Blame Quotes

“Are we victims of destiny, or is it all mere determination? Suppose we do not just want to blame ourselves for not being lucky. In that case, we must endeavor to be imaginative and empower our dreams to take shape. ("Camera obscura of the mind")”
― Erik Pevernagie

“She spent much of her childhood and adolescence planning elaborate scheme to remove herself from family conflict: staying completely silent, keeping her face and body expressionless and immobile, wordlessly leaving the room and making her way to her bedroom, closing the door quietly behind her. Locking herself in the toilet. Leaving the house for an indefinite number of hours and sitting in the school car park by herself. None of these strategies had ever proven successful. In fact her tactics only seemed to increase the possibility that she would be punished as the primary instigator.”
― Sally Rooney, Normal People

“The characterization of entire groups as victims has underwritten the conviction that such groups may never be subjected to criticism of any kind.”
― Robert Boyers, The Tyranny of Virtue: Identity, the Academy, and the Hunt for Political Heresies

“Raising fingers at each other will leave everyone without hands.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Time to End Democracy: The Meritocratic Manifesto

“Don't become the enemy trying to fix people. People will always love their old ways, that may just work for them.

If they accept your instructions when you are around them and do otherwise when you are absent - they fear you not respect you.

Let them be the architects of their own doom without blaming it on you.”
― Victor Vote

“Blaming the dead for our mistakes never accomplishes much.”
― Christopher Paolini, The Fork, the Witch, and the Worm: Eragon

“Don't raise fingers, raise your conscience.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Time to End Democracy: The Meritocratic Manifesto

“You can blame everyone for your circumstances, but that will not change the fact that you still must live in them. Change does not come until you take responsibility for your choices and proceed to do something. You must make the change happen. You must do it. In truth, no one else is to blame if things fail to change.”
― Richelle E. Goodrich, Being Bold: Quotes, Poetry, & Motivations for Every Day of the Year

“It wasn't your fault, Rajkumar. You didn't do anything."

"No, I didn't. And with my silence, I became an accomplice.”
― Tanaz Bhathena, Hunted by the Sky

“But we can't spend our lives hanging out under someone else's umbrella and then complain that we're getting wet. A good definition of being a victim is when you keep the focus outside yourself, when you look outside yourself for someone to blame for your present circumstances, or to determine your purpose, fate, or worth.”
― Dr. Edith Eva Eger

“I try to be nice to you, he says, but you always throw it back at me. She doesn't think that's true, but she knows he probably thinks it is.”
― Sally Rooney, Normal People

“The first noble truth of the Buddha is that when we feel suffering, it doesn't mean that something is wrong. What a relief. Finally somebody told the truth. Suffering is part of life, and we don't have to feel it's happening because we personally made the wrong move.”
― Pema Chödrön, When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times

“Some people will never admit their behavior is toxic. Even when they do something wrong, they will somehow blame you. It's an endless loop of poison. Save your energy and protect your mental health. The best way to win with such a person is not to play.”
― Steve Maraboli

“While one cannot state that all blamers have narcissistic personality disorder, blaming is a common behavior among those who fall somewhere on the continuum.”
― Thabo Katlholo, Blame Less: A Grim Journey Into the Life of a Chronic Blamer

“While it’s certainly true that life presents many difficulties, and undeniable the pain and suffering they often cause, to blame others as the reason for one’s unhappiness is to cast oneself in the role of the victim. For all those years I condemned myself to victimhood I lost so much of myself and so much of what I stood for.”
― Thabo Katlholo, Blame Less: A Grim Journey Into the Life of a Chronic Blamer

“Often, those who are the target of your blame have no idea (or could care less) about how you really feel. You only hurt yourself by being a prisoner of your own bitterness and resentment. Your feelings may be justified, but they will not help you become happy, healthy, and successful. Ultimately, isn’t that what you really want?”
― Thabo Katlholo, Blame Less: A Grim Journey Into the Life of a Chronic Blamer

“The truth is, when you stop acting like a victim, you’ll start attracting a new group of healthy friends who are interested in you as a person, not just what they can do for you.
These are the relationships you want. Healthy relationships have a give and take. You need to give and receive. This is how you really rid yourself of anger and resentment. It’s scary because at first you get to worry that you’ll be all alone, that no one will ever love you. Start small and see what happens.”
― Thabo Katlholo, Blame Less: A Grim Journey Into the Life of a Chronic Blamer

