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The AW Empowerment Series

AW went live in May, 2018. I have been lucky to communicate with readers all over the globe. Your messages about how these articles have encouraged you to fight for your goals, seek counseling for trauma, or empowered you to ask the tough questions in your lives has made the work incredibly rewarding.

I began the AW community for women in need of support and help, easing the pain of loneliness during their journey of womanhood. I am committed to continue to inspire, empower and encourage women to create the life envisioned. It is never easy to pursue the things we want most, especially knowing that there will be disappointments down the road. We all encounter roadblocks but persistence, drive and determination can beat the challenges on the way to building dreams.

Sharing our stories is part of this journey, as it offers inspiration. Seeing other women thrive can be a source of strength because we see what is possible, if we do the work. Everyone has their own path. Conflict is bound to arise but it’s not unique to us. No matter what we going through, know that other women are fighting their own battles, too – many in silence. Keep in mind, behind every success their is a story.

I have created the AW Empowerment Series to bring hope to all the women that cannot see past their obstacles. We have the power to create greatness but need to tap into our inner power. Do not take no for an answer or let anyone tell you that you can’t – you can, you will, if you believe it.

The surprise guest interviews that will post to AW are meant to demonstrate the amazing things we are capable of when we don’t give up. Remember, success is not measured by the amount of money or power you possess. It is defined by the person you are, so remain true to yourself because it is the place where you will be happiest.

I hope you enjoy these special features and learn something from each woman, as you climb to the epitome of your own personal happiness and success.

I will look to see your Comments post to AW.

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What the Heck is an “Entanglement?”

An entanglement by definition is a “complicated or compromising relationship/situation.”

This month’s hot topic in entertainment is fueling headlines. We all heard about a celebrity couple that recently shed light on a painful truth. A named actress openly discusses with spouse the “entanglement” she had during their separation. The real talk took place in front of the cameras. The bold 12-minute video conversation has been played back more than 25 million times since it first aired.

Some fans were taken aback by the revelation, many looked at the happy pair as “relationship goals.” Having the desire to mimic the couple in their own love life. Although for a while, rumors of an alternate lifestyle surfaced when the actress announced that the couple would be replacing their conventional marriage with a life partnership. The news led to speculation about what the statement implied or life could look like for them in this new state. Recently, an outsider’s call to divulge details of the said entaglement, swayed the actress into admission which seems to be adding to public fascination.

This story has me thinking – why is this headline so intriguing? Is it because a woman (not a man) publicly disclosed stepping out on marriage or was it her use of the word entanglement to describe an indiscretion? Either way, the word entanglement is trending like crazy on Google!

My immediate thoughts on all this? Is it possible the reason she phrased it in this manner was to distinguish it from something illicit? The couple’s confirmation of separation at the time signifies they were not together, so it isn’t necessarily cheating, if both sides confirm taking time apart, right? I’d be curious to read what readers think? (Post Comments)

Opinions on the matter will certainly differ. The act of betrayal has detrimental consequences on a relationship. Uttering the word affair, instead of entanglement may have been a way to change the narrative. Possibly, avoiding a backlash of judgment that could have resulted in disproportionately, negative press. She now dominates the story, most importantly, did damage control that protects a family in the aftermath.

Whether or not you consider the entanglement phrase appropriate, ultimately, it is a couple’s decision how to manage their relationship. Separations happen often, the individual’s involved are the ones that can set boundaries.

The pair has been together almost a quarter of a century. It is a safe to assume there‘s immense growth between two people in a relationship for that amount of time. Usually the individual evolution comes at a price. Relationships with such a long stretch require compromise. It is unimaginable not to expect bumps on a journey of a lifetime. Endless conflict and disagreements are part of the process. A “ride or die” relationship (as the couple refers to one another) does not happen overnight and is not for the faint of heart. In order to reinforce a strong foundation, there has to be conditioning to ensure sturdiness. Not everyone will make it through turbulent weather. Relationships are constantly being tested and shaking the ground you stand on can be the best way to see what it’s made of. Do you agree?

Kudos to couples that do the hard work and love each other through difficult times while remaining respectful and understanding of what is necessary to push through to the other side, strenthening bonds. It’s not always feasible to stick through the ugly, sometimes the sacrifices are far too great or dangerous to withstand the pain, however, only you know what is right for you.

Entanglement or not, time will tell if this couple is able to save their union. Meanwhile, memes and reports swirling have certainly taken social media by storm.

