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Empowerment Series: Emmy-Winning Journalist, Style Expert and E! Entertainment’s – Lilliana Vazquez Shares her Journey from IVF to Pregnancy

On March 31, 2021, Lilliana Vazquez announced to the world that she was expecting! AW had the wonderful opportunity to speak with the style genius and interviewer to get the scoop. We talked about some of the challenges faced during the time leading up to her announcement. She was candid when discussing her journey with IVF,  struggles related to the disappointments, coming to a decision to share the journey, as well as, a new collaboration with Kindbody. The Latina’s down-to-earth and sweet nature made for an amazing interview, reinforcing the power of vulnerability.

A woman’s journey can only be understood by another. We endure pain, suffering, inequality, injustice, as well as, judgment from the outside world when expectations are not met. The immense shoes to fill can be too much at times, especially, when our body betrays us. 

According to The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), approximately 12% of women, ages 15 to 44 have trouble conceiving or carrying to term. By definition, infertility is the failure to get pregnant after one or more years(s) of having sex without protection. The emotional toll to those that dream about motherhood is daunting. If a woman has a compromised reproductive system, the complications can hinder or slow down the process of conception. Fortunately, modern-day medicine has provided effective alternatives for women that encounter fertility issues. Although infertility does not discriminate, access to top-level medical care is not possible for everyone. Specialized fertility treatments such as In vitro fertilization (IVF) are costly, and insurance coverage laws for these treatments are not generous.

Lilliana Vazquez understands what it’s like to want motherhood terribly but be let down, over and over again. At the age of 35, a blood test called AMH (anti-Mullerian hormone) revealed her egg count was as low, as a woman in menopause. The news was life-changing, a 6-year journey with IVF tested her emotionally, physically, and mentally until she made the decision with her husband, Patrick to surrender to what they wanted most – to be parents. Whether their little miracle was achieved by surrogacy, adoption, or IVF the end result would be the same. A baby boy or girl would be received with a warm and loving homecoming. Imagine, the excitement when she was able to finally embrace the news she was having a baby of her own.

Lilliana was glowing in pink during our Zoom meeting! Happiness was coming out of her pores, as she gushed about “Baby M.” The couple wants to keep the element of surprise, deciding to wait for the moment of birth to find out the baby’s gender. She was authentic and gracious, as she shared some personal moments. It is important for her to help destigmatize infertility, as highlighted during our talk. Latinas are increasingly postponing motherhood to later years. We have a responsibility to encourage education among our women. Have the difficult conversations that remove power from its taboo in our communities.

This subject matter affects all of us, therefore, I am elated that we could have an open dialogue to address the topic. Undoubtedly, readers will be charmed by her story and feel just as much joy as I did, after our sitdown.

You have shared your beautiful news in such a special way. The reveal of “Baby M” was personal and touching. Congratulations on your pregnancy! You began the IVF journey in 2015 but after experiencing so much pain, loss, grief – the dream has come true! Once you let your guard down and stopped being afraid of what could happen. What did you feel the moment you embraced pregnancy and the idea that your miracle was on the way? I think of finding out I was pregnant with two specific dates – receiving the doctor’s call telling me I was pregnant. The other is a day back in December, while I was in Los Angeles when I surrendered to being pregnant. I gave in to the joy that comes with this miracle, growing inside of me. There had been many tears leading up to this moment because I was processing the loss of the last 6 years. I was processing all of the pain, disappointment, and carrying it with me for the first 2 months of pregnancy. I had been bearing it, however, once I finally embraced happiness, the weight was lifted from my heart and spirit. I say that with intention because physically, I can shoulder a lot of weight but the heart can only handle so much. Letting go and surrendering to happiness gave me the ability to live in the light versus focusing so aggressively on the negative. I stopped living in the “What if” and it feels incredible that I get to live in that every day!

April 18-24 was National Infertility Awareness Week. Many women struggle with reproductive challenges. The condition affects all races, ages, religions, and economic statuses without warning. It can happen to anyone but we are resistant to having frank discussions about the problem and feelings that arise. I’m not sure if it’s shame, embarrassment, or guilt but women going through the painful experience feel alone in their journey. Some choose to suffer in silence which is a heavy load to carry. You made the decision to share your experience with the world. What has been the major reason driving this decision to share such a personal story and why do you feel it is important for us, as women to share? I think you hit the nail on the head! There is some regret that I kept my journey private for such a long time. IVF is not a magical solution and the idea of sharing the suffering from multiple losses in a public way was challenging. Some women experience many losses and are incredibly resilient but I did not have the strength to go through the loss openly, it didn’t feel right for me. I was not in a place emotionally to be able to do that. I could barely be vulnerable enough with my husband to cry in front of him when something didn’t go right.

I grew up around courageous women who had no choice but to be strong. These women have been like impenetrable mountains. When you grow up with that, it’s a tremendous example but can also be detrimental. The ability to share vulnerability and disappointment with loved ones is stalled. I watched my mom raise my brother and I, as a single parent, it was tough but so was she! My mom went through some very hard times and remained indestructible. I modeled myself after that but going through this journey, I now understand that we need that care and empathy from our family, friends, and community. I was not able to share my pain all those years, today, I see the significance in leaning on others.

Sharing this story is important, acknowledging the loss is necessary because it’s part of the healing process. My vulnerability has become a strength and I want to build awareness and education for our communities to feel it’s okay to seek help.

There is a general perception that Latinas are very fertile. I’m not sure where it comes from, maybe, it’s the general mindset that makes us think women are made to procreate. In an interview for “People Magazine” you discussed feeling isolated during a stage in your life when you were trying to conceive. I would bet plenty of women feel the same. Can you tell us, how you were able to free yourself from this mindset? I think growing up Latina is all about family. We know each other’s business, talk about what is happening in our lives – it’s what we do. I did not give my family the opportunity to support me in this part of my journey. When you are in this, you’re not thinking clearly, you are an emotional disaster. It’s not easy for loved ones to see us go through it alone but that’s what I needed. I did not want to answer questions or expose myself to an inquiry.

Present-day, I feel there is freedom in telling the story on my terms. I am ready to open up, the time has played a key role and everything happening around us has led up to this moment. I’ve been able to re-design how I prioritize life, how I operate within my community and my relationship with my husband. It has taken 6 years to make the decision to put it out there, it did not happen overnight.

Your infertility journey has been lengthy. Years of treatments, testing and confronting challenges that take a toll physically, mentally, and emotionally but you have turned it into a positive. Using your platform and experience to help other women is amazing. You are collaborating with Kindbody.com to help a dozen Latinas receive a full infertility assessment at no cost. This is a wonderful initiative, how can women who are interested find out more about the program?  Kindbody has really modernized and revolutionized fertility for women. They are putting knowledge, access, and resources in the control of women, whether they want to be mothers or not.  Fertility is not solely motherhood, it is about looking at the health of your ovaries, uterus, and fallopian tubes. We need to understand our reproductive system and get insight into how everything is running. You want overall wellness, it’s not only about checking in with a primary physician or gynecologist. Kindbody makes it easier to get insight on these things and every woman should be an advocate for their own body. They have offices in major cities and are bicoastal, the services have incredible value.

