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October 16, 2015
7 Reasons Partners Lie...Lying Part 2
When I talk about lying problems in relationships, I'm not just talking about partners with ADHD. Either partner can lie...and lies also exist in relationships in which there is no ADHD. But there are some ways that the presence of ADHD increases the chances that one or the other partner will lie. To be able to chart the best course to move away from lying in your own relationship, you must first understand why the lying is happening. Choosing to lie is a decision that is made – not typically a beneficial one for a relationship, but often a logical one at some level. Understanding the logic really helps. There are at least 7 common reasons partners choose to lie, which include:
Male conflict avoidance: Women start 80% of emotionally difficult conversations for a reason. Research shows that men have difficulty physiologically recovering from conflict. While women can ‘self-soothe’ relatively quickly, men remain agitated for quite a bit longer (higher heart rate, more stress hormones in the system, etc.) This is physically uncomfortable. As a result, men (in particular) often try to avoid conflict with their partners. That means that sometimes it feels logical to cover something up rather than get into a fight with their partner over it, particularly if the thing that one is lying about feels like a ‘small’ thing. From a self-comfort perspective, lying is logical. But from a relationship perspective, it’s not. Over time, the fact that the small lies and cover-ups are there become the invisible gorilla in the room for the other partner.
Avoidance of a partner's chronic anger: Either partner might lie in order to avoid getting trounced - once again - by a partner whose typical response to bad news is anger and/or punishment.
Imbalanced relationship: Those who feel like the underdog in a relationship (or are embroiled in the ‘parent/child dynamics’ often associated with ADHD-impacted relationships) may lie in order to avoid ‘getting in trouble’. While this may not seem very ‘adult,’ that is one of the damaging parts of parent/child dynamics – the partner in the less responsible, child-like role (almost always the ADHD partner) feels powerless. In this situation lying is, again, a pretty logical avoidance of emotional pain.
Because the emotional benefits feel good now: Particularly with emotional and physical affairs, partners with (and without) ADHD lie because they are desperate to feel loved, or feel better about themselves when someone outside the relationship tells them how wonderful they are. In these cases, partners need to get at the underlying causes that led to the affair in the first place in order to understand how to next move forward. This can be a painful process of looking hard at the other (not currently lying) partner's contributions to why the lying partner (or, likely both partners) feel unloved. Other factors, such as family of origin issues can be a factor in feeling unloved, as well.
Doesn’t want to disappoint a partner: I often hear ADHD partners say that they feel that they disappoint their partner enough, and when they mess up (not finishing something when they said they would, or forgetting something important) it feels safer to ‘fudge’ than to admit to their partner (and even sometimes to themselves) that they’ve disappointed their partner again. Since people with ADHD tend to focus on what feels good now, they discount the long-term negative impact of this course of action. Having under-managed ADHD makes this worse. The less effective the ADHD treatment, the more likely the ADHD partner is to be inconsistent – creating more times when covering up feels necessary.
Low self-esteem: Low self-esteem is an issue for many people who have ADHD. Over the years some develop the coping strategy of hiding behind lies. They might hide social awkwardness (a common issue for kids with ADHD,) shame, or feelings that they are not as good as others perceive them to be. Quite a number of ADHD adults have told me they feel like a fraud who is about to get discovered. Lying to keep up appearances is ‘logical’ in this situation, though I would note that every single adult with ADHD who has said they feel like a fraud was quite talented in objective terms…they just lacked confidence in their successes, feeling (after years of inconsistent performance or struggle) that their ‘luck’ might run out soon.
Habit: Some chronic liars got into the habit in childhood of lying to keep from disappointing authority figures (their parents, teachers and sometimes peers) and make themselves feel better. Lying became an extension of, or perhaps a form of, excuses for inconsistent performance.
So that’s at least 7 reasons why lying might be going on in your relationship. Next time I’ll write about how to figure out what is happening in your own relationship, and why you both need to start thinking about lying in a new way.
October 9, 2015
ADHD, Lying, and All That Stuff
Is lying a part of your relationship? Are you eager to move past the lies to a more trusting partnership? This is the first of several posts that will deal with lies and rebuilding trust in relationships impacted by ADHD.
