Page Turner's Blog, page 85
September 1, 2019
Happy 3rd Birthday, Poly Land!
Hey folks. It’s official. Three years ago today, I began posting daily here at this site. And at that same time I made a private commitment to myself and a public commitment to anyone watching at the time that no matter what, I would publish a new article here every single day.
Three years in, » Read more
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August 31, 2019
The Belief in a Just World and Dishonest Behavior Are Linked
“Consistency theories all assume that human beings have a fundamental need to find meaning and order in life’s experiences. Psychologist Melvin J. Lerner adds that we need to believe in a just world, one in which people get what they deserve, good is rewarded, the sinful punished. The Belief in a Just World, he argues, » Read more
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August 30, 2019
“My Partner Won’t Leave a Toxic Marriage”
Hi Page,
About a year and a half ago, I found myself in a poly relationship. I didn’t get into it under the best circumstances, though.
I had found out that my husband had been exploiting me for a decade and he was really turned on by the idea of me sleeping around, » Read more
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August 29, 2019
I Worry You’ve Ruined Me For Other People
It’s not cool to admit this, but I have times when I worry you’ve ruined me for other people.
Even if I wanted to actively date, I’m not sure I could stomach it anymore.
A lot has changed in the past decade or two. People used to meet primarily through their existing social networks. » Read more
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August 28, 2019
How to Have the Breakup Talk at the Beginning of Your Relationship
I went through a breakup a while back that went exactly as planned. Because we talked about how we’d like to break up at the very beginning. Ideally what we’d both want from the other should things end.
When we ran out of road, I knew exactly how he wanted me to tell him. » Read more
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August 27, 2019
Emotions Will Time Travel to Pursue You
Sometimes I see other people weighing the pros and cons of a big change. Coming up with lists. Emotionally processing for months before they make that big decision: To do or not to do — that is the question.
I’ve noticed most of the time that they don’t. They stick with the status quo. » Read more
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August 26, 2019
When Gifts Have Strings Attached, They Go in Both Directions
“So,” he said to me, “What do you think?”
“About what?” I replied.
He frowned. “About the book I lent you.”
“Lent” was a curious way of putting it. In actuality, he had insisted the last time we spoke that I needed to read the Wheel of Time series, » Read more
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August 25, 2019
What Is Beautiful Mess Effect?
It’s a funny thing. I was raised in an environment where crying was forbidden — and a punishable offense.
My mother herself was quick to tears, and that was tolerated of course. I unfortunately inherited a similar disposition. But my own crying wasn’t permissible. Especially not around my father.
Dad was uncomfortable with crying. » Read more
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August 24, 2019
What Kind of Man Sends Women Unsolicited Dick Pics and Why?
As a war-weary female veteran of the Internet (been cruising since the good old dial-up BBS days, thankyouverymuch), I’ve seen my share of dick pics. While I have consensually received photographs of a lover’s genitalia (a completely different context), the vast majority of the dick pics I’ve looked at in my time have been unsolicited and from strangers. » Read more
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August 23, 2019
What I Did When a Powerful Person Said Bad, Untrue Things About Me in Public
It’s been a weird sea change for me the past few years, building up an online presence. It wasn’t like this at all in the past. I worked on the sidelines of publishing, mostly as an editor at some literary magazines with occasional publications in little magazines that nobody really read. Won some writing awards only a handful of people cared about (but which did help me pay my rent, » Read more
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