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Book Review: Kinky Sex-The Secret to Long Term Desire

I stumbled across this book via a book group on Fetlife and I am happy that I did. The author, Jessica Howe has done something absolutely amazing with her time and energy with putting together “Kinky Sex: The Secret to Long-Term Desire”. Even though this book doesn’t really focus on being in a D/s or M/s relationship, it is really great for those who are new to the world of kink and need some help communicating this to their partners. I have seen so many “Ask Luna” letters from submissives wanting to know how to introduce kink to their partners and this is the perfect book for this.

Howe opens up the book with discussing some reasons about why passion tends to fizzle out of relationships as well as a questionnaire to fill out to help you discover some of your sexual interests. Depending on what questions you answer yes to, shows what areas you have a strong inclination to, things such as exhibitionism, voyeurism, bondage and others and then a brief description about all the categories. After you’ve found out where you fit in on the kinky scale, she gives some advice as where to find your kinky partner both in person and online as well.

A big chunk of the book is dedicated to how to introduce your partner to kink. How to discuss your fantasies, how to get your partner to open up about their fantasies, and different types of play and how to bring up your interests in those kinds of play, such as wax play, electric play, public play, and of course, dominance and submission as well as many others. Not only does Howe describe how to bring up these topics to your partner, she also includes positions, toy descriptions, and most importantly, how to perform these acts in a safe fashion, which we all know is extremely important.

The last part of the book discusses about getting geared up and putting together your very own toy bag that includes fun pervertables that can be found around the house as well as a few toys that she personally recommends. I even learned about a fun new toy that’s already been added to my Amazon shopping cart for bondage fun!

Another thing, asides from the amazing and down to earth advice in this book is the quotes from people about what they do to spice up the bedroom and how much fun they have while doing so. There’s also snippets of erotica during the sections and while the short pieces will get your blood pumping, the stories are also great because they give examples of how to play out a certain fantasy or kink and is also a great way to get interests piqued.

Overall, this is the perfect book for individuals who are just getting started and for those who are wanting to introduce their partners. While the book isn’t a complete how to guide, it’s a really great starting point that covers a lot of the more popular kinks out there.

You can purchase your very own copy of Kinky Sex: The Secret to Long Term Desire on Amazon both in paperback and ebook form.

Product Information:

Tequila R’s Rating: 10/10
Paperback: 258 Pages
Publisher: Love & Cherish, First Edition(December 17,2013)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 0977552411

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Published on October 07, 2014 07:00

Dominant Personality with a Submissive Identity

Everyday you go to work and are in charge of people, or you have a management position. Perhaps you just feel that being in control outside of the home is comfortable for you. But you come home to submit. Or maybe you are an extroverted person and love interacting socially but with the right person your service is full and complete in submission.

No matter what scenario I describe there are always people who are dominant in personality and yet identify as submissive. I feel that I’m one such person. I’m extroverted, I love to teach and talk about what I know and understand. I prefer to be on the organizational side of events and don’t have any issue with letting people know what’s what. I’m very task oriented and goal focused. Yet I am submissive. There’s no doubt about that.

An often misunderstood, or perhaps misrepresented thought is that submissives have to be docile, shy, introverted people. It’s far from the reality thought. Submissives come in all shapes and sizes personality wise (as well as body wise). For people who say they can spot a submissive a mile away, this might be a challenge and I know I personally confused many “sub radar” folks who pegged me for a Dominant as soon as they met me.

Just as Dominance calls all sorts of people to it, submission for many isn’t necessarily an escape from control. For me a lot of my submission has to do with being able to keep order. I know that KnyghtMare requires specific things of me and because I know I can provide that in a consistent manner it gives my submission a lot of order. Structure and expected manners are a lot of what drives my submission.

Now, I’m not saying that people with dominant personalities don’t want to escape from control. There are submissives who desire just that – being able to remove the mantle of leadership when they enter the submissive space; whether that be the home or the dungeon. I get emails from these people asking if they are really submissive if they are leaders in the outside world. Showing them that personality does not define identity is the best way I can prove that you choose your own life.

If submission is a part of that; your personality will conform.