One of the people in the forum recently posted this very relevant question:
"How does a person cope with a marriage that includes lies? I know I should have confronted (my ADHD partner) more about the lying when we were first married, but I didn't. I thought giving him the benefit of the doubt and showing him I believed in him when we were young was a way to boost his ego. It boosted his ego and made me lose respect for myself. He was a traveling salesman from the start. Very independent. I let him be the way he was. It was not a satisfying way to live from my point of view. How do I gain my self-respect back and how does a spouse hold constant vigil to not tolerate lies?"
Here are just a few more of the questions I've received on lying:
(from a man with ADHD) “I’ve quit smoking, but 3 weeks ago I impulsively bought some chewing tobacco. When my wife found out she was livid. How do I stop lying about stuff like this?”
“I am the ADD husband. I do find I lie at times to my wife about my motivations and intentions since it is easier for me to silently commit to myself to take actions that will retroactively "make up for it". But I am not sure I am ready to admit to her that I do this since for some time she has been solely focused on ME being the problem in our relationship.”
(from a man with ADHD) "(growing up) I quickly learned to cover, hide and adapt in social groups to lie, fit in, not being teased, put down especially being " odd"...As I grew into manhood with issues of attentiveness, focus,and typical ADD symptoms. I lied to cover up my faults and short comings."
(from a non-ADHD man) “I’ve tried not to create an atmosphere that would encourage lying, then seemingly, out of nowhere, I trip over another one of her lies -- even when it doesn't appear there is a reason to lie…”
(from a non-ADHD woman) “Is it common that…a non-ADHD partner might respond by lying or not being completely honest about things that they know the ADHD partner will become unreasonably angry about…?”
Lying is a difficult topic, and one that hits very close to home. None of us think we deserve to be lied to, and the act of lying is often seen as a breach of marital trust. Moving away from lies to an open and honest relationship is hard, though (we are living proof!) possible. I wish to share the approach to improving honesty that seems to work well for the couples I’ve worked with (including in my own relationship.) Note that I'm not saying it's easy - in order to succeed, couples must both wish to make changes and open themselves up to examining their own role in the cycle of lying in the relationship. This can be hard for partners who are being lied to.
Before I get going, it’s important to understand where I stand on the issue of lying. Though it’s easy to think of lies, particularly ‘small’ ones, as inconsequential, this is far from the truth. Lying can’t continue if your relationship is to thrive, as it destroys trust and one’s sense of self and stability, just as it has for the first poster above. Chronic lies create an unstable environment in which the partner being lied to never knows what is true or false (big or small), and whether the relationship is safe. For the lying partner, the lies may lower self-esteem and are an indication that the relationship – and one’s feelings about oneself – are not currently healthy.
A Caveat – It’s Not Always Lying
Some aspects of ADHD may be misinterpreted as lying when they are not. For example, poor short-term memory might lead an ADHD partner to say “We didn’t talk about X two weeks ago!” not because she is covering up, but because she genuinely doesn’t remember the conversation, even if it was important.
Distraction can mean that ADHD and non-ADHD partners experienced the same event quite differently, as the ADHD partner sees some of what the non-ADHD partner sees, plus (most likely) other (perhaps irrelevant) things that the non-ADHD partner didn’t see at all. “It happened this way, not that!” might seem like a cover-up or a lie when, in fact, it is an accurate representation of what the ADHD partner experienced that the non-ADHD did not.
In either of these situations, you probably end up in a ‘he said/she said” argument over whether something happened a certain way – or at all. These are unwinnable arguments – there is ample evidence that neither of you sees things completely accurately at least some of the time and, of course, you don’t know when that is. So if you start arguing over whether it happened this way or that, simply say “that’s a he said/she said argument,” then take stock of where you are at that moment (vs. where you think you ought to be) and start your forward progress from there.
As for whether or not your partner is lying, give your partner the benefit of the doubt when you can.
