Page Turner's Blog, page 79
October 31, 2019
What’s Forgiveness Orientation & How Does It Affect Relationships?
There’s been a theme lately as I’m listening to people’s troubles and giving out advice.
You can tell a lot about a situation by what their particular forgiveness orientation is, how their forgiveness is balanced between self and others.
In the most simple terms, a forgiveness balance can be expressed with the following equation: Forgiveness of self divided by forgiveness of others. » Read more
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October 30, 2019
Why It Makes Me Nervous When Someone Asks Unnecessary Permission
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“You won’t hate me if I sit next to you at dinner, will you?” she asks me.
“Of course not,” I say. It’ll stick out in my memory for a long time as an odd question because there’s actually nowhere else for her to sit, unless she sits at a table across the restaurant. » Read more
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October 29, 2019
When Someone Can Make an Old World Look New
“I was just thinking about Love’s Baby Soft,” I said.
“Oh?” Justin replied.
I nodded. “It’s the way I smelled from 12 to 19. A cheap perfume that smelled like baby powder and something else. Flowers maybe.” I told him I’d been given it as a present one Christmas. Couldn’t remember who from. » Read more
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October 28, 2019
In Dark Times, I Live for the Unexpectedly Cool Discovery & to See What Happens Next
It was a dark morning in Cleveland in the fall of 2016 when a trust fund baby and bully came from behind to win the highest office in the land.
I had only slept about three hours and fitful ones at that. My partner had gone to bed long before, but I’d been idly watching election results on my phone as I sat in the living room, » Read more
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October 27, 2019
Parents Who Lie to Their Children Raise Children Who Lie to Them
“Do as I say, not as I do.”
It’s been shown countless times that children learn a lot by observing what those around them do and imitating that.
Even if those same examples caution them against performing the behaviors, actions speak louder than words. And they’re more likely to mimic what they see than to follow instructions that conflict with the actions of those cautioning them. » Read more
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October 26, 2019
The Big Five, OCEAN: The One Personality Test Actually Supported by Science
Personality tests? Bunch of hooey, amirite?
I mean, maybe it’s fun to find your ramen patronus, but nobody takes them seriously, right?
They’re not based on science or anything… are they?
Well, a viral quiz’s assessment of what kind of lover you are based on the food you prefer is suspect, » Read more
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October 25, 2019
Sudden Salesmen, Boiling Frogs, and Creeping Concessions — Oh My!
Reasonable people end up in truly unreasonable situations all the time. Situations in which someone is asking something big and inappropriate of them.
Sometimes when this happens, there’s a moment of clarity. A strong rebellion that onsets. Where you find yourself saying, “No. Screw you.” Perhaps for the first time ever to the person in question. » Read more
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October 24, 2019
The Right Thing Won’t Always Feel Right
I’ve been talking over a conflict with a client who is managing a difficult situation well. They’re a little frustrated that they haven’t been able to reach their preferred conclusion. The one they’d hope for in the best of all possible worlds.
Still, they’ve done a good job. And a few reasonable options are open to them, » Read more
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October 23, 2019
It’s Going to Hurt Over and Over Again Before It Gets Better
I’m sorry it hurts right now.
The wound is fresh. And while I wish there were some way that I could just make the pain go away, I can’t.
No one can.
It’s going to hurt you every time you think of it. Sometimes this will happen at weird moments. » Read more
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October 22, 2019
The Stigma Against Struggling With a Metamour & Why It’s Important to Work Against It
“I love your new book,” she said.
“Thanks,” I replied. “I don’t usually like what I write, but I’m proud of that one. I’m happy with how it turned out.”
“I’m glad someone said it,” she said. “Loud and clear.”
“Said it?”
“That metamour relationships can be difficult sometimes. » Read more
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