Black women and Latinas are so underrepresented when it comes to fertility. We don’t talk about the financial or emotional side of things, we need to do more of it. Medical and reproductive healthcare should not be limited to certain groups. Using my platform will hopefully encourage women to take control of their reproductive health, as well as, get the support necessary to improve their well-being.

I  partnered with one of my favorite and most trusted charities, 100 Hispanic Women to choose the women for this fertility assessment. They are going to help find the 12 women that will come to Kindbody for these checkups. We’ll be doing Instagram LIVE and panels to start some real and educational conversations around reproductive health.

Having knowledge is power, whether you are considering motherhood, thinking of freezing your eggs, or opting out of having a child. This is about getting full workup at $0 cost, whatever the women choose to do with the results is up to them but it’s critical to have all the information about your entire health. 

We are so happy to partner with these organizations to promote awareness in the Latinx communities. We need to have additional resources and normalize IVF – talk about it openly!

AW is about giving women a resource for hope, inspiration, empowerment, and encouragement. I like to end interviews by asking for a quote, mantra, affirmation, or advice to help women. Can you provide us with some words for those struggling with reproductive challenges in their own life? It’s something that my mom always says to me, sometimes it’s hard to process and really, actually live it. But as I go into my 40’s and during my fertility journey, I have thought a lot about these words. I’ve leaned on it during my career, as well, “Siempre ‘pa lante. Para tras, ni para tomar aire.” Always look forward, never back, not even to catch your air!

Keep moving forward, don’t look back – instead, look to the future. I loved how Lilliana ended this special interview.

We all have our own challenges to face. Difficult decisions or choices to make, conflicts to resolve, and moments throughout our lives that will force us to take a real look at ourselves. As women, we often repress feelings, ultimately becoming martyrs to save our loved ones from concern or pain. The emotional weight placed on our shoulders are boulders large enough to bring us to our knees at certain times. We start believing that it’s our responsibility to bear the suffering alone but it doesn’t have to be this way.

Infertility affects men and women, however, there is an archaic assumption that women are made to have babies. This ideal leaves us feeling like a failure when our bodies do not immediately respond the way nature intended. For the women that want to experience motherhood, infertility has the potential to create havoc on their physical and mental state. It’s critical to understand, we are more than our body and reproductive system. We must take care of ourselves, remain kind to the woman in the mirror.

Nurturing self-love and allowing your people to support the journey, no matter where it takes you is a big part of the process. The reinforcement that you are not alone will help take off some of the self-imposed pressures that come with it all. Give yourself space to manage the complications in a way that doesn’t hurt your spirit. You are whole, loved, and honored as a human being, none of which has anything to do with your ability to reproduce. Remember, a family is a unit of love that looks different for everyone. You get to decide what that picture means to you.

AW is incredibly honored to have had an opportunity to share this beautiful story. I am immensely thankful to Lilliana Vazquez and the Bonita Project for making this possible. I believe that telling our stories creates connection and promotes healing. My wish is that her story offers hope to those that are in need of it today. 

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Empowerment Series: Program Manager, Microsoft/Turn 10 Studios & Team XBox – Latinx Community Lead, Gabriela Ponce Shares Industry Experience with AW

Gabriela Ponce‘s recent interview with CNN Espanol gave viewers insight into her knowledge on the development of the highly popular racing video game Forza but the spotlight, also offered hope. It was super inspiring to see a woman that looked like me thrive in a field that is mostly, male.

AW had a chance to sit down for a virtual meeting with Gabriela. She generously shared parts of her journey to where she is today and wants us to know, the Latinx community has a place in the industry. She is thrilled to pay it forward, paving the way for others interested in entering the gaming world.

Gaming generates billions in revenue but even as it gains popularity from females players, men continue to have a stronghold of its jobs. In 2020, a Forbes article reported that only 24% of employment in this area was held by women. When I first met Gabriela Ponce, she did not strike me as a gamer. Coincidentally, she told me the story of her initial interview with Microsoft. The bold decision to candidly, express a lack of experience with video games did not get in the way of her chances for a job. On the contrary, her rockstar attitude won her the job. Microsoft provided proper training, exposure, and resources to develop the product awareness necessary to fulfill the responsibilities of the role. She has grown with the company and is committed to helping her community, in and out of the gaming space.

Some of us may already have a general vision of the stereotypical employee working in this sector. The perception of a homogeneous environment is not uncommon and Latinas do not immediately come to mind when visualizing the workplace. The industry has plenty of passionate and closely competitive individuals but the lack of diversity has the power to discourage Latinos from pursuing lucrative positions.

My interview with Gabriela Ponce challenged this perspective, as she explains the ongoing shift in the industry. I am excited to share our conversation, where she discussed her experience and provided an example of what happens when we eliminate self-limiting beliefs.

Your Computer Science professor at UC San Diego suggested that you attend a Career Fair and interview with the Microsoft Team. You were Latina from an agricultural town in Imperial Valley, CA with no experience in the field. Many would agree that the tech industry, in general, is not heavily diverse. What were your thoughts on a career path in this male-dominated industry? My professors at school encouraged internships to learn about the various jobs and firms in this field. During my sophomore year, I thought about what a career in technology would be like, it did not look like me. All these things persuaded me to consider the value I could bring to the environment if I joined. A Latina, bringing vitality and rich culture to a new place filled me with pride.

Now, you are part of the product development team at Xbox Games Studios at Microsoft, one of the biggest tech companies in the world. Congratulations! What has been the most significant contribution to help lay the groundwork for other Latinas to follow in your footsteps? How have you been empowered by the experience? There is a misconception that you are required to be an engineer to contribute to creative projects but there are other ways to make an impact. People often think they can only do one thing in the gaming industry, however, there are different options to leverage the platform. When hired at the company, I was not a gamer or had familiarity with the Xbox console. The company hired me and provided the resources to learn its products. I am grateful to have been given the necessary tools to be successful in my role.

What has been your greatest challenge as a Latinx working in the video game industry? How did you find inspiration to push forward despite any difficulties encountered during your climb up the ladder? One of the challenges for women can be the lack of connections or opportunities to network and learn everything the field has to offer. Understanding how to speak to the recruiters, meeting the right contacts, and asking the right questions. Now, I can do this work from the inside to assist others in accessing the doors that lead to advancement. Having the support of family and Microsoft has been invaluable to my professional growth. I’d like to give that same chance to another young professional entering the field. Fortunately, today there are more men opening doors and collaborating with women which is a huge step in the right direction.

Any advice you give others who may be interested in working in the gaming industry or in a field that is tough to enter? The issues that arise are part of a bigger, deeply engrained problem that requires additional resources to help move along the agenda of hiring more women in different industries. However, you have to keep pushing toward your goal! Don’t allow yourself to be discouraged, instead take action that empowers you, as you forge ahead with your dream.