Of course, having a dominant personality and desiring to submit can come with some conflict. Dominance is about being in charge and if you are in charge in your external life, trying to submit at home or the bedroom is a struggle. It’s not impossible but it does require a lot of patience and learning how you respond to orders from your partner and then changing the response to submission. There isn’t an easy way around this; but know that if submission really is what you want, it will be so rewarding when you finally surrender.

Do you have a dominant personality? Does it cause struggle in your submissive life?

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Published on October 06, 2014 07:00

BDSM Basics: Am I Kinky If…?

You’re surfing the internet one day and come across a forum of people talking about their sex lives. It’s interesting to you so you stop and read a bit. Just when you thought you were like everyone else, someone mentions something that you enjoy doing during sex and the responses are, “Oh that’s kinky!” It gives you pause. You never considered yourself kinky but what if somehow, the things you do in the bedroom defined you as kinky. Should you start saying you enjoy kinky sex? Is it bad to be kinky? What is kinky anyway?

Yeah so that’s a lot of questions in an introduction but let’s be real here, they all have merit when it comes to discovering that something we enjoy might be kinky. Because for some reason we can’t really explain being kinky is different and not always in a good way – or at least our friends would have us think so.

What is kinky?

In general terms, kinky is considered anything that goes outside the normative acceptable activities of sex. It’s a mouthful to be sure. What I mean by that is in your local area and in the circle of friends you surround yourself with, kinky is anything that isn’t normal to the distinct group. Religion, geography, social status and even politics can play a role in deciding what is and isn’t kinky. Even age and the state of sexual awareness in ourselves can change what defines kinky.

So what the hell is kinky? You just told me that it is dependent on a lot of things. How do I know what it is for me? I’m glad you asked because I’m going to ask you right back. When you think of different sex acts that you are aware of, even ones you don’t take part in yourself, what would you consider kinky? For example, before I realized that kinky sex was my acceptable normal I considered any kind of bondage kinky. I considered sex with the lights on kinky. Roleplaying was kinky and so was dirty talk. These were things that as I was growing up and the people I surrounded myself with all talked about in hushed tones and some negative ones too. They weren’t acceptable. They weren’t normal.

Normal, what?

But when we think about what is normal about sex we begin to realize that there is no normal. There is socially acceptable, but what does that mean really. I don’t need someone else deciding what is the right way to have sex and what isn’t. I want to listen to myself and my body and when I get enjoyment and pleasure from something I do intimately with my partner (or partners even!) then it’s acceptable to me. For many of us as we mature and grow into adulthood we decide if we are going to follow the flow of society and let them decide what paths our life will take or we discover a new way that makes us feel just as fulfilled and yet goes against what society may be telling us.

If it were up to our parents or our grandparents generation to determine what normal sex was, can you imagine? Would it be only in marriage with the lights off under the covers and only for procreation? Would it ever involve oral sex or anal sex? What about exploring other things like S&M or spanking? Do you imagine that our sex life would be different if you followed in past generations footsteps?

It’s common for people to continue how they were raised and what they learned growing up. It’s also common for people to be open to exploration and learning to listen to their bodies and minds when it comes to sexual pleasure. So, honestly, I’d have to say there is no normal. Really.

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Is it a bad thing to be kinky? Well, are your sexual desires and activities hindering your life in other ways? Are you finding that they interfere with work, or family or socializing? If not, then no; being kinky is not bad at all. Sure it may take you a bit longer to find a sexual partner that has similar kinky desires but that doesn’t make you any less of a sexual person for having desires that are considered kinky.

So you’ve discovered that you are kinky and that you like kinky things. Now what? Will you just desire more extreme fetishes and kinks as time goes on? Will you get bored with your initial kinks and move on to others that currently freak you out? Maybe. Maybe not. Think of it this way. Gender normative sex, the standard heterosexual sex has many variations to it. And people who don’t identify with being kinky can still have fun and be perfectly okay with their sexual repertoire. There’s no reason to assume that just because you like a few kinky things that you will never be satisfied with it and constantly need to up the kink factor.

After all this talk about being kinky, what do you do if you decide that you are kinky?

