20:45 Gretchen explains some of Terri’s favorite aphorisms from Secrets of Adulthood24:21 The importance of a deadline 32:00 Parenting kids in a way that gives them independence41:50 Handling uncertainty with graceConnect with Gretchen Rubin

Gretchen Rubin is one of today’s most influential and thought-provoking observers of happiness and human nature. She’s known for her ability to convey complex ideas—from science to literature to stories from her own life—with levity and clarity.She’s the author of many bestselling books, such as The Happiness Project, Better Than Before, and The Four Tendencies, which have sold millions of copies in more than thirty languages.

Her most recent book is Life in Five Senses. She’s also host of the popular podcast, Happier with Gretchen Rubin, and founder of award-winning Happier app, which helps people track their happiness-boosting habits. Gretchen Rubin has been interviewed by Oprah, eaten dinner with Nobel Prize-winner Daniel Kahneman, walked arm-in-arm with the Dalai Lama, had her work reported on in a medical journal, been written up in the New Yorker, and been an answer on Jeopardy! After starting her career in law, she realized she wanted to be a writer while she was clerking for Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O’Connor. Raised in Kansas City, she lives in New York City with her family.

Website: https://gretchenrubin.com/

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I WROTE A BOOK ABOUT BOUNDARIES! Boundary Boss is THE essential guidebook for authentically expressing your desires, setting healthy limits, and bringing more satisfaction, joy, and peace into all of your personal and professional relationships. There are super JUICY bonuses when you pre-order, so what are you waiting for?

TAKE THE BOUNDARY STYLE QUIZ I always say, ya can’t change anything until you become aware of it, so take the quiz and discover your unique boundary style!

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750 The Opposite of Settling with Mindfulness Expert Case Kenny

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“Don’t date to be liked, date to be seen.” – Case Kenny

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On today’s episode, I get to welcome my pal Case Kenny back to the Terri Cole Show! We’re exploring the themes of his new book, The Opposite of Settling: How to Get Everything You Want Out of Love and Life Without Losing Your Spark. He shares how we can redefine relationships to embrace independence, start dating already happy and complete, and find love that amplifies our true selves. If love is a part of your life (and what human could say it isn’t?), then you need to hear today’s episode!

Highlights:3:30 Case’s origin story as a writer6:30 Creating optimism in your life by finding reasons to be hopeful14:30 How love can upgrade every aspect of your life23:20 Why modern dating can be so overwhelming29:50 Advice for people feeling pressure from others over their love lives32:40 Appreciating love even when it ends poorlyConnect with Case Kenny

Case is on a mission to help people live more optimistic, mindful, and authentic lives.Since 2014, he has been writing, speaking, and teaching practical ways to cultivate self-awareness, build confidence, and quiet the overthinking mind. His podcast New Mindset, Who Dis? has resonated with millions of listeners, and his viral red pen writing on Instagram reaches hundreds of millions more. Through his best-selling journals, debut book That’s Bold of You, and live workshops around the world, he empowers people to challenge self-doubt through actionable mindfulness practices and trust that the best is yet to come. In addition to his work with the general public, Case also works with athletes to strengthen their mental resilience through guided mindfulness and journaling, helping them process transitions, overcome mental blocks, and build lasting confidence.

Website: https://www.casekenny.com/

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I WROTE A BOOK ABOUT BOUNDARIES! Boundary Boss is THE essential guidebook for authentically expressing your desires, setting healthy limits, and bringing more satisfaction, joy, and peace into all of your personal and professional relationships. There are super JUICY bonuses when you pre-order, so what are you waiting for?

TAKE THE BOUNDARY STYLE QUIZ I always say, ya can’t change anything until you become aware of it, so take the quiz and discover your unique boundary style!

FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL Instagram is my jam and one of my favorite ways to connect with you. I put out new content there every, single day.

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​​How to Stop Carrying Everyone Else’s Emotional Weight

Well, hello there. Let me ask you something: Are you the person everyone leans on? 

The fixer. The supporter. The one who holds it all together when things fall apart?

If that sounds like you, you’re not alone. 

In fact, for a long time, that was me. And sure, there was a part of me that took pride in being reliable. 

But there was also a part that was utterly exhausted.