Learn to quiet the inner critic. It’s important to believe you can achieve the dream. Replace the negative words you tell yourself with positive ones. Be kind to yourself.Seek opportunities that get you closer to where you want to be. Build your community, it’s where you find strength.Find mentors within the industry and outside of it, as both add value to the progress of your journey. Create your circle, attend panels, groups, and network to build your tribe.

What can men do to move the needle in a positive direction for women and marginalized groups? Men can help encourage a shift in the mindset about the work women do and their contributions in the workplace. Let’s focus on the work that needs to be done instead of who is doing it.

AW interviews end with a positive message, mantra, or advice to help women who may be reading and resonate with your story? What words would you like to share? Do not let the fear of failure stop you from going after the things you want. Ignore the little voice in your head that’s holding you back. We tend to overprepare when we’re ready to go for it, don’t let doubt creep into your plans. Be proud of who you are and where you come from because it’s the foundation that supports you when out in the world. You can do it, believe it!

My father has a saying that he reinforced when I went out into the workplace. “Hechale Ganas!” It means “Go for it, give it everything you have to make things happen!”

AW appreciates Gabriela’s perspective on the challenges and achievements in this dynamic field. The value of sharing her story is in spreading hope among young women looking to make a mark in industries like gaming, where there is little or no female influence.

It is critical to continue having these conversations and recognize upcoming talent. We have a responsibility to mentor and empower those coming in after us, be an advocate for their success. It is one of the most important ways to promote diversity across the many industries that need it.

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3 Ways Disconnection Can Manifest in a Relationship

Are you in a situation, where you live with a significant other but somehow still feel alone? Do you share space with a mate but act like strangers passing in the night. Sit at meals together with seemingly nothing to talk about. The person that once awakened the most intimate parts of you is today, almost a stranger. You are drowning in hurt resulting from an uncomfortable silence that forces you to wonder, “Is the love that once existed, gone?”

Disconnection is painful and poses a huge threat to a couple’s lifeline if ignored. Thousands of distractions get in the way of quality time together and bonding with a mate. The stress of managing a home, children, partner, career, finances, and relationships wears us down – we’re only human. It becomes increasingly difficult to balance everything happening in our daily lives.

I’m familiar with the sensation of drifting away from someone I care about. A slow detachment resulted in severe disengagement, eventually eating away at the core of the relationship. The fire extinguished followed by a lack of affection and understanding until finally, distress blew up the relationship. Small annoyances magnified into obnoxious situations pulling us further apart with every argument. Over time, circumstances worsened to the point of no return.

Men and women unwillingly fall into this reckoning unless both partners commit to putting in the work required to repair broken parts. A timely awareness is critical in saving these relationships. If we allow problems to brew too long, distance creates huge barriers that create irreparable damage.

It is not uncommon for some people to use denial as a coping mechanism. Pushing out the ugly stuff, hoping it goes away is never the answer. Ignoring the signs is costly because issues don’t dissipate on their own. It is key to spot the warnings of a relationship in dire straits, you may recognize some of the ones below:

A silence that is deafening
Increasing in the number of arguments
A lack of physical and emotional intimacy

Although the silent treatment may reflect an immature way of handling a relationship in trouble, it happens often. Understanding that communication opens the door to dialogue is a good start. It’s important for couples to learn to speak to one another but also listen. When we stop sharing with our partners, we risk intimacy.  Let your loved one in and tell him or her about the things that worry or hurt you. I believe there is a way to say anything, it’s all how you say it. Don’t hide behind silence, instead, give yourself permission to be seen. Showing vulnerability encourages others to let their guard down, it can be the first step towards healing.

Confronting problems is tough for everyone. Occasionally, it seems easier to alienate anything painful instead of facing it. In an effort to run from conflict, we use avoidance, get defensive, and argue our way out of things. Fighting takes many forms including verbal and physical confrontations. Neither option is healthy for a relationship, both lead to loss of mutual respect. Remember, boundaries are necessary, as you go down this road. A balance of giving and taking is the sweet spot you should aim for to reach a place of contentment, where you both get some of what you need.

Intimacy is one of the glues that keeps a fire burning in relationships. Closeness with a partner can be experienced in different ways. It is a spiritual, mental, and/or physical connection that promotes attachment to a lover. The temporary or permanent break of this bond affects how you relate to one another. If you begin to dismiss the nurturing part of the relationship, you can lose it altogether. Partners who feel emotionally abandoned when lacking proximity can feel vulnerable, it leads to bigger issues that manifest in a much more toxic way. 

Every couple has challenges to bear, as couples look to build a foundation that can withstand conflict. Disagreements, differences in opinion, betrayal, and hardship are part of the struggles that could be encountered during the journey of love. Connection is the heartbeat of a relationship, it inspires people to stay close when there is a breakdown of any kind. 

Signs of disconnection are hard to miss when we’re paying attention. Distance looming, as we slowly retreat from our lover. The things that were once binding, now seem to slip away. Ultimately, the drift becomes too big to mend which has the potential to ruin the most secure relationships. 

If you suspect a detachment, don’t be afraid to start a dialogue. Life gets busy and can hinder us from seeing what’s right in front of us. Having an open and honest conversation is the beginning of fixing serious cracks that threaten the health of any relationship. Don’t let it wait too long if you’re feeling a disconnection, unlock the gates to communication today!

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Empowerment Series: Jolene Rodriguez, President, Broken English Productions – A Powerful and Influential Latina in Entertainment Shares her Superpower with AW

The shortage of Latino representation is a hot topic that is not going away anytime soon. In 2019, a Forbes article disclosed that less than 5% of speaking roles for top-grossing movies in the US were given out to Latinos. The numbers for us, behind the cameras were just as gloomy. The following year, CNN reported more disappointing news. The needle is barely moving for Latinos in Hollywood trying to get a piece of the pie. If you are Latina and a woman working in the entertainment industry, there are added challenges to face, soon as you walk in the door. Despite the lag, now more than ever, we are seeing women in the roles of director, producer, and writer in the various sectors of the entertainment world.

One of these women is Jolene Rodriguez, a Mexican American dynamo who has been recognized by the Imagen Foundation as one of the most Powerful and Influential Latinos in Entertainment. 

Success did not come overnight for the powerhouse. She climbed the ladder, learning the business while doing the grunt work. Jolene paid her dues as an intern for a couple of years then worked another  4 years behind a desk at Sony Entertainment. A decade of hard work won her spots overseeing films such as Think Like a Man Too, Pride and Prejudice, About Last Night, When the Bough Breaks, and The Perfect Guy. The Development Executive’s career with Screen Gems culminated in 2020 when she left to become the President of Broken English Productions. 

Jolene’s stellar career did not have an easy start. Passion was the navigation system during a daily three-hour commute on the freeway from Orange County to Los Angeles. She was a new mom and wife of a soldier. Her powerful energy was transmitted when she hopped on our call for this interview. The engaging and genuine personality was uplifting, it brought my day to a new high. It’s an honor to have been given the opportunity to speak to Jolene about her career track. I’m sure readers will be inspired, embracing the nuggets of wisdom she shared with AW.