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3 Things You Can Do to Stop Dimming Your Light

The balance of power in a relationship can sway back and forth between partners. Other times, we find one personality is dominant, leaving the second half in the shadows. Often times, women are the ones guilty of giving up more than their share to fulfill the love of a lifetime.

I’ve been on the short end of this type of relationship. It‘s easy to get caught up in the emotion of someone new. Although, over time euphoria wears off, the damage has been done in increments. You may have already notice pieces of yourself fading away.

By the time you realize you are living in darkness, your identity has been stripped. Unless you know who you really are, it can be tough to shake the effects that ultimately, extinguish your light.

“The path to paradise begins in hell”- Dante, The Divine Comedy

Women are often hard on themselves , as they try to fit molds created by an old world patriarchal society. The trepidation of living out loud can consume the authentic you like a raisin in the sun. Shrinking to appease the masses while your true self suffocates in a shell that is far from the woman inside you. It‘s enough to create a type of turmoil difficult to free yourself from. The more we allow ourselves to morph into something we aren’t, the less happy we become and that is a place where our personal hell can begin.

There are countless stories of women experiencing unsatisfied lives because their true self is hidden underneath the role of wife, mother or professional. Dimming your light is an extreme disservice to the woman you are meant to be. I came across an old Alicia Keys interview with Oprah Winfrey where she discussed her own journey to the woman she is today. The songstress shared a powerful prayer with viewers that is nothing short of inspiring.

“Everyday I pray to become the very best version of myself, that I shine more brightly by the day, and that I operate not at half dim but at full wattage.”

– Alicia Keys, Excerpt from “Brand New Me”

Have you ever lessened yourself to please someone else out of love, fear or shame? Some relationships are a feeding ground for this kind of behavior. I am no stranger to taking a back seat allowing someone else to shine. Blame it on love, thinking it was what I had to do, in order to keep him. The journey we are on teaches us countless lessons. I’ve learned, that I am enough and the woman I am has to be seen. Simple but incredibly powerful because it is a testament to the process of a girl becoming a woman of self-love. Understanding its significance takes time and requires constant practice. As an eternal romantic, my nature is to relinquish all of me in relationships. Old fashioned? May very well be, so it is an ongoing struggle to remind myself that personal happiness is key to living my best life. Newfound freedom that takes getting used to, however, once you take hold – it cannot be turned off.

Taking power back when you are living an ugly truth is complicated, as well as, painful but not impossible. There are a few things you can do to regain inner strength.

1. Being honest with yourself is one of the hardest things to do but a necessary evil on the way to creating your best self.

2. Let go of those that do not embrace all of you. The people who truly love you will want to see you shine. Don’t be afraid of your greatness, expand your wings.

3. Becoming the woman you’re meant to be takes constant work, practice and being kind to yourself. Change happens over time not in days. Mistakes will occur, the toughest part is taking the first step on this journey.

Show yourself, it is certainly worth the growing pains that will come from breaking out of the silence of your retreat. Nothing will feel as good as being an empowered version of you.

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Empowerment Series: Actress, Lisa Vidal Shares with AW how She is Living Her Best Life

Lisa Vidal is recognized by millions as “Kara Lynch” from BET’s Being Mary Jane or most recently “Mari Garcia” in The Baker and the Beauty. However, others have been seeing her on screen for decades in shows like Chicago PD, Southland, Rosewood, Boston Legal, The Division, ER, and Third Watch, the list is long and includes films like Star Trek. The actress’ resume speaks for itself but there’s much more to her than meets the eye, as I discovered during my exchange with the inspiring Latina-mama of three.

The first time I saw Lisa in action was in 1994’s coming of age film, “I Like It Like That.” A story revolving around the ups and downs of a Puerto Rican couple learning of life and love while living in a poverty-stricken inner city neighborhood. The character she played was fearless and passionate, possessing an incomparable touch of sass. Her bold spirit jumped off the screen, it spoke to women in the audience who dreamed of something bigger. The role happened a lifetime ago but Lisa continues to exert the same energy today, as she did all those years ago. The native New Yorker’s eternal authenticity and fiery loyalty to her Latino roots seems to only reinvigorate over time.

Her newly cancelled primetime television show, “The Baker and the Beauty“ is fighting to return for a second season but she is taking the news in stride. A petition is being circulated by fans to save the series, meanwhile the wife and mother is living life to the fullest. The young-55 celebrated a birthday in June, and is on fire. AW had the amazing opportunity to interview the dynamic actress about how she is embracing this milestone.

