Page Turner's Blog, page 100

Dealing With Difficult Metamours

Let’s say your partner is seeing someone new, the reader wrote. And you don’t really like them. What do you do?

I nodded when I got this question. Aloud I said, “It happens. It definitely happens.”

And I wrote a blog post in response — “Help,  » Read more

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Don’t Say “We Need to Talk.” Do This Instead.

There’s a meme that’s been going around for a while, based on a viral tweet. It says, “Send me a ‘we need to talk’ text and I’m just going to respond with ‘yeah. We absolutely do.’ Now we’re both waiting with spicy armpits.”

Spicy armpits. OMG. I’m still laughing at that.  » Read more

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Meeting Someone Cool Can Give You New Person Energy (Even Without NRE)

“You know,” she says. “I get a rush off meeting new people. It doesn’t even have to someone I’m dating. A capital R Relationship. I can make a new friend, even a new acquaintance, and it’ll make my week. Do you know what I mean?”

I nod. “I do. If I meet someone cool,  » Read more

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What’s the Difference Between Polyamory & an Open Relationship?

Hi Page,

I have been thinking of something for the past week or so, and it has been scratching at my mind and I’m not really sure why because I don’t really care about labels.

Is there technically a difference between open relationships and polyamory? Or does it depend on the people involved and what their personal belief is regarding those?  » Read more

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They Like You. They Really, Really Like You.

While I’m a generally sunny person with a positive temperament, I’m not immune to sadness. Self-doubt.

The timing of these slumps can be rather unpredictable. But the negative thoughts I experience? Well, those tend to fall into a few very predictable categories.

And when I’m down on myself, there’s one line of negative thinking that I tend to encounter over and over again: I start to think that no one likes me.  » Read more

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When Dealing With a Manipulative Person, Never JADE

It’s one of the unfortunate realities of interpersonal communication: The way that you talk to people in healthy situations will cause major problems when you’re trying to talk to someone stuck in unhealthy dynamics. That’s because manipulative people with toxic personalities will hijack normal conversational maxims and norms and exploit them to their own ends.  » Read more

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What Is Fraysexuality?

I previously posted an article that recounted a conversation I had with a friend about megasexuality (not feeling a romantic connection with someone unless there’s a strong sexual connection in place), which my friend referred to as the opposite of demisexuality (not experiencing sexual attraction until an emotional connection is formed).

Interestingly,  » Read more

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It’s Lonely On Top, In the Middle, On the Bottom.

I learned an important lesson very early on about jealousy and the dangers of pitting people against one other.

My first grade teacher hung a bulletin board in our classroom that she titled “King of the Mountain.”

She’d created a scene on poster board for it. The image was, predictably, a mountain.  » Read more

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“You Just Want to Have Your Cake and Eat It, Too”

You polyamorous people, she writes, you just want to have your cake and eat it, too.

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I’ve never liked this analogy. “You can’t have your cake and eat it, too.”

The wording’s always been a little confusing since “have” is often used when talking about food to mean “eat.”  » Read more

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What Old Relationship Energy Feels Like

There’s this way that you pull me to you when we’re both half-asleep that tells me you’re something different with me in your life. That I manage to balance you and yet unsettle you in a way that makes us both better.

After spending years together, through thousands of hours of careful observation,  » Read more

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