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8 Reasons Online Writing (Yes, Even Blog Posts) Can Be Helpful

Long before I became a writer with a decent Internet following, I was a huge consumer of online reading material. If I found a blogger whose work I enjoyed, I would often binge read their entire site over the course of a few days — even if this entailed going through years and years of writing.  » Read more

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When Things Get Dark, How Do You Respond?

The past few weeks have been absolutely hectic, and there’s no end in sight.

Essentially, I’ve been tasked with packing, cleaning, and prepping a house for sale with only about a month to work with.

And it’s a house I’ve lived in for nearly a decade.

I’m not used to staying in one place for very long.  » Read more

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Are There a Time and Place for Babyproofing an Open Relationship?

I’m watching my mother-in-law baby proof her house for my nephew since my husband’s brother and his wife will be there any minute with the kid in tow. My mother-in-law moves around the space quickly. It’s clear she has a routine. That she’s done this dozens of times.

She closes doors all up and down the hall.  » Read more

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Having a Higher “Credit Limit” Can Be Fantastic, Even If You Don’t Ever Max Out Your Card

She’s swung into town for a few days for a conference. I’m not sure exactly when I met her, only that it was a long time ago. When she showed up as a long-time friend’s plus one to my birthday party.

And there was something about her that I liked instantly.  » Read more

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When “Problematic” Becomes Problematic: Identity Assumptions, Dissonance, and Confessions

Today’s piece is a guest blog post from Fluffy, an academic in-training, who is studying organizational behavior in hopes of making the world a better place.

Fluffy is a frequent contributor to Poly Land. Their regular blog is Eclectic Discourse (where pith goes to die; in-depth looks at awkward topics).

Here’s what they wrote for us today:

Finding Something Problematic Tells Me More About You

As someone who does the delicate dance between the worlds of social justice and diversity and inclusion,  » Read more

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It’s Better to Just Keep Your Promises Than to Try to Really Wow People

There’s an old school of thought in business called “underpromise, overdeliver.”

Essentially, this advice says that what you should do is set customer expectations low so that you can not only meet them but exceed them. That it’s important not only to satisfy your customers but to thrill them.

It might take extra effort than simply setting up reasonable expectations and meeting them (the double think and communication required to have one internal story for employees and another external one for customers),  » Read more

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How Commonly Do Women Fake Orgasms and Why?

One of the things you learn very early on when you study psychological research is that what people say they do and what they actually do don’t always line up. In fact, they quite frequently differ. So as a researcher (who also happens to be a woman), it’s not surprising to me that it’s not all that uncommon for women to fake orgasms at least once in their life.  » Read more

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Having a Magnetic Personality Also Makes You a Hater Magnet

“I don’t get it,” she says. “I’m a nice person. I try really hard. Say what I mean. Mean what I say. Keep my promises.”

I nod. “You do. It’s one of the things I love most about you. You’re reliable, a rare quality today. It’s Flake City out there.”

She nods.  » Read more

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This Yankee Needs to Find Her Yeehaw… and Soon

We’re stopped at a Subway in Kentucky. On our way to Georgia, to a large conference called Frolicon, due to land later that evening.

My husband, who grew up in rural Michigan, is suddenly talking like a cowboy. “Yes, ma’am, no ma’am, thank you kindly.” It’s appropriate given the context but jarring. He code switches like it’s no big deal.  » Read more

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Clutter Is Unmade Decisions

I don’t know if there’s one typical way to grow up, but I’m sometimes told by the people closest to me that I grew up in pretty unusual circumstances. I wrote about it at more length in earlier essays (for example, this one), but the short version is that in the 90s,  » Read more

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