Lying is Common
Caveat aside, if you have lies in your ADHD-impacted relationship, you are not alone. This is so common, in fact, that I teach about it in my ADHD Effect In-Depth couples seminar. Happily, with time and effort, the two of you can move past lies to a healthier place. The process for doing so includes:
identifying why the lying is happening (the topic of my next blog post)
discussing the role that lying plays in the relationship, including the negatives and positives that it creates
discussing how you both envision your future relationship when honesty is a core value and what each of you would need in order to become more honest and move into that new relationship
creating a new environment that encourages moving away from lying and outlines clear expectations for your 'new and improved' relationship
practicing being honest with each other through improved conflict intimacy and an open conversation about your efforts. You likely won’t get settled into a habit of being completely honest with each other right away if you have experienced chronic lying.
In addition, I think it’s important to clearly think about the elements of trust when ADHD is part of your relationship.
That’s a lot to cover, but it’s a very worthwhile topic, so I will write several blog posts in succession on the topic. Stay tuned!
September 18, 2015
Adults, ADHD, and 7 Other Conditions that Often Go with ADHD
Adults with ADHD often suffer from co-existing conditions that can make their lives – and the lives of their partners – even more complicated. Here is a list of seven of the most common conditions that ride along with ADHD and information about why it's important to understand if you have any of them. The numbers included here are taken from multiple research studies:
Depression: Over their lifetime, more than half of adults with ADHD will suffer from diagnosable depression. At any given point, 16-31% of adults are depressed. Treat depression as well as ADHD to optimize your ability to find the energy to keep your life on track. One particularly effective method for managing depression is regular aerobic exercise. One research study suggested exercise is more effective for mood regulation than Zoloft.
Anxiety: Between 24-43% of adults with ADHD also suffer from anxiety. This causes relationship and personal problems with anxiety about what might happen interferes with good decision making, effectively paralyzing the person who has it. Mindfulness training can help anxious people learn to differentiate thoughts from actual events. In addition, certain medications may help lessen anxiety. And having a partner who becomes more positive, accepting and flexible can help lessen anxiety.
Alcohol Dependence: Alcohol can help calm the ADHD mind and is, therefore, adopted as a form of self-medication for many adults with ADHD, particularly before they are aware they have ADHD. Research suggests as many as 21-53% of adults with ADHD have an alcohol dependence or abuse problem at some point in their lives. 12-step programs can be effective in managing this issue, and treating ADHD fully with medication as well as behavioral treatment can also lessen the desire to use alcohol as the tool of choice to calm the mind.
Undiagnosed Celiac Disease: Though a recent meta-analysis on the research on dietary changes as treatment for ADHD suggests that diet does not impact ADHD symptoms very much, there is one group for whom this is not true. 17% of adults with ADHD have undiagnosed Celiac Disease (vs. 1% of the general population). For those adults, dietary changes to eliminate gluten can make a huge difference in the expression of ADHD symptoms.
Learning Disabilities: Eye tracking disorders that significantly slow down reading; dyslexia; dyscalculia; processing problems and other learning issues often go hand-in-hand with ADHD. Particularly when ADHD is diagnosed at an early age it is important to check for learning issues so that a full treatment plan can be developed to help get through school and, later, work.
Oppositional Defiant Disorder: Research suggests that 24-35% of younger adults with ADHD may also have some amount of ODD. This number diminishes with age, as some move beyond it.
Conduct Disorder: The combination of ADHD and Conduct Disorder is one of the most debilitating of all, and those who are diagnosed with hyperactivity as part of their ADHD as a child are more likely to suffer from this combination. 17-25% of those with ADHD also have Conduct Disorder, and the numbers of those with hyperactivity are even higher. This is the combination can lead to particularly poor outcomes with the law and in the workplace, making early intervention and rigorous treatment and behavioral support particularly important for this group.
Why This is Important
There are two reasons why it’s important to know this information:
The presence of these co-existing conditions can ‘hide’ ADHD at time of diagnosis. Make sure to get a full evaluation from a qualified caregiver if you think you may have one of these co-existing conditions.
Optimizing treatment means treating ADHD and anything else you might have, as well.
What Do I Treat First?
The answer to this question is not always straightforward. Dr. Edward Hallowell suggests that you and your doctor should determine what condition is most getting in your way and work on that first. So, for example, if you suffer from debilitating depression that keeps you from getting out of bed in the morning as well as ADHD, it may make sense to deal with the depression first so that you have the energy to tackle treating the ADHD. Or, perhaps, medicinally treating both the depression and ADHD before moving into behavioral treatments for ADHD.