It depends. There’s no reason to do anything more than you already are doing. Make sure you find a partner that is willing to go along with your sexual desires. Enjoy your sex life. If you feel you want to socialize with others that are into the same kinks as you are, then you can do that too. It’s not really like a Magic: The Gathering meeting, but at least you will chat with others who accept your kink and the fact that kink can be normal.

You are normal. Accept yourself. Enjoy yourself. Keep exploring.

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Published on October 03, 2014 07:00

How I Help Our Finances Without Knowing the Numbers

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Welcome new contributor moonlight!

When Sir and I moved in together and we opened our bank accounts, it was a huge relief that bill paying was no longer on my to-do list. They always created such anxiety, even when I knew the money was there to cover the bills and then some. It felt as if it were a given that Sir would be in charge of our finances. With very little hesitation, all of the financial situation was turned over to Him. I am in a place where I know that Sir will keep taking care of me and our family.

Of course, sometimes I wonder about how we are doing or find myself wanting to contribute in more obvious ways. What I have come to realize is that even from home, I can make a difference in our financial situation – for better or worse – through my service. Most of this revolves around one particular room: the kitchen.

One of the most obvious ways I can help is through meal planning. Sir and I are foodies and we love dishes with flavour! But flavour doesn’t have to mean elegant, extravagant, or expensive. Once a week, I flip through some our favourite cookbooks and a few food blogs to find recipes we have ingredients for already or could make without too many extra items on the shopping list. This week, the shopping list was about half a page and the total came to about $50! Since most recipes feed 4 to 6, we are sure to have leftovers which are easy meals for weekday lunches. The meal planning keeps our grocery list short but it also stops us from looking into the fridge without inspiration and not knowing what to make for dinner. It has also helped us avoid the options of the various (delicious and much more expensive) restaurant food options in our city.

I also keep a good eye on what is still good (have you looked in your crisper drawer lately?) and what items needs to be used quickly in the fridge. This week, I turned two sets of leftovers into entire meals! There was a beautiful roast beef dinner, with mashed potatoes, that we had on Sunday night. With what was left of a bag of frozen vegetables, all I had to do was chop up the roast beef, add the frozen veggies, top with the potatoes and a little paprika from the cupboard and now we have a gourmet version of a Sheppard’s pie for another day! Pop that in the freezer and when we don’t know what to make or plans get thrown out the window, the restaurant is still no longer an option.

As you know, every item you buy at the store can add up quickly. This makes me mindful of the little ways to save some money – like making my own chicken and beef stock from the bones. I am home anyways, and it only takes water, some vegetables, maybe some herbs that I already have and voila! It simmers away and we end up with a lot of containers of stock. This means less to buy at the store! The same goes for produce we haven’t finished. Right now, it is fall, and apples are all around us but when we didn’t finish all the apples, they can easily be turned into applesauce. That can top a nice roast pork or just be devoured with a spoon. We even put that in the freezer for later. The freezer becomes a great friend because when you look inside, there is always extra ingredients to make another dish extra special.

I don’t need to know the numbers to know that if we aren’t eating out, the shopping list stays short, and we aren’t wasting the food that we are buying, it means that the money we do have can be spent on things we really need, unexpected expenses, or if there are enough savings, maybe something for a little bit of fun. It is something that I have taken on as part of my service, to be mindful in the kitchen. Food is nourishing for the body and spirit; by giving back to our family through these well-thought out meals, I am nourishing them to be their very best.

moonlight is a slave to her Master, a proud mommy and a member of a poly group in Canada. She is always learning how to balance her submission with every day life. She can be found on FetLife: moonlight_jade

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Published on October 02, 2014 07:00

Ask lunaKM – How Should a Submissive Act at a Dungeon Party?

Hi. My slave and I are going to a dungeon together for the first time. I’m wondering about how she should talk. She has rules for talking with me. But not for talking with others in the community. I know she should be respectful to all. But how should she address other Masters and slaves? I want her to be able to socialize with other slaves. Does she just talk however she chooses with other slaves? Are there some suggested rules or a protocol for a slave to engage in conversation at a dungeon? Thank you.

Hi there! Going to a dungeon party is an exciting step into the social atmosphere of the BDSM community. It often leads to a lot of questions about what to expect and how to act around others so your question is definitely one on many people’s lips.

