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BDSM Basics: Am I Dominant or submissive?

Whether you’ve read 50 Shades of Grey or another drugstore dirty romance novel and then decided to go exploring in BDSM or you’ve found BDSM another way one of the first questions everyone has is are they Dominant or submissive? It sure feels like a good place to start and I am going to help you start figuring out where you think you fall on the spectrum of choices. Keep in mind that no one fits perfectly in any one label while I cover the basic roles.

Each person that has interest in BDSM has their own opinion about what makes a Dominant or submissive and truth be told, they are all right. Arguing what is Dominant and what is submissive is an online forum’s favorite pastime. So, even if you don’t agree, or the comments on this post have a lot of varied opinions, keep in mind that each and every one of them is correct for the people expressing them. That’s really what makes deciding on a role long before you know much about BDSM so difficult. With that in mind, allow yourself to fluidly explore as many roles and identities as you think you would like before you cement yourself in one.

First, since this is a submissive website, the s-type roles are vast. A few of the more common ones are bottom, submissive, slave, little, pet and property.

bottom- During playtime, the person who gives up control, or who receives physical sensation from a Top.

submissive - Person who desires to give up control of themselves, or of certain aspects of their lives, to a Dominant partner. There are as many “styles” of submissiveness as there are submissives.

slave - A person who consensually gives total control to their Master/Owner; often giving up much or all of their rights to limits, safewords, or negotiation.

little- A person who identifies as or role plays as a young child.

pet- A bottom who enjoys animal play or a submissive or slave who is considered living property such as domestic animals are. The pet will not necessarily have an animal persona.

property- One who is owned by another.

The D-type roles are just as varied. Some of the more common ones are Top, Dominant, Master, Daddy and Owner.

Top- The person in control during a scene or in play, but may or may not be a Dominant.

Dominant- Person who exercises control in a D/s relationship. Can be used for either male or female Doms.

Master- An owner of a slave or a person eminently skilled in something (eg. A Master of rope-work).

Daddy- Someone who takes on a father role in a relationship; often, but not always, a Dominant.

Owner- One who has possession of another, usually a slave, pet or property.

Now with the simple definitions out of the way, how do you decide which ones fit you best? Well, go with your gut for starters. What sounds appealing to you. What excites you? Maybe your sexual fantasies might help you decide also. Use what you know about yourself and your personality to pick at least one, for now.

There is no wrong answer to this! You will not be forced to stay any particular role for the rest of eternity if you find something else you prefer more. And if you don’t like any of these options that’s okay too. There are more roles than these and I’m just covering the more common ones for you.

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Published on October 17, 2014 07:00

Putting First Things First: Staying Connected When Apart

This year, I was sent away for work for almost 3 months. That is a long time to be away from my Master! As the dates approached, I worried about the silly things – would He be able to come and visit? Would my roommate be nice? And ugh – a roommate! I knew it would be a big change from life at home.

The beginning was painful. Sleeping alone, knowing no one else there, working long hours, and not having my usual kinky comfort items with me (like the leather cuffs and collar). I tried anything I could to keep going but at the end of the day, I would call Sir and I was never in a good mood. I started developing a mantra: “I am doing this for my family. I am still in service to my family”. Then I would take the next deep breath and take on the next hurdle of the day until it all began to bubble up once again.

As time passed and the work hours continued to be more than any sane person would ask for, I was finding it harder and harder to connect with Him on the phone. I couldn’t wait for the one day a week I would get to see him – but I didn’t want to wait for us to really connect only once a week. I wanted to continue to feel and live my submission. No wonder I was cranky!

I went back to basics. You see, when we first started exploring together, Sir programmed a daily task into the calendar on my phone. It was only two words: check-in. He programmed it at noon and one day, it popped up as I was eating lunch at home and I smiled and happily wrote a little profession of my submission to my Master. Between getting a new phone and all the changes that have happened in our lives since, this little task fell off my radar.

One early morning, as I sat at my desk about to begin another workday, I looked down at my phone and instead of simply saying “Good Morning”, I wrote a little check-in, letting Him know that I was in service to Him today (and everyday). This was the turning point. As each new day would begin, I would keep my routine. Around the same time the sun would start to wake up, I would sit at my desk and tell Master that I was His, everyday a little differently but with the same intent.