Today, I am unpacking what it means to be the emotional go-to in your family or relationships, how that role develops, and how we can start to shift it without abandoning the people we care about or losing ourselves in the process.

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The Role You Didn’t Ask For

For many of us, this role started early. Whether you’re the eldest daughter or, like me, the youngest of four who somehow became the “designated oldest,” the pattern was the same: You became the one people turned to. The one who handled things, listened, and fixed.

It might have felt good at first, being needed often does. For many of us, being a helper is a part of our identity, how we belong, or feel valued. But over time, you may begin to notice the cost: emotional exhaustion, resentment, or feeling invisible. 

But here’s the truth: Belonging that requires self-abandonment is not belonging.

The Identity Trap

Letting go of the emotional go-to role is hard. Not just because others resist. But because you might resist. You might wonder, “Who am I if I’m not the strong one? Will they still love me if I stop fixing everything?”

These are real, valid fears. In my 30s, one of my sisters was going through a painful divorce, and I jumped into action. I paid for her lawyer, went to court, and emotionally carried it a lot. 

When I started to question whether I could keep doing it, my mother said, “You have to get involved. I’m too old for this.” 

The guilt was immense. I felt responsible for fixing everything. And ashamed for wanting to step back.

Eventually, I hit a wall. Financially. Emotionally. Physically. At the same time, I was facing a cancer diagnosis that forced me to prioritize my own life and health. 

That crisis gave me clarity. I could no longer carry everyone else’s weight.

And here’s what I learned: You can be supportive and involved without taking full responsibility for someone else’s situation.

Facing the Fear, Guilt, and Grief

Stepping out of this role might bring up some intense emotions. Fear of rejection. Guilt for changing. Grief for the identity you’re leaving behind.

And yet, you’re not really losing anything. You’re gaining something vital: yourself.

What’s Really Going On: Secondary Gain

Even if the role is overwhelming, there are unconscious benefits to staying in it. We feel important. We stay in control. We get to avoid our own feelings by focusing on others. We get praise.

This is called secondary gain. Ask yourself: What do I get to not face, not feel, or not experience by continuing in this role?

Awareness of these hidden motives doesn’t make you bad. It makes you human. And it gives you the power to choose differently.

Codependency, Enmeshment, and Emotional Boundaries

When you’re the go-to, you might feel responsible for everyone else’s emotions and fear that setting boundaries equals betrayal.

But someone else’s reaction to your boundaries is not your responsibility.

We must expect some resistance from everyone involved. Change is threatening, and we need to give our nervous systems a minute to adjust to a healthier way of being.

Shifting the PatternIdentify the Dynamics: No blame, just clarity. What role do you play? What expectations exist?Define Your Emotional Boundaries: What can you hold? What can’t you?Speak with Compassion and Clarity: Clear is kind. Be direct without being harsh.Prepare for Pushback: Change disrupts the dance, especially with family.Seek Support: Coaching, therapy, or a supportive community (like mine!) can help you stay grounded.

Remember: healthy relationships are not one-sided. You deserve reciprocity. And protecting your peace is not abandonment—it’s evolution.

If this message resonates, I created a free guide to help you start shifting out of emotional over-functioning. Grab it at terricole.com/guide.

And if you’re looking for real support, not just more self-help, join us inside the Terri Cole Membership. We’re navigating these changes together, and there is a place for you.

You don’t have to carry it all anymore.

As always, take care of you.

749 How to Stop Carrying Everyone Else’s Emotional Weight

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“The truth is that their reaction to your boundaries is not your responsibility. You have to be able to do what is right for you and tolerate how other people feel about it.” – Terri Cole

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Are you the go-to person in your family, always fixing, supporting, and listening — but feeling drained? In this episode, we’ll explore how to create boundaries without losing connection, and why boundaries are key to protecting your peace.

I’ll share my own story of stepping out of the “family fixer” role, the pushback I faced, and the identity shift that came with it. You’ll learn practical ways to set emotional boundaries that honor both you and your relationships.

It’s time to stop over-functioning, protect your energy, and build healthier, more balanced connections through clear and compassionate boundaries.

