Page Turner's Blog, page 103
March 5, 2019
Sometimes Being Dumped Means You’re the Last One to Leave a Sinking Ship, Not That You ARE the Sinking Ship
“I’ve pretty much always been the one broken up with,” she says. “And you know, it’s been easy to feel defective because of that.”
“Because you’re the one being dumped and not the person doing the dumping?” I ask.
“Yes,” she says.
In a way, I know what she means, » Read more
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March 4, 2019
How to Search For and Find Online Polyamory Groups
Hi Page,
I need some help finding an online support group. Can you help me? Do you have a master list of polyamory groups?
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I get at least one message that asks this question a week. Typically, I will walk them through more or less what I’m about to write in today’s post. » Read more
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March 3, 2019
Are You a Maximizer or a Satisficer?
When you’re trying to make a decision, how long do you explore alternatives? Are you okay with settling for “good enough” or does the idea of settling fill you with dread?
Some people have high standards and demand the absolute best. They want to make sure the new dishwasher they’ve selected is the top of the line, » Read more
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March 2, 2019
Feeling Wealthy Can Really Change Who You Are…And Not For the Better
You’d like to think if you were rich that you would do good things with the money. That you’d become a philanthropist, change the world. That you wouldn’t be one of those ole-timey villain millionaires (villainaires?) sitting atop a giant pile of money like a dragon hoarding a cache of gold coins.
Right? » Read more
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March 1, 2019
I Feel the Most Loved When I’m Given the Benefit of the Doubt
“Oh shit,” I say, realizing what I’ve just said sounds terrible. “I really didn’t mean that the way it sounded. I’m sorry.”
The pause between when I say that and when he speaks seems to last forever. But finally he breaks the silence. “It’s okay. I understand.”
It’s probably a minor thing to him. » Read more
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February 28, 2019
12 More Reasons Why People Say They Want to Break Up With Someone But Never Do
I recently published an article called “Why Do Some People Say They Want to Break Up With Someone For a Long Time & Then Never Do It?”
In that essay, I talked about some reasons I’d heard from others or seen in action that could be potential answers to that question:
A fear of change
A fear of being single and/or having to date again (i.e.,
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February 27, 2019
You Can Be More Than One Thing, Even If People Keep Trying to Make You Pick Which One Is “Real”
I know I write pretty frequently about polyamory, but as anyone who reads me or follows me on social media for a while knows, polyamory is far from the only thing I write or post about.
And while this site might be called Poly Land, I’m not only interested in polyamory. » Read more
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February 26, 2019
I Love Relationships Where You Can Joke Around & Not Take Everything Personally
We’re about to go to bed when Justin remembers. “Oh crap, I forgot to give Bela his medicine.”
Bela’s one of our cats, a 17-year-old former stray that originally befriended Justin on the steps of his frat house. Bela was just barely out of his kitten phase then. But for a young cat, » Read more
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February 25, 2019
“…So Who’s the Father?”
Today’s article is a guest post from Kitty Rea.
A school teacher in disguise, Kitty has a desire to help others. Aspiring to become a sex educator, she writes about sexuality, kink and alternative relationship styles and hosts a brand new Romanian podcast on love and lust. She teaches bondage all over Europe and is on a fabulous mission to spread self-love, » Read more
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February 24, 2019
28 Needs That Shape Our Individual Personalities & How We Interact With Others
Have you ever been talking to someone and suddenly find yourself wondering, “Why do you care so much about that?”
I definitely have. Some people will even say something like that aloud, causing much consternation from their conversation partner and sometimes even a bit of a verbal tussle.
The fact of the matter is that not all people are the same. » Read more
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