You have a loyal fan base. We love you as Mari Garcia in “The Baker and The Beauty” as well as, Kara Lynch in “Being Mary Jane.” You’ve played countless characters over the years that are not only strong but brilliantly driven. Whether, in films, television, dancing on Instagram or delivering energetic interviews, we see Lisa Vidal’s zest for life in and out of character. It is palpable and real, wonderful qualities that make you engaging and relatable.
Where does your love of life, people and self originate from? How do you maintain the level of energy you display in everything you do? My zest for life comes from God! I am grateful for everything in my life good and bad, believe it or not. I’ve been through a lot in my lifetime, many tough things, that could’ve taken me down but my faith keeps me strong, hopeful, and excited for life. I love people! I feel like we are all just trying to live our best life. Working to keep it together through the difficult moments, I have compassion and appreciation for that. I try to live in gratitude for all my opportunities and blessings. It actually keeps me happy and dancing!

You had a milestone birthday in June. Happy Belated Birthday, Lisa! What has been the biggest positive shift or change you have made as a woman since turning 50? Has life after 50 been what you expected. If so, in what way? Turning 50 came with some challenges that were more physical than anything. So far in my 50’s, I’ve survived breast cancer, gone through a double mastectomy and experienced major hormonal changes. Not fun! And yet, it makes me the more grateful – I beat cancer. I’m healthy, have this new lease on life and I want to live it to the fullest. I’ve been gifted a second chance and I’m embracing growing older gracefully. Becoming wiser and more aware of who I am as a woman, a mother, a Latina, a wife, an actress performer, and just an all-around person.

In real life, you juggle many roles – an acting professional, mom and wife, as do many of the AW readers. How do you make sure you spend time in your happy place? My happy place is spending relaxing time with family, sisters and girlfriends. Cooking! I love to cook for friends. I love to get manicures and pedicures, do girls’ lunches or just hang out. I dance every chance I get and love music! Every morning, I set aside quiet time, spend it with the Lord to re-energize my spirit. Strengthening my soul prepares me for whatever comes during the day. I feel lucky and blessed to have that gift.

AW is all about inspiring, empowering, and encouraging women to live their best life and create the life envisioned. I believe as women, we share a common thread. It is the reason for writing the stories and experiences, to help others see the endless possibilities available to them. What advice can you share with women worried or hung up on aging? I think beauty comes from the inside. It is key to care for our internal well-being before worrying about the external. Be kind to yourself. Women carry a lot on their plate, multitasking countless priorities. Being sympathetic, compassionate and considerate towards one another is important. Helping each other, as women, is something we should always do. There are also things we can do for ourselves, such as staying away from people who are negative towards you. Sometimes, you encounter individuals that don’t want to see you win – that is their problem.  Let’s celebrate ourselves and one another whenever possible, leading with mutual kindness. Words have impact, if you have nothing nice to say then don’t say anything at all. Use your words to build each other up otherwise, they aren’t worth anything. 

It has been disappointing to hear of the cancellation of “The Baker and The Beauty.” Fans are rooting and signing the petition to save it. There is so much about life we have no control over. During this time of uncertainty in the world, do you have a quote or words to share with readers that have helped you throughout periods of hardship? “Be still and know that I am God” Psalm 46:10 has helped me overcome A LOT! It encourages me to remember that I am not in control of anything…

Lisa’s vibrant personality and gratitude for everything in her life is inspiring. She has endured personal struggles without surrendering her faith and love for life. It is easy to give into the fear or anxiety during any period of uncertainty during our journeys. But I believe we’re capable of tapping into an inner power for greatness at any age. Overcoming my loss of employment, ruptured marriage, and an episode of depression taught me incredible strength. Life’s worst moments will test you and also bring the most change. It is ultimately up to you to decide if you want to take the road to rise up or become the victim.

FIGHT BACK! Be the inspiration, encourage women around you to empower themselves as they work to create a life envisioned. The possibilities really are endless when you start believing in yourself and the beauty within.

Immensely thankful to Lisa Vidal and all the women blazing a trail for empowerment. You inspire me each day to continue sharing stories of real women.

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Actress, Lisa Vidal Tells AW how She is Living Her Best Life

Lisa Vidal is recognized by millions as “Kara Lynch” from BET’s Being Mary Jane or most recently “Mari Garcia” in The Baker and the Beauty. However, others have been seeing her on screen for decades in shows like Chicago PD, Southland, Rosewood, Boston Legal, The Division, ER, and Third Watch, the list is long and includes films like Star Trek. The actress’ resume speaks for itself but there’s much more to her than meets the eye, as I discovered during my exchange with the inspiring Latina-mama of three.