He did tell me that He was loving the creativity and effort I was putting into these check-ins and how much they made Him smile. I guess I wasn’t the only one who may have needed the connection and the reminder. To know that I made Him smile – that made my day! It was in going back to the very first thing that Sir had ever asked me to do that made the rest of the time away seem to move faster, be a little gentler, and made me more excited than ever to be home – in more obvious service.

Have you every been away from your Dominant? How do you stay connected to each other when you aren’t sharing the same space?

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Published on October 16, 2014 07:00

Ask lunaKM – He Wants to “Just Be Friends” While Ex is Visiting

Dear LunaKM,

I am fairly new to the D/s lifestyle. A little over a month ago, I met a man and started developing a relationship with him. We had many conversations that were about everyday topics and found we had things in common as well as sexual and D/s conversations. He became my Daddy and I was his Lil one. Things seemed to be going really well and we both seemed excited about how the relationship was developing. There was a strong emotional bond growing. Until last week, when he said he wanted to back off and just be friends. An ex is supposedly moving in with him temporarily and he doesn’t want to have an outside personal life and phone calls at the same time. That maybe in a few months we could pick things back up again. But I have seen he is online on the dating site that we met.

I am baffled and my feelings are hurt. How could a Daddy do that to his lil one? Is he a real Daddy or just a wanna be? Shouldn’t they know how much trust is involved in submission? Especially when their lil one’s share deep things so that they are understood regarding triggers, etc? I shared how I felt about this with him and he hasn’t acknowledged the hurt he caused. I really wanted to find my D, and hoped it was him. But now I won’t even speak to him, because I feel broken.

Dear broken,

I’m sorry that you’ve been hurt. I know that you probably wrote this plea while you were still in the throes of anger and sadness and confusion. These are all normal to feel when you’ve been treated this way. It’s sometimes very hard for anyone to get going in a relationship and then have it squashed with the let’s just be friends jab. Especially when the ex girlfriend is involved in that.

I can’t speculate, or let me say I won’t speculate, why he’s pushing you away when the ex is around but I’m sure you have ideas of your own there. Let’s not dwell on that.

What I can do is cover your questions because they are ones that a lot of new submissives have asked at one point or another. No matter if D/s is a part of your relationship or not, you still have to deal with people as people first. Just because someone slaps a label on themselves and says they are a Daddy Dom doesn’t instantly make them a good person. There are always going to be good people and bad people. You have experienced a douchebag.

A Dominant that cares will know how important it is to develop a trusting relationship and won’t take the losers way out like this guy has. Don’t let this situation get you down, you will find someone who cares for you and your confidence in them. It’s normal to question yourself right now, but know that it wasn’t you that ended the relationship in this way. You can only grieve and then move on a little wiser and more cautiously.

With all this, you may want to read about dealing with a breakup to get some more advice on how to recover, take care of yourself and move on when you are ready.

How to Recover from a Breakup
Recovering from a Breakup Chat Night

Do you have a question or would like to get some advice? All questions are anonymous. Ask lunaKM!

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Published on October 15, 2014 07:00

How S&M Saved My Life

Growing up my parents were extremely physically and emotionally abusive. I moved out when I was thirteen, but I carried the previous abuse with me wherever I went. It made me cry when I detected the slightest amount of anger towards me, it made me shake and pull away when people waved their hands at my face or jokingly slapped me, and it made me go into full PTSD flashbacks whenever someone snapped a belt. My skin was covered in scares from my anger, frustration, and sadness.

I attended therapy with my new family for years. I became functional – I played sports, took honors classes, and was accepted to one of the most prestigious universities in the country. But I was still cutting regularly, I still couldn’t handle people’s anger, and I still had flashbacks. My (now) Master and I had dated for about six months when we decided to begin to integrate S&M into our relationship. It was subtle at first – hair pulling, biting, or gentle slaps on the ass. Then one day, feeling a giant surge of trust towards my Master, I handed him a belt off of my floor and bent over the bed. He was hesitant, expecting me to sob and cry and never speak to him again, but he tried it. The results were just about instantaneous – I started relating the sound of a snapping belt to sex and not my abuse history, I could have someone gesture with their hands near my face without crying, and I began to process emotions in an entirely new light.

