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You’ve been asking for this since the first series on the blog 4 years ago and now I’m able to say that I’m proud to release the Submissive Advent Calendar as an ebook! I’ve worked with kallista to make a beautiful ebook full of suggestions to make your holiday season just a bit more focused on submission, your personal growth, and service. Days have been revised, adding more options for you to choose and the beautiful look is pleasant and makes you look forward to the day’s activities.

Every day from December 1st through the 24th has two activities to choose from to help you bring a bit of joy to your holidays related to your choice in submission. Single or in a relationship, you will be able to go through this calendar and find a way to reconnect with yourself while the hectic days go by.

Something this special can’t last forever. Since this is a holiday ebook, I’m only putting it up for sale for $6.99 USD from today through December 5th! You have just this limited window to pick up the ebook or it’s gone until next year.

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Published on November 05, 2016 07:00

[Freebie] Writing a D/s Contract

Today I’m sharing with you all the information I know about D/s contracts, from the whys and hows to the minute details of what happens once it’s signed. I also include an example contract for you to customize your own.

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Published on November 04, 2016 07:00

Book Review: The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taormino

In my quest to read books that have been sitting at the bottom of my Kindle library for awhile now, I stumbled across The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play, and the Erotic Edge edited by Tristian Taormino. I had even forgotten that I had purchased this book. I feel a bit stupid for ignoring this book for so long because it really is a fantastic book for anyone who is interested in BDSM or kink. After seeing some of the authors who contributed essays for this book, some I was more familiar with than others, it’s like hitting the jackpot. Not just because of who the authors are, but the various topics that are covered. While this book is composed of essays that aren’t very long and can’t cover everything on some of the topics you’re definitely gonna want to do some more research on, great starting off point for sure.

Before I started reading this book, I looked through the table of contents and was quite shocked to see what some of the topics covered were. There’s everything from anal fisting to impact play to role playing to how to mindfu*k someone. I love, love, LOVE the wide variety of topics and the people who write about these topics know what they’re talking about. Some of the authors who I am familiar with are Laura Antoniou (The Marketplace series author), Midori, Mollena Williams (The Perverted Negress), and Lee Harrington; just to name a few.

The book is broken up into two sections. The first being skills and techniques which cover the how-tos of impact play, both vaginal and anal fisting, bondage, tantra, and several other topics. The second part of the book, fantasies and philosophies cover things like role playing and various specific types of role playing, essays on being a submissive and a female dominant, as well as essays on masochism and sadism. My favorite essay, Submissive: A Personal Manifesto by Madison Young appears in this section and, in my opinion, is a must read for female s-types.

In a way, this book seems like it’s mainly for dominants, especially the first section of the book being about skills and techniques, activities that are mainly carried out by dominants, but I feel like any s-type would be missing out if they skipped the first section and only read the fantasies and philosophies section. I’m a big believer that s-types and bottoms need to understand what’s happening to their bodies as certain activities are being carried out. This is a great book for any dominant and s-type to have in their library of nonfiction BDSM books. At the end, there’s a great resource guide that includes books and videos by the authors of the essays as well as regional organizations, events, and websites. Also included is an about the contributors section and ways to learn more about these individuals.

You can buy your copy of The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play, and the Erotic Edge on Amazon and Barnes & Noble in both paperback and ebook form.

Product Information:

Tequila R’s Rating: 10/10

Paperback: 475 Pages

Language: English

Publisher: Cleis Press; premium edition (March 13, 2012)

ISBN-10: 157344779X

ISBN-13: 978-1573447799

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Published on November 03, 2016 07:00

Ask Submissive Guide – My Dominant Says and Does Things I Didn’t Agree To

Dear Submissive Guide,

In May I met a wonderful Dom online. We talked on the phone every night and I was over the moon for him. He was the first to say I love you and my self-protect wall started to melt. In my dating profile, I was explicit about not wanting to relocate because of a disease I have and the fact that I have a medical team together that I do not want to leave. It took forever to find them all!! At first, he said that was great because he wanted to relocate, but here we are 9 months later he’s still 277 miles away and now says I have to come to him because he doesn’t want to be in my state. I moved forward with him because I trusted him when he told me over and over that moving was okay for him.