The first time I saw Lisa in action was in 1994’s coming of age film, “I Like It Like That.” A story revolving around the ups and downs of a Puerto Rican couple learning of life and love while living in a poverty-stricken inner city neighborhood. The character she played was fearless and passionate, possessing an incomparable touch of sass. Her bold spirit jumped off the screen, it spoke to women in the audience who dreamed of something bigger. The role happened a lifetime ago but Lisa continues to exert the same energy today, as she did all those years ago. The native New Yorker’s eternal authenticity and fiery loyalty to her Latino roots seems to only reinvigorate over time.

Her newly cancelled primetime television show, “The Baker and the Beauty“ is fighting to return for a second season but she is taking the news in stride. A petition is being circulated by fans to save the series, meanwhile the wife and mother is living life to the fullest. The young-55 celebrated a birthday in June, and is on fire. AW had the amazing opportunity to interview the dynamic actress about how she is embracing this milestone.

You have a loyal fan base. We love you as Mari Garcia in “The Baker and The Beauty” as well as, Kara Lynch in “Being Mary Jane.” You’ve played countless characters over the years that are not only strong but brilliantly driven. Whether, in films, television, dancing on Instagram or delivering energetic interviews, we see Lisa Vidal’s zest for life in and out of character. It is palpable and real, wonderful qualities that make you engaging and relatable.
Where does your love of life, people and self originate from? How do you maintain the level of energy you display in everything you do? My zest for life comes from God! I am grateful for everything in my life good and bad, believe it or not. I’ve been through a lot in my lifetime, many tough things, that could’ve taken me down but my faith keeps me strong, hopeful, and excited for life. I love people! I feel like we are all just trying to live our best life. Working to keep it together through the difficult moments, I have compassion and appreciation for that. I try to live in gratitude for all my opportunities and blessings. It actually keeps me happy and dancing!

You had a milestone birthday in June. Happy Belated Birthday, Lisa! What has been the biggest positive shift or change you have made as a woman since turning 50? Has life after 50 been what you expected. If so, in what way? Turning 50 came with some challenges that were more physical than anything. So far in my 50’s, I’ve survived breast cancer, gone through a double mastectomy and experienced major hormonal changes. Not fun! And yet, it makes me the more grateful – I beat cancer. I’m healthy, have this new lease on life and I want to live it to the fullest. I’ve been gifted a second chance and I’m embracing growing older gracefully. Becoming wiser and more aware of who I am as a woman, a mother, a Latina, a wife, an actress performer, and just an all-around person.

In real life, you juggle many roles – an acting professional, mom and wife, as do many of the AW readers. How do you make sure you spend time in your happy place? My happy place is spending relaxing time with family, sisters and girlfriends. Cooking! I love to cook for friends. I love to get manicures and pedicures, do girls’ lunches or just hang out. I dance every chance I get and love music! Every morning, I set aside quiet time, spend it with the Lord to re-energize my spirit. Strengthening my soul prepares me for whatever comes during the day. I feel lucky and blessed to have that gift.

AW is all about inspiring, empowering, and encouraging women to live their best life and create the life envisioned. I believe as women, we share a common thread. It is the reason for writing the stories and experiences, to help others see the endless possibilities available to them. What advice can you share with women worried or hung up on aging? I think beauty comes from the inside. It is key to care for our internal well-being before worrying about the external. Be kind to yourself. Women carry a lot on their plate, multitasking countless priorities. Being sympathetic, compassionate and considerate towards one another is important. Helping each other, as women, is something we should always do. There are also things we can do for ourselves, such as staying away from people who are negative towards you. Sometimes, you encounter individuals that don’t want to see you win – that is their problem.  Let’s celebrate ourselves and one another whenever possible, leading with mutual kindness. Words have impact, if you have nothing nice to say then don’t say anything at all. Use your words to build each other up otherwise, they aren’t worth anything. 

It has been disappointing to hear of the cancellation of “The Baker and The Beauty.” Fans are rooting and signing the petition to save it. There is so much about life we have no control over. During this time of uncertainty in the world, do you have a quote or words to share with readers that have helped you throughout periods of hardship? “Be still and know that I am God” Psalm 46:10 has helped me overcome A LOT! It encourages me to remember that I am not in control of anything…

Lisa’s vibrant personality and gratitude for everything in her life is inspiring. She has endured personal struggles without surrendering her faith and love for life. It is easy to give into the fear or anxiety during any period of uncertainty during our journeys. But I believe we’re capable of tapping into an inner power for greatness at any age. Overcoming my loss of employment, ruptured marriage, and an episode of depression taught me incredible strength. Life’s worst moments will test you and also bring the most change. It is ultimately up to you to decide if you want to take the road to rise up or become the victim.

