Page Turner's Blog, page 102
March 15, 2019
What Is Megasexuality?
“Hey Page,” she says. “I really loved your articles on demisexuality and reciprosexuality. I think it’s really great what you’re doing, using your platform to showcase some underrepresented identities.”
“Thanks,” I say. “I like writing about how other people do things. How they work. What makes them tick. » Read more
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March 14, 2019
Choosing a Home with Non-Monogamy and Privacy in Mind
“You know what I’m looking forward to the most about buying a house?” she says.
“What’s that?”
“Personal space. Privacy,” she says. “And lots of it.”
I nod. I know what she means. As it stands, it’s pretty much impossible to have a date over in her apartment and have any degree of privacy if her nesting partner is home. » Read more
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March 13, 2019
An Abundance Mindset Can Help You Write and Create More
As I’ve written many times before, when it came to polyamory, I was not someone who was a born natural. Where a lot of other polyamorous educators I’ve known and worked with say they’ve been polyamorous their entire lives, I honestly haven’t always known it was a relationship style I’d be interested in pursuing. Instead, » Read more
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March 12, 2019
Education Is Not About Knowing the Answers. It’s About Learning to Ask Better Questions.
For a long time, I always felt a lot of pressure to know all the answers. Whenever a question was asked, I was on it.
Life seemed like a quiz show, except the fabulous cash and prizes were the esteem of other people. Being viewed as someone who was smart, which back then to me meant “had all the answers.” » Read more
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March 11, 2019
“That’s Not Just Polyamorous People”
Without fail, whenever one of my essays is shared enough, folks will start commenting on it in a very familiar way:
“This isn’t unique to polyamory.”
“This doesn’t just apply to polyamorous people.”
This happens even with essays that aren’t specifically about polyamory, ones in which I’m just talking about relationships in general. » Read more
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March 10, 2019
People Who Can Make Fun of Themselves Might Just Be Happier
People who can make fun of themselves have long been my favorite people. I’ve anecdotally found them to be much more confident and caring than people who only ever make fun of other people.
And making yourself the primary target of your humor makes sense for a few different reasons.
For starters, » Read more
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March 9, 2019
Propinquity, Attraction & Mere Exposure Effect in the Age of Online Dating
Does absence really make the heart grow fonder? Or is it the case that nearer is dearer?
As someone who has been in more than a few long-distance relationships, I can tell you that longing for someone is real. And intense. So I would have been one to tell you that absence can be a powerful aphrodisiac. » Read more
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March 8, 2019
If You Leave a Note Before You Go Out, Will They Still Yell At You When You Get Home?
It was something I was told a thousand times growing up. If you’re going to go out, leave a note.
By my mother when I was staying at my parents’ house. But not just her and not just there. Everywhere. At all the other places I stayed. Friends’ houses. With other relatives. » Read more
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March 7, 2019
A Resilient Relationship Is Strong Like Gold Instead of Strong Like Steel
A while back, a friend sent me a video in which a person attempts to feed a gold bar into an industrial shredder. After several tries, the gold bar is pretty ragged along one edge, yet more or less intact. It has survived the shredder.
Well, I’ll be.
It becomes extra wild when you consider one fact: This grade of industrial shredder can literally chew up a truck. » Read more
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March 6, 2019
A Different Kind of Self-Confidence: Letting Enough Be Enough Rather than Needing to Feel Like You’re the Best
There’s always been a lot of pressure to express self-confidence a certain way, in grandiose inflated terms, something that goes a little like this:
“I know I’m terrific. Wonderful. The absolute best. No one and nothing’s gonna hold me back.”
But for me, it’s just not realistic. When I speak the words, » Read more
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