Page Turner's Blog, page 96
May 14, 2019
Poly Pitfalls: Relationship Scope Creep
“You posted a meme a few weeks back,” he says. “One that made me laugh aloud and then hurt. Because it was so true.”
“I know that feeling,” I say. “Which one was it, just out of curiosity?”
“It had a picture of someone hiding from a bunch of police officers, » Read more
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May 13, 2019
Managing a D/s Dynamic When Your Partner Faces Mental Health Challenges
Today’s article is a guest post by Fay Creature.
Fay Creature has been practicing polyamory since 1998 and kink since 2003. She is queer – in sexuality, gender, and her approach to relationships, power exchange, and BDSM.
And check out what she wrote for Poly Land today:
Mental Health and My D/s Dynamics
I believe that BDSM can be very healing, » Read more
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May 12, 2019
If You Say “Oh, Just One More Thing,” Too Many Times, Your Project Will Suffer
Have you ever worked on a project that felt really doable and straightforward at the beginning? One where you set out with a clear vision of how it was going to unfold, only to find as you worked your way through it that there was a lot that you missed on your initial planning?
At first, » Read more
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May 11, 2019
It’s Easy to Underestimate How Much Time You Need to Do Things
“Oh yeah,” Past Me said. “This is a great plan. I’ll have plenty of time to get it all done.”
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Of course she’d say that. She never has to actually do anything she signs me up for.
What a jerk, Past Me.
Typically, » Read more
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May 10, 2019
Giving Reassurance Is Like Giving Head
Why I Don’t Vaguepost When I’m Sad
Like anyone else, I hit bad patches. I get sad. Run into trouble inside my own head.
I had a particularly awful spell a little while back, brought on by some work I was doing sorting through childhood trauma. The kind of thing that’s always with me but is normally tucked away in tightly sealed boxes in some remote corner of my brain. » Read more
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May 9, 2019
The Only Thing My Anxiety Consistently Responds to Is Exhaustion
I’ve been spending a lot of time exhausted lately. Not tired. Not fatigued. But utterly exhausted.
That’s life when your partner accepts their dream job 1000 miles away and you’re unexpectedly trying to prep your house for sale with only about a month to work with. Especially when you throw in other things, » Read more
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May 8, 2019
Cleveland Just Might Be the Best “Starter City” in the United States
Fall 2010
“I have to ask,” she said. “Why Cleveland? Couldn’t you pick a better city to move to?”
Everyone around us exploded in laughter. Because we were having this conversation in Cleveland. A suburb of it anyway. A barbecue at a mutual friend’s house.
I smiled. » Read more
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May 7, 2019
Living and Loving in the Time of “I Don’t Know. Maybe.”
When a Planner Can’t Plan
I’d been dreading telling my friends that I’m moving to Texas.
I can still vividly remember how hard it was for all my friends back in Maine eight years ago, the news that I was moving to Ohio. The hardest part of moving back then had been saying goodbye. » Read more
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May 6, 2019
Looking Over My Shoulder for the Long Shadow of Cruella de Vil
“You know what my ultimate polyamorous nightmare would be?” I say to him.
“What’s that?” he replies.
“That you’d be dating this woman who you are just crazy about. And who is nice to me when you’re around, but the moment you turn your back, she starts being actively terrible to me. » Read more
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May 5, 2019
No Matter What Intense Feeling You’re Currently Having, Eventually You’ll Return to Your Norm
The good news is that no matter what difficult thing you’re going through, odds are that eventually things will swing back the other way for you emotionally. And even though it can take a lot longer than we want sometimes, it’s basically inevitable that you won’t feel quite that bad forever.
The bad news is that no matter what thrilling or fun things you’re currently experiencing, » Read more
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