Blame Quotes

“There's a difference between owning your choices and blaming yourself.”
― Marie Forleo, Everything is Figureoutable

“Miałeś, chamie, złoty róg,
miałeś, chamie, czapkę z piór:
czapkę wicher niesie,
róg huka po lesie,
ostał ci się ino sznur,
ostał ci się ino sznur.”
― Stanisław Wyspiański, The Wedding

“Someone with a victim mindset is always looking for a villain to blame and a situation to suffer from.”
― Steve Maraboli

“Criticise privately but compliment publicly.”
― Amit Kalantri, Wealth of Words

“Blaming others for your unhappiness is a habit that’s hard to give up because it triggers some happy chemicals. You feel important when you battle perceived injustice (serotonin), and you bond with others who feel similarly deprived (oxytocin). You get excited when you seek and find evidence that you have been denied your fair share of happiness (dopamine). You may even trigger endorphins by welcoming physical pain into your life as evidence of your deprivation. You keep building a circuit for seeking happiness by feeling wronged.”
― Loretta Graziano Breuning, Meet Your Happy Chemicals: Dopamine, Endorphin, Oxytocin, Serotonin

“To place blame typically has nothing to do with some judicious effort to seek out the origins of some misfortune. Rather, it is to make certain that the origins are not sought out in ourselves.”
― Craig D. Lounsbrough

“Being compassionate does not mean refraining from telling people, when they are, that they are to blame for their own suffering.”
― Mokokoma Mokhonoana

“Denial is the escape that never allows us to escape.”
― Craig D. Lounsbrough

“We can no more claim all credit for our achievement than deflect all blame for our impediments.”
― Maria Popova, Figuring

“I want to make one thing perfectly clear. When I talk about victims and survivors, I am not blaming victims -- so many of whom never had a chance.”
― Edith Eger, The Choice: Embrace the Possible

“Blame comes from the Greek for “curse”. That’s the root of it. A curse against the sacred, which is what sisters are or should be to each other.”
― Lauren Wolk, Echo Mountain

“Some things will always and forever defy the denial that we take up to slay them.”
― Craig D. Lounsbrough, The Eighth Page: A Christmas Journey

“Violations of love in relation to others are punished by feelings of fear. The presence of fear indicates a wrong to be amended. Ignoring your feelings is an infringement of the Law of cause & effect. Your feeling is the effect. Suppressed feelings are a refusal to feel the effect after the cause. To release fear, you must be willing to feel the effect your previous actions have had on others. The mental hiding place of fear uses excuses to avoid feeling. Blame, judgment and projection are mental shields that fear hides behind. Willingness to take responsibility for your life ensures that the effect of your thoughts, words, and actions are immediate. If you impinge on another, you feel it instantly. Also, if there is an infringement on you by a friend or colleague, you feel the effect. If you ignore the feelings imposed on you by another it leads to a victim mentality. Feeling the effect of someone else’s action ensures they must take responsibility for their behavior towards you.”
― Collette O'Mahony, In Quest of Love: A Guide to Inner Harmony and Wellbeing in Relationships

“Every now and then, someone blames their not being physically strong for their not being able to think of a solution.”
― Mokokoma Mokhonoana

“I am beginning to see that I don't have to judge or interpret the motives and behaviors of others. There is no need to decide who are the good guys and who are the bad, who should be blamed and who punished. I find it truly is "safe" to surrender the script written by me and trust in God's script.”
― Gerald G. Jampolsky, Out of Darkness into the Light: A Journey of Inner Healing

“When the awful time of reckoning comes, and the Jehovah God appears to demand why his command has been disobeyed, Adam endeavors to shield himself behind the gentle being he has declared to be so dear. ‘The woman thou gavest to be with me, she gave me and I did eat,’ he whines—trying to shield himself at his wife's expense! Again we are amazed that upon such a story men have built up a theory of their superiority!”
― Elizabeth Cady Stanton, The Woman's Bible, Part I & II

“A positive side effect of working on the meaning of our problems is that we are forced to give up blaming. Nothing could be more beneficial to our spiritual progress. We refrain from blaming our bodies, hereditary factors, economic conditions, our partner, our parents, our upbringing, our boss or any other person. Knowing that our problems have meanings does not mean that we now blame ourselves for our miserable condition instead of other people. It means we understand that our problems are telling us something is not spiritually correct in our thinking. Without reproach or guilt, we understand that we just don’t understand enough yet. However, we are going to. That is why we are students on the spiritual path.”
― Donna Goddard, Love, Devotion, and Longing

“What’s most revolting is that one is really sad! No, it’s better at home. Here at least one blames others for everything and excuses oneself.”
― Fyodor Dostoyevsky, Crime and Punishment

