Page Turner's Blog, page 154

Unhelpful NRE Comparisons: “He’s Been Given What I Had to Earn”

“It just isn’t fair,” he says. “I see them falling in love so much faster than we did. This is zero to sixty in seconds, my partner and metamour.”

“Does the speed make you feel like you’re going to be replaced?” I ask.

“No, I’m actually not worried about that,”  » Read more

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Dating Resilience: In Defense of Getting Right Back Out There After a Breakup

When You Screw Up at the Piano Recital, You Don’t Take a Break from the Keys

“It’s funny if you think about it, that whole ‘you just got out of a relationship, you need to be single for a while’ thing,” Ro says.

We’re at our usual place. I’ve got a glass of red wine.  » Read more

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Territorial Markers Aren’t a Great Proxy for Love

“Hey you twoooo!” I say, stepping through the door. I call this greeting out as loudly as I possibly can. Sing-songy in a way that I know will carry into the living room.

The acoustics of my house have long been a vital factor in how Skyspook and I date others separately while living together.   » Read more

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F$%# that Bachelorette Party Kink, Give Me Vulnerability

Dear Lady, he writes.

I see that from time to time you take on submissives. Well, I’m happy to say that today is your lucky day! 

More about me: Young able-bodied male with unlimited vitality ready to serve your every whim and desire. My body is your canvas.   » Read more

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Goodbye, Metamour: The Second, Less Obvious Breakup

“How are you holding up?” I ask her.

“I’ll be honest with you,” she says. “It’s not good.”

I wait.

“It’s so strange. I don’t know why it’s affecting me so much. He’s the one that’s going through the breakup. But I feel like I am, too,” she says.  » Read more

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PQ 11.5 — Do I clearly understand both the letter and the intent of the rules that will apply to my relationship? Am I comfortable maintaining a relationship within those rules? Am I comfortable with the reasons for the rules?

PQ 11.5 — Do I clearly understand both the letter and the intent of the rules that will apply to my relationship? Am I comfortable maintaining a relationship within those rules? Am I comfortable with the reasons for the rules?

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In my time, I’ve known some folks with very brief relationship agreements.  » Read more

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PQ 11.4 — What will I do if a secondary partner becomes dissatisfied with the rules that apply to them? Am I willing or able to involve that partner in renegotiation of those rules?

PQ 11.4 — What will I do if a secondary partner becomes dissatisfied with the rules that apply to them? Am I willing or able to involve that partner in renegotiation of those rules?

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As I mentioned in an earlier post, agreements that don’t take the needs of everyone they affect into consideration aren’t ideal.  » Read more

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I Wonder If I’ll Ever Get Used to Being Trusted

“To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved.”

-George MacDonald.

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“I hope you have a great time at your party,” CC tells me.

I’m going out of town to visit a cool person I’ve only met one time. But who I’ve been meaning to spend more time with.  » Read more

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They Want to Tell Me in Person, But I’d Rather Get Bad News Over Text

“When someone is crying, of course, the noble thing to do is to comfort them. But if someone is trying to hide their tears, it may also be noble to pretend you do not notice them.”

–Lemony Snicket

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I look at my phone when we pull into port.  » Read more

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Why I’m Not a Fan of One Penis Policy

“I’d be okay with you getting a girlfriend. But no other dudes, okay?” he says.

“Okay,” she says. Outwardly, she smiles. She’s glad to have the freedom to pursue other women.

But as soon as he leaves the room, her smile starts to fade. She’s not sure what, but something doesn’t feel quite right.  » Read more

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