Highlights:6:15 Signs that you might be carrying emotional burdens for others12:30 What are you gaining from staying in the role of the hyper-helper?16:00 Creating your own emotional boundaries19:15 How therapy, coaching, and community can help you stay groundedLinks Mentioned:

Find the downloadable guide I made to go along with today’s episode here.

Sign up for the Terri Cole Membership at terricole.com/tcm

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I WROTE A BOOK ABOUT BOUNDARIES! Boundary Boss is THE essential guidebook for authentically expressing your desires, setting healthy limits and bringing more satisfaction, joy and peace into all of your personal and professional relationships. Purchase your copy now!

TAKE THE BOUNDARY STYLE QUIZ I always say, ya can’t change anything until you become aware of it, so take the quiz and discover your unique boundary style!

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748 How to Stay on Track for Success with Candy Valentino

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“Success, wealth, and freedom are really here for all of us if we’re willing to do the work and implement what it is that we know. ” – Candy Valentino

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I first met Candy when she interviewed me on The Candy Valentino Show, and now I have the pleasure of inviting her on to the Terri Cole Show! She’s an author, public speaker, and business expert who founded her first business before 21. She shares her very own story of creating the life she wanted from humble beginnings and offers some tips to build your financial literacy and help you create the life you want. Plus, she shares some common pitfalls entrepreneurs face and how you can avoid them!

Highlights:3:20 Candy’s origin story5:30 How Candy’s childhood taught her resilience and ambition — by negative example8:15 Why the world needs Candy’s book right now16:30 Avoiding common entrepreneurial pitfalls22:11 The 7 fundamental practices of successful businesses  27:00 Why financial literacy affects more than just your finances37:45 Candy’s biggest boundary struggleConnect with Candy Valentino

From a trailer park on government assistance, Candy Valentino started her business at 19 years old with no degree, no corporate background, and no money. She successfully started, scaled, and successfully exited businesses in service, retail, e-commerce, and product manufacturing in addition to creating a vast real estate portfolio as an investor.

Through her success in business, Candy founded a non-profit charity at the age of 26. She bought and donated a building to the organization. Since then they have saved thousands of lives and Candy has been actively involved, personally raising millions for the charity. During her two and a half decades as a founder, investor and entrepreneur she has been named to Top Business Leaders 40 Under 40, Top 50 Women In Business, Top10 Business Consultants by Yahoo Finance, and was the youngest female to receive the Governor’s Award in Entrepreneurship in Pennsylvania.

Candy was recently selected by Success Magazine as ‘Women of Influence’ and ‘Leaders Who Get Results’ with names like Tony Robbins and Brene Brown. After the exit of her last company, Candy started sharing her real-world business and investing strategies online, gathering an audience of millions.She’s been featured and interviewed in numerous TV, radio, and magazine articles–not only for business and entrepreneurship–but also for her advocacy and philanthropic work, and was recently named ‘Persons of Distinction’ for in Arizona.Candy is a published author and host of “The Candy Valentino Show” featuring in-depth conversations with some of the world’s most successful minds, including Tony Robbins, Daymond John, Ed Mylett, and Heidi Zak, alongside valuable insights drawn directly from Candy’s 26 years of expertise.

Her book,Wealth Habits: 6 Ordinary Steps to Achieve Extraordinary Financial Freedom,hit multiple best seller lists, including topping the Wall Street Journal Best Seller List.Candy is a frequent media guest and highly sought after speaker on topics like business, finance, investing, real estate and building wealth in your personal life.

Website: www.candyvalentino.com

Socials: FB, IG, LI, and TikTok @candyvalentino

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I WROTE A BOOK ABOUT BOUNDARIES! Boundary Boss is THE essential guidebook for authentically expressing your desires, setting healthy limits, and bringing more satisfaction, joy, and peace into all of your personal and professional relationships. There are super JUICY bonuses when you pre-order, so what are you waiting for?

TAKE THE BOUNDARY STYLE QUIZ I always say, ya can’t change anything until you become aware of it, so take the quiz and discover your unique boundary style!

FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL Instagram is my jam and one of my favorite ways to connect with you. I put out new content there every, single day.

JOIN OUR FREE FACEBOOK GROUP Become a part of our powerful community of real love revolutionaries!