As another example, if you have anxiety that is related to under-performance due to ADHD symptoms, then it may make sense to tackle the ADHD treatment first in order to improve performance, then work on remaining anxiety issues.
The bottom line is that those with ADHD should not just assume they are only dealing with ADHD. It’s best to have full knowledge.
Research statistics source: Barkley, Murphy and Fischer ADHD in Adults: What the Science Says
August 12, 2015
Diminishing Aggressiveness
Quote of the Week
“I left prison more informed than when I went in. And the more informed you are, the less arrogant and aggressive you are.”
-Nelson Mandela, quoted in Oprah Magazine
Diminishing Aggressiveness
I don’t typically think of prison as a place where people become less aggressive. So this quote really struck me! Mandela is talking about opening yourself up to the power of becoming educated about something that matters. His education changed an entire nation as he became less arrogant and less aggressive.
It wasn’t just book learning. He spent a good deal of time thinking about how to be a better person. He chose to open himself to new ideas and a new way of being, and then worked hard at it.
I’m convinced that many couples can use a similar strategy to deal with ADHD issues in their relationship. Open yourself up to becoming more informed about ADHD and its impact, and challenge yourself to be a better person.
This is the sort of work I lay out in my seminar, The ADHD Effect In-Depth. If you haven’t taken it yet, I suggest you at least consider it. The next live course (given by phone) will start January 12, 2016.
December 16 - London - Melissa will be speaking on Adult ADHD, Relationships and Families. Free. More info at ADDISS.
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at adhdmarriage.com, including: a free online treatment overview; free downloadable chapters of my books; a community forum with other couples facing similar issues; a large number of blog posts on various topics; referrals; and my very popular couples courses:
ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - Next live session will start January 12, 2016 - this eight-session phone seminar has helped many couples turn around their relationship.
Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD wins 2 book awards!
Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship. ADHDmarriage.com can literally change your life!
© 2015 Melissa Orlov
Failure
Quote of the Week
“Epic failure is part of being human, and it’s definitely part of being married. It’s part of what being alive means, occasionally screwing up in expensive ways. And that’s part of what marriage means, sometimes hating this other person but staying together because you promised you would. And then, days or weeks later, waking up and loving him again, loving him still.”
-Ada Calhoun, NY Times
Failure
Instead of writing a long article, I’m going to send you to a NY Times article that I enjoyed reading…Because it made me smile.
Melissa will be speaking in LONDON on December 16 on Adult ADHD, Relationships and Families. For info on this free event, go to this link.
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at adhdmarriage.com, including: a free online treatment overview; free downloadable chapters of my books; a community forum with other couples facing similar issues; a large number of blog posts on various topics; referrals; and my very popular couples courses:
ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - this eight-session phone seminar has helped many couples turn around their relationship. Next live session starts January 12, 2016.
Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD wins 2 book awards!
Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship. ADHDmarriage.com can literally change your life!
© 2015 Melissa Orlov
Regret
Quote of the Week
“(Regret is) driven by a contrast between where we are and where we think we could have been.”
-Dan Ariely, who studies irrationality
Regret
Let’s say you miss your flight. That’s frustrating, right? But what’s more frustrating? Missing it by 2 minutes, or by two hours?
And who is happier standing on the Olympic podium? The person who got the silver or the person who got the bronze?
Both the person who missed the flight by 2 minutes and the silver medalist are thinking “If only…” and that form of regret is incredibly painful. So painful, in fact, that Ariely’s experiments suggest that people will do almost anything to avoid that feeling again.
Regret also drives anger. But Ariely’s insight may help diminish that. After all, if a non-ADHD wife (for example) regrets she married a woman who is completely disorganized instead of someone who is very neat, it’s possible to reframe this issue with greater acceptance of the disorganized partner’s ADHD symptoms. ‘If I am to be Suzanne’s partner at all, I have to acknowledge that my dream of her being a neat freak wasn’t actually very realistic. I knew that going in, even though I hoped it would improve.” By being realistic, you decrease the distance between where you are, and where you think you could have been.
