Page Turner's Blog, page 107
January 24, 2019
“I’m Sorry, But I Have a Boyfriend”
Growing up, I had a really hard time saying no. Even when it was the appropriate response, it felt harsh coming out of my mouth. Wrong.
Like a lot of women, I’d been raised to default to compliance. Going along with whatever other people wanted. It was part of blending in. Being liked. » Read more
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January 23, 2019
Monogamy After Polyamory: When You Can’t Go Home Again
Hi Page,
First of all I just want to say thank you for your writing. I’ve read both of your books and loved them. I read your blog almost every day. It’s all been so helpful.
Like you I entered polyamory through a previously closed relationship that went on to open up to other partners. » Read more
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January 22, 2019
The Paternalization of Marriage: “You Need to Make Your Husband Do X,” “Get Your Wife to Do Y”
Unfortunately, there’s no shortage of people who will judge you based on what your partner does — or doesn’t do.
I noticed this when I first got married. I’d fallen in love with my husband for a number of reasons. An unflappable sense of confidence, a warm sense of humor, a kind of charm that’s difficult for me even now to explain. » Read more
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January 21, 2019
Sometimes It’s Easier to Recover Out of Spite Than Out of Self-Love
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“I can’t go without shaving down there anymore,” she says. “And it has nothing to do with feminism. Or being anti-feminism. ”
“Oh yeah?” I say. Because I don’t know what else to say. Over the months we’ve worked together, she’s become progressively more comfortable around me. Probably because I never freak out about what she says, » Read more
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January 20, 2019
Some People Don’t Understand It’s Possible for Others to Think Differently Than They Do
Not everyone thinks the way you think, knows the things you know, believes the things you believe, nor acts the way you would act.
Remember this and you will go a long way in getting along with people.
-Arthur Forman
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My ex-husband had a really hard time understanding this, » Read more
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January 19, 2019
It’s Easy to Underestimate the Number of Pro-Polyamory Monogamous People Out There
The vast majority of people don’t worry much at all about getting into a car. Like a lot of other people, I myself have been known to do it multiple times in the same day. I’ve headed out to work, to the store, to home, and then later left go on a date before driving back home after. » Read more
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January 18, 2019
Can We Be Poly If Our Calendars Don’t Mesh?
Today’s piece is a guest blog post from W0ndercunt. A Dominant sadomasochist as well as a leader in her local kink community, she can be found on FetLife here.
Check out what she wrote for Poly Land today:
Can We Be Poly If Our Calendars Don’t Mesh?
I laid out a lot on our first date, » Read more
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January 17, 2019
What Are Reciprosexuality and Reciproromanticism?
A few months ago, I was floating the idea of guest posts to some new writers when one of them asked me, “Has anyone written about reciprosexuality/reciproromanticism yet?”
“No,” I told them. “And that would be a great topic.”
A few other writers urged them on, telling them they should make that article happen. » Read more
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January 16, 2019
There’s Nothing Better Than Getting Well After You’ve Been Sick For a While
I crash hard on New Year’s Eve.
Bad timing, really. Since I have 50 of my closest friends in my house, ringing in the new year.
I have what I think is a bad case of allergies mixed with jet lag. Since I’ve been in three different time zones on and off over the past few weeks, » Read more
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January 15, 2019
They Say the Person Who Cares Less, Wins
It’s dating advice that I’ve probably gotten a thousand times. “Play it cool.”
Even if you like someone, even if you like them an awful lot, you’re supposed to downplay how much. Especially when that relationship is new.
I’ve heard it over and over again.
Furthermore, a lot of people say, » Read more
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