Page Turner's Blog, page 77

Open Communication Doesn’t Magically Erase the Impact of Major Change

Today’s piece is a guest blog post from Fluffy, an academic in-training, who is studying organizational behavior in hopes of making the world a better place.

Fluffy is a frequent contributor to Poly Land. Their regular blog is Eclectic Discourse (where pith goes to die; in-depth looks at awkward topics).

Here’s what they wrote for us today:  » Read more

Why Don’t I Communicate More?

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You Can Be Conditioned to Have No Confidence Even If You’re Very Capable

There are four children in my family. I have two older sisters and a younger brother, making me the third of four kids in the birth order. And quite importantly in an old school Catholic family that exalts sons above daughters and considers sons more capable and skilled, I’m the youngest girl in my family.  » Read more

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In Good Relationships, You Toss Support Back & Forth Like a Perpetual Motion Machine

My husband Justin is a race car driver. It’s not how he earns his living but something he does as a serious hobby.

Whenever I can, I travel to races with him. This is partly because I very much enjoy traveling around and exploring new places — and also because I like being supportive of him.  » Read more

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Exposure to Nature Can Be Soothing and Good for Healing

I never really gave much thought to the fact that I grew up in the woods (in Maine, more specifically).

The other night, however, my partner was showing me their white noise app (Relaxio). It has a bunch of sliding bars in it that are marked with icons. There are a couple for rain (either how it sounds if you’re outside or how it sounds inside hitting the roof).  » Read more

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What Kind of Person Is More Likely to Use a Cell Phone Dangerously While Driving?

I’m sure you’ve been there.

You’re driving down the highway, just trying to get where you’re trying to go. Staying in your own lane. Driving as safely as you can with both hands on the wheel and your eyes on the road…

When you come upon someone that’s driving like they’re a zombie who stole a car.  » Read more

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Why Yoda Was Wrong About Trying and Doing

Yoda famously said to Luke Skywalker during Jedi training, “Do or do not, there is no try.”

But as much as I love the little green guy, all I seem to do is try.

So I find myself asking, “Am I nowhere? Am I nothing?”  » Read more

“Trying” Can Mean a Few Different Things.

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The Other Side of Open Communication

“You just need to have open, honest communication.”

The people who originally introduced me to polyamory explained it to me that way. It was the closest thing we had to a firm, fast rule. The one bit of instruction that was consistently provided.

In every scenario, it was said, you couldn’t go wrong with open,  » Read more

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How to Stop Double Binding People You Love By Accident

We don’t talk about how easy it is to trap someone.

Emotionally. Situationally.

And by that, I mean that we don’t talk about how easy it is to drive someone we love into a corner. Without even meaning to.

A double bind is when a person sends out two different messages,  » Read more

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You Can’t Communicate About Something You Don’t Know

Fairly frequently, I’ll write articles describing a relationship situation where something changes, and it puts the people in the relationship into a difficult situation (here’s a recent example).

And invariably, whenever I write one of these pieces, I’ll get a few comments that go a little something like this:

“If everyone knew there were problems,  » Read more

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When You Call Someone a “Play Partner,” What Does That Mean?

I can remember the first time I ever heard the term “play partner.” I had just started seeing a new girlfriend, a doctor with a decidedly kinky streak.

She used it to refer to her husband’s best friend. She called this guy her play partner.

In a lot of ways, this kinky doctor was my entry point into BDSM.  » Read more

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