Page Turner's Blog, page 110

Why A Lot of Children Stop Believing In Santa Claus

According to most surveys on the subject (e.g., Woolley et. al., 2011; Prentice et. al, 1978, etc.), about 85% of 5-year-old children believe that Santa Claus is real.

Researchers find that children typically begin to believe in Santa Claus when they’re 3 or 4 years old. And that this belief stays fairly strong until they are 8 years old,  » Read more

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They’re Just Not That Into You… Or Are They?

Every now and then I’ll be hanging out with someone, and it’ll me like a bolt of lightning. Initiated by a playful smile, a certain laugh, a quick movement of the eyes.

Oh wow, I’ll think. They’re really into me. 

And then I’ll catch myself and remind myself,   » Read more

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What Most People Get Wrong When They Try to Be a Supportive Listener

“And that’s why it’s been a really rough time lately,” my friend says, clearly looking pained.

I nod. Her story reminds me of a similar time in my own life. A time that I struggled. And I almost launch into that exact story, but I manage to stop myself just before I do.  » Read more

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*Should* You Always Look on the Bright Side of Life?

This’ll Help Things Turn Out for the Worst Best

“Cheer up, Brian. You know what they say.

Some things in life are bad,

They can really make you mad.

Other things just make you swear and curse.

When you’re chewing on life’s gristle,

Don’t grumble, give a whistle!

And this’ll help things turn out for the…  » Read more

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“I Love You… But I’m Not a Big Fan of Your Friends”

It probably should have been a bigger early warning sign when I started dating my first husband. But he really didn’t like my friends.

“Why?” I asked him. “Why don’t you like them?”

He answered this with a shrug. “I just don’t,” he said. “I don’t like spending time around them.”  » Read more

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Can the Term “Metamour” Also Be Used to Describe Friendamours or Your Partner’s Friends?

Hi Page, 

I really enjoyed your article on friendamours. I did have a question about something though. My metamour and I ended up in a debate, and I wanted to write in and see if you could resolve it for us. 

I won’t tell you whose side is whose (so you can remain impartial),  » Read more

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The Great Poly Land 2018 Winter Solstice Vacation

Heya folks,

Just a quick note here to let you all know that our staff is going on vacation for the next few weeks. That includes me (Page Turner) as well as everyone else who helps me moderate our social media accounts (because I wouldn’t want to ask them to work over the holidays either,  » Read more

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Should Love Be Unconditional?

A few weeks ago, I received a letter from a reader who was struggling to maintain compersion (happiness due to others being happy) because their metamour (their partner’s other partner) resented their existence.

As part of their letter, they wrote Love shouldn’t be conditional and for me it’s not.  » Read more

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When We Become Adults, We Start Parenting Ourselves

When we become adults, we start parenting ourselves.

And this can be good or bad, depending on what models you had for it.

I was at a bit of a disadvantage in this department, as the one model I’d had for parenting caused emotional paralysis.

I grew up in a strict authoritarian household.  » Read more

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If You’re Too Stressed, You Can’t Think Straight

“I’m so upset I can’t think straight,” she says.

And I believe her. “Just take a second and breathe,” I say.

“I can breathe!” she says back. “I’m talking, aren’t I? If a person can talk, they can breathe.” Her words keep getting faster and more frantic seeming.

“I know,”  » Read more

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