Page Turner's Blog, page 104
February 23, 2019
The 26 Love Stories That Shape Our Views of Relationships
In a recent installment of Psyched for the Weekend, I introduced the Triangular Model of Love as a helpful framework for differentiating between and communicating about different kinds of love.
In today’s post, I’m going to talk about another model later developed by the same researcher, Dr. Robert Sternberg: Love as a story. » Read more
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February 22, 2019
It’s Far Too Easy to Confuse One Type of Friendship With Another
In a recent post, I talked about how confusing the conversations we have around love can be. As I wrote then, part of this confusion is because what we call “love” and what another person calls “love” may very well not be the same thing. And it certainly doesn’t help that one person can talk about many different kinds of love, » Read more
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February 21, 2019
Why Don’t You Shave Your Legs for Me Anymore?
“What’s wrong?” I ask him.
“It’s gonna sound silly,” he warns me.
“That’s okay,” I say. “Tell me anyway.”
He hasn’t been polyamorous for terribly long. And until this point, it’s been mostly him dating on his own. His wife, an introvert who enjoys her alone time, hasn’t dated much on her own. » Read more
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February 20, 2019
Why Do Some People Say They Want to Break Up With Someone For a Long Time & Then Never Do It?
Why do people say they want to break up with someone for a year plus but never do it? a friend asks in a Facebook status.
The answers flood in. Some say that being single sucks and a bad relationship could be preferable to it. Others take the position that it could be an aversion to dating new people and all the stress and confusion that comes with it. » Read more
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February 19, 2019
In Some Relationships, So Much Energy Gets Wasted on Debating About Who Is Right or Wrong Instead of Learning to Manage Differences
When I first moved into the house I’m living into now, there were three other people living with me, one woman and two men. And they were all taller than me. A lot taller than me.
Now, I’m not exactly a short person. On a good day, in flat feet, I’m somewhere between 5’5″ » Read more
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February 18, 2019
Queer “Tourism,” “Safe” Flirting & Straight Women at Strip Clubs: When Allies Endanger Queer People With Their Lack of Understanding
Today’s article is a guest post by LadyHeat.
LadyHeat is a badass lesbian bitch who kicks in the teeth of marginalization. Her geeky interests are many and include comics, gaming, and dreaming of being a lady-romancing space pirate.
Today’s post is her third article for Poly Land. She previously contributed:
Dating While Poor Is Difficult,
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February 17, 2019
The 8 Kinds of Love in the Triangular Model of Love
Many of the conversations we have around love can be very confusing. Part of this stems from the fact that what we call “love” and what another person calls “love” may very well not be the same thing.
Furthermore, one person can talk about many different kinds of love, all the while using the same word to describe things that are not at all the same. » Read more
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February 16, 2019
Talking To Yourself Is Perfectly Normal. Here’s Why.
As I walk up on my friend, I catch them midsentence. I have no idea what they’re saying. But it’s evident that they’re not talking to me. And it’s also clear that they’re not on the phone.
Instead, they’re hunched over their laptop, solving what seems to be a complicated problem. Designing a project. » Read more
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February 15, 2019
Help! I Need a Better Way to Refer to the People in My Love Life
Dear Page,
I am pretty new to poly. I’ve only started exploring it in the last six months or so. I’ve really enjoyed reading your blog, and found your advice very helpful when navigating some of the trickier points of managing multiple relationships. Thank you for that! Lately I’ve been encountering a new problem, » Read more
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February 14, 2019
It’s Important to Remember That Reassurance Is a Form of Persuasion
I got my start with courting women by comforting one who’d had her heart broken.
The surroundings were far from ideal, not anyone’s idea of romantic. I’d spotted a small figure curled up in a bathroom stall. Sobbing because the boy she liked had gone off with one of my friends instead.
But I climbed in beside her, » Read more
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