Page Turner's Blog, page 99

The Light Triad of Personality Traits

As I mentioned in an earlier installment of this series, researchers previously went to work to determine personality traits that could predispose individuals to difficult antisocial behavior. And in the process of this, they identified three culprits — Machiavellianism, narcissism, and psychopathy — a combination that they named “the dark triad.”

This research took place in the early 2000s,  » Read more

The post The Light Triad of Personality Traits appeared first on Poly.Land.

The Dark Triad of Personality Traits

Could certain personality traits be an early warning sign for antisocial behavior? Some researchers certainly thought so and went to work on determining precisely what those are.

After years of study and experimentation (and some rigorous back and forth as experts questioned one another’s findings), patterns began to emerge.

And one of these discoveries was the dark triad of personality traits,  » Read more

The post The Dark Triad of Personality Traits appeared first on Poly.Land.

Ask Page: I Can’t Stop Snooping Through My Partner’s Messages

Hi Page,

I’m not usually the type of person who writes in to an advice column, but I’m in a bind. I don’t know who else to turn to. I don’t want anyone in my life to know what I’ve been up to.

My partner has a habit of leaving their phone lying unguarded around the house when they’re going out jogging or taking a shower.  » Read more

The post Ask Page: I Can’t Stop Snooping Through My Partner’s Messages appeared first on Poly.Land.

Sometimes Challenging the Relationship Escalator Means Starting at the Tenth Floor

Today’s piece is a guest blog post from Fluffy, an academic in-training, who is studying organizational behavior in hopes of making the world a better place.

Fluffy is a frequent contributor to Poly Land. Their regular blog is Eclectic Discourse (where pith goes to die; in-depth looks at awkward topics).

Here’s what they wrote for us today:

Sometimes Challenging the Relationship Escalator Means Starting at the Tenth Floor

We had been talking on and off for months but it was about to come to a head.  » Read more

The post Sometimes Challenging the Relationship Escalator Means Starting at the Tenth Floor appeared first on Poly.Land.

Ways to Bridge the Gap If Your Partner’s Top Love Language Is Words of Affirmation & Yours Isn’t

Hi Page!

I’m a long time reader of your blog and I have a mostly positive question! About feeeeelings. And communication styles.

I’ve currently got two lovely partners, one nesting and one not, and things are going great. Edging towards serious territory even. Nesting partner loves other partner and we’re all really good about the communication thing.  » Read more

The post Ways to Bridge the Gap If Your Partner’s Top Love Language Is Words of Affirmation & Yours Isn’t appeared first on Poly.Land.

Like Dolphins F*cking, a Different Kind of Long-Distance Relationship

“You know what my favorite thing about polyamory is?” she says.

“What’s that?” I reply.

“That there’s room to have relationships that don’t follow traditional norms,” she says.

I nod. Because I know what she means. “You’re not confined to the rules of the relationship escalator,”  » Read more

The post Like Dolphins F*cking, a Different Kind of Long-Distance Relationship appeared first on Poly.Land.

The Ever-Present Threat of Psychological Grief Bacon

There’s a word I learned recently. Kummerspeck. It’s German. Its literal meaning is “grief bacon.”

Figuratively, it’s used to mean the weight you gain from emotional eating.

When it comes to grief bacon, the struggle is real. Don’t I know that.

Because ten years ago, I lost 160 pounds.  » Read more

The post The Ever-Present Threat of Psychological Grief Bacon appeared first on Poly.Land.

The Way We See Ourselves & How Others See Us Are Often Very Different Things

How we see ourselves and how others see us are often very different things.

Joseph Luft and Harrington Ingraham created an exercise called the Johari Window (named by combining part of both of their first names, Jo + Harri/Hari) that can help bridge that gap.

In the Johari Window exercise, participants pick words from a list of adjectives that they feel describe their personality.  » Read more

The post The Way We See Ourselves & How Others See Us Are Often Very Different Things appeared first on Poly.Land.

Streisand Effect, or Why Sometimes It’s Best Just to Scroll On To the Next Thing

Once upon a time, in the magical age of 2003, singer Barbra Streisand was very upset about something. That specific something was the fact that photographs of her Malibu house were on the Internet.

It didn’t matter that the original context of the photograph wasn’t even sensationalistic. Streisand’s home was instead simply one image in a collection of 12,000 photographs of the California coastline as part of the California Coastal Records Project,  » Read more

The post Streisand Effect, or Why Sometimes It’s Best Just to Scroll On To the Next Thing appeared first on Poly.Land.

Ask Page: Can a Solo Poly Person Be a Nesting Partner?

Hi Page,

Can a solo poly person be a nesting partner?

*

Thanks for the question! Before I dive deeply into it, let’s first explore the definitions of those two terms for readers who might be unfamiliar with them.  » Read more

What Is a Nesting Partner?

The post Ask Page: Can a Solo Poly Person Be a Nesting Partner? appeared first on Poly.Land.