“Fuckboys (and Fuckboy Prospects), read this closely: When a woman breaks up with you (usually because she is fed up with your shit) it’s never easy. I understand your ego is bruised, you can’t imagine another dude doing things you used to do with/to her and that shit will eat you up! I understand.
That doesn’t mean you should disrespect her – or kill her goddamit! That doesn’t mean you should post revenge porn pictures and videos of her to your 5000 online friends. It does not justify you calling her a hoe to ease your lil battered ego. Doing any of those makes you a certified upper echelon fuckboy bro.
Walk away – just go on airplane mode, remove yourself from the situation and allow yourself to heal. If you are one of those social-media love butterflies who advertises every moment with your boo, then log out of all your profiles and go into cocoon mode.”
― Thabo Katlholo, Blame Less: A Grim Journey Into the Life of a Chronic Blamer

“My son, you are what you are in the present. Leave the past behind; don’t carry blame. Eliminate all anxiety about the future. Prepare to work for your evolution until the last instant of your life. Let no one be your judge; be your own judge. If you want to triumph, learn to fail. Never define yourself by what you possess. Never speak about yourself without allowing yourself the possibility to change. Think that you do not exist individually, that what you do does itself. Only by accepting that nothing is yours will you be the owner of all. Become a total offering. Give, but oblige no one to receive. Make no one feel guilty; you are an accomplice to whatever happens. Stop asking for things and start thanking. Obtain in order to give away.”
― Alejandro Jodorowsky, Where the Bird Sings Best

“In the end, they're the only ones who can answer for themselves. So stop blaming yourself."
"I can't seem to help it."
"Bullshit. The truth is you don't WANT to. It makes you feel good to blame yourself. You know why?" Kira shook her head, mute. "Because it gives you a sense of control. The hardest lesson in life is learning to accept that there are some things we can't change." Falconi paused, his eyes hard and glittering. "Blaming yourself is perfectly normal, but it doesn't do you any good. Until you stop, unless you CAN stop, you'll never be able to fully recover.”
― Christopher Paolini, To Sleep in a Sea of Stars

“To place blame is to attempt to give something to someone that I can’t give them.”
― Craig D. Lounsbrough

“Some people are looking for problems to blame and not solutions to them.”
― C.A.A. Savastano

“Blame is simply if the discharging of pain and discomfort.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

“We have an instinct to find someone to blame, but we rarely look in the mirror.”
― Hans Rosling, Factfulness: Ten Reasons We're Wrong About the World – and Why Things Are Better Than You Think

“It is always someone or something else that is somehow responsible for the problems you’re having.
People like me who blame others tend to overemphasize themselves while at the same time underemphasizing the negative effects of their actions.
Realize something very important here, I didn't say 'overemphasize the effects of others on them,' I said, overemphasize themselves. Overemphasizing the negative impact others have had on them is very much a part of overemphasizing self.”
― Thabo Katlholo, Blame Less: A Grim Journey Into the Life of a Chronic Blamer

“There are illusory advantages to victimhood, as finger-pointing provides a convenient justification for life’s unsatisfactory conditions, and sheds the work necessary to take complete charge of one’s own life and well-being.”
― Thabo Katlholo, Blame Less: A Grim Journey Into the Life of a Chronic Blamer

“Over the years, I have grown to see people in need of a savior so bad that they would eat grass, drink petrol, and be fed rats and snakes all in the name of finding a messiah. I’ve seen people attempt to deal with the loss of their jobs or school or other livelihood forms or desperately attempt to scramble out of poverty by believing in the most laughable of saviors and ‘miracle workers’.
I’ve witnessed women battered, scorned and stripped of their poise and essence because they could not walk away from scoundrels they’d previously deemed their ‘saviors’. Such relationships lead to a savior-martyr relationship. In other words – a certified disaster-in-waiting.
Martyr complex is a collateral product of blame. You blame someone for your current misfortunes therefore you go looking for someone else to save you. You blame yourself for your shortcomings and therefore there must be someone out there who can redeem your broken self.”
― Thabo Katlholo, Blame Less: A Grim Journey Into the Life of a Chronic Blamer

“What is your problem?
What’s keeping you stuck and upset?
Why do you blame other people?
Be honest with yourself. It’s not easy, but without doing this, you won’t go anywhere. Stop blaming other people. It doesn’t help. It doesn’t change the situation. Actually, it won’t even make you feel better. It’s a great waste of your time and energy.”
― Thabo Katlholo, Blame Less: A Grim Journey Into the Life of a Chronic Blamer

“Blamers: Before you judge someone for being too emotional or for being a serial whiner, conduct a self-inquisition and you might discover that you are a deadpan asshole yourself. Your emotional coldness should therefore not result in you judging other people for being too emotional.”
― Thabo Katlholo, Blame Less: A Grim Journey Into the Life of a Chronic Blamer

“ext time, before you give yourself a self-diagnosis that you are a weak wimp or too fragile or too caring, PAUSE, take a step back and ask yourself if the people surrounding you aren’t a bunch of assholes.”
― Thabo Katlholo, Blame Less: A Grim Journey Into the Life of a Chronic Blamer