Blaming Quotes

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Shannon L. Alder
“People that have trust issues only need to look in the mirror. There they will meet the one person that will betray them the most.”
Shannon L. Alder

Shannon L. Alder
“They will hate you if you are beautiful. They will hate you if you are successful. They will hate you if you are right. They will hate you if you are popular. They will hate you when you get attention. They will hate you when people in their life like you. They will hate you if you worship a different version of their God. They will hate you if you are spiritual. They will hate you if you have courage. They will hate you if you have an opinion. They will hate you when people support you. They will hate you when they see you happy. Heck, they will hate you while they post prayers and religious quotes on Pinterest and Facebook. They just hate. However, remember this: They hate you because you represent something they feel they don’t have. It really isn’t about you. It is about the hatred they have for themselves. So smile today because there is something you are doing right that has a lot of people thinking about you.”
Shannon L. Alder

Steve Maraboli
“Your complaints, your drama, your victim mentality, your whining, your blaming, and all of your excuses have NEVER gotten you even a single step closer to your goals or dreams. Let go of your nonsense. Let go of the delusion that you DESERVE better and go EARN it! Today is a new day!”
Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

Shannon L. Alder
“True saddness is when someone still thinks your the same person after all these years. They brand you because of their own ego, fear and lack of spirituality. What's sadder is when they are Christian.”
Shannon L. Alder

Steve Goodier
“An important decision I made was to resist playing the Blame Game. The day I realized that I am in charge of how I will approach problems in my life, that things will turn out better or worse because of me and nobody else, that was the day I knew I would be a happier and healthier person. And that was the day I knew I could truly build a life that matters.”
Steve Goodier

Richard Paul Evans
“Mr. Vey, you cannot be stuffed into a locker without your consent." Dallstrom said, which may be the dumbest thing ever said in a school. "You should have resisted. That's like blaming someone who was struck by lightning for getting in the way.”
Richard Paul Evans, The Prisoner of Cell 25

Beverly Engel
“Hypercritical, Shaming Parents
Hypercritical and shaming parents send the same message to their children as perfectionistic parents do - that they are never good enough. Parents often deliberately shame their children into minding them without realizing the disruptive impact shame can have on a child's sense of self. Statements such as "You should be ashamed of yourself" or "Shame on you" are obvious examples. Yet these types of overtly shaming statements are actually easier for the child to defend against than are more subtle forms of shaming, such as contempt, humiliation, and public shaming.
There are many ways that parents shame their children. These include belittling, blaming, contempt, humiliation, and disabling expectations.
-BELITTLING. Comments such as "You're too old to want to be held" or "You're just a cry-baby" are horribly humiliating to a child. When a parent makes a negative comparison between his or her child and another, such as "Why can't you act like Jenny? See how she sits quietly while her mother is talking," it is not only humiliating but teaches a child to always compare himself or herself with peers and find himself or herself deficient by comparison.
-BLAMING. When a child makes a mistake, such as breaking a vase while rough-housing, he or she needs to take responsibility. But many parents go way beyond teaching a lesson by blaming and berating the child: "You stupid idiot! Do you think money grows on trees? I don't have money to buy new vases!" The only thing this accomplishes is shaming the child to such an extent that he or she cannot find a way to walk away from the situation with his or her head held high.
-CONTEMPT. Expressions of disgust or contempt communicate absolute rejection. The look of contempt (often a sneer or a raised upper lip), especially from someone who is significant to a child, can make him or her feel disgusting or offensive. When I was a child, my mother had an extremely negative attitude toward me. Much of the time she either looked at me with the kind of expectant expression that said, "What are you up to now?" or with a look of disapproval or disgust over what I had already done. These looks were extremely shaming to me, causing me to feel that there was something terribly wrong with me.
-HUMILIATION. There are many ways a parent can humiliate a child, such as making him or her wear clothes that have become dirty. But as Gershen Kaufman stated in his book Shame: The Power of Caring, "There is no more humiliating experience than to have another person who is clearly the stronger and more powerful take advantage of that power and give us a beating." I can personally attest to this. In addition to shaming me with her contemptuous looks, my mother often punished me by hitting me with the branch of a tree, and she often did this outside, in front of the neighbors. The humiliation I felt was like a deep wound to my soul.
-DISABLING EXPECTATIONS. Parents who have an inordinate need to have their child excel at a particular activity or skill are likely to behave in ways that pressure the child to do more and more. According to Kaufman, when a child becomes aware of the real possibility of failing to meet parental expectations, he or she often experiences a binding self-consciousness. This self-consciousness - the painful watching of oneself - is very disabling. When something is expected of us in this way, attaining the goal is made harder, if not impossible.
Yet another way that parents induce shame in their children is by communicating to them that they are a disappointment to them. Such messages as "I can't believe you could do such a thing" or "I am deeply disappointed in you" accompanied by a disapproving tone of voice and facial expression can crush a child's spirit.”
Beverly Engel, The Nice Girl Syndrome: Stop Being Manipulated and Abused -- And Start Standing Up for Yourself