FIGHT BACK! Be the inspiration, encourage women around you to empower themselves as they work to create a life envisioned. The possibilities really are endless when you start believing in yourself and the beauty within.

Immensely thankful to Lisa Vidal and all the women blazing a trail for empowerment. You inspire me each day to continue sharing stories of real women.

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Empowerment Series: New York Times Bestselling Author, Beth Ferry Shares with AW, thoughts on Motherhood and Children’s Books

In the new age of pause, many of us are becoming increasingly grateful for the small things in life. Quality time with family, moments of solitude, or bedtime with a good book are treasures. My daughter will soon move on to college and I long for the days when we bonded over a magical read before bed. Recently, tables turned to remind me of the precious gifts that come without a price tag. It cost nothing, if you are willing to relinquish a little time. Eventually, the clock runs out but there is potential to do plenty before time expires .

Beth Ferry is a mom of three, her favorite things include Halloween, reading, wordplay, bulldogs, and lilacs. She lives close by a beach in New Jersey and grows pumpkins in her garden. Her New York Times bestseller, Stick and Stone is among the impressive collection of children’s books that carry her name as author. Her genuine and magical storytelling is engaging, accompanied by beautiful illustrations that take readers into whimsical tales. AW had the wonderful opportunity to ask the author about inspiration, career and motherhood.

We don’t necessarily know the shape our careers will take. Did you always want to be a writer? Where did your inspiration come from to do children’s books? Isn’t that the truth! When you’re young, the possibilities seem endless. There are so many choices, and exciting roads leading into the future. I did always want to be a writer but it took me a long time to end up in this place. Now that I’m here, it feels like the right time in my life and I am enjoying the view from this road, immensely. As for my inspiration for writing picture books, I’ve always admired the brevity and poignancy of the picture book. As I began writing, I naturally turned to that genre, as I believe they are the perfect bite of a book.

How did you juggle being a mom of three and have a writing career? What has been the most challenging aspect of doing these, simultaneously? Time! Time is the answer to so many questions, isn’t it? Finding the time to write. Finding the time to listen. To play. To cook. To clean. To help. To drive. To sleep. I didn’t start writing seriously until my youngest was in middle school. At that point, I felt like I finally had that bit of time to focus on myself, my writing, and dreams. What I find most challenging is putting myself and writing first.

Your books have a fanciful feel to them, it’s as if you wrote them from a beach or in a very relaxed setting. What is your favorite place to write? I’m so happy to hear that it seems like I write on the beach, which I rarely do – too many distractions, but lots of good inspiration. My favorite place to write is snuggled somewhere at home with my bulldog. He’s a pretty good listener and doesn’t mind if I read my stories aloud 100 times.

What is your personal favorite of all your books? If we had to read one of these books to our children which would you choose? This is the hardest question of them all!
But I would have to choose Stick and Stone as my personal favorite for many reasons. I think the message about being a good friend is a timeless one, for who among us hasn’t struggled with friendship at some point in our lives and yet, like hope, I believe friendship is an essential ingredient in life. I also think the art is perfect – sweet, warm and invites children into a world where I hope they can see themselves being as kind and helpful as Stick and Stone.

Who or what inspired your latest book, Swashby and the Sea? Swashby and the Sea, illustrated by Juana Martinez-Neal was inspired by countless trips to the beach with my children. They often wrote words in the sand – their names or the name of the beach we were visiting. So the idea of the sea washing away just a few letters to change a message seemed like a fun idea to experiment with. The message of how neighbors can become like family is a theme dear to my heart since I’ve been lucky enough to have neighbors who are as close as family.

What is your favorite personal mantra or quote? The quote “Hope is the thing with feathers that perches in the soul and sings the tune without the words and never stops at all” by Emily Dickinson speaks to me every single time I read it. This quote captures the essence of hope and how it lives within all of us. And that idea resonates with me greatly. I believe that hope is an essential piece in life. But lately, this quote by Teddy Roosevelt, also feels relevant and true: “Comparison is the thief of joy.” It is so easy to get lost in comparing yourself and your successes with others, especially in this age of social media. I’m trying to teach my kids not to do it and trying to follow my own advice as well.

I found personal inspiration from my exchange with Beth. The week of the interview, my daughter read the Stick and Stone book to me aloud, as a way of cheering me up. How the tables turn – funny, it was only the other day, I’d read to her each night. Time is precious, the one thing we don’t seem to have enough of – like breathing. As a woman, I try to be everything to everyone. Managing countless tasks and priorities at home, work and relationships to keep loved ones happy. Beth has been able to find a groove and build her dream over time. I‘m learning to carve my own roads in the pursuit of finding purpose. The hope is to realize the ultimate result, a life envisioned.