S&M became an almost therapeutic aspect of our relationship. When I was stressed out, I knew that Master could come over, and we could have intense play – mild bondage and beatings at that time, and that I would experience relaxation on the other side. I could release my anxieties, my fears, my mania, and my depression through an intensive tactile and sexual manner, in a safe place with a person who I learned to trust more and more every day. Now, after two years of S&M I still find it comforting. There are limits to what I can do sometimes, and I need to communicate with my Master when I have had a flashback and am unable to look at a belt without cringing, but as long as we have open channels of communication S&M can only help me grow.

Adding S&M into our relationship didn’t cure my PTSD nor did it make me less bipolar, but it helped me come to terms with emotions in a new light. I was able to attribute sounds, voice tones, and experiences away from something damaging and associate it to something positive that elicited growth and pleasure. It opened modes of communication between my partner and I, we were able to discuss what felt good and what didn’t, emotional ramifications, and deepen our trust every day. I learned that pushing boundaries – emotionally and sexually, can have some pretty incredible results. I found a space in which I didn’t need to worry about making a mistake, when I faltered Master would catch me (and punish me accordingly), but I knew what was coming. I knew that the punishments were done for me, to help me grow and expand, and not cower and shrink. I found a place where I could trust. I found a place where I learned to love. I found a place where I could finally let go of such a traumatic past and finally be myself.

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Published on October 14, 2014 07:00

Finding Your Way to a Genuine Self

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 7-12-14

When you first learned about submission or BDSM you may have felt a sense of coming home, of finally understanding what wasn’t sitting right for you. But along with that relief come questions. You thought you knew who you were, and now you’ve been thrown into a new world and you don’t know who you are at all. In those first few moments, weeks or months it’s likely you did a lot of reading, exploring the internet and chatting online with others interested in similar things. It’s a lot to take in.

You may start adopting things you heard all submissives do, desperately try to find any Dominant to “train” you because you heard you must have a Dominant and you want one RIGHT NOW. It’s possible that you may have stopped seeing your other friends and withdrawn from your life when you feel that a kink life is the one for you.

And you can lose sight of yourself.

As novices we often forget that our lives are made up of many parts and that we work harmoniously when we embrace all of them. Of course, it’s common to become very single note when we are excited to finally have a name (BDSM, BDSM, BDSM) to what we’ve craved. But we are also friends, family, co-workers, coffee enthusiasts, runners, soccer coaches, knitters and more. We are not just one part of ourselves.

When I started learning about BDSM and embraced submission I became completely obsessed with everything to do with it, from the activities to websites, to persons engaged in it. I couldn’t talk about anything else! I completely alienated my friends and spent hours online reading and printing off essays that I loved and felt a connection with. I talked with a ton of people in chat rooms and explored what I thought I might enjoy. I desperately needed to get perspective.

If I was going to be a part of the whole BDSM world I needed to learn to embrace the whole of me and not just the one new, shiny part of it. And that’s where I had a wake up call. I needed to relearn to be me.

In order to re-embrace yourself in all your parts it’s always best to take stock in what you already know. For myself I knew I was a pretty lazy friend, decent cook, loved crafting, social butterfly and a bit obsessed with learning. And now I was submissive and kinky. That had to fit in there without it overwhelming the other parts of me.

My genuine, real self was in there and when I embraced the whole of me again I was able to coexist with the world.

Now you read this and you probably think it’s all a bunch of hooey. But then again, you may connect with what I have to say about my experience. The most important point I’d like to make is that even though the world if full of information and that you feel finally alive when you discover BDSM and its many facets that you can’t lose yourself in it. You have to make it a part of you, not let it define you.

What does being genuine really mean? It means not putting on a fake persona, of not pretending to be someone you aren’t and in the case of newfound BDSM awareness, of not adopting everything you hear a submissive should or shouldn’t be doing just because someone said it somewhere.