Some people see a fast track to greatness but there’s work behind every accomplishment. We hold the script to the narrative we want to share, as we strive to accomplish objectives. It takes an immense amount of drive, persistence, and love for what you do to arrive at this level of achievement. As a writer, creativity doesn’t always flow, neither does the energy necessary to meet personal expectations. It is often tough to get to a single milestone but I’m learning true success comes with time and dedication. We have to show up, be consistent, and never give up on what we believe is possible.

Did you always know, you were destined for greatness, or was there a defining moment in your life when it all just clicked? Can’t say there was a specific moment that I waited for or it just happened. I’ve always been a hustler. I believe in creating opportunities for myself. When I first applied for an intern job at Sony, I was 25, older than the applicants in the room with me. I was going up against film students from USC and Chapman. The uncertainty of whether or not I had a real chance, did not stop me from pursuing what I wanted most – to do feature films. I won the internship, even after the assignment ended, I kept showing up as long as my badge still worked. One day a manager at Screen Gems, asked me “Why do you keep showing up? Your internship is done.” Eventually, they gave me a desk to continue my work at the film studio. I never gave up on my goal.

I believe in creating time, taking a risk on myself. My superpower is that I am a Latina and a woman, I make things happen.

We all have days that leave us exhausted from knocking on doors, disappointing outcomes, or fear of failing while chasing our dream. What do you do to get past the doubts and grab the win? The feeling of defeat is something we all have in common. We work hard but there are always highs and lows to combat.  Not getting what you want, leads to frustration. My hustle and passionate nature for what I want to do helps me make it through the challenging moments. However, it is critical to take care of yourself. Mental health is important because the business can be depressing. Having support is key, surrounding yourself with a team or girl tribe who lifts you up when you are down. They are also on the sidelines cheering you on when good things come. Lastly, practice self-care on an ongoing basis. There are different ways to decompress, I enjoy a good spa day but you should do something that makes you feel good.

During tough times, remember there is an opportunity in everything. Actively seek out to learn, understand, and solve an issue. Don’t wait for things to fall in your lap or resolve themselves. Ask yourself the questions that help elevate your game. What do I have that no one else has? What is the problem but most important – what is the solution? I always choose happiness, each day I wake up. Gratitude takes the focus away from what you don’t have, allowing space to be thankful for the good things in your life. 

I read an article summarizing the panel at “A Latino Media Festival.” In it, you were outspoken when discussing the issues of our community not showing up for Latino-focused movies. You made a frank and powerful statement. Women are generally perceived, more harshly than men when they are too direct or honest.  Have you always been so confident with your convictions? Did you ever find your head-on approach to help or hurt at any time during your career? I am confident and truthful, never angry but yes, passionate. Men can sometimes be intimidated by confidence but my wit adds some humor to my style. Of course, there can be instances when the tone is misinterpreted but it’s important to stay true to ourselves.

Women can be their toughest critics. Incessantly working to package life in a neat little box. We fall in competition with others, as we try to meet society’s expectations. The mounting pressures of having a career, relationship, and caring for a home without dropping the ball are daunting. The task of filling the big shoes is unfair but we are getting better at sharing our flaws. What advice can you give women who are doing it all? I know it can be difficult, not everyone has the access to resources. A good support system is necessary – find your tribe! I was lucky to have my family and husband helping me throughout this journey.

You were at Screen Gems for 10 years with incredible success. What is next for you at Broken English Productions? In June 2021, we begin filming a new project in Puerto Rico, Diario: Mujer y Cafe. Actress, Roselyn Sanchez is making her debut as Director and wrote the film. My goal is to help promote a creative, fun, filmmaker-friendly environment where people feel part of a team. I want to involve more women in the process and give them a chance in front and behind the camera. 

I end interviews with a mantra, quote, advice, or empowering message to encourage women who may be struggling. For women in careers that make them unhappy or feel stagnant, and stuck in life.  Are you able to provide some words to help or uplift? Every day you rise, choose happiness to start your day on the right foot. Seek to empower yourself and others. Don’t complain or live-in the problems, instead be solution-based. Find a way to resolve, instead of focusing on the issues. It is vital to take action, don’t wait for life to happen to you. Create those opportunities that get you closer to what you want for yourself. Your time is your time and you get to dictate what you want and need. Whether you are 40 or 50, you are never too old to make things happen! Go for it!

We are conditioned by our self-limiting beliefs. These stem from things told to us during childhood or from experiences with people we encounter throughout our adult lives. It is difficult to let go of negative thinking, it becomes so ingrained that it starts to look like the truth. I know all too well from my own life, how damaging it is to believe that you can’t do something. During the beginning of the AW journey, I received plenty of rejection letters. Creatives, entrepreneurs, and dreamers can appreciate the challenges faced when someone else does not see your vision. If I had given up, AW would not have come to fruition.

We cannot allow skepticism, problems, or insecurities to become bigger than the goal. It’s essential to find a support network. These are people that hold you up and you can lean on when it’s all too much. Above all else, find your superpower to use during moments of doubt, fear, and discouragement. Be fearless, carve out a space to build your own holy grail, and never give up.

I am grateful to Jolene for being so generous with her time and sharing this inspiring story to encourage AW readers. These are the stories that create motivation and help other women pursue their own dreams. 

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Bella Magazine Names AW a “Bella Bosses We Admire” in March/April 2021 Issue

Growing up in a household of mostly women, it was not surprising to find the occasional Glamour and Cosmopolitan magazine lying around. My mother, sisters and I, enjoyed flipping through the pages for the latest advice on beauty, fashion, love, and monthly horoscope. Advertising did not cater to women that looked like us but it allowed a space for females to indulge in their feminine side during a time when women’s voices were still being silenced.

The narrative is slowly changing in modern society. Print and digital media is gradually moving towards a more inclusive picture offering a more realistic portrayal of what our society looks like today. Bella Magazine is one of the platforms setting the bar for a different type of magazine. Although our world has gone digital, it is nice to turn the pages of a magazine and appreciate the magic of print.

This gorgeous magazine is a collage of fashion, beauty, culinary, travel, wellness, and entertainment, podcast, and TV. It is also filled with stories of beautiful people on and off-camera. like a one-stop-shop! It is by design a creation that celebrates aesthetic beauty but also humanity. You can feel the effort and heart of its CEO and Editor-in-Chief, Vanessa Coppes and her team. Bella Magazine has become one of my favorites for those reasons and more!

I was elated when receiving news, I made their list of “Bella Bosses We Admire” in the March/April 2021 issue. The past year has been full of challenges but the key to coming out on the other side of things has been finding the bright spots. I’m incredibly humbled and grateful to be on this list of amazing women. Congratulations to all the women on the list! The Women of Influence issue is stunning, as is this month’s cover girl, Meagan Good. You can also find Joy Corrigan, Sherri Shepherd and more great stories in this special issue.

Success comes in increments of small wins that are weaved into our story. I am practicing gratitude during these moments of greatness, as they are just enough to savor until reaching the next milestone.

Bella Magazine can be found nationwide at news stands or website.