Shannon L. Alder
“See it for what it is and own it, rather than rethink it so you don't have to deal with the trauma of the abuse. This is the only way to move on--through acceptance.”
Shannon L. Alder

Shannon L. Alder
“Judgement of others and ourselves always comes from a place of fear. It is fear that keeps us from living authentically all that we say we value.”
Shannon L. Alder

Steve Maraboli
“Beware of perpetrators in disguise... Some people set fires wherever they go, and have mastered the art of playing the burn victim.”
Steve Maraboli

Amit Kalantri
“During your struggle society is not a bunch of flowers, it is a bunch of cactus.”
Amit Kalantri, Wealth of Words

Toba Beta
“Often blaming, is a trait of a childish soul.”
Toba Beta

Craig D. Lounsbrough
“The worst of it is that while we continue to sink deeper into the muck and mire that we’ve created, in the very descent itself we ignorantly declare that in reality we are rising. And until desperation has crippled us sufficiently to confess the lie that we are lifting ourselves out of this mess, and until the panic of utter hopelessness has driven us to completely surrender all of the pathetic contrivances that we’ve fashioned that have put us there, we will never realize that God has readied solid ground that stands but a single step away”
Craig D. Lounsbrough

Thich Nhat Hanh
“No argument, no reasoning, no blame, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change.”
Thich Nhat Hanh, Being Peace

Amit Kalantri
“A good swordsman is more important than a good sword.”
Amit Kalantri, Wealth of Words

Bangambiki Habyarimana
“Stop blaming evil on the Devil, blame it on the Creator of everything, if you don't understand, ask Him or at least hope that someday He will reveal it to you”
Bangambiki Habyarimana, Pearls Of Eternity

Donna Goddard
“You can turn every ugly and damaging drama into a genuine blessing by seeing it differently. No one is suffering on purpose. We learn to give up the pleasure we feel in self-righteously blaming others. Healing happens when we see things differently. The question is: do you want suffering or peace? It's that simple.”
Donna Goddard, Waldmeer

Craig D. Lounsbrough
“The reason placing blame repeatedly fails to work is that I repeatedly place it on everyone else instead of where it actually belongs.”
Craig D. Lounsbrough

“Don't blaming your challenge but get up and look it as a bridge to your success.”
Bruce Mbanzabugabo

Pierce Brown
“That’s what Society does—spread the blame so there is no villain”
Pierce Brown, Golden Son

Craig D. Lounsbrough
“I paved the path to the very place I don’t want to be. But passing the blame off to someone else doesn’t put me any place else.”
Craig D. Lounsbrough

Israelmore Ayivor
“Stop blaming other people for your mistakes. Until you are ready to admit that you are infallible, you are vulnerable for failure to whip.”
Israelmore Ayivor, Become a Better You

“My life changed the moment I stopped blaming others for my failures.”
Dhaval Gajera, MAKE IT HAPPEN: with 30 greatest life lessons

“Your subordinate is ready to take your position the day he stops blaming others.”
Haresh Sippy

Toba Beta
“Blaming is a childish act.”
Toba Beta

“There is no long-term gain in #Blaming others.”
PETAR NIKOLOV

Shashi Tharoor
“When a marauder destroys your house and takes away your cash and jewellery , his responsibility for his actions far exceeds that of the servant who opened door to him, whether out of fear, cupidity or because he simply he didn't know any better.”
Shashi Tharoor, An Era of Darkness: The British Empire in India

Jacqueline Carey
“But it’s a lot easier to blame someone else than accept blame for your own failings.”
Jacqueline Carey, Santa Olivia

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