How a submissive talks to others is subjective to what the Dominant requires. As a comfortable baseline, be respectful and polite. Treat them like anyone else you’ve just met. Use the names they offer, and if they haven’t offered one, ask them what their name is. This goes for Dominants and submissives.

You should not be expected to abide by anyone else’s protocol before you know what it is. So saying hello and being friendly is always welcome. If someone is on restrictions for the night they will tell you. Every single relationship has different levels of protocol and expectations but each one appreciates politeness and respect. So, feel free to introduce yourselves and if your submissive has a desire to chat and get to know other submissives I’m sure she’ll have every available avenue to do so.

If there is a party-wide protocol you should find that out before you attend. Some places have clothing rules, play rules and social rules so make sure you know them so you can be ready to follow them.

A few common sense things to keep in mind:

Don’t strike up conversations in the play area. Do your talking in the social area. Extra chatter can disrupt scenes and it is disrespectful.
Don’t talk to couples who have just finished playing. Let them come down, take care of any aftercare and come back to the world. Once they look like they are mingling again you can compliment the play or converse with them.
Don’t touch. Anything. Dungeon parties particularly are places that people are very protective of what belongs to them, including their partners. So, before you hug or shake hands, ask.
Remember this is still a party, even if play is going on, so socialization is an attraction for many people who don’t play in public. There will be people to get to know and will welcome striking up a conversation!

Do you have a question or would like to get some advice? All questions are anonymous. Ask lunaKM!

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Published on October 01, 2014 07:00

A Mental Predicament: Balancing Wants and Needs

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Welcome new contributor andyiccee!

My Master and I have been together for nearly three years, we have been through family crises, late studying nights, and more fights than I can count, but we always come out stronger on the other side. Integrating S&M into our sex life was a very simple transition, we communicated fantasies, purchased toys together, and were open to new ideas and experiences. The transition to 24/7 D/s turned out to be much more challenging for us.

While we were both open-minded about the idea of transitioning to full-time, Master was worried that we would need to sacrifice our cute cuddle time for the cold rigidity of some of the blogs that he had read online. I was gung-ho, wanting nothing more than to spend my time serving my Master, working to make Him as happy as I possibly could. When we sat down to draft our contract I was quick to agree to almost anything that Master suggested and to throw in extreme suggestions that I had read online. We signed the contract and everything went really well for a few weeks. I made mistakes, I was punished, but things appeared to be going well.

And then one morning things fell apart. You see, I am bipolar, something that I hadn’t thought about throughout the entire beginning of the transition. I had been manic and quick to experience everything and threw myself into this new type of relationship with a fervor. Yet, when my mania started to fade into a depression, I was left opposed to so many of the rules I made. I was snappy when Master tried to enforce rules and simply stormed out of the house. Master offered to stop the transition entirely worried that it was making my depression worse, but I refused and we rode out a tumultuous month where I did my best to balance my own ideas of what D/s should look like based on a variety of blog posts and articles and my foul moods that made me want to scream every time I made a mistake.

I wanted to have the ‘perfect’ D/s relationship that I was reading about on the websites, and no matter how many times I read “D/s is what you make it” it never sank in. I wanted to be immediately as good, subservient, and adventurous as the blogs we were reading. Now Master was becoming increasingly worried that our relationship was falling apart. My depression and anger at my inability to fulfill my desire to be the perfect sub was destroying me and subsequently Him. Finally, he decided that enough was enough, I had no control over the chemical balance, or lack thereof, in my brain, but we could take a look at our relationship.

I refused at first because changing the rules, adjusting the contract would be solid proof that I was the worst sub in history. Eventually He convinced me to talk to him and we sat down and talked about how unrealistic both of our expectations were. A transition from a ‘vanilla’ relationship where we spent the majority of our time cuddling, kissing, and laughing, to a D/s relationship where I had a punishment lined up for everything was just not realistic. Even though I had convinced myself that I wanted that kind of relationship, I realized that I needed so much more than that.

I needed to be held sometimes, I needed to be able to eat when I wasn’t with Master, and he needed to be able to tickle me and kiss me when he wanted without worrying that made him too lenient of a Master. We reviewed limits that were not constructed on too many blogs and an overly heightened mental state. We realized that we could strike a balance where there were realistic rules and goals for our relationship, that we really could make D/s work for us. It was imperative that we considered what we both needed from the relationship, instead of holding ourselves to a standard that was unrealistic and didn’t align with what we were seeking.