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Empowerment Series: Program Manager, Diversity, Equity & Inclusion at Google – Alexandra Garcia Shares Her Story with AW

Alexandra Garcia first came to my attention at the Smashbox Jefacon Conference in 2020. I instantly clicked with her presentation on how to effectively shape our stories. She has over a decade of marketing experience working with Fortune 500 brands across various industries and currently works at Google as Program Manager of Diversity, Equity & Inclusion. In an interview for AW, I had the wonderful opportunity to discuss how owning our stories can help create genuine connections.  

As a writer, having the ability to tell a story in a way that connects readers to its characters is a powerful tool. It is equally important to deliver real-life stories in a way that is truthful with dignity and compassion. The ability to interpret thoughts shared without misconstruing words or experience is the foundation of writing interviews since I do not use recordings. I’m a firm believer that sharing stories helps us bond and improve human understanding. It is exactly what took place during my Zoom meeting with Alexandra. Hopefully, it will impact how you embrace truth when telling your own story. 

Google employees have shifted to working from home, as many other firms have during the pandemic. Alexandra is currently working out of Puerto Rico, her home country. Her childhood bedroom was the backdrop for a home office, offering an authentic feel for the girl that grew into success. She was born and raised on this beautiful island. Although she has resided in the US her adult life, the deep roots in her culture remain intact. The fearless and outspoken Latina expressed herself in a clear and powerful voice that awakened a sense of pride in my own culture, as we exchanged stories.

Everyone has a story. The narrative we choose helps design the life we want. What story have you told yourself to get where you are today?  Reflecting on the story of my maternal grandparents, Octavio and Irma from Puerto Rico have been key. Their story grounds me, it is a reminder of who I am and where I come from, which ties into my values. My grandmother did not graduate high school, instead moved to The Bronx, married my grandfather, and raised 6 daughters. New York was not easy living for a barely educated Latino couple looking for progress between the 50s and 70s.  I always think about them and their bravery during a time when Latinos had it tough but they relied on family values to carry them through tough times. Despite challenges, all the daughters went on to become professionals, among them lawyers, teachers, pharmacists, all doing very well for themselves. I tell myself their story to fill me with pride and gratitude, as I continue to “fight the good fight.” I am a strong, independent woman whose stories offer strength, helping me to remain humble and honorable.

I’ve listened to you discuss the importance of sharing our story to connect. What is a primary component in the success of your personal brand, as you conduct yourself in a professional/business setting? I have been called “fearless.” When I was young, I wanted to be part of the theatre because I believe that creatives know how to connect, which is what I was looking to do. Choosing this field requires one to develop a tough skin to withstand all the rejections on the journey as a professional. After constantly hearing the word, “No,” I began to ask myself “What have I learned?” I realized being turned down was giving me an opportunity to learn. “The word no, leads you to your path, more than yes, does.” Theatre gave me the fearless aspect of myself, asking each time “What do I have to lose if I try? Change your narrative, failure is not a bad thing. 

Our individual stories are powerful, each one unique. We have the ability to bring something different to the world. How has your personal life experience contributed to the woman you are becoming and what you are contributing to the world around you? I am so proud to have been born and raised in Puerto Rico. My core values, language, foods, music, and overall shape my identity. The journey I am on as a Puerto Rican-born woman encourages me to stand tall, especially when my Latinidad is questioned. As an underrepresented group in the tech industry, it’s crucial to be part of the conversation that attracts Latina, Black, or Asian talent. Having a seat at the table means that I have a responsibility to be a spokesperson for those not able to be in the room. My purpose is to provide more opportunities to the Latinx communities. I am using my fearlessness, outspoken and friendly nature to inspire others that can open doors for everyone.

Women oftentimes conceal bad experiences that stem from life, work, relationships, childhood for fear of being judged or shamed. It’s vital that we support one another by showing up and being real. How important do you feel it is for us to share our stories, regardless of what it is? Sharing stories is the reason I am where I am today. While working at Twitter, I took part in a woman’s group purposely created to come together and share experiences. Sitting alongside other women express guilt, shame, and other feelings about things generated empathy among the group. Women are so much stronger when they come together. Sharing our stories makes us better managers and better people. Learning to listen to each other is truly valuable but needs a balance. “The power of community is what allows us to overcome the fears and stereotypes that we have as women, and become an entity.” Let’s all come together in support of women.

AW interviews always end on a positive note with a desire to inspire or empower women on their personal journey. Are you able to share a mantra, quote, or piece of advice that has helped you during the process of creating your story? My favorite quote which I use to close out many of my talks is by Maya Angelou, “People will forget what you did but never forget how you made them feel.”  Lastly, as a piece of advice, I would say, invest in yourself! Use self-reflection, journaling, listen to or take an online course, practice yoga, therapy, meditation, seek therapy. We have so much to give back to the world but we need to take care of ourselves, first. Sometimes, we may not have the means but doing these things to encourage our growth is vital. If you don’t do them, no one will do it for you.

AW is incredibly grateful to Alexandra for sharing her story with our readers. Our interview was a beautiful high note during my ongoing journey in this interview series. Her grace and openness while telling the story of her family were inspiring. She is grounded by the people she loves, and the country she comes from while appreciating all aspects of the hardship endured by those that came before her. The story of her grandparents is embraced with respect, they laid a foundation that helped shape the lives of those that would give rise to progress for generations to come. 

Sharing stories is important for connection, healing, and learning the lessons. Embrace yours and share it forward to promote inspiration, motivate or give hope to anyone that may need it.

You can listen to Alexandra discuss Diversity & Inclusion during Episode 86 of Mentores en Linea.

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Empowerment Series: Founder & CEO, Latino World Travelers, Vanessa Fondeur-Adams Shares Travel Adventures with AW

The first time I boarded a flight alone, I felt an inexplicable level of anxiety. The idea of leaving my comfort zone, separating myself from everything I knew was daunting. Up to that point, I never traveled alone, as you can imagine, a trip from New York to Montana seemed crazy. Looking back, my favorite part of traveLorganizes beautiful travel experiences for people looking to make connections and create memories around the globe. The CEO & Founder of LWT, Vanessa Fondeur-Adams has visited 29 countries in 6 continents and 33 U.S. States. The entrepreneur is a citizen of the world with a vast amount of knowledge about world travel. Latino World Travelers'(LWT) Instagram is filled with stunning photographs displaying Vanessa’s stories, as well as, the stories of people’s lives that she has touched.

Many of us look forward to the day, we can resume travel without fear of a looming pandemic. Right now, the nostalgia of planning and executing a special voyage somewhere new seems far away but after my conversation with Vanessa, I felt comfort remembering traveling is worth the wait.

How has travel changed you? Is there one major lesson you have learned about yourself during your travels? I come from the Dominican Republic, raised in a strict household. I barely got the chance to step outside the lower-level balcony space in our home. Traveling the globe has allowed me to see a world of possibilities. It has provided the opportunity to share lots of adventures with friends and family, join other communities to extend my network.