I love him and don’t want to give him up but I am starting to question if he actually intended at all to come to me, or if he ever really loved me at all? I asked him if we could make up a contract so we always remembered and we both knew what we agreed to, and if we had to change something we did it together. He doesn’t like the idea of having a contract, it’s too impersonal for a couple that wants to spend a lifetime together. His other big line lately is that I’m the slave (which I never agreed to, I always only ever agreed to sub) and had no rights so I’d go where he wants me, with him. Sometimes I wonder if he’s two different people, or someone playing games, or something weird going on. What do I do? My heart is on the line. Just writing this and thinking about walking away from him sends me into an hour long cry fest. HELP!

Sincerely,
Confused and Sad

Dear Confused,

I know that the idea of walking away from a relationship you believe in and a person you trusted is heartbreaking, soul-wrenching actually. It can be one of the most awful feelings in the world, but let’s look at a few things:

You were upfront that you don’t want to move because of your medical condition and health team (something I think most people would understand). You never hid this fact, and it was something your Dominant knew when he met you. He also said he was okay with this. Now he wants something different. Because this isn’t just a personal choice you’ve made but a medical one, his reluctance is suspicious. While we all do D/s a little different, in loving relationships a Dominant’s responsibility is to the health and well-being of their submissive. Staying where you are allows you to stay healthy and deal with your illness. The last thing he should be doing is pressuring you to make a major move like that – not without showing you how you could rebuild your medical team in his area (which I doubt has happened).

The next point is about contracts. Contracts aren’t a requirement of D/s and many relationships never create a formal one. Under other circumstances, I would say that you simply have to decide how important it is to you. But taken in the context of your question, his reluctance to have a contract is suspicious.

No, contracts aren’t impersonal and yes, even couples who spend a lifetime together can and do have them. You might not always need it, but if it helps you remember what you’ve agreed to (even if that’s the only purpose it serves) there’s nothing wrong with that. Normally, I would say not having one isn’t that big of a deal, but your entire question makes me thinks he doesn’t want anything written down because then he doesn’t have to be held accountable to his own promises.

Why do I think that? Let’s look at the last major point in your question.

The fact that he now refers to you as a slave with no rights is scary. If you’d agreed to that, and it worked for you, great, but you didn’t. The moment he declares that you are required to follow specific rules or do things you never agreed to do (and don’t want to do), he’s on the outside of a consensual act, and he should be viewed with skepticism and even a little fear. It’s possible that he’s extremely uneducated about BDSM, but my first instinct is to believe that it’s not lack of knowledge but an incorrect belief that as your Dominant he can do whatever he wants regardless of how you feel or what you want. Worse, that he said what you needed to hear to start the relationship and now is switching gears to being a controlling, domineering partner instead of a caring Dominant.

As difficult as it is to imagine, walking away may be exactly what you need to do. Yes, it hurts. Yes, you might even feel ridiculous or stupid for letting yourself stay in this situation (you shouldn’t feel that way, but a lot of us do). You may even be scared to be on your own, but it’s better to be alone than in an unhealthy relationship (kinky or otherwise) with someone who’s not taking your needs, wants, and even medical condition into consideration and thinks they can do whatever they want because they’ve got the title of Dominant.

I always recommend open communication and a full, honest, brutal explanation of your feelings before walking away. It sounds like you’re trying to do that. If not, have the conversation, but if he’s unwilling to change or continues to say and do things that go against what you consented to in the beginning and what you want out of a D/s relationship, it’s better (and safer!) to walk away, deal with the pain, and (when you’re ready) look for a Dominant who understands that D/s isn’t all about the “D.”

Do you have a question or would like to get some advice? All questions are anonymous. Ask lunaKM!

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Published on November 02, 2016 07:00

It’s November Which Means Nanowrimo and the Annual Ebook Sale!