For example, you read somewhere online that all submissives kneel. So you get frustrated that you can’t kneel for more than a few minutes at a time. Then you hop onto the forums and ask how to increase the amount of time you can kneel, only to find out that kneeling (for time periods) isn’t as common as you thought. Defeated you disappear to do more reading on third person speech and un/capitalized pronouns. Only to find out when you have questions about those, that the same thing applies.

What I’m getting at here, is that you don’t have to try to follow the trends, and the trends aren’t all-encompassing. Be aware that single submissives are responsible for themselves and ones in relationships follow whatever rules they have mutually agreed with their Dominants. No two relationships are the same. You have no need to try to do and be everything all at once. Be patient.

Just be yourself. Don’t do anything that isn’t directly asked of you by your Dominant (and don’t accept just any old Dominant). Be picky about who you date and partner with, use your common sense about things and overall be yourself. Make that mental decision to really listen to what your mind is telling you to adopt and who to date – don’t follow the crowd if it doesn’t work for you, and remember that you are more than the kink you’ve just discovered!

Thoughts to Ponder
Are you a new submissive or brand new to BDSM? How do you feel with all the information being presented to you?
Take a step back today and really think about how genuine you are with others. Do you try to mimic what you think a submissive should be or are you being real, genuine and yourself?
Where can being overly obsessed with BDSM information go wrong?
Interesting Links
Be Genuine
Ask SehAnru – New and Overwhelmed
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Single Submissives Need Personal Responsibility
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Introduction
Recapturing Common Sense
Male Submission – Fantasy vs Reality

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Published on October 13, 2014 07:00

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

Hi folks,

I missed last week’s Reflections because I was sick and then I did get better, only to get worse again. I’m doing fine on cold meds and I refuse to miss doing this post two weeks in a row!

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Now for the week in review:

This Week on Submissive Guide

This section highlights the articles posted this week on Submissive Guide and other updates to the blog, if any.

Dominant Personality with a Submissive Identity
Book Review: Kinky Sex-The Secret to Long Term Desire by tequilarose
Processing Pain Now Has an Affiliate Program! Sign Up Now!
Submissive Chat Night: Fostering Healthy BDSM Relationships
Be Not Ashamed – Accepting Who You Are and Where You Came From by DeliciousVixen

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The advice column where I try my best to help you with your questions and personal situation challenges.

Ask lunaKM – Asking Me Questions Privately
Dear Luna, may I ask you a question that will not get posted publicly, whether anonymous or not? I am very new, but older and very private. I am really needing some advice and just would like someone to talk to. If this is not the forum, do you know where I might be able to turn to? I would appreciate your help. -B.

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Dug Out from the Archives

Let’s dig into the archives and reconsider some of the older articles on Submissive Guide that you may have missed.

In 2013: The Curse of Masochism
In 2012: Is Your Heart Truly In It? – Fulfilling Submission Needs Desire
In 2011: What is Discipline?
In 2010: Kink Academy – A New Way to Learn Kink
In 2009: Is It Submission If You Like What You’re Doing?

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Published on October 12, 2014 10:00

Be Not Ashamed – Accepting Who You Are and Where You Came From

This is a guest post by DeliciousVixen.

When people are on the outside looking in at the world of BDSM, it is a popular belief of them to say that we must have been wronged some time in our lives to become this way. Whether submissive or Dominant, they would think that our way of living is just a way to cope. Though it may be true for some people, I know it is not true for me. I have been abused in my life…who hasn’t? We have all had our fair share of verbal degradation or physical abuse of our bodies. However, my lifestyle was not forged because of a hardship in my past. I am the way I am because I was just born that way. Submission is a craving for me. Taking a knee to Daddy is my fulfillment. Daddy is fulfilled by taking me over his knee and giving me a good hiding. He enjoys when I surrender my will to him. Within this beautiful realm, all of our needs are different…but that is just who we are. It is easy for those not in the lifestyle to judge it because of some misunderstanding they have. Those judgments tend to make some of us shy away from accepting ourselves. We are afraid that we are just too much to take.

There is a part of me that I desire to hide from the world. It goes beyond that of a submissive and was only revealed to me because of my Daddy pointing out. I am a Little. The characteristics of my inner self desire to swing on the playground, watch Disney movies, and even cuddle with my “stuffie.” I am complete in this aspect when my Daddy disciplines me for my naughtiness or hugs my fears away. Many do not understand this and would suggest I get counseling because I am a Little. The fear of mockery consumes me when I have personality slippage at work or when I am with my family. The world can be a very difficult place for those people who are not in line with mainstream culture.