Are you a solo traveler? What are your thoughts on women traveling alone? Yes!! I fully support solo travel! I was lucky to get the chance to travel abroad, first, as a teacher then independently. Traveling on your own is a unique experience that we should all try to do. Putting ourselves in a different space, stepping outside one’s comfort zone offers growth. My travels have taken me to Spain, Morocco, China, Italy, Australia, New Zealand, the list goes on. Don’t wait for other people to decide for you, take advantage of the world at your feet. Plan that trip, of course, safety first on any trip taken. It’s important to take precautions, steps to make sure you are safe, research the places you want to visit, look at maps, ask your network of resources the questions that will help your trip be more successful. Once you get to your destination, make sure to regularly contact your family on a daily.

What is the most memorable trip you have taken? Years ago, I remember spinning a globe and committing to the first city I pointed to, a life-changing moment. The trip that has inspired me most with the biggest impact on my life was Australia. It is a lengthy 22-hour journey but totally worth it! I enjoyed a dive in the barrier reef without knowing how to swim! There were three training sessions involved but my determination and desire to get it right paid off in the end – what a view! The New Years’ Eve fireworks in Sydney were magical – unforgettable.

Funny story, there was a mixup on my return date to the states, coincidentally, as life would have it the person that helped me resolve my travel issues, is my husband today!

Would love you to recommend the top 3 places to visit for women on a journey to finding themselves and looking to have an experience that leaves them inspired? If you can, please share the why? Choosing a location to visit from so many amazing places is tricky. I’d say the first time could be made easier if you choose a place where there won’t be a language barrier. As a Latina, I suggest, Spain because there is so much to do and see. Barcelona, Madrid, Toledo are beautiful and easily accessible by train – gorgeous cities! The other location I’d recommend is Jordan, the people are incredibly welcoming. Sleeping in the desert under the stars, being able to have the Dead Sea in front of your eyes is indescribable. Lastly, China which I have visited three times for its rich culture, delicious food, and magnificent sites. The last time I traveled there, I took my mom and had such an emotional breakthrough. I looked at my life, a girl that came to the US from the Dominican Republic who never imagined traveling the world. I was experiencing life through world travel and being in China with my mom and felt like an incredible blessing.

In your opinion, what is the # 1 place to visit in the United States? California! I took a spectacular solo road trip up the coast that I will never forget. You have to experience it to appreciate all it has to offer.

I like ending AW’s interviews with a positive message. What advice can you give women that are considering solo travel, once, it’s safe to travel again? Do it! Life is short, take advantage of the moments now while you can, stop waiting for people to being your adventures. You will be happy that you did!

Traveling alone can seem intimidating with new cities, people, and circumstances alien to anything you may be used to but don’t shy away from the experience out of fear. Vanessa has a long travel resume. She has indulged in rich cultures, customs, and made friends all over the world. Life is a gift that we should treasure and enjoy while we have it. I will be planning my first international trip, soon as it is safe to take to the skies! Ladies, let’s do it!

In the meantime, Vanessa is hosting the first Latino Travel Fest on March 20 and 21, 2021. Enjoy a 2-day, interactive festival that includes virtual workshops, panels, music, cultural experiences, meet & greet with sponsors, networking with participating attendees.

Hope you are inspired to plan that dream trip!

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Empowerment Series: “La Suerte de Loli” “Celia”, “One Day at a Time” and “Fast Five”, Puerto Rican Actress & Singer – Jeimy Osorio Shares Confidence with AW

Manifestation is the realization of something that’s been conceptualized or visualized. It is not a simple wish but a belief that the things you’re wanting are already yours. Certainly, there’s an immense amount of work behind manifestations, we don’t just blink dreams into reality. However, they can happen if you are determined, persistent, and have an unrelenting passion to bring your vision to life. Placing full confidence in our purpose and abilities can drive us where we want to go. This is the case for many successful people like Jeimy Osorio, who at the young age of 14, informed parents of a decision that forever changed her life.

AW had the extreme pleasure of interviewing Jeimy on International Women’s Day. A day designated to celebrate women across the globe. Women making a difference in our lives which is exactly the role she plays in real life. Her energy is infectious, I couldn’t help to be drawn to her charm. The Latina beauty has an authentic and dynamic personality, making it easy to carry a conversation. She was all smiles and cheerful, spending as much time, as we needed for the interview, despite a long day at a press junket.

I’m sure you will connect with the power of Jeimy and the positive vibes she unleashes while discussing confidence, who she is, and her character, Karen Sandoval in La Suerte de Loli.

In your bio, I read that at the age of 15, you had a chat with your parents to tell them you would be graduating high school early, so you could get ahead in your Education studies then focus on artistic talents. Surely, that took courage and a lot of confidence! You display a level of self-assurance that shows in everything you do. You have a video for the rendition of “I Like It Like That” with La Tribu de Abrante. In it, you sing and dance with an amazing zest for life!  You took on the role of icon, Celia Cruz in a highly praised series by the same name. Most recently, you play Karen Sandoval in the telenovela, La Suerte de Loli. Your character is a successful publicist, an independent go-getter, who knows exactly what she wants.

You portray strong characters with an unstoppable drive and possess a spark that transcends off-camera. Many women struggle with confidence. It has taken me years to come into my own, it requires constant practice. Where do you get your confidence from? I was born with a fire inside of me. I didn’t know how to channel my energy or meditate but it has always been there waiting for me to become the woman I’m meant to be. At an early age, I was dreaming about what life would look like, how I’d feel when my goals were achieved. Living in the knowledge that I had a purpose with a message to share as a teenager helped me finish my studies. I wanted to do good work, get the best grades, take advantage of a great education to make my parents proud, and have enjoyed every part of the process.

I am going to recite a few words, let me know if you recognize them, “I wrote my own story. Soy Latina, independiente, y sonadora (I am Latina, independent and a dreamer). My story is my power. Makes me stronger. I know my path. I know who I am. These are some of the song lyrics to “Soy Latina.” This catchy tune features you and Ladama for Ulta Beauty, performed at the 2019 Latin American Music Awards. I’ve read all there is to know about you, listened to your songs, seen you act, therefore, I have experienced the power of your artistic talents. Now, in your own words, who is the real Jeimy Osorio? I am exactly the same girl from all those years ago. The dreamer striving to realize her vision is still with me. I make every effort to feel life, go through the emotions – good and bad because it’s all part of the process of life. The world needs more transparency and sweetness, I try to give a lot of it while practicing self-compassion. I am myself, what you see in front of you is Jeimy.

Your character, Karen Sandoval in La Suerte de Loli is a woman admired for her fierce qualities but I’d love it if you can share her flaws. Every character has flaws, in the make-believe world and real life. Can you relate to a single virtue or flaw you may see in yourself? The character has both virtues and flaws! Her virtues include determination, managing life with a direct approach, and knowing how to handle herself in any situation. The flaw is insecurity, something we all experience. Sometimes, she may do things to get a lover’s attention when feeling like something is amiss. But decisions eventually lead to choosing herself over everyone else, and the need for self-respect wins.

