Page Turner's Blog, page 78

Being Alone and Feeling Lonely Are Different Things

Can you be lonely with others around? And does being alone naturally lead to loneliness?

I’ve wondered these very same things myself. And so have others apparently — because there was a large study on loneliness last year looking into these issues and other matters related to it.

A Large-Scale Study on Loneliness

In 2018,  » Read more

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Malicious Envy, Benign Envy, and Deservingness

At this point, Poly Land has featured a number of articles on jealousy (including this article that many have found quite helpful in coping with jealousy).

As I’ve mentioned before, it can be difficult when experiencing jealousy to figure out exactly what you’re feeling. Jealousy isn’t a single discrete emotion but a system of emotions,  » Read more

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It’s Reassuring & Grounding to Remember Even “Perfect” People Struggle

I have a confession to make: I love watching beauty vloggers.

Really, really love watching beauty vloggers.

At first, I had a good excuse. A practical one anyway.

While I’ve always admired femme style of dress, I didn’t have a maternal figure in my life early on who could teach me how to do makeup.  » Read more

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I Wonder About People That I Can’t Ever Possibly Know

Gnossiene: noun

A moment of awareness that someone you’ve known for years still has a private and mysterious inner life, and somewhere in the hallways of their personality is a door locked from the inside, a stairway leading to a wing of the house that you’ve never fully explored, an unfinished attic that will remain maddeningly unknown to you,  » Read more

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The “Should Have Stayed a Play Partner” Effect

Have you ever met someone who is fantastic at first? There’s something fun and shiny about them.

Maybe they’re things that you’re missing in the rest of your life. That you don’t know anybody else who does well. Or can engage with you on that particular level.

Maybe these aspects are so shiny that you are quick to forgive many things that should have given you cause for concern.  » Read more

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It’s Important to Feel Like a Priority in a World That Flakes

“I’m not perfect by any means,” I told him. “But if I tell you I’m going to call you at a certain time, I’m going to do it. If we make plans to have dinner, you can expect me to show up. If something unforeseen happens, a traffic jam or a sudden illness, I’ll text you and let you know.  » Read more

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Dumped & Depressed: “You Wouldn’t Leave Someone With Cancer,” He Said.

“You wouldn’t leave someone with cancer,” he said.

She blinked, not quite sure she was hearing what she was hearing. “What does that have to do with anything?”

“You’re breaking up with me because I have depression,” he said. “That’s wrong. Not only is it wrong, it’s cruel. I never thought you were someone who would do something like that.  » Read more

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Children Can Learn Aggressive Behavior by Watching and Imitating It

It’s no secret that children don’t just do what they’re told to. And instead, they learn a lot by watching and imitating others.

That’s where the whole ideal of a “role model” stems from. The term was originally coined by the late sociologist Robert Merton. (Incidentally, Merton also coined the term “self-fulfilling prophecy”  » Read more

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Going Vigilante: When You’re Fully Convinced Your Beliefs Are Vastly Superior to Everyone Else’s

Have you ever known someone who really seemed fully convinced that their beliefs were vastly superior to everyone around them? And who not only felt that way but also felt a need to run around making sure to correct everyone?

Someone who seemed completely unable to tolerate the reality that it might be acceptable for other people to have different beliefs than them?  » Read more

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Grief Is Idiosyncratic & Bounces Like a Ball in a Box

There are a few things about grief that I wish I had known a long time ago. Before the losses started and I was forced to make sense of it all.

And failed miserably.

These days, I’m much more comfortable with grief. Not that anyone ever wishes it on anyone else —  » Read more

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