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Complaining About “Friend Stealing” Is a Clear Tell for Possessiveness

It should have come as no surprise that she would be absolutely terrible as a metamour.

Because she had one of the most clear tells for possessiveness that I’ve ever seen: She was always accusing people of “stealing” her friends.

I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt here,  » Read more

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Is It Time for You to Get Down With the Sic-Ness?

I have a confession to make: I used to be one of those people who would correct other people’s grammar and spelling.

Sometimes I came right out and did it. Especially when I didn’t agree with the logical premise of their argument, I’d turn into the proofreader that nobody hired. Instead of actually addressing their argumentative contentions,  » Read more

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I Don’t Care If You Are My Type

Today’s article is a guest post by Fay Creature.

Fay Creature has been practicing polyamory since 1998 and kink since 2003. She is queer – in sexuality, gender, and her approach to relationships, power exchange, and BDSM.

She previously contributed “Managing a D/s Dynamic When Your Partner Faces Mental Health Challenges.”  » Read more

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Sometimes Cleaning Up a Mess Means Making a Bigger One for a While

I’ve always been a fan of before and after photos. I was fed a steady diet of them — weight loss progress photos, sure, since those are everywhere.

But I’ve also seen them a lot in regard to home makeovers: Room renovations, redecorating attempts, organizing efforts. In this context, before and after photos are such magic.  » Read more

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When You Know Something But Can’t Remember Where You Learned It

My friend is talking to me about a study with interesting findings.

“Oh wow,” I say. “That sounds really cool.” I tell them if they could send it over to me that would be great.

“Sure,” they say. But then add, “Actually, I’m not sure where I heard about it.”

We spend the next several minutes seeing if they can give me some more details.  » Read more

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People Believe in Birth Order Theory, But Is It True?

“Oh, you know how middle children are.”

“He’s just acting like a firstborn.”

“Well, she’s an only child, so…”

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard something like the above. Birth order theory, the idea that people’s personalities vary depending on their order of birth within their family,  » Read more

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Strive to Leave Things Better Than You Found Them

It’s been interesting preparing for a cross-country move on a short timeframe. My partner Justin and I have been thrust into a variety of cooperative tasks. And while we’ve lived together for eight years and have even run a business together, the very nature of fixing up our house (so we can sell it quickly and for a good listing price) and packing on such a tight time frame has given me opportunities to understand him and his thought processes in a novel way.  » Read more

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When Unrequited Love Is Addictive

Jazz ballads are typically very sad. Full of longing. Unrequited love.

As such, they were a perfect frame for my teenage years.

Surrounded by prettier girls who always seemed to have more luck than I did in dating, I was a dirty secret backup plan for them. The gay tryst in darkness.  » Read more

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This Eternal Flame: Exes, Wasbands, Duramours, and Formers That You Still Hold in High Regard

Two of my friends are forever being asked if they are dating. They aren’t. But they did once. It didn’t work out, mostly because what they want out of romantic relationships really isn’t compatible. They tried to make it work, but it just didn’t. They couldn’t change enough to each be happy dating the other.  » Read more

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Perpetually Prepping for Doomsday Isn’t a Great Use of Energy

I started watching a new show while Justin was off in Dallas for the weekend, one of the earliest trips he made there, interviewing for a new position. It was a show that had popped up in his Netflix queue as “recommended.” Mostly, I think, because I sometimes watch shows under his user profile instead of remembering to flip it over to mine.  » Read more

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