Happy International Women’s Day! We celebrate all women, those who inspire and empower others. What woman inspires you to be your best self? My mom. She gave her best as a single mother of three kids. Mom taught me the importance of making choices that reflect self-love. Education was always important, I made sure to fulfill the responsibilities of completing my studies. It was a difficult road but she did the work to get her business degree. Life placed her in challenging situations but these brought out the best in her. Mom did what was necessary to make sure the mortgage was paid, she would even sell cakes when she had to, anything to take care of our family.

I like to end interviews with a positive message. Can you share a quote, mantra, affirmation, or piece of advice about the power of owning our stories and embracing our truth? I have a mantra “Amo mi vida y todo aquel que esta en ella!” In English, “I love my life, and everyone in it!” I learned it from a young boy whose parents always told him, “If you are grateful then you deserve it.” Our paths crossed one day, he emphatically shouted these words and they stayed with me. He appeared happy and thankful for everything in his life at that moment. No matter what he was going through in his life, he was embracing it. This made me think about my life, feeling worthy, loving all of it. “I love my life and everyone in it.”

I’ve often heard, the more gratitude you have in life the more blessings you receive. We spend a lot of time pondering the things we don’t have, which creates a feeling of scarcity. Jeimy has been gifted an abundance of talent, support, and grace for which she is grateful every day. You know you are in the presence of greatness when she walks into your space. Self-confidence is ingrained in her and she owns every drop of it while staying humble. It is pure joy to do interviews with women that show up as themselves. Jeimy is no exception, I appreciate her realness.

Confidence comes from within, it is the ability to stand in your truth and allow yourself to be seen. It is self-love reflected from within. Each of us can tap into this resource but it takes constant practice. Changing your behavior is a key part to all of it. Start by quieting the inner critic, the voice that betrays you, when it whispers “You can’t.” Remind yourself of the big and smallest of achievements. You got this! You have something unique to offer to the world, accept it. Celebrate it. If you believe you can, you will.

We are only limited by our beliefs, practice positive affirmations while focusing on the success waiting for you. Performing these exercises collectively, and repeatedly helps you connect with that inner confidence. Be fearless, lean into your true self and use that as your superpower!

Thank you Jeimy Osorio for sharing your story and confidence with AW!

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AW Empowerment Series: CEO & Founder, The Sexiest Beauty – Heather Fink Shares Bombshell Secrets with AW

Heather Fink has been named Top Cosmetic CEO of 2021 by IAOTP (International Association of Top Professionals). She comes with 30 years of expertise under her belt, working with some of the most prestigious brands. MAC, Essie, Bebe, Victoria Secret, and Agent Provocateur, L’Oreal, Estee Lauder, and QVC are among the names she has worked with for over three decades. Her experience collaborating with such a wide range of clients helped prepare her for the creation of The Sexiest Beauty , a cosmetic and skincare line she founded in 2017.

Sexy is a state of mind, a vibe, confidence, and attitude expressed in an array of ways, unique to each woman. We use a particular outfit, color, hairstyle, or lipstick to experience a feeling that entices us to strut our stuff on a personal catwalk. Sexy means different things to different people but it’s always empowering.

Recently, I began experimenting with daring red lipsticks. My usual go-to colors are in the nude group, as they tend to be more subtle, calling less attention. Wearing bolder colors was something I left behind during my 20’s when I cared less about other people’s opinions. Returning to reds has been refreshing, it exudes confident energy to many looks. The color definitely seems to have a dynamic effect on me. My interest to dig deeper into the topic led to this beautiful interview.

Heather’s energetic and warm personality jumped off the Zoom screen, I sensed her “go-getter” style. Our interview touched on the meaning of sexy, red lips, brand mission, and showing up for yourself.

I read the one thing you cannot leave home without is applying lipstick! It gives you confidence. This line resonated with me so much. When I am feeling low on energy, I gravitate towards the color red. I look for a red blouse or lipstick, it seems to give the mood a real boost. Does that ever happen to you? What do you think it is about a red lipstick that gives us an extra pop or feeling of self-assurance when we put it on? The first lipstick women were introduced to was a red color. It is the sexiest color and most powerful, going back to the historical days of Cleopatra. Red is strength, the energy it draws is undeniable. The shade promotes confidence, emboldens, and makes a statement. The psychology behind the color suggests it can evoke strong emotions such as energy, passion, or aggression, unlike any other color. If you think about what happens to our bodies when excited, we get flushed! Rosy cheeks or redness showing, we are fired up! Additionally, red can empower the wearer to speak their truth, be heard.

When I look at a confident woman, I think SEXY! Many women like wearing daring colors to encourage them to bring out their sexy. You have been helping create beauty products that make us feel good for decades. Everyone has their own idea of what is sexy. What do you visualize embodies sexy? The Sexiest Beauty is about different types of sexy. It is about having confidence and loving yourself. The word represents many different things, even self-care is sexy. Taking a long shower, soft skin, kindness, or giving back, all those things encompass sexy. Personally, doing these make me feel empowered. We all have within the things that make us beautiful, a bold lipstick will only enhance what is already there!

The Sexiest Beauty’s Brand Mission is to challenge traditional beauty standards; represent sexiness inclusively; create products that empower, and inspire. Be of service to the global community. These are wonderful things to stand for. How did you come up with your mission statement? Did you always believe that you would create your own brand? I knew early on that I wanted to do this. I grew up in the 1970s, coming of age in a diverse community in Pennsylvania exposed me to a wonderful melting pot. Later in life, moving to New York further expanded my world. I wanted a brand that stood for everyone, inclusive of all colors, shapes, genders, with no one left out. There is no one standard of beauty, there are different types – all beautiful. I’d like to contribute to redefining sexy beauty and give back in any way, possible.

I can’t speak for all women but personally, I don’t feel sexy all the time. Life’s stressors, work, home, family, and everything else can be draining. It can leave me utterly exhausted or overwhelmed with no energy to doll up. Do you relate to having these types of days? How do you perk yourself up during these times? Can you offer a tip that can help with the humdrum? Yes, of course, who wakes up every day feeling fabulous? Sometimes, I need to put in more effort than others. “Sexy is as sexy does!” When I am feeling off, I try to do some to improve my mood. Doing things that help others gives me joy.

I am a lipstick addict, buying them even when I don’t really need them. It’s hard to wait until a lipstick is completely done before buying the next. In fact, that never happens – makes me wonder, I can’t be the only one! I’m happy to say, that I have tried one of your products and loved it! The Girlcrush S-Proof Liquid Lipstick is perfect and so pretty on the days that red is overpowering. The lipstick line has vibrant colors, a formula of light consistency with incredible staying power! It’s been great to wear under masks because it doesn’t smear! What is next for the brand, can you share any news on upcoming releases? We are expanding and excited about the Rose Glow Skincare line which included face balm, lip, firming face mask, facial oil, and makeup remover pads. I love the rose glow line, these are high-performing beauty products with a luxurious feel and price points that are reasonable. During a time when self-care is essential, it’s a nice treat!