We nurture our children selflessly, for as long as possible, holding them in our wombs and homes. Enjoy the gifts that come with taking care of them. Read, cook, care, teach, guide and comfort your babies but while doing so, remember that you are a person too with needs to be fulfilled. Time does not wait.

Have you started your personal journey to where you want to be?

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Empowerment Series: New York Times Bestselling Author, Beth Ferry Talks Motherhood and Children’s Books

In the new age of pause, many of us are becoming increasingly grateful for the small things in life. Quality time with family, moments of solitude, or bedtime with a good book are treasures. My daughter will soon move on to college and I long for the days when we bonded over a magical read before bed. Recently, tables turned to remind me of the precious gifts that come without a price tag. It cost nothing, if you are willing to relinquish a little time. Eventually, the clock runs out but there is potential to do plenty before time expires .

Beth Ferry is a mom of three, her favorite things include Halloween, reading, wordplay, bulldogs, and lilacs. She lives close by a beach in New Jersey and grows pumpkins in her garden. Her New York Times bestseller, Stick and Stone is among the impressive collection of children’s books that carry her name as author. Her genuine and magical storytelling is engaging, accompanied by beautiful illustrations that take readers into whimsical tales. AW had the wonderful opportunity to ask the author about inspiration, career and motherhood.

We don’t necessarily know the shape our careers will take. Did you always want to be a writer? Where did your inspiration come from to do children’s books? Isn’t that the truth! When you’re young, the possibilities seem endless. There are so many choices, and exciting roads leading into the future. I did always want to be a writer but it took me a long time to end up in this place. Now that I’m here, it feels like the right time in my life and I am enjoying the view from this road, immensely. As for my inspiration for writing picture books, I’ve always admired the brevity and poignancy of the picture book. As I began writing, I naturally turned to that genre, as I believe they are the perfect bite of a book.

How did you juggle being a mom of three and have a writing career? What has been the most challenging aspect of doing these, simultaneously? Time! Time is the answer to so many questions, isn’t it? Finding the time to write. Finding the time to listen. To play. To cook. To clean. To help. To drive. To sleep. I didn’t start writing seriously until my youngest was in middle school. At that point, I felt like I finally had that bit of time to focus on myself, my writing, and dreams. What I find most challenging is putting myself and writing first.

Your books have a fanciful feel to them, it’s as if you wrote them from a beach or in a very relaxed setting. What is your favorite place to write? I’m so happy to hear that it seems like I write on the beach, which I rarely do – too many distractions, but lots of good inspiration. My favorite place to write is snuggled somewhere at home with my bulldog. He’s a pretty good listener and doesn’t mind if I read my stories aloud 100 times.

What is your personal favorite of all your books? If we had to read one of these books to our children which would you choose? This is the hardest question of them all!
But I would have to choose Stick and Stone as my personal favorite for many reasons. I think the message about being a good friend is a timeless one, for who among us hasn’t struggled with friendship at some point in our lives and yet, like hope, I believe friendship is an essential ingredient in life. I also think the art is perfect – sweet, warm and invites children into a world where I hope they can see themselves being as kind and helpful as Stick and Stone.

Who or what inspired your latest book, Swashby and the Sea? Swashby and the Sea, illustrated by Juana Martinez-Neal was inspired by countless trips to the beach with my children. They often wrote words in the sand – their names or the name of the beach we were visiting. So the idea of the sea washing away just a few letters to change a message seemed like a fun idea to experiment with. The message of how neighbors can become like family is a theme dear to my heart since I’ve been lucky enough to have neighbors who are as close as family.

What is your favorite personal mantra or quote? The quote “Hope is the thing with feathers that perches in the soul and sings the tune without the words and never stops at all” by Emily Dickinson speaks to me every single time I read it. This quote captures the essence of hope and how it lives within all of us. And that idea resonates with me greatly. I believe that hope is an essential piece in life. But lately, this quote by Teddy Roosevelt, also feels relevant and true: “Comparison is the thief of joy.” It is so easy to get lost in comparing yourself and your successes with others, especially in this age of social media. I’m trying to teach my kids not to do it and trying to follow my own advice as well.

