Page Turner's Blog, page 81
October 11, 2019
The Quest for Non-Monogamy-Friendly Song Lyrics
Hi Page,
Any recommendations for songs with polyamory-friendly lyrics?
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Oh man, oh man, have I ever been there. Listening to a romantic song and getting excited – only to get hit in the face with “and you’re my one and only forever and ever” » Read more
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October 10, 2019
What if We Thought of Parenting as a 1UP?
A while back, I received reader mail from parents sharing how much fun they have when their children play with toys they’d never had.
They said it squared the circle. They got to experience things they missed out in their childhood with their own children.
All the joy, all the fun. » Read more
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October 9, 2019
There’s Not Always a Jerk
As it happens, I was bopping around the Internet the other day, not exactly minding my own business but instead throwing open every door I came across and rifling through for treasures, a bit like a video game protagonist looking for stray gold coins in NPC closets. You know, what people used to call “surfing the web.” » Read more
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October 8, 2019
What It Really Means to Make Peace With Your Imperfections
My partner watches a lot of instructional videos. And frankly, a lot of restoration videos. Car and tool restoration. PC restoration.
It follows since he’s generally someone who fixes damaged items instead of throwing them away.
When I’m feeling cheeky, I like to joke that that’s what he did with me. » Read more
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October 7, 2019
The Kind of Self-Help That Sneaks Up On You
I’m a big reader. Have been ever since I learned how. I grew up reading primarily fiction. It was the same through my teens and into my mid 20s. Fiction and loads of it.
And then, somewhere along the line, I stopped reading fiction. If I had to guess when it happened, I can look back at my back-to-back experiences prepping for two separate careers (after the changing economy snatched one away): the first involved cramming medical terminology into my skull; » Read more
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October 6, 2019
The IKEA Effect: We Love Things More That We Personally Built
By now, practically everyone has heard of IKEA, thanks to their increasingly expanding set of stores as well as Jonathan Coulton’s excellent tribute song to them. (“Billy the bookcase says hello” by the way.) And anyone who has any firsthand experience with IKEA knows that while they offer timeless modernist style at scandalous prices, it also comes with a time commitment. » Read more
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October 5, 2019
Does Revenge Actually Make Us Feel Better?
Ah, revenge.
It can be satisfying to think about, especially when you’re reeling with a fresh pain. When someone has wronged you. Fantasizing about getting back at them.
They call it sweet, sweet revenge for a reason, don’t they?
Turns out that label might be a bit overly hyped. » Read more
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October 4, 2019
Thank You for Ruining My Life
It’s funny, looking back, how close we came to never finding one another. Our meeting was only possible due to an improbable series of events. A chain of questionable decisions we both made.
If any of them had panned out differently, we would have never met.
But we did.
I wasn’t sure about you at first. » Read more
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October 3, 2019
Why It’s Hard to Get Advice When You’re Looking for Validation
After a protracted period of soul searching and agonizing, I decided to share my feelings with him. I thought about how to phrase it. And then I went for it.
And in response he offered, “For one, you feel like that with me, too, and still isn’t true there. For two, not much I could help with except to say that most people like that you’re a bit pushy with your feelings. » Read more
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October 2, 2019
It’s Hardest in the Beginning. The Important Thing Is to Keep Doing It.
Last week, I started formally working out again.
It’s been long enough that I don’t remember when exactly it was that I stopped.
That doesn’t mean I haven’t gotten any exercise. I have. I’ve always been a walker. It’s one of my favorite activities, exploring the neighborhood, seeing what’s going on. » Read more
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