I like to end interviews with a mantra, quote, affirmation, or advice that is inspiring to readers. What affirmations do you use when you look in the mirror and want to feel sexy? “Suit up and show up!” Do the best you can to show up for yourself. It is different for all of us, it may mean fixing your hair, makeup, dressing up, or anything that gives you a good feeling. If you look presentable each day, you are more likely to feel positive overall. It can give you the lift that you need at times.

AW is extremely thankful to have had the opportunity to meet Heather. She was simply,  a breath of fresh air during a week when my own sexy energy was lacking. We can only give to others when we give to ourselves. If we feel good, we look good because the energy radiates from inward out. Set aside time to take care of your needs and treat yourself. Sexy beauty doesn’t have to mean slapping on the makeup to improve aesthetics. It is a vibe you carry that raises your spirits, giving you a fabulous feeling. Feel it, live in it, and enjoy the moment while it lasts – until the next time.

When was the last time you felt sexy?

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Empowerment Series: Board-Certified Pediatrican, Founder and President of Ola Pediatrics in the Bronx, NY- Dr. Ana Olivero Shares her Expertise with AW

My daughter will be a young adult soon, in no way does this mean worries subside, just change. The concerns that parents bear today is enough to burden the lightest of hearts, impossible not to be overwhelmed with thoughts of the future. I sat down for a Zoom call with pediatrician, Dr. Olivero to discuss the state of our children and how we can help in the face of everything taking place in the world.

Doctor, Ana Olivero has over twenty-five years of experience in pediatrics. Her vast amount of knowledge was delivered in a kind, friendly and thoughtful manner. The medical professional was comforting when providing advice to the parents of AW.

She was born in Barahona, Dominican Republic and attended one of the top ranked universities of that country, Medical School at Universidad Autonoma de Santo Domingo. She has gained extensive experience in the field while working at various prestigious institutions. Among the impressive list is Paulist School of Medicine in Sao Paulo, Brazil, Stony Brook University Hospital in Long Island, NY, and Pediatrics Emergency Department at North Central Bronx Hospital in New York City. These opportunities strengthened her resolve to help children living in low-income communities with their medical needs. Offering her resources to the most needed patients has become her life’s work.

Dr. Olivero joined the Division of Emergency Medicine at Columbia Presbyterian Medical Center in 2002, as an attending physician in the Pediatric Emergency Department. Since starting at Columbia, she held prestigious roles to add to her expertise. As the former chair of the Columbia Presbyterian Community Physicians Organization, she’s done a lot of good for the community. In addition, she presents in conferences, workshops, lectures, colleges, schools, and institutions tied to medical organizations in the surrounding areas of Northern Manhattan and the Bronx.

Her countless contributions demonstrate a commitment to staying connected to the those that need the services. Efforts do not stop there, in 2007 she offered her time and experience to the Disaster Response Task Force of New York Presbyterian Hospital when tropical storm Noel hit the Dominican Republic. Today, Dr. Olivero is the Founder and President of Ola Pediatrics in the Bronx, joined by a team of pediatricians who take pride in managing excellent care for young patients.

As parents, caretakers and community members, I’m hopeful that reading our interview can offer some comfort during this new normal we’re all living.

Ola Pediatrics is a community care program working with the economically disadvantaged in NYC, particularly with Latinos, African-American and Asian populations. Thank you for the work you are doing. Why did you choose this work and why is it important? A highly skilled physician by the name of Hugo Mendoza was a tremendous influence in my professional life. Having the opportunity to work with him had a huge impact on me. Watching him work gave me an understanding of what it meant to be a pediatrician. Seeing his appreciation for the craft, helped me learn the fragility of a child, as well as, the resilience they hold, as they battled cases of Meningitis, Tuberculosis, and Tetanus. Children have an incredible will to live, I’ve seen the fight up close in ill patients. Witnessing such a strong resolve further invigorates physicians’ efforts, while they work to give patients the best chance chance at a healthy life.

Unemployment rates are at the highest they’ve been in years due to the effects of the pandemic. Businesses in many sectors are suffering crippling losses. The U.S. Tourism and Hospitality industry has been disproportionately affected by the lockdown and restrictions put in place. A significant number of immigrants in communities serviced by Ola Pediatrics work in the industry. Many people have lost their livelihood, medical benefits, and homes which is affecting children, significantly. What is your biggest concern as a medical professional treating young patients in these communities? There are plenty of concerns in this area, as the security and stability of home are a vital part of development. In order to provide an environment for children to thrive, it’s necessary to nurture a strong financial, educational, nutritional and emotional foundation. The different challenges parents are facing have the potential to affect a child’s health directly and indirectly.

Can you share your thoughts on how parents can help facilitate the transition from online learning back to in-person learning when the time comes for kids to return to school? Ultimately, the challenges that have been encountered over the course of the pandemic can help children learn to overcome obstacles later in life. Having open conversations with your children encourages them to feel safe and share their feelings. It is good to explain to them that these moments are temporary and they can surpass the difficulties life presents. It’s important for children to understand they have the capacity to get passed the pain or bad moments that sometimes happen. There is a lesson in everything, if you can teach children to have a healthier perspective on how to manage what happens to them, it may make dealing with adversity a bit easier.

Mothers and caretakers have been greatly affected by the pandemic. AW is about encouraging women to live their best life. During this difficult time, women have taken their jobs into overdrive. Taking on the role of mom, wife, teacher, career professional, nurse and everything in between. The pressures of doing so much is generating insurmountable stress. Are you able to provide a few helpful tips for us to consider as we manage the new normal? Yes! Parents have been forced to play additional roles because the situation demands everyone to step up. Dividing the responsibilities of the home and family leaves everyone in a precarious state but we are stronger than we realize. Children look to parents to guide them, therefore, taking care of yourself is essential to maintaining balance at home. I congratulate mothers and fathers in the midst of this new normal. The time of pandemic is unnerving but it’s okay to feel afraid, frustrated or angry. Give yourself time to process, take one moment at a time because hard decisions will need to be made as you navigate the uncertainty.

I like to end AW interviews with a positive quote, mantra or advice that offers hope to readers. Would you like to share some words of inspiration during this time of anxiety? Firstly, I’d suggest women to listen to their inner voice, it’s often said, “A mother knows best.” Trust your instincts around your child, communicate with him or her to ensure they’re receiving what is needed from you, particularly during this confusing period. Observe and remind yourself and them – this is a moment in life not our entire lives been played out. We are steps from the next victory and it’s not what happens or doesn’t happen, it’s about who you will be during the battle. You get to decide the terms of your life.

AW is incredibly grateful to Dr. Olivero for offering her time to share insight that offers some reassurance and relief. Children are our most beloved adoration, they rely on our strength and courage to get them through the hard times. Our guidance and support is invaluable and necessary, in order for them to grow into the adults they are meant to be.

These are uncertain times, we should try to demonstrate hope to our youth. Despair can only bring sadness, negatively affecting the mental health of everyone involved. Starting a dialogue with children allows parents to stay involved and informed of the family’s well being. Take advantage of this period to work on mutual connection and compassion. We are all managing as best we can, it can be made easier if we stick together.

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