Are there things you regret where the pain of that regret could be lessened by viewing the situation more realistically?
Melissa will be speaking in LONDON on December 16 on Adult ADHD, Relationships and Families. For info on this free event, go to this link.
American Adults Wanted to Participate in a Brief, Online Mindfulness Study - The intent of this study is to better understand why people may be more or less willing to practice mindfulness. The results will help inform a variety of mindfulness-based treatments, including those for ADHD. Take the study here.
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at adhdmarriage.com, including: a free online treatment overview; free downloadable chapters of my books; a community forum with other couples facing similar issues; a large number of blog posts on various topics; referrals; and my very popular couples courses:
ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - this eight-session phone seminar has helped many couples turn around their relationship. Next course begins January 12, 2016.
Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD wins 2 book awards!
Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship. ADHDmarriage.com can literally change your life!
© 2015 Melissa Orlov
We Are Two Individuals, But One Couple
Quote of the Week
“I can never be what I ought to be until you are what you ought to be. And you can never be what you ought to be until I am what I ought to be.”
-Martin Luther King
We Are Two Individuals, But One Couple
One of the greatest pleasures, and greatest tests, of being part of a couple is how interconnected you are. You are completely different people and will not (and should not!) be the same. Being differentiated partners is healthy and part of creating a happy relationship.
But Martin Luther King makes a point about our inter-connectedness, too. He was voicing a call to be our best selves in all of our relationships and I suggest to my clients the same thing. You should strive to be your best self, but you won’t get there completely until your partner is also on the right path, and vice versa.
That means two things: First, don’t wait for your partner to make changes – go ahead and look at what you can do to make your situation together happier…and DO IT! Second, celebrate your mutual successes. Every time your partner makes a gain, so do you (and vice versa).
I challenge you to ask yourself – how can I be ‘what I ought to be’?
Thanks for your patience with our website outage the week of November 9th! The adhdmarriage.com site is back up and ready for your use.
American Adults Wanted to Participate in a Brief, Online Mindfulness Study - The intent of this study is to better understand why people may be more or less willing to practice mindfulness. The results will help inform a variety of mindfulness-based treatments, including those for ADHD. Take the study here.
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at adhdmarriage.com, including: a free online treatment overview; free downloadable chapters of my books; a community forum with other couples facing similar issues; a large number of blog posts on various topics; referrals; and my very popular couples course:
ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - this eight-session seminar has helped many couples turn around their relationship.
Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD wins 2 book awards!
Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship. ADHDmarriage.com can literally change your life!
© 2015 Melissa Orlov
Anger
Quote of the Week
“I have learnt…to conserve my anger, and as heat conserved is transmuted into energy, even so our anger controlled can be transmuted into a power which can move the world.” -Mahatma Gandhi
Anger
We all get angry, even Gandhi. The question is, what do we do with that anger?
Anger is an emotion that should be noticed and accepted like any other – it simply alerts us that something is amiss in our lives. By itself, it’s not bad. But anger hurts us (and our relationships) when we vent it rather than use it productively. The idea that it’s good to ‘vent our anger’ to get it our of our system is simply wrong – it forgets that someone we care about is on the receiving end of that anger, and you can do real damage by venting…damage that inevitably bounces right back at you.
I’m not suggesting you squash your anger. Rather, to paraphrase Gandhi, conserve it and then transmute it into power with which you can change your world. Use your anger as a motivator to make the changes you need to make to improve your own life. When you speak constructively, your partner is more likely to join in, too. It’s easier to be sympathetic to someone who calmly shares their pain and anger than it is to work with someone who has just raked you over the coals.
If you experience anger in your relationship, it’s time to start thinking about how you can ‘transmute that anger into power which can move your world.’
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at adhdmarriage.com, including: a free online treatment overview; free downloadable chapters of my books; a community forum with other couples facing similar issues; a large number of blog posts on various topics; referrals; and my very popular couples course:
ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - Next live session will start January 2016 - this eight-session phone seminar has helped many couples turn around their relationship.
Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD wins 2 book awards!
Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship. ADHDmarriage.com can literally change your life!