I learned many things through this emotionally trying facet of our relationship. The most important lesson being that as a sub, I NEED to communicate with my Master. Communication extends beyond calling a safe word or discussing my sexual limits; emotional limits are just as, if not slightly more important. Once we were both able to discuss our needs, we could better negotiate a stable contract that integrated both of our needs into our lifestyle. I also learned that there is no such thing as “The Universal Perfect Sub”. What is perfect to one Dominant may be very un-perfect to another. It was ridiculous to hold myself to a standard of what the perfect sub was to some blogger on the internet when my Master was sitting at home. I had to listen to his needs and wants too. Together we needed to establish a safe place, because without a feeling of security and balance, neither of us were enjoying the new-found components of our relationship.

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Published on September 30, 2014 07:00

[Free Download] Creating a Drop Kit

Here’s this month’s free download! I’ve put together some of the best suggested things to have on hand and to do when you experience sub drop! I hope it helps you in your times of need. Please download it, print it and share it wherever it may help!

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Published on September 29, 2014 07:00

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

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Allergies are on high here this week. Our new apartment is in the middle of large corn fields and the harvesting hasn’t even begun yet but I have my meds on board and I’ll get through the cooler weather and allergy season just fine. I noticed the leaves are starting to turn around here, but only on the frailer trees. Major foliage isn’t supposed to happen here until the middle-end of October. I can’t wait!

Do you suffer from allergies? How do you get though the allergy season? Any tips?

What’s your favorite season?

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Published on September 28, 2014 10:00

Ask lunaKM Column News and Frequently Asked Questions

I’m sure you’ve noticed that the past 3 months there have been a lot of Ask lunaKM column posts here on the site. I had such a backlog that I felt the need to get them out there faster than I was so that’s why I had them posting three times a week. But now I’m finally all caught up with my Ask lunaKM column that I can move it to its permanent post time on Wednesdays only.

With this announcement I wanted to cover a few frequently asked questions that have to do with the Ask lunaKM column.

1. Will you answer my question?

Maybe. I get anonymous questions all the time and many of them are repetitive or similar to ones I’ve already answered. If your question isn’t specific enough or I don’t have enough information to make an educated opinion piece then I will not answer your question. If you send me an email from your email address this might get you an answer but I have a full email box too so some requests for advice just do not get answered. I only have so much time in my day. If you need answers, please use the FetLife group for Submissive Guide and gain advice and support from other readers.

2. If you don’t answer my question on the site, will you email me with your advice?

I can’t do that. You used a form on the site that does not log your email address. I wouldn’t know where to send any sort of response, if I felt inclined to answer it.

3. Do you answer every question you receive?

Gosh no! As I said above, I get a lot of questions every single day and I pick only the ones that I can answer and that might help others reading it to learn more about themselves or work through their own situations. Questions I don’t answer get archived in my email inbox.

4. Why do you always say to find professional help?

I am not a doctor, therapist, mental health professional, teacher, child care worker, sex worker or your mother. If any of your requests for advice would be better served by these people, I will direct you to use them.

5. How do I know if you answered my question?

You will need to follow the site to see if your question gets answered in the Ask lunaKM column. I can no notify you of a response since there is no email address connected to your query.

Do you have a question or would like to get some advice? All questions are anonymous. Ask lunaKM!

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Published on September 26, 2014 07:00

Bonus! Third Chat Night This Month – Open Forum

Wow! Could it be? Another chat night here at Submissive Guide. Due to the way the month ended up we have an extra chat night for the month coming this Tuesday. So, let’s talk about anything and everything.

This chat will be an open forum. I will moderate with a list of varying topics and we’ll talk about as many as we can in the time we have. If you have topic ideas bring them with you! I hope to see all of you there.

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The chat room is attached to this site under the link at the top, or you can click this link here. It will ask for your nickname and then automatically connect you to the chat room. It is open all the time, so if you want to meet some people, hang out in there. I try to be there when I’m at my computer too.

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Published on September 25, 2014 07:00