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747 Art, Sisterhood + Healing with Stephanie Chinn

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“Sometimes, something meaningful will come up, and sometimes it doesn’t, and that is okay. Art doesn’t have to be meaningful. It doesn’t have to be this deep, philosophical thing.” – Stephanie Chinn

Intro

Today I’m sharing a chat with Stephanie Chinn, an expert on female solidarity and therapeutic arts practice. If you’re always guilty when you spend time on something “unproductive” like art, especially bad art, Stephanie has an important PSA: It’s okay to make bad art. In fact, making bad art is productive. If you want to hear all about that, plus Stefanie’s own journey with addiction and body positivity, today’s episode is for you!

Highlights:3:00 Stephanie’s origin story5:00 All about the new therapeutic art program, “Good Girls Make Bad Art”10:20 How making art heals your nervous system17:00 Combatting burnout and keeping things for yourself as an artist 23:12 The long journey Stephanie has had with addiction and body positivity28:00 The importance of solidarity for women31:00 Stephanie’s own personal boundary struggleConnect with Stephanie Chinn

Stephanie Chinn is the best-selling author and illustrator of her debut book, Here Sister, Let Me Help You Up: Messages of Sisterhood, Self-Care, and Body Love. She is a speaker, artist, and therapeutic arts practitioner whose work centers around reminding women of their inherent worth in a world that often attempts to diminish it. Stephanie recently self-published a guided coloring book, The ART Of Women Taking Up Space, and encourages women to lean deeper into self-expression as a healing modality. he has partnered with organizations such as Adobe and the Geena Davis Institute and has spoken at major conferences focused on women’s mental health, including She Recovers, where she spoke alongside Elizabeth Gilbert.

Website: https://www.stephaniechinn.com/

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I WROTE A BOOK ABOUT BOUNDARIES! Boundary Boss is THE essential guidebook for authentically expressing your desires, setting healthy limits, and bringing more satisfaction, joy, and peace into all of your personal and professional relationships. There are super JUICY bonuses when you pre-order, so what are you waiting for?

TAKE THE BOUNDARY STYLE QUIZ I always say, ya can’t change anything until you become aware of it, so take the quiz and discover your unique boundary style!

FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL Instagram is my jam and one of my favorite ways to connect with you. I put out new content there every, single day.

JOIN OUR FREE FACEBOOK GROUP Become a part of our powerful community of real love revolutionaries!

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The Power of Co-Regulation

Well, hello there. Let me start with a question: When you’re upset, do you feel like you have to manage your emotions all on your own? Do you white-knuckle through tough moments, telling yourself, “I’ve got this,” even when you’re hanging on by a thread?

We hear so much about emotional self-regulation, but not enough about co-regulation. And that, my friends, is where the magic happens. Because the truth is, we were never meant to regulate alone.

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Why We Heal Better Together

Your nervous system wasn’t built for hyper-independence. It’s not designed to heal in isolation. From the time we’re born, we rely on others to soothe us, hold us, and tell us it’s okay to feel whatever we’re feeling. That need doesn’t vanish just because we grow up.

Here’s a grounding you can do right now. To experience it virtually with me, head over to the podcast or YouTube episode where I guide you through it live. Otherwise, keep reading for a short version you can try right here.

Close your eyesTake a deep breath in through your nose… and let it out slowly through your mouth.Drop your attention inward. Ask yourself, “How does my body feel right now?” Don’t judge-just notice.Tune into your senses.What do you hear, right now, in this space?Can you imagine what the room looks like with your eyes closed?Is there a taste in your mouth you can identify?What’s the temperature of the air?Is the surface you’re sitting or lying on hard or soft?

These small check-ins bring you back to the present moment. That’s grounding. And when we do it together, it becomes co-regulation. Even through a podcast, even virtually, we connected, and your nervous system felt it.

This, right here, is the beginning of co-regulation.

What Co-Regulation Looks Like

Co-regulation is when someone else’s calm helps you find your own. It’s not about fixing. It’s about being felt. It’s when someone sits with you and simply witnesses your experience with compassion. It’s when a group takes a deep breath together before diving into something heavy. It’s when your partner says, “I’ve got you,” without trying to make the feelings go away.

In my marriage with Vic, we have a rule: only one of us gets to lose it at a time. When I’m spinning out, Vic grounds, he doesn’t jump on my fear train. He stays calm and says, “It could all work out, Ter.” And that simple presence? That’s co-regulation.