© 2015 Melissa Orlov
Are You a ‘Convincer’?
Quote of the Week
“When you talk you are only repeating what you already know. But when you listen you might learn something new.” - attributed alternately to the Dalai Lama, author J.P. McEvoy, and Jared Sparks, President of Harvard (1849-53)
Are You a ‘Convincer’?
Okay, so we don’t know who to attribute this quote to, but it’s a good one. Listening is a critical skill if you want to really learn something about, and get along with, your partner. It’s particularly important when you are as different as ADHD and non-ADHD partners can be.
I’ll admit it – I often don’t understand my husband’s logic. We’ve been married 26 years and I STILL don’t always understand it (though I have grown more used to anticipating it…) I used to spend a lot of time trying to convince him that my logic was more sound than his. If I just talked with him enough about how I felt or how I thought something should be done, surely he would come around and see that I was right!
He didn’t buy it. His logic is rooted firmly in his experiences and the way he is in the world. Rather than try to convince him to think differently (or be different) what I should have been doing was listening to him and learning all I could about him. Ditto for him listening to me. His general feeling was that my logic flow was illogical...and pedantic! Simply listening and accepting that we think differently would have enabled the two of us to accept our differences a long time ago and then negotiate with mutual respect. If I had to do it all over again, this change from ‘convincing’ to ‘listening’ would be one of the most important changes I would make.
How do you and your partner do in this department? Are you ‘convincers’ or ‘listeners’?
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at adhdmarriage.com, including: a free online treatment overview; free downloadable chapters of my books; a community forum with other couples facing similar issues; a large number of blog posts on various topics; referrals; and my very popular couples course: ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - this eight-session phone seminar has helped many couples turn around their relationship.
Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD wins 2 book awards!
Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship. ADHDmarriage.com can literally change your life!
© 2015 Melissa Orlov
Change Doesn’t Always Feel Great
Quote of the Week
“The truth is, change doesn’t always feel great. It can be scary, intense, challenging. It can strain relationships. It can upset the equilibrium…” - Pilar Gerasimo, Editor of Experience Life Magazine
Change Doesn’t Always Feel Great
Some of the singly most intense periods of my life have come in the midst really significant shifts in direction in my relationship with my husband. We’ve had a number of these. In the end, the change we’ve created – and the very, very significant learning about each other that we’ve gained in that period of change – has contributed to the strength of our connection. But, oh boy! That change can be so hard!
There’s the stress of the unknown future (“Can we withstand the pressure?”) There’s fear (“What will happen to my life if everything falls apart?”) There’s grief (“Why did we get here? Why couldn’t we do better?”) And there are the really intense conversations – some with anger, some with tears.
I have learned, over the years, that intensity is not an indicator of whether or not we will succeed or fail. In fact, in my experience, a certain kind of (non-angry) intensity usually indicates that a brighter future may await. To find that future, one must not let intensity scare you…rather, think of it as an indication that change is happening. Focus, instead, on making that intensity work for you by managing anger and staying constructive.
New Seminar! Recovering Intimacy in Your Relationship - begins November 10. Become more intimate on every level!
The seminar consists of four sessions, with an optional fifth session on Recovering from Affairs and Deception. It includes course exercises (roughly one hour per week) and recordings of all sessions. All questions will be answered and shared.
Is it time to recover the intimacy you so cherish? Learn more here. "We took your class and I could write you a “chapter” on how much you helped me."
For those in marriages impacted by ADHD
You can find great resources for couples impacted by ADHD at adhdmarriage.com, including: a free online treatment overview; free downloadable chapters of my books; a community forum with other couples facing similar issues; a large number of blog posts on various topics; referrals; and my very popular couples courses:
ADHD Effect In-Depth Couples' Seminar - began October 6 - this eight-session seminar has helped many couples turn around their relationship, and
Recovering Intimacy in Your Relationship - begins November 10 - This new seminar is designed to help couples become more intimate on every level. Both seminars are given by phone, so anyone may participate.
Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD wins 2 book awards!
Adult ADHD can have a huge impact on your relationship. ADHDmarriage.com can literally change your life!
© 2015 Melissa Orlov
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