I found personal inspiration from my exchange with Beth. The week of the interview, my daughter read the Stick and Stone book to me aloud, as a way of cheering me up. How the tables turn – funny, it was only the other day, I’d read to her each night. Time is precious, the one thing we don’t seem to have enough of – like breathing. As a woman, I try to be everything to everyone. Managing countless tasks and priorities at home, work and relationships to keep loved ones happy. Beth has been able to find a groove and build her dream over time. I‘m learning to carve my own roads in the pursuit of finding purpose. The hope is to realize the ultimate result, a life envisioned.

We nurture our children selflessly, for as long as possible, holding them in our wombs and homes. Enjoy the gifts that come with taking care of them. Read, cook, care, teach, guide and comfort your babies but while doing so, remember that you are a person too with needs to be fulfilled. Time does not wait.

Have you started your personal journey to where you want to be?

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AW Talks to New York Times Bestselling Author about Motherhood and Children’s Books

In the new age of pause, many of us are becoming increasingly grateful for the small things in life. Quality time with family, moments of solitude, or bedtime with a good book are treasures. My daughter will soon move on to college and I long for the days when we bonded over a magical read before bed. Recently, tables turned to remind me of the precious gifts that come without a price tag. It cost nothing, if you are willing to relinquish a little time. Eventually, the clock runs out but there is potential to do plenty before time expires .

Beth Ferry is a mom of three, her favorite things include Halloween, reading, wordplay, bulldogs, and lilacs. She lives close by a beach in New Jersey and grows pumpkins in her garden. Her New York Times bestseller, Stick and Stone is among the impressive collection of children’s books that carry her name as author. Her genuine and magical storytelling is engaging, accompanied by beautiful illustrations that take readers into whimsical tales. AW had the wonderful opportunity to ask the author about inspiration, career and motherhood.

We don’t necessarily know the shape our careers will take. Did you always want to be a writer? Where did your inspiration come from to do children’s books? Isn’t that the truth! When you’re young, the possibilities seem endless. There are so many choices, and exciting roads leading into the future. I did always want to be a writer but it took me a long time to end up in this place. Now that I’m here, it feels like the right time in my life and I am enjoying the view from this road, immensely. As for my inspiration for writing picture books, I’ve always admired the brevity and poignancy of the picture book. As I began writing, I naturally turned to that genre, as I believe they are the perfect bite of a book.

How did you juggle being a mom of three and have a writing career? What has been the most challenging aspect of doing these, simultaneously? Time! Time is the answer to so many questions, isn’t it? Finding the time to write. Finding the time to listen. To play. To cook. To clean. To help. To drive. To sleep. I didn’t start writing seriously until my youngest was in middle school. At that point, I felt like I finally had that bit of time to focus on myself, my writing, and dreams. What I find most challenging is putting myself and writing first.

Your books have a fanciful feel to them, it’s as if you wrote them from a beach or in a very relaxed setting. What is your favorite place to write? I’m so happy to hear that it seems like I write on the beach, which I rarely do – too many distractions, but lots of good inspiration. My favorite place to write is snuggled somewhere at home with my bulldog. He’s a pretty good listener and doesn’t mind if I read my stories aloud 100 times.

What is your personal favorite of all your books? If we had to read one of these books to our children which would you choose? This is the hardest question of them all!
But I would have to choose Stick and Stone as my personal favorite for many reasons. I think the message about being a good friend is a timeless one, for who among us hasn’t struggled with friendship at some point in our lives and yet, like hope, I believe friendship is an essential ingredient in life. I also think the art is perfect – sweet, warm and invites children into a world where I hope they can see themselves being as kind and helpful as Stick and Stone.

Who or what inspired your latest book, Swashby and the Sea? Swashby and the Sea, illustrated by Juana Martinez-Neal was inspired by countless trips to the beach with my children. They often wrote words in the sand – their names or the name of the beach we were visiting. So the idea of the sea washing away just a few letters to change a message seemed like a fun idea to experiment with. The message of how neighbors can become like family is a theme dear to my heart since I’ve been lucky enough to have neighbors who are as close as family.

What is your favorite personal mantra or quote? The quote “Hope is the thing with feathers that perches in the soul and sings the tune without the words and never stops at all” by Emily Dickinson speaks to me every single time I read it. This quote captures the essence of hope and how it lives within all of us. And that idea resonates with me greatly. I believe that hope is an essential piece in life. But lately, this quote by Teddy Roosevelt, also feels relevant and true: “Comparison is the thief of joy.” It is so easy to get lost in comparing yourself and your successes with others, especially in this age of social media. I’m trying to teach my kids not to do it and trying to follow my own advice as well.