The Cost of Going It Alone

Let me speak directly to my high-functioning codependents out there, those of us who pride ourselves on being self-sufficient to a fault. We’ve been taught that needing people makes us weak. But strength without support isn’t resilience. It’s survival mode.

Hyper-independence might feel noble, but it’s exhausting. Journaling through your trauma in isolation, meditating in a vacuum, endlessly processing your feelings alone, it’s too much. Even joy starts to lose its shine when you have no one to share it with.

Healing Is Biological

Dr. Stephen Porges, the brilliant mind behind polyvagal theory, says, “The way we feel safe is through connections with others.” That hit me right in the gut. I literally choked up recording the podcast. Because I get it. I’m the youngest of four girls, and connection is everything to me.

And while not everyone needs as many people as I do, we all need someone. Someone who can hold the space. Someone who doesn’t try to fix you but instead says, “I see you. I’m here.”

Real-Life Co-Regulation

Sometimes co-regulation happens in the smallest, most unexpected ways. It’s the friend who texts “thinking of you” on a hard day. It’s the coworker who silently slides over a cup of tea when you look frazzled. It’s the moment a stranger offers a knowing smile, and somehow your shoulders drop without you even realizing it. These examples might seem simple, but they communicate something deeply primal-you’re not alone. Your nervous system recognizes that signal and begins to soften, to settle. And in that softness, real healing begins.

When I started running my boundary course years ago, I wasn’t sure if what worked in one-on-one therapy would work in a group. Spoiler alert: it worked even better. Why? Because of co-regulation. The group became a sacred container, a space where everyone could be seen, heard, and supported.

We ground together at the start of every session. We witness each other without judgment. We celebrate small wins, grieve losses, and sit in silence when needed. That shared experience, that unified field of support? That is what heals.

Micro-Moments of Medicine

Healing doesn’t require grand gestures. It lives in micro-moments:

When someone mirrors your truth without flinching.When a win is met with celebration, not comparison.When a friend asks, “How can I support you right now?”When your shoulders drop because you feel seen.

These aren’t emotional luxuries. These are biological necessities. Medicine for your nervous system.

Practical Ways to Invite Co-RegulationStart with Grounding: Use your senses. Feel your body. Breathe.Be the Steady Presence: Hold calm when others can’t.Find Your Community: Spaces like the Terri Cole Membership offer real-time co-regulation.Ask for What You Need: It’s not weakness. It’s strength.Witness, Don’t Fix: Compassion is more powerful than advice.This Is Your Invitation

You don’t have to keep doing it all alone. If your body has been whispering, “I need safe people,” listen. There is space for you. You can borrow someone else’s calm when yours is shaky. You can hold hope for someone else until they can reach it.

Inside the Terri Cole Membership, we practice this every week. We ground together. We celebrate together. We heal together.

Your nervous system deserves rest. Your spirit deserves community. Your healing deserves to be witnessed.

So join us. Let yourself be seen. Be held. Be human. And be celebrated!

Because healing is not a solo job, and you, my friend, were never meant to do it alone.

Check out the Terri Cole Membership or grab your free grounding guide at terricole.com/guide.

746 The Power of Co-Regulation

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“It’s more about being felt than being fixed.” – Terri Cole

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When you are upset, do you feel like you have to manage your emotions on your own? Maybe you don’t need to! These days, emotional self-regulation and co-regulation are hot topics. In today’s episode, I’m gonna be breaking down what these terms really mean and taking a stand for the fact that we were really never meant to regulate alone. 

It’s such a powerful process to be with other people and have the ability to co-regulate. Listen to today’s episode for examples of what that looks like and how you can do it more in your own life.

Highlights:3:40 A grounding exercise to help you regulate your nervous system7:00 How healing has become a solo endeavor9:20 How to coregulate13:00 How relationships can help you feel safeLinks Mentioned:

Find the downloadable guide I made to go along with today’s episode here.

Sign up for the Terri Cole Membership at terricole.com/tcm

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Here are some ways I can support you:

I WROTE A BOOK ABOUT BOUNDARIES! Boundary Boss is THE essential guidebook for authentically expressing your desires, setting healthy limits and bringing more satisfaction, joy and peace into all of your personal and professional relationships. Purchase your copy now!