This November I’m going to try to write 50,000 words in one month and draft my very first book! That’s right, a real, going to print someday, book! I’m nervous and excited and hopefully I’ll do it! Nanowrimo stands for National Novel Writing Month and a ton of people will be doing the same thing.

I’m planning to Livestream some of my writing on my YouTube channel during the month in what I’m calling Writing Lounges. Make sure you are subscribed or follow my twitter so you can be notified when I go live! Come hang out, chat and talk about the writing process and the book which will be about submission.

(My internet has been spotty so I can’t announce a schedule but I will try to stream when I can, starting today in about 1 hour!)

Oh and since it’s Nanowrimo ….

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To help keep me motivated and fueled with coffee and snacks I’m holding an ebook sale for the entire month of November! You can buy any or all of my e-books from this site for 25% off! It is discounted automatically so you don’t have a discount code to remember and you can use the discount over and over again throughout the month!

This is my thank you to all of you for supporting me and keeping me going with topics and ideas and pleas for advice. I have heard you and am working hard this month to produce my very first real book draft to help you learn and explore your submission even further!

Thank you everyone!

–lunaKM

31 Days of Submissive Journaling – Day 31: Q&A, Resources and Further Reading

Well, the month is over and I hope you learned about submissive journaling and how to open up by writing! I had a great time putting this series together for you but I know I probably missed some of the things you wanted to know! I’ll also include some great journaling resources and links around the web so you can continue exploring the great world of journaling. This post is will also serve as a Q&A post where I’ll answer your questions, starting with the ones from way back at the beginning of the month when I asked you what you wanted to learn!

Q: How can I be completely open and transparent with him (and MYSELF) with this constant nagging fear that I will hurt him or our relationship if I openly speak the truth? (Well, MY TRUTH.)

A: Learning how to be completely open is a process and often it can be difficult. What often helped me in journaling is that I’d preface the information with something that buffered it, like, “this is just my feelings” or “I’m not sure how to phrase this but here goes.” It often helped me get it on the page and often lead to a productive conversation rather than one filled with pain. Perhaps you’ll be able to work out a solution rather than avoiding it? Now, if you are actually hiding something that you know will harm the relationship, those sort of secrets have a way of coming out anyway and it’s best to face them before even more damage is done. Keeping secrets is unhealthy and some relationships (mine included) consider secret-keeping as lying.

Q: I also wanted to know about creating a service submissive journal if that makes sense. Something that tracks the skills that I am learning.

A: Keeping track of what you are learning and the skills you are picking up could be as simple as creating a tracker and checking it off every day or it could be more involved and you need to keep notes, record your stats and so forth. Look into bullet journaling for project management, it might suit you. You might also like the series I did on writing a Service and Training Resume. It has a lot of tips for tracking skills, progress and other things you might be learning in your relationship. Check out the ebook here.

Q: My question, or fear really, about journalling, is related to depression/mental health. For two years, I used a daily blog and it worked amazingly well, for me and for my dominant. Things went downhill when I started to suffer from depression, my thought processes became dark and scrambled, and neither me nor my dominant could cope with me expressing these dark thoughts every day. That is when I stopped blogging. Nine months on, I know I’m a lot better and I know it’s time to start opening up properly to my dominant again, and I know a journal or blog is a really good way to do this, but in truth, I do feel a bit scared.

A: My bit of advice is to talk to him about your fears. He’ll likely encourage you to start again and know you are hesitant and scared of what happened before he’ll understand if your journal is a bit cloudy at first. But since you said that it worked really well before, it can again. Give it a shot. Then, if you are still seeing a therapist you can work on those feelings that come up again before they get really bad.

Q: When journaling, is this information’s supposed to be shared with your Dominant partner? What role does He/She play?

A: You don’t have to have a journal that is shared. It’s up to you and your partner. I have a private journal to write thoughts in that KnyghtMare does not see. He knows I use it but never asks to see it and often doesn’t even know where I’ve stashed it. Now, I feel that he grants me this because I’m so open with him about things that I can have a private place because when I need to talk to him I will. So, what role your Dominant plays is up to the two of you. Talk about journaling and see what they say.

