Page Turner's Blog, page 94

When You’re Good at Providing Reassurance, Some People Don’t Even Know You’re Doing It

“I really worry about you,” she said. “You’re so insecure. So in need of reassurance. So weak.”

I blinked my eyes twice in slow motion, feeling a wave of shock wash over me. True, I’ve always been a sensitive person. This wasn’t the first time in my life someone had said something like this to me.  » Read more

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When You Think Everything’s Going to Go Wrong That Possibly Could

“Ugh,” I say. “I’m never going to get everything ready in time.” I’m standing in a house that’s perhaps half-finished its renovations. I’m about three-quarters packed. There’s about a week and a half left before everything needs to be done. And I’m starting to panic.

As I stand there, beginning to freak out,  » Read more

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Parents Have an Impact on How Their Children Turn Out, But Maybe Not As Much As Most People Think

They fuck you up, your mum and dad.

They may not mean to, but they do.

They fill you with the faults they had.

And add some extra, just for you.

 

But they were fucked up in their turn

By fools in old-style hats and coats,  » Read more

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It’s Frustrating, But You Can’t Rush Your Feelings — and Trying To Can Make Everything Worse

I’m currently prepping for a move from Ohio to Texas. There’s a lot to be done logistically since I have had to prepare my house here for sale — and as quickly as possible.

A lot of friends were really surprised by what I did first. They presumed the very first thing I’d do is pack up the house.  » Read more

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Do You Have an Emotional Circuit Breaker?

I’m not the kind of person who yells when I’m angry.

I have a long fuse. It takes a lot to get me riled up.

And typically, my first instinct when I’m upset with a partner is simply to talk to them about it. Keeping a level tone of voice but choosing my words carefully.  » Read more

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A Dozen Last Suppers and a Parade of Uncertain Goodbyes

Saying goodbye is never easy. Especially not when you say it over and over again.

“We should grab dinner before you go.”

It’s so easy for people to say. Gets hard to schedule once you’re down to the wire. Which — let’s face it — we have been this entire move.  » Read more

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When Your Heart Is In Two Places, and You’re Forced to Choose

A few days ago, I visited Dallas-Fort Worth for the first time. I’ve lived in Cleveland for about eight years now, having relocated here from Maine. But dream jobs happen when they happen, and they show up where they show up.

And the new dream job is in DFW. So it’s going to be home shortly.  » Read more

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Methinks You Doth Protest Too Much, Dear Date

One woman pushed hard for labels.

The other didn’t even want to go there. Wasn’t looking for anything serious, she said.

They sounded like they were looking for drastically different things. And yet they both dropped off the face of the earth so easily.

One abruptly sent a breakup text full of cliches —  » Read more

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They Say, “It’s Just Like Riding a Bike,” But What Does That Mean, Really?

Lately, I’ve been speed packing, cleaning, and renovating my house because I’m trying to get it ready to sell on a short time frame.

I’ve spent eight years living here. Eight very happy years. Eight very stable years. Especially after a life that had me moving around quite often due to a troubled family life in adolescence and then financial instability as a young adult.  » Read more

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You Personalize So Much, You Probably Think This Post Is About You

Once upon a time, I dated someone who could just not seem to cope with the fact that I was a writer. Which was curious actually since she was also a professional writer herself, one much more successful than I was, by just about every objective metric possible.

And especially curious because the reason we dated in the first place,  » Read more

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