I found personal inspiration from my exchange with Beth. The week of the interview, my daughter read the Stick and Stone book to me aloud, as a way of cheering me up. How the tables turn – funny, it was only the other day, I’d read to her each night. Time is precious, the one thing we don’t seem to have enough of – like breathing. As a woman, I try to be everything to everyone. Managing countless tasks and priorities at home, work and relationships to keep loved ones happy. Beth has been able to find a groove and build her dream over time. I‘m learning to carve my own roads in the pursuit of finding purpose. The hope is to realize the ultimate result, a life envisioned.

We nurture our children selflessly, for as long as possible, holding them in our wombs and homes. Enjoy the gifts that come with taking care of them. Read, cook, care, teach, guide and comfort your babies but while doing so, remember that you are a person too with needs to be fulfilled. Time does not wait.

Have you started your personal journey to where you want to be?

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The #1 Reason We Love Transformations

How do you feel when you wear that go-to lipstick or power outfit? The one that turns you into Superwoman or Supermodel? Do you own a pair of shoes that make you sparkle like “Cinderella?” What feeling do you get when your hair is newly styled in a way you’re just crazy about? Ladies, you know what I’m talking about – can sense the excitement coming from you!

Millions of viewers enjoy TV programming related to transformations. Makeovers of people, physiques, homes, lives, or relationships appeal to audiences everywhere. Audiences indulge in hours of television, Netflix, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube videos looking into a fishbowl engrossed in someone else’s metamorphosis. But why take so much time watching change on a screen? Why not use some of those hours, days, weeks, or months as a spectator to make a shift in your life? Do we love seeing others transform into their best selves more than doing the work ourselves? Can watching another person do the impossible be easier than taking control of our own change? We’ve all been there and probably already know the answer to the question.

When was the last time you had a transformation?

Periodically, I find myself looking for something different – a spark. A change to boost my spirit. Lately, it has been more than a calling for a physical overhaul. The force has pushed me towards something that takes me out of my comfort zone. The exercise has been about challenging myself to do things differently.

There are huge takeaways from this type of practice. A key lesson learned? The most signicant transformation I can make is the internal work. My shine will not be organic or lasting, unless I fix what’s broken on the inside. Regardless, of how many times we modify our appearance, true satisfaction from transformative moments can only happen with genuine self-love and acceptance, first.

It is fun to watch what happens when others make a transformation. It takes bravery to make change of any kind. Seeing someone else’s take a leap is empowering, it inspires us to seek our greatest self. This is the place where we visualize what is possible. There is greatness in all of us but we need to tap into that inner power to let it out. If you are looking for personal evolution but have not found it, yet. Try asking yourself some questions:

What about yourself or in what area of your life do you need the change?

How badly do you want this to take place?

Are you willing and ready to do the work required for true change?

Change does not happen overnight. It is a process, you have to take responsibility for the growing pains that come with it.

So – Why do we love transformations? We are looking for Inspiration. You have what it takes to be whatever you envision. Believe you are limitless, unstoppable and you will be!

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Doubting Your Potential for Greatness? This Podcast is For You!

Meeting amazing and empowering women is one of my favorite aspects of building a community. We have the power to inspire each other by sharing stories of pain, success, failure, joy, love and sadness. Each tale offers a fresh perspective at any given time. Sometimes our experience can prove helpful to another woman seeking hope.

FEMnation Podcast gave me the opportunity to share how AW started as a different chapter in my life was ending. We can find hope in the darkest moments but you need to want and embrace a fresh start that allows for the better beginning.

Listen to this awakening interview. Below are points summarized.

AW Interview covered:

My awesome guest today is the founder of Awakened-Woman, Yvette Bodden. She authored a book called A Journey to Becoming the Best Self and is also a writer for Be Latina magazine. I believe so much in what she brings to the table, because as I said we are like soul sisters when it comes to what we offer. Yvette’s goal is to empower women from all walks of life through her blog and services.

 What you’ll learn:

●       The story of Yvette’s entrepreneurial journey and how she got to where she is today.

●       Yvette tells us about Awakened-Woman

●       The goal she wanted to achieve with Awakened-Woman

●       Steps she took to move forward after her awakening to get out of her own way.

●       Advice she wants to give to women to encourage them to move forward despite the lack of visual wins.

●       Making a business out of a blog.

●       Experiencing imposter syndrome.

●       How the entrepreneurial journey changed her.

●       Learnings she has had from what she has gone through.

●       Her small goals moving forward.

●       Awakened-Woman Website

●       Woman Awakened Instagram

●       Awakened-Woman Facebook

●       A Journey to Becoming the Best Self

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