I’ll continue to answer questions in the comments section, so if you have more you’d like to learn about journaling, ask me!

Journaling Resources

Notes on Journaling from a High School English Teacher

The Ten Principles for Keeping an On-going Journal

Rereading Your Journal

Journal For You

The Magic of Journaling by Hand

Everyday Magic: Why I Journal

An Exceedingly Simple Guide to Keeping a Journal

A Short Course in Journal Writing: It’s Easy to W.R.I.T.E.

Useful Books About Journaling

At a Journal Workshop: Writing to Access the Power of the Unconscious and Evoke Creative Ability, by Ira Progoff (J. P. Tarcher).

Creative Journal: The Art of Finding Yourself, by Lucia Capacchione (Swallow Press).

Journal to the Self: 22 Paths to Personal Growth, by Kathleen Adams (Warner Books).

The Many Faces of Journaling: Topics & Techniques for Personal Journal Writing, by Linda C. Senn (Pen Central Press).

One to One: Self-Understanding Through Journal Writing, by Christina Baldwin (M Evans & Co).

Visual Journaling: Going Deeper Than Words, by Barbara Ganim and Susan Fox(Quest Books).

The New Diary: How to Use a Journal for Self-Guidance and Expanded Creativity, by Tristine Rainer (TarcherPerigee).

Blogging Resources

A-Z of Blogging Resources

How to Start a Blog

12 Personal Blogging Tips

5 Tips for Starting Your Personal Blog

10 Do’s and Dont’s for the Personal Blogger

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Published on October 31, 2016 07:00

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 30 – What Have You Learned?

We are nearly to the end of the Submissive Journaling series here on Submissive Guide. This month has been chock full of tips, tricks, and how-tos for journaling and I hope you have picked up some good ideas for your own journaling needs.

So, this is where I ask you what you thought of the series, what you picked up and if you’d like to see further articles about any specific part of the month’s topics. Please don’t be shy, leave a comment below. Even if you thought this month-long series sucked, I wanna know.

Tomorrow will be a list of resources and a summary of what the series was about in case you missed some of it, but today is really your day to talk to me. Please comment related to the last 30 days series on Submissive Journaling:

What did you like?
What didn’t you like?
Did you have an ah-ha moment?
What needed more information?
What did I miss completely?
Anything else?
Related Posts:
31 Days of Submissive Journaling – Day 31: Q&A, Resources and Further Reading
31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 23 – Journal Prompts: Using Them Effectively to Improve Your Life
31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 22 – How to Manage Negative Comments Without Rage
31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 20 – 4 Ways to Find Topics for your Submissive Blog
31 Days of Submissive Journaling – Day 10: Ways to Personalize Your Physical Journal

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Published on October 30, 2016 08:00

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 29 – Social Networking Best Practices

Facebook, FetLife, LinkedIn, Twitter, Ning, Digg, MeetUp, blogs, Instagram, KIK, etc., — the number of social networking sites and tools is exploding. Social networking is the killer app of the Internet for everyone. Such sites have become links to communicate with businesses, news, brands, celebrities, and friends, are a way to find your next job or the next big coffee spot. They can be addictive. For some, it’s the perfect mix of an RSS reader, a chat room, and a never-ending party. But it’s also a perfect place for the shady side of the internet to exploit you. Let’s learn some safety tips before you use the social network to share your new news.

But why am I talking about social networking when this whole month as been about journaling and blogging? Because, a lot of you, and I mean a LOT, are using twitter and other social networking sites as a way of microblogging.

What is microblogging?

In a word, microblogging is simply the art of posting frequent, but very short posts. Unlike regular blogging – writing long posts with photos – microblogging is meant to be quick, succinct, and pointed. You share your day, your successes and your failures with the click of a button or the snap of a photo.