TAKE THE BOUNDARY STYLE QUIZ I always say, ya can’t change anything until you become aware of it, so take the quiz and discover your unique boundary style!

FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL Instagram is my jam and one of my favorite ways to connect with you. I put out new content there every, single day ?

JOIN OUR FREE FACEBOOK GROUP Become a part of our powerful community of real love revolutionaries!

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745 Know Your Worth with Meggan Watterson

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“What is that desire that you’ve been thinking you aren’t worthy of? What can you give yourself that you’ve been waiting for somebody else to give you?” – Meggan Watterson

Intro

On today’s episode, I’m lucky to be sharing a chat with renowned feminist theologian Meggan Watterson. She shares the narrative of Thecla, a saint whose story was nearly erased from history, and describes how her story can inspire us to take back our own inherent spiritual authority. Tune in to uncover the transformative power you can claim when you know your own worth and reclaim your spiritual authority. Plus, how piety might look different for women than for men.

Highlights:5:00 Meggan’s origin story8:20 The significance of the story of Thecla14:00 How Meggan’s story mirrors Thecla’s34:00 The impact exclusion of women has had on spiritualityConnect with Meggan Watterson

Meggan Watterson is a renowned feminist theologian and the Wall Street Journal best selling author of Mary Magdalene Revealed. She has a Master of Theological Studies from Harvard Divinity School and a Master of Divinity from Union Theological Seminary at Columbia University. She created The House of Mary Magdalene–a spiritual community to study sacred texts left out of the traditional canon like The Gospel of Mary and The Acts of Paul and Thecla. Her work has appeared in media outlets such as The New York Times, The New Yorker, HuffPost, TEDxWomen, and Marie Claire.

Website: https://www.megganwatterson.com/

Here are some ways we can connect and grow together:

I WROTE A BOOK ABOUT BOUNDARIES! Boundary Boss is THE essential guidebook for authentically expressing your desires, setting healthy limits, and bringing more satisfaction, joy, and peace into all of your personal and professional relationships. There are super JUICY bonuses when you pre-order, so what are you waiting for?

TAKE THE BOUNDARY STYLE QUIZ I always say, ya can’t change anything until you become aware of it, so take the quiz and discover your unique boundary style!

FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL Instagram is my jam and one of my favorite ways to connect with you. I put out new content there every, single day.

JOIN OUR FREE FACEBOOK GROUP Become a part of our powerful community of real love revolutionaries!

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744 Go from “Good” to Free with Amber Rae

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“For a long time, I believed that my loveability was determined by whether other people accepted me. It was very externalized. It took me a long time to learn that my loveability is inherent, it’s within, and no amount of achievement, success, or applause is going to fill the void if I externalize it.” – Amber Rae

Intro

On today’s episode, we’re diving deep into Amber Rae’s transformative journey. She’s a best-selling author and speaker who broke free from a marriage that was really a friendship and chose to face real vulnerability instead. We chat about the challenges and triumphs of choosing authenticity over being a good girl. Plus, we chat about her memoir, Lovable: A Memoir, One Woman’s Path from Good to Free. I hope you enjoy listening to today’s discussion of self-discovery, intuition, and the power of personal choice as much as I enjoyed having it!

Highlights:4:30 Amber’s origin story7:20 The realization that changed Amber’s life14:00 The harm in the good girl archetype18:00 Tapping in to your intuition by also giving voice to fear19:50 How Amber came to the framework for her memoir37:19 Amber’s most challenging boundary struggle with her motherConnect with Amber Rae

AMBER RAE is a bestselling author and speaker best known for books Choose WonderOver Worry and The Answers Are Within You. She’s also the creator of The FeelingsJournal, a tool that transforms the way you engage with your emotions. Her writing and illustrations reach 9M people per month, and her work has been featured in publications such as The New York Times, New York Magazine, TODAY, SELF, Fortune, Forbes, and Entrepreneur. As a keynote speaker and teacher, Amber has worked with companies such as Kate Spade, Meta, Microsoft, and TED. Amber lives in Los Angeles with her husband, John

Website: https://www.amberrae.com/

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