Page Turner's Blog, page 108

Hey Beautiful, How Are You Doing This Morning Anyway?: Turning Thirst Into Mindfulness Practice

Talking it over with many of my friends, it seems that we all have one thing in common: We all get a lot of messages from people we don’t know. And especially messages that are fairly low content. Ones that are basically a greeting (and maybe a compliment) and nothing more:

“Hey.”

“How are you doing this morning,  » Read more

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“You’re So Cute I Just Wanna Eat You Up”

Sometimes people say really weird things when they hold babies.

For starters, there’s nonsensical baby talk. Goo goos and gaa gaas. All that.

And then there are the observations grown adults will sometimes make that sound, well, frankly a little more hostile or angry than they do happy: “You’re so cute I want to eat you up.”   » Read more

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It’s Harder to Walk Away From Something That Isn’t Working Out When You’ve Already Invested A Lot In It

If her doubts had started on her wedding day, I probably would have called them cold feet.

But they didn’t.

She started wanting to back out a full six months before the wedding.

“This sounds really serious,” I’d tell her. “What are you going to do?”

“What can I do?”  » Read more

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They Say Sex Is For Marriage But Married Couples Don’t Have Sex

When I was younger, I was always envious of my friends with nerdy mothers. Mothers who took an interest in learning. Read for pleasure and edification.

When I’d come home from school, and my mother would ask me about my day, I’d tell her, but she’d quickly tune out. While I was geeking out about history or long division or whatever thing I was excited about (I loved school as a little kid),  » Read more

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3 Reasons Why I Prefer to Call It Consensual Non-Monogamy

Hi Page,

I’ve heard a lot of people talk about ethical non-monogamy as a way of describing polyamory and other forms of open relationships. I’ve noticed you don’t do that. Instead, you say “consensual non-monogamy.” Why? 

1. Ethics are subjective.

ethical (adjective) – relating to moral principles or the branch of knowledge dealing with these,  » Read more

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I Used to Watch Other People Watch Movies

I have a lot of movies that I’ve technically watched but haven’t really seen. Ones where I could maybe tell you who the major characters are and what the film is vaguely about (maybe), but most of the smaller details of the plot are lost on me.

There’s a reason for this.  » Read more

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In Your Relationship, Are You the One Releasing Crickets or the One Finding Them?

My husband Justin is the kind of person who doesn’t like it when you read things aloud to him. When given the choice, he nearly always prefers to read the words himself. Similarly, he’s not someone who often stands and reads things aloud.

So when he started roaring with laughter and insisted he had to read something to me,  » Read more

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It’s Not Silly to Want Things. What’s Silly Is Thinking That It’s Silly.

A few weeks ago, I posted an essay called “It’s Easy to Convince Yourself That an Opportunity Has Passed Forever, But That Doesn’t Mean You’re Right.”

In it, I write about about stumbling upon one of those DIY crystal-growing kits while I’m out shopping for presents and remembering how much I wanted one as a kid,  » Read more

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People Are Thinking About That Embarrassing Thing You Did Less Than You Think They Are

“You’ll worry less about what people think of you when you realize how seldom they do.”

–Olin Miller

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I’ll be the first to admit it. I’ve done a lot of embarrassing things in my life. Said things I wish I could immediately take back. Done things I wish I could immediately undo.  » Read more

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Dealing with Trauma Can Be A Lot Like Developing Sea Legs

If you’ve ever spent any time traveling by boat, you know all about the importance of developing sea legs.

Especially when moving over the choppier waters of a stormy sea or ocean, it can be difficult at first to walk steadily on the deck of a ship. This is particularly the case if you’ve never done it before.  » Read more

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