5 Tips to Remember When Using Social Networking Sites or Apps

Remember the following while you’re tweeting, re-tweeting and hashtagging away:

1. Be a little skeptical of everything, especially Direct Messages

In about two minutes, you could create a Twitter account that impersonates almost anyone, living or dead. Twitter has “Verified Accounts” for celebrities, but no one is really verifying if an account was really opened by your co-worker Beth. That said: hackers probably aren’t going out of their way to impersonate your co-worker. But they might take over Beth’s account to trick you into clicking on a bad link.

So carefully scan any profile page you’re thinking of following. Check to see if there’s a respectable image. Make sure all tweets aren’t entirely repetitive self-serving spam. See if there’s a reasonable “follower-to-following” ratio. Then, if they look interesting, follow away.

2. Use a strong password

Once a hacker has your password, your account and social identity is completely vulnerable. So guard those little jewels jealously. Most importantly, you should use different passwords for every account you have. Your passwords should be complex and not based on any public information like your kids’ or pets’ names.

3. Don’t post anything you don’t want others to see.

The most common photo you see on Facebook of most America teens is the mirror shot. Thankfully, most photos are tame, but we’ve all seen enough leaked naughty pics of starlets to know that people just can’t resist the temptation to share a saucy photo with their current paramour. If you don’t want your parents, friends, and co-workers to see these shots—don’t take them and don’t share them with anyone.

4. Don’t say anything to anyone online that you wouldn’t say to their face.

We get very brave online. We yell (ALL CAPS) and say nasty things to other people. In real life (IRL) we’d never be that bold. The rules should not be different online. Use good sense in IRL and online. If you’re really angry, take a deep breath, count to ten and then take a short walk. When you sit back down in front of your computer you’ll realize that sending that e-mail, making the Facebook post or Tweeting that bit of venom was a stupid idea.

5. Assume that everything you put on a social networking site is permanent.Even if you can delete your account, anyone on the Internet can easily print photos or text or save images and videos to a computer. There are tons of archive sites just storing the content posted on the internet. Once you post it, it’s there forever.

Do you use Twitter, Instagram or any of the other social networking sites? Are there any tips you can offer that you’ve picked up from using Social Media sites? Share your thoughts in the comments!

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Published on October 29, 2016 08:00

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 28 – Quotes: Inspiration Leads to Motivation

When I first started journaling (on an online blog) I loved sharing quotes that I liked. They touched me in some way or reminding me of how I was feeling at the time. Whatever the case may be for why you like a quote; quotes inspire us, they give us a tidbit of thought and a lot of people use them to remind them of what’s important. But you can often use these quotes more than you are currently. You can learn from them, you can grow and you can seek the meaning behind the words and why they mean something to you.

How you use quotes when journaling can lead you to revelations about your own life. It’s more than simply writing the quote in your journal. It’s about reflecting on the meaning or idea behind it and then applying it. Oh, I know, you don’t need to do this every single time you find a quote you like. But there are times, like when journaling or when you are assigned to journal but don’t know what to write about, that quote analysis could be productive and not just blank page filler.

First, you need to find quotes. There are so many places to find quotes about a variety of topics, from a wide variety of people, places, books and events that it would be impossible to list them all. I’ve made a short list to get you started.

Where to Find Inspirational Submissive or BDSM-related Quotes
Submissive Journal Prompts
Pinterest
Tumblr
Brainyquote
Quotegarden
News and events coverage
Books you’ve read
How to Use Quotes for Journaling

Once you’ve selected a quote that inspires you or speaks you, it’s time to sit on it for a bit. That’s right I want you to just look at it, read it again, think about it and then think about how it speaks to you. Now you know a bit more about the quote than you started. If you want, you can also look into who said it, the situation it was said in or what other media it came from. Often, how we read a quote will be different than it’s intended meaning so learning what caused the author to say it in the first place. That’s okay in small doses and for personal introspection. If you plan to use the quote in something more public, misinterpreting the meaning may look poorly on you. So learn, explore and understand where the quote came from.

Seems like too much work? Then simply write about your own interpretation of the quote and how it inspires, motivates or speaks to you. It can open your mind and perhaps teach you something about the way you think about submission or other aspects of your life. Tumblr is full of quotes on pretty images if you are seeking something artistic to go in your journal – or make it yourself.