“When a person dies from a gunshot, you don't blame the bullet. You blame the shooter.”
― Paul Krueger, Steel Crow Saga

“Confidence is an aspect of pride, but when it stretches to fault denial and blame shifting, it becomes pride.”
― Vincent Okay Nwachukwu, Weighty 'n' Worthy African Proverbs - Volume 1

“I left the conference room wondering if it had mattered what I wore that day. I don’t think it would have. I think when people are hurt or mad, and they want someone to blame; they see nothing but a striped jumpsuit as I’d just escaped prison. It seemed to me that these eight people I had once called friends couldn’t see anything more than the crimes they believed I’d committed. And they didn’t care why, or if, I had committed them.”
― B. Beth

“I think about all the time I spent vigilant, preoccupied, trying to decipher my mother’s relationship with Marcus, Lucy’s relationship with alcohol. It had never occurred to me that both situations were whatever they were, whether I figured them out or not. And it had certainly never crossed my mind that my reaction—my suffering—was mine: something I had come up with, not something I needed to blame on anyone else.”
― Ariel Levy, The Rules Do Not Apply

“Don't blame them for a bad relationship, blame yourself for staying in it.”
― Nitya Prakash

“In the end, I walked myself here. And if ‘here’ is not the place that I wanted to be, blaming others for walking me here won’t do anything to walk me out of here.”
― Craig D. Lounsbrough

“You are not the best person to talk to you about you right now. There is a difference, I point out to them, between self- blame and self-responsibility, which is a corollary to something Jack Kornfield said: 'A second quality of mature spirituality is kindness. It is based on a fundamental notion of self-acceptance.”
― Lori Gottlieb, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed

“This is not a time to cast blame. Those who do so may be hiding behind the excuse of helping but it is a power play and actually quite hurtful.”
― Charles F Glassman

“Choose unconditional love. Love God unconditionally. Stop blaming Daddy in the Sky when bad things happen. Keep your faith. Go to work.”
― Richie Norton

“You are responsible for what happened to you, but you are not to blame for it. You are trying to do the best you could with the hand you were dealt. You didn’t pick the cards.”
― Thomm Quackenbush, Holidays with Bigfoot

“River searched the world for her girls. She dug up every anthill she could find. The army ants were too frightened to tell her what they'd done, but they did tell her that the ant god had gone to live among the humans. River searched for Ant. She dug through entire lineages trying to find him. When, after three hundred years, the sky god dared to mention the neglected waters of the world, she dried up entire countries out of spite. This is our River, one god reminded the other, our sweet River. Let us help, not hinder. And so they sent emissaries from every spirit realm, second daughters and minor spirits of similar powers, godlings all, promising their aid for a hundred years. But River's grief became their own. They forgot their mothers and their brothers and the lovers they'd promised to return to; they forgot that they'd had a past before this grief removed everything form inside of them. How, they wondered, can a body feel full to bursting with grief but also hollow? These godlings of land and air and memory resisted this loss of themselves, but River's sorrow drowned them. Their husbands, their children, their homes became like reflections in a rough stream, fractured beyond recognition.

They tore the world apart. Unprecedented rains. Earthquakes that ravaged every region. One godling who had come from the house of flames sent an entire cite on fire trying to find River's girls. It was a dark century for humankind and godkind alike. Then the female godlings got craftier in their search. They made themselves visible to human eyes, tempting men and women, threatening men and women, building a network of spies across the globe who lit candles and prayed to them and passed this new religion on to their children. Every new convert was a new set of eyes in the world, a new set of ears to catch whispers of men who didn't seem to fit in, or men who rose to ungodly success but never seemed to pray. Many a good man was lost to angry godlings who peeled his skin away, searching for the god that might be hidden inside.

But after seven hundred fruitless years and countless human believers in her service, it dawned on River that she might never see her twins again. She collapsed where she stood, and every emissary lay down as well. Dust settled on them, then grime and so much debris that they became part of the earth, hills of hips and buttocks and woe.

All but one. That only one who felt the rage of River, multiplied by that most powerful feeling that won't let a person rest: guilt. River's sister, not quite goddess. The guilt turned in her belly like a ship in a storm. She'd slept while her sister's children were taken. Blame, so like a god itself, shadowed her, occupied her bed like a lover, whispered to her like a dearest friend. Her name was eventually forgotten.”
― Lesley Nneka Arimah, What It Means When a Man Falls from the Sky

“It can be easy to sit here blaming the world and others for our beliefs, our flaws, our reasons why we are not enough, but at some point we have to say, “Hang on a minute, I’ve played a role in this too. I decided to believe in this too.”  At any point, we can say, “I call out fear and I choose love for me, for others, for all that challenges me.”  It is a big call, but a call that will change your life.  ”
― Rhyanna Watson