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Polyamorous Middle Child Syndrome: Being in the Second Oldest Relationship

The Worst of Both Worlds?

“So he let me know that another girl asked him out and he said yes,” she says. “And I want to be happy for him, but…”

“But?”

“We haven’t been together that long,” she says. “It’s hard with his dating someone new so soon.”

I nod.  » Read more

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Everything I Know About Polyamory, I Learned as a Gigging Musician

A lot of my favorite poly bloggers share a similar story: They came to polyamory naturally. Monogamy just wasn’t a thing that they did well (or at all).

Sure, some of them tried to fit themselves into that box, particularly when they came upon someone they truly cared about who expressed that exclusivity was important to them,  » Read more

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The Difference Between Having Preferences and Being a Prejudiced Asshole in Online Dating

Yay! It’s guest blog post time again! Today’s piece is by Matthew Shadrake.

Matt is a polyamorous switch and a big ole softie. He has previously contributed 2 posts to Poly.Land:

Twin Demons: How I Learned About Toxic Masculinity and Toxic Monogamy
Firing a Gun Into a Dark Room: Strip Clubs,

  » Read more

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PQ 10.4 — How is the agreement negotiated, and under what circumstances can it be renegotiated?

PQ 10.4 — How is the agreement negotiated, and under what circumstances can it be renegotiated?

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As I’ve mentioned in earlier posts, there isn’t just one right way to form a polyamorous relationship agreement.

Bottom line: It’s about finding what works.

But there are some elements that successful relationship agreement negotiations tend to share.  » Read more

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PQ 10.3 — Does everyone affected by the agreement have the opportunity to be involved in setting its terms?

PQ 10.3 — Does everyone affected by the agreement have the opportunity to be involved in setting its terms?

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You’ve barely closed the door to your apartment when they drop the news on you.

“So we had a meeting while you were out,” one of your roommates says.  » Read more

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