Words outlive people, institutions, civilizations. Words spur images, associations, memories, inspirations and synapse pulsations. Words send off physical resonations of thought into the nethersphere. Words hurt, soothe, inspire, demean, demand, incite, pacify, teach, romance, pervert, unite, divide. Words be powerful. –Inga Muscio

Your turn: share your favorite quote in the comments!

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Published on October 28, 2016 08:00

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 27- Brain Dump: Shaking Off Toxic Emotions

One of the main ways I’ve used my personal blog for years is as a brain dump. A brain dump is a method of releasing all the clutter that’s in your head at the time. Whether that be a rant or a moment of stress or a way to sort out intense emotions. Submissive Journaling isn’t all neat and orderly, it can be a huge mess of emotions that you just have to get off your chest right that instant. And that’s where a brain dump comes in.

Have you ever had a moment where you felt you just needed to get your emotions out or you would explode but didn’t want to do it in an inappropriate place or get you in trouble for your outburst? Brain dumping is a great practice to get into to relieve stress and sort out those emotions. My blog used to be full of brain dumps and it often gave KnyghtMare and our M/s relationship a bad rap – simply because I was venting and only sharing what was stressing me out at the time. The negative comments I was getting as a result pretty much killed my desire to blog any longer – after 10 years of blogging. Now I journal privately and I’m far healthier because of it. It hasn’t stopped me from brain dumping because it has shown me that it helps me process a lot of things.

What is the idea behind brain dumping?

A lot of journaling is just talking about your emotions and thoughts, but when it comes to brain dumping there’s no organization and it’s not about making sense or looking pretty. It’s just about getting relief and venting in a healthy way. Managing stress is a popular topic in the news and popular media and there’s no way you could skip journaling on any of those news lists. Experienced journalists know that some fo the best ideas come when you just let your mind flow out onto the page. Clearing the clutter in your head will also open up your ability to work through problems and find solutions to reach your goals in submission and your relationship.

Morning Pages

A method of brain dumping that has become quite popular among journalists (those who journal) are morning pages.

Morning Pages are three pages of longhand, stream of consciousness writing, done first thing in the morning. There is no wrong way to do Morning Pages – they are not high art. They are not even “writing.” They are about anything and everything that crosses your mind– and they are for your eyes only. Morning Pages provoke, clarify, comfort, cajole, prioritize and synchronize the day at hand. Do not over-think Morning Pages: just put three pages of anything on the page…and then do three more pages tomorrow. – Julia Cameron Live (retrieved 10/3/16)

I have just started Morning Pages as a method of journaling and brainstorming at the beginning of the day. I’m a morning person so I probably have more productive Morning pages than someone that has to crawl out of bed and have 2 cups of coffee before starting their day. But anyway, Morning Pages are for me alone and they allow me to write about anything on my brain at the time; be it work or personal or world news. It’s just enough pages that I feel refreshed when I’m done and sometimes I have some kind of revelation, big or small, from what I’ve just written.

Get started with your on brain dumps!

Don’t worry about punctuation or grammar (or penmanship if you’re putting pen to paper).
Write what you feel.
Write what you want.
Write when you want.
Doodle, scribble or draw out your feelings.
Do write about things you are grateful for.
Write about how you plan on solving a problem.
Write about your hopes and dreams.
Step into the other person’s shoes and write from

their perspective.
Re-read your journal entries and reflect over patterns you see that are either working for you or against you.
Activity

Take a 10 minute break and start writing. Review the list above before you start and just write. See what happens when you let your mind flow and words just flow, no matter what they are.
Related Posts:
31 Days of Submissive Journaling – Day 6: Why New Submissives Should Write a Submissive Journal
31 Days of Submissive Journaling – Day 2: What Would You Like to Learn?
Submissive Journals: Bullet/Analogue Journal Review
31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 26 – Gratitude Log: Happiness’ Best Kept Secret
31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 25 – Book Notes: How to Select and Read With Purpose

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Published on October 27, 2016 07:00