I have admitted these things to you for one purpose. I desire to love myself for who I am. Daddy has told me that he cherishes my submission and the fact that I am a Little. If he believes that…then what other approval do I really need? I am not going to go shouting it in the streets, but I am going to take charge of my life. What quality of life can you really have if you live under the iron grip of fear? It will seize you until you lose yourself within it. I know consciously that I cannot serve my Dominant well under an aura of embarrassment and regret. If I am surrendering to shame, I am not surrendering to the one that I have chosen to give my life to. Thus, I am doing a disservice to Daddy and myself.

All in all, I have written this because I am just exhausted of hiding behind a mask. I was raised in a Baptist home and many of the traditional beliefs conflict with my lifestyle. However, it has been revealed to me that my religious beliefs and my lifestyle do not have to clash with each other. I can be Daddy’s little one and a good Christian girl at the same time. Every Sunday at church I do not have to be filled with guilt for just being who I am. I am so thankful for this revelation! It is so freeing!

What I wish for you, dear reader, is that you accept yourself for who you are really. Embrace it with boldness and move forward in your life with that new freedom. You should do this because it is completely normal to be a submissive, Dominant, Sadist, etc..whatever you are! There is nothing wrong with you! You cannot feel whole when hidden behind the mask of shame and humiliation. The completion comes when you love yourself with abandon. Submission and dominance are beautiful things. I do hope this revelation visits you soon..it has already begun to do wonders for me.

DeliciousVixen is just a little girl from Tennessee, starting her life over after difficult circumstances. Her Daddy is her rock and she loves him completely. He is the reason why she has made it this far.

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Published on October 10, 2014 07:00

Submissive Chat Night: Fostering Healthy BDSM Relationships

It’s time again for another chat night here at Submissive Guide. I’d welcome everyone to come on in Tuesday for a bit of conversation. Anything and everything can be discussed. Please come with questions or a curiosity about Dominant/submissive relationships.

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When: 10/14/14 @ 8 PM CST – 9:30 PM CST (Not in CST? Find out the time where you are!)

Where: Chat room on the website, or use an IRC Client

Topic: Healthy BDSM Relationships

What does a healthy BDSM relationship look like?
How can we foster healthy relationships?
What does abuse look like in BDSM relationships?
What to do if you aren’t getting what you need in the relationship
more…

HOW TO GET TO THE CHAT ROOM

The chat room is attached to this site under the link at the top, or you can click this link here. It will ask for your nickname and then automatically connect you to the chat room. It is open all the time, so if you want to meet some people, hang out in there. I try to be there when I’m at my computer too.

If you use an IRC desktop client you can connect to the server directly. Here is the information you need to find the room:

Server: irc.kink-network.com

Port: 6667

Channel: #submissive-guide

Questions? Let me know. Otherwise I hope to see a lot of you there on Tuesday!

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Published on October 09, 2014 07:00

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Published on October 08, 2014 10:00

Ask lunaKM – Asking Me Questions Privately

Dear Luna, may I ask you a question that will not get posted publicly, whether anonymous or not? I am very new, but older and very private. I am really needing some advice and just would like someone to talk to. If this is not the forum, do you know where I might be able to turn to? I would appreciate your help. -B.

My email is always open. That doesn’t mean I will be able to respond quickly or at all, but I never post emails sent to me that way in the “Ask lunaKM” column. They are held in confidence and I do my best to answer at least 10 mails a day. That’s the best forum that I can provide you for private questions.

Now, there are emails I just won’t answer, so if you’ve sent me email and haven’t received a reply I’ll give you some idea why.

Some situations I just don’t have an answer for or don’t feel comfortable answering.
If the request is extremely vague and I have to try to extrapolate information that may or may not exist.
I’ve received emails that are sexual in nature and I will not give personal details to my sexual history or life with Master (other than what is shared already).

Do you have a question or would like to get some advice? All questions are anonymous. Ask lunaKM!

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Published on October 08, 2014 07:00